Other people's reactions to your weight loss or diet

Heydew · September 2016

I always find it interesting when people react to your weight loss. Or when they offer you something to eat and you decline.

What are some of your experience with people's reactions? Have any good stories?

rachealprempeh20 · September 2016

Thx for your concern but generally I have not really mind what I eat until now.i have not had issues with that.

ItsyBitsy246 · September 2016

Interestingly, no one has reacted to my weight loss or seemed to notice.

ETA: (24+ lost and in smaller clothing sizes).

JessicaMcB · September 2016

I have had several random people (cashier at the pharmacy, etc.) tell me I'm "too thin now" or look "sick". I get a lot of snark for being low carb as well. Obesity being so normalized makes being a normal weight person frustrating sometimes -_-

satisatisati · September 2016

A friend of mine who saw me after an year said u stopped going to gym or what?? You look week. Where r your muscles? When he looked clearly he said ohh u lost fat

JinjoJoey · September 2016

I usually get the typical "OMG, you're too skinny!" Funny enough, I weigh 173lbs, currently, at 5'9". That is, in no way, too skinny. But, that's through no fault of theirs. They've just always been used to seeing me at 275lbs, so the change is quite shocking. Or you get the typical responses of "You need to stop", which definitely irritate me, cause people have no idea how much I actually eat and the fact that I'm getting plenty of nutrients.

youdoyou2016 · September 2016

I'm 5'1", 46 yrs old, and have gone from the 220's to 135, with about 10 more to go.

Reaction?

Zilch. Zip. Nada. Nothing. Weirdos!

But, I don't care. I'm just zooming around in my new body having a blast. And considering getting new friends! Haha

Etsar73 · September 2016

Mostly really positive. Just yesterday I had someone ask me if I had lost weight and couldn't stop telling me how amazing I looked and how much younger I looked. I get a lot of 'you look amazing' comments. I also have been called 'skinny minny' and told 'you are wasting away'... all by a very lovely lady at work who I believe means well.

People get funny when I tell them I count calories (after they ask)! It seems that many people see it as extreme. I see it in the face when I tell people, the face changes and they often follow up with 'I could never do that'. They seem to want a difference answer. Or sometimes I get people questioning what I eat, I count calories so I can eat it! They think I should only eat 'whole/health' foods if I am trying t lose weight (often larger themselves). Mostly really positive though!

50extra · September 2016

There have been many people ask and a bunch of different reactions when I tell them how.

Most women that ask and I tell them I count calories and exercise a little bit automatically say that they are too lazy to do that or "they could never count calories".

My buddies are pumped, most of them are in shape or kinda in shape so they know how far I've come (30lbs since MFP 40 from my highest) Nothing but praise from them, we just finished summer so at the lake there are no shirts on the boat.

My mom and my mother in law keep telling me that I shouldn't lose much more because it won't look right. This was when I was 214 and like 26% body fat, clinically obese. I have a lot of fat/weight to lose still before I will even consider my body healthy. Every time I come to work for a month then get back and see my mother in law she asks me if I am done losing now.

Guys I work with ask how I did it and then automatically say that they don't have the energy to workout after our 13 hour days, my most used comeback is I don't have the energy to be 252 pounds again.

I truly love when people ask or comment on it though. It lets me know that what I am doing is working. I can see the difference when I compare photos but when I look in the mirror I don't see the change. And one thing I know for sure is I don't feel different other than being able to exercise longer.

hypodonthaveme · September 2016

Where do I start. I have had some excited about me trying to lose weight and this some also mocked me when weight loss started to show. I have been told I'm unhealthy and assume I had cancer or something. Which I don't. I have people who use to talk to me that no longer talk to me. Good thing I am doing this for me and not them. I have had people who have never spoke to me and now they do. My husband and daughter say I am an inspiration to them.

But none of that matters. I am doing this for me. Just let the negatives keep rolling past. I am stronger. I walk faster now. I have more energy. I am doing things that I once thought was impossible. I am the happiest I have been in years. I am enjoying myself for the first time in my life. I love all the things I have learned about myself through my weight loss journey.

I will not quit on myself because of someone else's opinion. I will strive and continue on. I deserve this and I am going to reach goal.

Madwife2009 · September 2016

I've only had positive comments about my weight loss. One or two ask how I've done it but they glaze over when you explain it's about calorie counting and exercising. I think that what a lot of people miss is that I'm not doing this just to lose weight, I'm doing it because I want to be healthier, fitter, stronger and to live for a long time.

aliblain · September 2016

I've had 4 people say in the last week
That I look more trim- it feels good that it's becoming noticeable.

lorrpb · September 2016

I've had several people literally stop me on the street while I am walking to tell me how they've been watching me the last 2 years and how impressive my progress is! That feels nothing but AWESOME!

cng31183 · September 2016

It's a mixed bag here. My husband, workmates and one close friend are extremely supportive. My other close friend tries to be, but, she's naturally an Eeyore (remember Eeyore...from Winnie The Pooh??) so her support is laced with woe. I did have one person who I used to consider a friend but no longer. At the beginning of the year I tipped the scale at 300. When I decided to lose weight her immediate response was "You're going to a gym? Oh my god, you're such a god d*mn follower!" I was so pissed. That was 4 months ago and we haven't spoken since and can't say that I miss her.

Nightmare_Queen88 · September 2016

I haven't gotten any negative comments so far. Anyone who has stopped to ask me and compliment me, just wants to know what my "secret" is. Lol. And there's this one old creepy guy who has come by where I work twice and tells me I look good.

It's really starting to weird me out. But other than that nothing bad. And if anyone does say anything negative I'll just them to go f* themselves.

zyxst · September 2016

If the person asking knew me before, it usually "How much weight have you lost?"

Me "178#"

Them:

"Really?!"

Me: "Yeah, I used to weigh 320#."

I rarely get offered dessert because "she doesn't eat that".

caroannv · September 2016

youdoyou2016 wrote: »

I'm 5'1", 46 yrs old, and have gone from the 220's to 135, with about 10 more to go.

Reaction?

Zilch. Zip. Nada. Nothing. Weirdos!

But, I don't care. I'm just zooming around in my new body having a blast. And considering getting new friends! Haha

Love it! Absolutely brilliant! You definitely rock.

nvmomketo · September 2016

I'm 5'8". I went from 190 to 150 in a few months. I get compliments from some people, or I did. Most are used to seeing me smaller now. Now the main comment I get is from my mother who wonders when I will go back to eating "normal". LOL I get other asking if I am still eating LCHF. I've had one person wonder about if it is healthy but that's it. Most people are kind and complimentary.

itislizard146 · September 2016

One of my friends kept telling me and everyone else that I was anorexic. Which is/was not true. It made me feel awful, I'm not sure why. And then it sabotaged my progress and I wound up gaining weight back and I still can't get it out of my head.

louann_jude · September 2016

I have had several different reactions:

The good

I had the principle at my kids school jaw drop. She was like wow you have lost weight. Then asked how I done it. I have had the you look good. You are doing awesome. I had one lady said I was and inspiration and motivator.

The bad.

My sister in law told people I was on drugs. I had one friend who was older go from complementary to creepy in like five seconds. He did that up and down long look that freaks you out. It was very uncomfortable. I haven't been back over there since.

silverfiend · September 2016

Most of my interactions have all been positive. the only ones close to negative would be from my wife and my mom who are now complaining that that I'm losing "too much" weight. Most of the guys on my department are al fully aware that I have been actively working to cut the fat off this year, but they still like to say things like "dang, you have cancer or something?" or the oh so popular "damn man, eat a sandwich or something". Of course it's said with good humor, and half are jealous because I'm now skinnier than they are.

Most of the people I've known for a while but haven't seen lately typically say something along the lines of "oh wow, you've lost a lot of weight! Congrats, you look great."

I will say that it took a little time in the beginning to accept those comments. My first reaction was that they were being sarcastic little twits. Some times it takes a little time for the mind to change the way it sees things, including ourselves.

joans1976 · September 2016

I have lost 40 pounds since April.

I've gotten comments such as "good for you" "how did you do it?" (I told someone MFP and she said "you have to be OCD for that *kitten*")
My family is very supportive although my mother says she worries I will become anorexic. I'm 5'2, 164 pounds and eat about 1400 calories a day. My mom is definitely a worst case scenario person. She's like the mayor of WCS town.

Co-workers are a struggle. The ones I used to order pizza or Chinese or whatever with every day are very kind and supportive. The 3 other girls are snarky about it. It's very odd because if they aren't discussing work, they only talk about Zumba class and their trainer (they share the same trainer) but have not once paid me a straight forward compliment.

I get hit on a lot more (sometimes welcome, sometimes not but always surprised) and it makes me VERY uncomfortable and I wish I was a turtle and could hide in my shell. I actually got cat called the other day and it made my heart race.

What matters is I feel good inside and know I'm getting healthier. I feel lighter and have more energy. I'm in this for me and my future!

Congrats to all on your losses!

joans1976 · September 2016

louann_jude wrote: »

I have had several different reactions:

The good

I had the principle at my kids school jaw drop. She was like wow you have lost weight. Then asked how I done it. I have had the you look good. You are doing awesome. I had one lady said I was and inspiration and motivator.

The bad.

My sister in law told people I was on drugs. I had one friend who was older go from complementary to creepy in like five seconds. He did that up and down long look that freaks you out. It was very uncomfortable. I haven't been back over there since.

Ugh! Your bad is total Level 4 creeper, so sorry!

Syneea · September 2016

People feeling like they have to "explain themselves" when they eat crap in front of me... Heck, I eat "crap" TOO (sometimes), I just count mine!

Being told that I too need someone to feed me a sandwich. Lol

Coworkers wanting to know All the details of how I lost weight and then suggestions (that they haven't started following yet) of how they should go about doing it.

Random people that I pass in my daily life.. Bank, gym, office cafeteria, commenting on my loss....Or giving me friendly smiles that I Know are related to my loss. lol

mccokat · September 2016

My darling family has asked if I've lost weight because of anxiety, if I've altered my clothes so they look better, and my brother just asked "where did you go?" whilst looking at my stomach.
Fortunately my mum, my friends and my coworkers are *really* supportive. Because my family isn't great at it lol. The other people are just happy because I'm happy I'm meeting my goals though, not that I'm losing weight particularly.

MJFSH · September 2016

It really annoys me, when people call me skinny! i mean WTH! I eat more than most, Fit whatever i want to eat within my macros, Have more muscles than most guys i work with, and have major curves! so for god sake don't call me skinny! I'm Pettitte, but NOT SKINNY!

B4Rachael · September 2016

My Dad and Stepmom have known since the beginning that I am trying to lose weight but it took me loosing 40 pounds for them to notice that I was actually going to reach my goal and say some nice things to me about how good I look now and that they are proud of how far I have come. I really appreciate that they said that & I am not upset that it took them this long to say something.
My Mother did manage to upset me because when I told her that I was having thyroid issues she said, "Oh! Really? I thought you had diabetes!" I was so flabbergasted that she said that, that I just said, "Despite my thyroid problems I have still been able to lose 40 pounds."
On a positive note; I had a work meeting recently & a coworker that I haven't seen since before summer said I look great and that I have done great with my diet & that was wonderful to hear.

I also have had to decline food when people offer it to me & despite being completely nice about it they usually ask "Why" and when I tell them that I am watching what I eat they act like I am judging them for eating.

wildfire1204 · September 2016

zyxst wrote: »

If the person asking knew me before, it usually "How much weight have you lost?"

Me "178#"

Them: "Really?!"

Me: "Yeah, I used to weigh 320#."

I rarely get offered dessert because "she doesn't eat that".

This is hilarious! Congrats on that loss, though. Nothing short of amazing.

JeffreyOC · September 2016

I've had people from work who I don't even know comment on my weight loss

wildfire1204 · September 2016

Most people have been congratulating my loss. I've been at it since January so they see it, but lately i've had two "warning" convos.

One was from a coach at my school who told me (with a side eye lol) to make sure I started to reassess my efforts when I began to get too small, as she's scared I might "waste away". The other was from a student I hadn't seen since last school year. She put her hand on her chest and said, "I don't mean to be rude and I wasn't going to say anything, but you got skinny! You ok?" with a concerned look on her face.

What makes both of these situations so comical is that I weigh 227 lbs. I'm taller, but no where in the world (at least in mine) does this equate to me being anywhere in the vicinity of skinny, lol. These reactions put just how big I was before into perspective. I do greatly appreciate their concern for me, though! Curious what the comments will be when I lose this next 28....

Snipsa · September 2016

For the most parts comments have been extremely positive.

Most want to know "the secret" and seem very disheartened when I explain calorie counting and mfp to them. One lady asked me how long I have been at it, when I replied 8 months she said that's way too long... Haha, 8 months for 25 Kg with only 3kg more to go for goal did not seem long to me at all! But people still want the quick fix...

I have noticed that as summer approaches here and I have been wearing summer dresses and shorts the comments have definitely increased as people seem to notice the loss more easily. Unfortunately this also means the unwanted comments of: "you look too thin"; "eat some cake"; etc have also increased. I usually just reply that I am happy with my weight and my health is the best it has been in years, that usually quiets down the comments.

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