Dating and dieting

rchlthompson wrote: »

Wow, you are all awesome!. I'm sorry I can't reply to each of you individually. So here's the thing, I actually love going out on dates. Sometimes they're awesome, sometimes they're not. My date tonight with a second date and it was pretty wonderful. If I met some guy who I was comfortable with I would be happy to cook at home or reduced to eating to a level I was comfortable with. The problem is first, Second, third dates. I need to get to the level that I'm comfortable with cutting back the food and letting them know I'm careful about what I eat. I want to have fun and I don't want to seem like a downer... Plus, food and whiskey! Who doesn't love that?

I love Scotch and I'm a foodie (although I hate that word). Now that I'm trying to lose weight, I moderate my intake. But that doesn't make me a downer. And I wouldn't consider a woman who's not eating or drinking a lot to be downer either. Your personality is what determines whether or not you're a downer, not what you decide to eat or drink.

I don't go on 3-4 dates a week but I understand!

1. My advice is to bank your calories! You know at least a day in advance before a date right? So eat lighter that day then eat most of your calories later. Going out most of the week seems to be your usual so make your CICO (calories in calories out) fit your lifestyle because this isn't a special treat that happens once in a while to splurge so don't treat it as such and stick to your calorie counting.

2. Another suggestion is you suggest the place to go out to, so your familiar with the place and plan ahead.

3. Yes first dates and culture center around food but you don't have to let it. Instead of foods and drinks how about drinks + an activity or food + activity.

Whenever I'm going out, I try to burn "drink calories" on the treadmill. In my head, 500 calories = 3 or 4 drinks (depending on what I'm drinking).

3 or 4 drinks is WAY above 500... you may wanna play around with mfp. Alcohol and pop is loaded with calories. Its scary..

K3rB3ar89 wrote: »

3 or 4 drinks is WAY above 500... you may wanna play around with mfp. Alcohol and pop is loaded with calories. Its scary..

Not really light beer is under 100 per...A shot of hard in diet coke is to. Just likely not when going out to bars your likely to get bigger portions XD

When I was attempting to date, my 1st goal was to; seek someone either already healthy or making sound progress, to be. Living the same type of, lifestyle'll make it easier to; decide now & later where to eat, you'll both bring something like; a picnic and/or do something active like, a hike before/after to, still hopefully stay on track!

For 1st dates I, don't believe they should begin as an elaborate production; coffee's fine & you don't even've to stay in the cafe while drinking it, walk somewhere outside away from people that'll easily; overhear you getting to know each other. Agree beforehand that it's casual/dressy so, no wondering how; much/little to dress, etc. Mention where'd you be coming from. A gym well you'll be in athletic clothing, work well you'll be in a uniform, suit, etc.

bbell1985 wrote: »

Katimira wrote: »

Whenever I'm going out, I try to burn "drink calories" on the treadmill. In my head, 500 calories = 3 or 4 drinks (depending on what I'm drinking).

how you getting 4 drinks out of 500 calories?

If you are just drinking shots of hard liquor...or something on the rocks. And you can always mix with diet soda instead of juices or reg soda.

Im also canadian.. our light beer is 95-125 calories. But who just drinks? There's MANY factors.. after 2 or 3 you wanna eat too

I mean I guess this heavily depends on the person. I am not much for expensive dinner first dates, and I find them boring. They don't give an impression about you ever, rather your trivial choices in that moment. There is nothing wrong with being straight forward about your nutrition either.

A good date for example was just walking around town, stopping by small craft shops, talking about everything and nothing. I think I remember 8 hours non stop talking with small rests in between my fav coffee shop, some random benches, and few buildings I know the designs of (Amazing views from the roof). The places were rather just slight background changes. I guess this heavily depends on the town though. Tokyo is amazing on foot.

im canadian... I know whats here

subcounter wrote: »

I mean I guess this heavily depends on the person. I am not much for expensive dinner first dates, and I find them boring. They don't give an impression about you ever, rather your trivial choices in that moment. There is nothing wrong with being straight forward about your nutrition either.

A good date for example was just walking around town, stopping by small craft shops, talking about everything and nothing. I think I remember 8 hours non stop talking with small rests in between my fav coffee shop, some random benches, and few buildings I know the designs of (Amazing views from the roof). The places were rather just slight background changes. I guess this heavily depends on the town though. Tokyo is amazing on foot.

Totally agree. I'm not going to be spending a lot of money on first dates. It's a "can I be around this person for long periods of time" I understand breaking the ice with a drink (I'm 24 that's our default) but drinks get expensive and the logical part of my brain is "I don't know how much they drink what if a drunk stranger turns super bad" and I need to put my best foot forward with judgment and not be buzzed on a date.

But I also live in NYC which gives me the luxury of easily finding outdoor activities besides food and drinks someone from a rural or suburbs might not have the same luxury

Because normally if you sit at a place on a date you have acouple drinks and eat food or snack. You visit and talk.. sounds like a sloppy date if your there too just drink. Maybe we have diff ideas of a date. If i went on a date im not going to say nope can't eat drank over calories.. lol... your there to enjoy yourself

You must be such a fun date;)

I was never proven wrong by anything. I was making a point. Dates usually involve food and alcohol. As said its the "default". Your basically arguing that im wrong because if i was it wouldnt be the topic of HOW TO AVOID IT. So good for you to say you have self control and can have 3 or 4 drinks without food. Most people dont have the control. And no MOST drinks people want to drink are over the limit. Realistically most people will NOT drink ONLY within the limit because realistically everyone loves the drinks that arent healthy and they wouldnt be anyone's first choice.

K3rB3ar89 wrote: »

My advise to the op is..have fun eat drink what you want. You deserve one night a week to do what you want but dont lose sight of your goal ciz its easy to fall off the wagon and forget about whats important

rchlthompson wrote: »

I need help. How do you balance dating and dieting? I've lost 50 pounds in the last year and feel confident and pretty for the first time in forever. I still have a little ways to go but I'm comfortable with where I'm at. My question is how do I balance dating and dieting? I want to go out and I want to eat all the food and I want to drink all the drinks and I want to meet all the boys. The problem is I can't fit this in my calorie range. I don't want to unload the whole "I used to be fat" thing right away. Yes, I really enjoy the smoke meats and whiskey and I enjoy a carefree evening. The problem is I have three or four of these a week... What in the hell am I supposed to do?

3-4 isnt one night a week. But yeah she should do her thing she clearly enjoys it so thats her priorities