My Dr made me feel like crap yesterday....

You should give your doctor some feed back. She needs it. Think of it as helping another person who is more vulnerable that you that will come after you. Some people are really tactless. I'm a doctor and I have a lot of problems with my weight. I try to be tactful because how much you weigh or how big your muscles are doesn't make you a better person. I would love to be in the shape you are in in either of your photos. I want to lose weight to be healthier. The older you get the more problems you have from being overweight. You don't have to be perfect either. I just would like to be able to be more active and do a lot of things that I physically can't now because of my weight. I would not leave your doctor because of one tactless comment. You need to tell her that she didn't handle it well and about your history of anorexia. She needs to learn how to be tactful and kind. Think of it as a public service. If she does it again, tell her you will be changing doctors because of it so she knows!

You look like you've put on more muscle in the first photo as well, which is a great thing! You can still see plenty of ab definition (enough to make me jealous ) I'm surprised your doctor would say anything about those 15-20 lbs, considering you still seem to be completely healthy, and considering she knows your history. I don't think you need to pressure yourself too much. You can lose if you want, but please don't do it just because you feel triggered. You are gorgeous!

I like the first picture better

You look so great! Both pics.

Maybe if your doctor knows your anorexia history, he/she was actually pleased that you gained weight. I think you look awesome in both pics! Don't let anyone steal your peace of mind!

May I be 100% fully completely honest? There are a million people on this planet and plenty of them are on this website too that would KILL to look like you right now.
I assume she looks like a fitness model to be in a position to judge at all, and should have a full 8 pack too. Doesn't she? Then she is not in a position to argue.

I can see your abs in both pics and am jelly.

I had a similar experience , Dr. told me I could use to lose a few lbs , I was only 185 at the time , I took a look at him and said I guess you do too! It didn't bother made me laugh a bit since he is over 300..

Jax2120 wrote: »

Thank you everyone. Yes my Dr is aware of my eating disorder. She had to refer me to a gastroenterologist because I was abusing laxatives & my bowls almost stopped working & I was in a lot of pain. But it's possible she forgot she must see so many patients. But I do think its time to find a new Dr. She can be very blunt sometimes & it is triggering.

In your situation I can't understand the doctor's bluntness. You honestly look great. Even if she wanted to point out the weight gain she could have followed up with something to clarify her stance: "you gained weight and it is a healthy weight."

I sometimes appreciate bluntness. Don't misunderstand this as a blanket statement. But sometimes I think people hear what they want to hear, with rose colored glasses blinding out all but the blunt or obvious. I have a friend who has to be close to 400lbs and he says that his doctors say he has perfect health--this can't possibly be accurate, but I also don't know what they say to him. Sure, he may not have diabetes or high cholesterol, at least not yet. Without aggressive lifestyle change he will remain much higher risk of both, in addition to many other conditions. I imagine his doctor casually looks at his blood work, "looks good, make sure you try and lose a few pounds" which of course this friend already knows, and takes it to mean that all is well. If his doctor instead sat down and said, "look, bloodwork is reassuring, but we need to address your weight before its too late, let's talk about how we can do it," he would hopefully have a different attitude.

What your doctor should have said, "Wow, it's been two year's since I've seem you. You look FIERCE. Been hitting the gym huh?" Like most have said, you look amazing in both photos. I personally prefer your first photo. You look so Ninja Warrior. Seriously, I am totally confused by her reaction to you. Her only reaction should have been, If all her patients took their health as seriously as you apparently do, she wouldn't have much to do. Maybe that is her problem. There is no excuse for what came out of her mouth knowing your history. Yes, she has other patients, but when you are in that room...her job is to know the patient she is seeing. I would change doctors, but I'd also send her a note saying, "by the way, this is why...". If she is not aware of her mistake, it may help her other patients out before she goes and triggers someone else.

Oh my goodness, girl !! Please don't allow your Dr to make you feel so bad ! No time in life for negativity unless it's warranted and you look fabulous! I understand you want to shed a few pounds and that's all great but you have NOT 'put on alot of weight' from the first picture to the second.... do what you need to do for YOU and he happy! good luck

SpotLighttt wrote: »

Perhaps the doctor was not being malicious?

Not necessarily malicious, stupid and tactless, yes

MindyBruno wrote: »

You look amazing in both photos. I agree with changing doctors. You need a doctor that can build you up not tear you down. Especially with your history of eating disorders.

It is not a doctor's job "to build people up" it is their job to notice bodily changes that might influence health.....

You look really good, very fit, in both your pictures - but I totally understand what you mean. Going through a similar situation myself!