What nobody tells you about losing weight
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sunflowerhippi wrote: »when you try to replace your panties to your matching sets in smaller sizes it is a crapshot if you can find them at all. whines... pouts...
Look on the bright side - it's always the girls in matched sets who die first in horror movies, right? So it's safer this way...
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MimiOfTheLusciousLawn wrote: »themindisitsownplace wrote: »I'm new to MFP forums, but lost 50 lbs toward my goal several years ago. ( then yo-yo plateaued and am here to finally get to the rest of it.) I am currently 40lbs away. I found it somewhat frustrating that all people could focus on was my weight/ body. It was the first and only thing they would talk about when they saw me and I feel like they only saw a body instead of a whole person. I have a pretty rich inner world, talents, interests, etc...so, weirdly enough, even though I was proud of my accomplishments, I also resented people's compliments because I felt objectified. Any one else know how I feel? Am I over thinking this?
To those who feel family didnt support them, YES!! So many people would ask how much I want to lose then discourage me from my goal because it's "too skinny" Ridiculous! Also never expected working out to be such a lonely journey/process. I've become a lot stronger and determined, though!
And on the positive side- getting used to taking up less space is wonderful. Three cheers to the middle seat on the subway! And being able to buy clothes much easier. Having hip bones, clavicles, and a tail bone is pretty nice, too
I get this A LOT. Knowing that it will happen makes it somewhat easier to deflect when it does. Conversation will go something like this:
Them: Wow, you look great, you've lost so much weight!
Me: Yep, I have, thanks for noticing. You look fabulous as well.
Them: But nothing like you.
Me: Celebrate yourself girl! What else is going on in your world?
Give them a chance to discuss it and them simply move on. The convo will circle back to you, but just keep pushing it in a direction you are more comfortable with.
The ones I find funny are the ones whose eyes about pop out of their head when they see you but never mention it! It truly does get to be comical after awhile. Enjoy it, it won't last forever. And congrats on your loss, OMG, you look fantastic, how the heck did you do it, you must have lost a ton... lol!
@orange_hoodie Right!?!?
And, thanks for that @MimiOfTheLusciousLawn I am going to save that and come prepared next time! It's kind of disturbing, though. For all we are told just to go out there and be ourselves, not be self conscious and stuff because no one is looking at us... it's not strictly true, is it. I think that's what gets under my skin, the feeling that people are always watching. LOL OK going into paranoia mode now.
OH! Also. Can I add? BEING ABLE TO TIE MY SHOES AND BREATHE AT THE SAME TIME!! HOLLA! Made combat boots much more fun to wear 16 -
I am hyper personality and hubby is laid back, I lost weight and I am more hyper, lots of energy and I guess it is not so good for him but I have to keep busy, very busy now that I feel good.6
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sunflowerhippi wrote: »when you try to replace your panties to your matching sets in smaller sizes it is a crapshot if you can find them at all. whines... pouts...
Look on the bright side - it's always the girls in matched sets who die first in horror movies, right? So it's safer this way...
haha good point. my OCD though is crying inside so bad right now.8 -
That you crave workouts like you used to crave chocolate.17
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thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »That you crave workouts like you used to crave chocolate.
Gets maddening at times, right?3 -
- don't size wedding rings until you're done and maintong a weight
- You will find bones (my collar bones and hip bones were the first I found)
- Friends and family don't always support. Keep pushing through anyways!
- Don't weigh yourself every day
- yoga pants, track pants, and baggy shirts will be your best friends
Then at the end.... YOU DID IT!!20 -
That you'll keep the subject quiet so you are not sabotaged or discouraged.34
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that a workout would clear my headaches and that sickly grotty feeling - it's a real tonic.13
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+ That I would love giving and getting hugs. I used to hide from them because I was embarrassed that I was so wide.
+ That I would have so much energy! I used to sleep 10 hours a night, have two cups of coffee, and a 1-2 hour afternoon nap to get through the day. I've had no coffee, no naps, and sleeping 8 hours a night for the last 2 months. I feel amazing!
+ That I would actually be able to tell when I was getting sick! Before I felt crappy all the time. This morning I woke up and I knew immediately that I was coming down with something and sure enough at 1pm my cold hit me with full force. Healthy me vs sick me is blatantly obvious now.34 -
To have my 17 year old daughter say "I'm so proud of you, Mom, for sticking with it! I don't think I could've done it."56
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+ That I would love giving and getting hugs. I used to hide from them because I was embarrassed that I was so wide.
+ That I would have so much energy! I used to sleep 10 hours a night, have two cups of coffee, and a 1-2 hour afternoon nap to get through the day. I've had no coffee, no naps, and sleeping 8 hours a night for the last 2 months. I feel amazing!
+ That I would actually be able to tell when I was getting sick! Before I felt crappy all the time. This morning I woke up and I knew immediately that I was coming down with something and sure enough at 1pm my cold hit me with full force. Healthy me vs sick me is blatantly obvious now.
I'm still in denial when I'm getting sick, but I know what you mean. I feel better all the time, except when I go off plan.5 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »That you'll keep the subject quiet so you are not sabotaged or discouraged.
This. I've been active for 80 days today. Have lost 20.4 pounds (so, really 1/4 of a pound/day -- not too bad). Not one person has noticed or said anything. BUT I haven't said anything either. Not talking about it in hopes that it sticks this time!41 -
The ability to walk past a mirror and actually like what you see 37
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No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....16
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No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....
Ditto! It also didn't make bra shopping easier. The band size going down, but the cup size not going down makes for even less options.8 -
Kind of gross, but nobody told me that all my t-shirts would have sweat stained armpits from working out! Seriously think I am going to have to invest in some new ones soon or only wear black. They are all clean but still stained!17
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No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....
Ditto! It also didn't make bra shopping easier. The band size going down, but the cup size not going down makes for even less options.
Both of you. Realize the rare combo of a skinny waist and huge tits are things a lot of people pay a lot of money for.
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No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....
Ditto! It also didn't make bra shopping easier. The band size going down, but the cup size not going down makes for even less options.
I honestly have only tried to bra shop one time about 2 weeks ago and got so frustrated about the band to cup size situation that I just gave up and left with nothing. I've just been wearing the ones I have that are too big around, hoping and dreaming that as I continue to lose weight they will get smaller to make life more manageable.1 -
Foods may taste different 6
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thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....
Ditto! It also didn't make bra shopping easier. The band size going down, but the cup size not going down makes for even less options.
Both of you. Realize the rare combo of a skinny waist and huge tits are things a lot of people pay a lot of money for.
Haha, I do realize this. My friends and I have the discussion a lot, if I could give them some of mine I would.
The grass is always greener....6 -
No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....
Ditto! It also didn't make bra shopping easier. The band size going down, but the cup size not going down makes for even less options.
I honestly have only tried to bra shop one time about 2 weeks ago and got so frustrated about the band to cup size situation that I just gave up and left with nothing. I've just been wearing the ones I have that are too big around, hoping and dreaming that as I continue to lose weight they will get smaller to make life more manageable.
You should probably go to Victoria's Secret and get measured so you know your size. Then order your bras online from retailers that carry your size.5 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....
Ditto! It also didn't make bra shopping easier. The band size going down, but the cup size not going down makes for even less options.
I honestly have only tried to bra shop one time about 2 weeks ago and got so frustrated about the band to cup size situation that I just gave up and left with nothing. I've just been wearing the ones I have that are too big around, hoping and dreaming that as I continue to lose weight they will get smaller to make life more manageable.
You should probably go to Victoria's Secret and get measured so you know your size. Then order your bras online from retailers that carry your size.
I agree that getting a true fitting. I went to a bra shop and got measured, it does help, but finding my size is still difficult and expensive. Victoria Secret isn't an option for me, they don't go to my cup size
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thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....
Ditto! It also didn't make bra shopping easier. The band size going down, but the cup size not going down makes for even less options.
I honestly have only tried to bra shop one time about 2 weeks ago and got so frustrated about the band to cup size situation that I just gave up and left with nothing. I've just been wearing the ones I have that are too big around, hoping and dreaming that as I continue to lose weight they will get smaller to make life more manageable.
You should probably go to Victoria's Secret and get measured so you know your size. Then order your bras online from retailers that carry your size.
I agree that getting a true fitting. I went to a bra shop and got measured, it does help, but finding my size is still difficult and expensive. Victoria Secret isn't an option for me, they don't go to my cup size
Ordering online is a less frustrating option than going to stores. You should try it after you get measured.0 -
- Realizing that my weight wasn't the thing that made me unhappy. It was however the trauma from bullying and mean words I've endured from childhood to adolescence (even from grown ups). I needed therapy to save me from my own self.
- My breasts got smaller (was already small though so not a big deal)
- Your health isn't better automatically with lower weight. I got high cholesterol and I'm "thin" now.
- You can find love even when you're heavy. I didn't believe that.
- I can finally wear rings!
- I can finally wear shorts!! It took me a year to realize that I can. My mind was blocking me in this.
- You will be called anorexic by several "good people" or ask you if you eat nothing or just puke your food (when you're like 120 pounds at 5'1). Ironically the same people who would approach you and tell you that you need to lose weight and that you're very overweight. (eat chocolate in front of them or any "fat" food -so worth it hahaha)
- I eventually found out that I care about myself and try for my best not just diet wise but when it comes to my education and the quality of my relationships!39 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
I agree that getting a true fitting. I went to a bra shop and got measured, it does help, but finding my size is still difficult and expensive. Victoria Secret isn't an option for me, they don't go to my cup size
Ordering online is a less frustrating option than going to stores. You should try it after you get measured.
Even then it can be frustrating... years ago I used to order a lot from catalogues (online shopping wasn't really A Thing for me at that time), and I could order six bras in the same size which would all fit differently. Sometimes even different styles from the same brand would fit wrong! I'd be lucky if I got one or two that were wearable, and the rest would have to go back. (I found that Panache had the best fit for me at the time, but even those could vary.)
Those of you with larger boobs, check out the Hips & Curves website. (www.hipsandcurves.com) They do beautiful lingerie in larger cup sizes and often at reasonable prices, although I'm not sure what the smallest band sizes are that they carry. It could be worth a look though!
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*Cleaning out the clothes closet and fitting in the "Between" clothes.
*The messy bedroom from trying on all the new "old" clothes from your closet.
*The un-organization in your home because you now want to tackle all those projects due to increased energy and can not prioritize them.23 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
I agree that getting a true fitting. I went to a bra shop and got measured, it does help, but finding my size is still difficult and expensive. Victoria Secret isn't an option for me, they don't go to my cup size
Ordering online is a less frustrating option than going to stores. You should try it after you get measured.
Even then it can be frustrating... years ago I used to order a lot from catalogues (online shopping wasn't really A Thing for me at that time), and I could order six bras in the same size which would all fit differently. Sometimes even different styles from the same brand would fit wrong! I'd be lucky if I got one or two that were wearable, and the rest would have to go back. (I found that Panache had the best fit for me at the time, but even those could vary.)
Those of you with larger boobs, check out the Hips & Curves website. (www.hipsandcurves.com) They do beautiful lingerie in larger cup sizes and often at reasonable prices, although I'm not sure what the smallest band sizes are that they carry. It could be worth a look though!
THIS!!! I have been measured and know what size I need now. I ordered a couple online and they didn't fit so I ended up returning them and going to a different store to just try on what I could find in my size. Which wasn't much. And every single one of them fit differently. So I just gave up.2 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....No one told me that even after nearly 75 lbs. My boobs have not gotten any smaller... It used to be hard to dress because it was just hard to find clothes that fit me and that I didn't hate... Now I still have the same problem. If it fits good on my waist and hips it does not fit my boobs at all!!! and if it fits my chest it's too big everywhere else!!! Seriously....
Ditto! It also didn't make bra shopping easier. The band size going down, but the cup size not going down makes for even less options.
Both of you. Realize the rare combo of a skinny waist and huge tits are things a lot of people pay a lot of money for.
Haha, I do realize this. My friends and I have the discussion a lot, if I could give them some of mine I would.
The grass is always greener....
HAHAHAHA. I do realize this! And my friends and I often have the same conversation. If I could give some to them I would!2 -
soneekumro wrote: »To have my 17 year old daughter say "I'm so proud of you, Mom, for sticking with it! I don't think I could've done it."
Now that must feel wonderful ❤️
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