A text message I received...what do you think?

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  • Theo166
    Theo166 Posts: 2,564 Member
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    PlaydohPants wrote: »
    Theo166 wrote: »
    PlaydohPants wrote: »
    Theo166 wrote: »
    PlaydohPants wrote: »
    Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
    Since this thread has crossed its white knight phase, it's worth noting that a majority of men (even the chunky ones) don't prefer dating overweight women. Tons of statistics from the dating sites/apps abound.

    If a guy doesn't want to date overweight women then fine, don't. Don't date someone for 8 years and try to turn them into what you want them to be. And that goes for all aspects not just weight.

    Yea, but the guy is a PT so his career (and personal mission?) is about people getting in shape.

    So? She's not his client

    You imagine someone's career doesn't bleed into their personal life?
    That's living in a bubble.

    His career isn't telling his girlfriend of 8 years that he won't be proud of her unless she's as hot as all of his other options. That's just being a *kitten* *kitten* and excusing that behavior as "it's his career and personal mission" makes you one too

    Now you are projecting what I think, in my first post I said the guy was as "deep as a teaspoon". I think he's a DB and is working to end the relationship.

    Recently I'm objecting to the absolutism here that a partner isn't allowed to care about appearances, or that any comments on health are inappropriate (if you really loved them). If I was a PT I would be urging my friends and family to get in shape, but I wouldn't be implying I was going to trade up.
  • OneHundredToLose
    OneHundredToLose Posts: 8,534 Member
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    It's definitely a *kitten* thing to say to someone, but everyone is entitled to seek what they want in a relationship / companion. Best thing to do is disassociate and move on, as it appears your viewpoints are not compatible.
  • ShrinkingViolet1982
    ShrinkingViolet1982 Posts: 919 Member
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    toned_thugs_n_harmony wrote: »
    blackcomaro wrote: »
    This is off topic... but what a dousch!! Why does everyone use the term kitten on here.....is it slang for something?? This term is not used in Australia.

    they change curse words to the word kitten.

    So if I type *kitten* they will change it?
  • ShrinkingViolet1982
    ShrinkingViolet1982 Posts: 919 Member
    edited January 2017
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    AHAHAHAHAHAHA I have never seen that before.
    (Ie: I saw tons of *kitten* but I thought people were editing their own to be funny and AVOID auto-censoring. Like someone had sworn too often, got banned, and started a funny "Let's all say *kitten* to avoid the mods" type of joke.)
  • Lord007
    Lord007 Posts: 338 Member
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    To the OP, I see a slightly different take on the text (but still not a positive one).
    First, something like that should NEVER be sent as a text, or email, or written word. It's far too easy to interpret a different message than what was intended. Even if spoken, it's a tricky thing, depending on context intended. It couldn't have been done to initiate you being healthier because you are active on MFP so that is clearly already under way.
    With that being said: Here's what I got from it. You mentioned it's currently a long distance thing, even though it's a relationship of 8 years. PERHAPS he doesn't have the stones to just break up with you. Maybe He "thinks" he has "better" options where he is because of the circumstances, or maybe there is someone genuinely interested in him. It seems to me that the text was intended to anger/upset you enough to initiate the break-up. Confront him directly and ask what he meant by it....Based on his response (or lack of) maybe it does require YOU kicking him to the curb.
  • pagefan
    pagefan Posts: 31 Member
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    you are asking a bunch of strangers their opinion because i think you're in disbelief of the response you received.. i go with all of the above. Kick him to the curb. 8 years, you're lucky you're NOT married.
  • fatboychia
    fatboychia Posts: 18 Member
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    You are a total hottie, break up with him and go out with someone that will adore you for you no matter how you physically look. In the business, he is what is referred to as a "Dee Bag". Its an industry-technical term.
  • mcbride_35
    mcbride_35 Posts: 2 Member
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    I think he's trying to get you to break up with him. That way, in his mind he didn't do anything wrong and it's your fault that things didn't work out. Anybody that works in a gym, is always positive and encouraging. Not belittle them....
    After 8 years he should be proud of you and not be talking about girls that are slim or toned... sorry but I really hate shallow people.... You can do much better, and be so much happier. Wish you well...

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