Is porn ruining expectations about sex?

I've actually read up on the subject and the consensus seems to be yes. Young guys who don't know better think sex is actually like that. Ugh, no thanks. It comes across gross rather than romantic and hot to me. Watch if u like but don't expect me to get involved lol. The kama sutra is more useful if you need ideas.

So it's not a good idea to lead off with a full nelson and spit on your partner? Well I'm off to go write some apology letters.

JessicaJS23 wrote: »

Caporegiem wrote: »

Sugar_Pill wrote: »

Caporegiem wrote: »

I mean anytime I cook a pizza I always cut a hole in the middle of it now.

I'm always disappointed when pizza don't have the little round tables in the middle

I never see those on pizza anymore, I used to play with those all the time when I was a kid but some *kitten* pizza box engineer must have figured out a way to not need them anymore.

My brothers and I would beat the *kitten* out of each other for who got the "table" and also for who got the piece with the freakishly large crust bubble.

Man I was about to say crust bubbles are another thing I never see anymore, but I usually order thin crust so that probably explains it. Hopefully pizza engineers haven't eliminated crust bubbles.

I've got 350 calories left for the night

kevinf2380 wrote: »

Do you feel the need to live up to porn movie type sex when dating?

No. Personally I don't. Someone else mentioned porn isn't really for women as most don't care about it enough to even watch it alone. It's a fantasy for men. I don't feel the need to live up to something or someone I could never be.

I've not watched many in my life, just did it to appease the bf at the time. In my limited experience most porn isn't made for women. Even lesbians porn isn't made for lesbians women. There's actually a funny YouTube video of real lesbians watching lesbians porn and it's hilarious. Pretty much they all said it's made for men.

Women porn tends to be romance novels. And I'm not talking about that 50 shades drivel bc that poorly written garbage was a pitiful excuse for writing let alone smutty romance.

Men are generally visually stimulated while women tend to be mental. Men want a strip tease. Women want a strip tease after a romantic dinner and few love you's. We still want your body. Just woo us a little first **generally speaking, not all the time. We like our quickies too. **

I generally believe men want porn stars for gfs in bed. Women want the perfect book boyfriend in bed. (ladies you know the kind I mean). I think usually it's understood that both are fantasies and that's why we escape through them.

If you find that dream fantasy in real life you hold on for dear life to that one

lenoresdream wrote: »

I generally believe men want porn stars for gfs in bed.

What Men want is simple;
A Lady in public
A Chef in the Kitchen
and a low mileage monogamous freak in the bedroom
(normally, the saying says 'a *kitten* in the bedroom' but that's not really right in my case at least)

And yes, porn usually does create unrealistic ideas in men.. and probably some women too, though far fewer i'm sure.
**edit: interesting word substitution filter there. I presume you all know it didn't say kitten when i typed it..

melmelw03 wrote: »

All I know is no matter how hard I try, I can't get on board with dirt talking. I start laughing. "Who's your daddy?".....my eyes roll. I can't hide it. I'm loud....naturally....but sheesh is that not enough? Now I have to talk dirty too? I kid you not....one guy was trying to get me to talk dirty and I tried to play along. I'm on top doing my thing, and he literally asked me if I was going to make him a sandwich afterwards. Like that was part of the talk that was supposed to be turning him on.

I got off, got dressed and left.

I'm dead. Who thinks sandwiches are hot?

My husband and I have been together since our early 20's. Back in the 90's. So, we weren't as influenced by porn. And neither of us particularly like mainstream porn. It's just too fake and stuff. But, we do like erotic photos. Just prettier, classier, more professional in a way. I'm very experimental sexually, though. I always have been, and always continue to be. Which I think is probably just naturally my personality type to some degree. I'm also a dancer, so very physical and sensual. And (sorry to get personal), but I was sexually abused as a child, so I was introduced to sex as a very young child, and I do believe that had an influence on me. I think I was sexual at a younger age and developed interest in things that I probably wouldn't have otherwise. And I had a lot of "sexual training" to deal with. It was distressful to me at times, but I grew and learned healthier ways to reclaim my sexuality (with my husband), and with other helpful resources. I think everything sexual that we encounter influences us in some way. Negative things can influence us. I don't want to get into why because it's long and complex, but I do understand why (unless someone really wants to know). And then when we are old enough to explore sexuality and be consensually sexual we are influenced by the things we like, that intrigue us. But, sex is best to be enjoyed. Trying to be like a porn film isn't enjoyable. I do also really like certain types of lingerie and sexy outfits, but just the things I am drawn to because I like them on me.

cccerberus wrote: »

lenoresdream wrote: »

I generally believe men want porn stars for gfs in bed.

What Men want is simple;
A Lady in public
A Chef in the Kitchen
and a low mileage monogamous freak in the bedroom
(normally, the saying says 'a *kitten* in the bedroom' but that's not really right in my case at least)

And yes, porn usually does create unrealistic ideas in men.. and probably some women too, though far fewer i'm sure.
**edit: interesting word substitution filter there. I presume you all know it didn't say kitten when i typed it..

I thought the saying was like you first said: "A lady in the streets, a freak in the sheets".