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JstTheWayIam wrote: »Question:
If you could have any muscle massaged right now, what and why?
My glutes... They are so freaking sore from all the running... And tight OH
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JstTheWayIam wrote: »Question:
So my first day off in like 9 of 10 days (all 10hr days except for one 12hr day). I recommend she gets up and works out with me but she prefers to sleep in, eat breakfast and watch TV...
By the time I finish, she's getting out of the shower to go to zumba and body pump and gone for a few hours. She then comes home and wants to eat lunch and shower...
Now I'm sorry but I've worked my *kitten* off for this time off and I'm not sitting around waiting for you like a dumbass... I'm going to take my boy to the park and have errands to run...
For dinner she's taking off with my sister in law (whom I just love btw) and my son and I are going Lazer tagging...
Tomorrow it will be the same thing only she's going out with friends for a bday...
I've got a bottle of wine that is just not going to get drunk until Sunday unless I drink it myself and I could really use a drink since I don't at all on work days...
I mean the you know what last night was freaking mind blowing but other than that, it's hard to not feel... Undervalued I guess, especially since how little of each other we've seen the last week and a half..
I'm I over reacting?
Have you said this to her?
Because I can understand where you're coming from, you seem to have really long work days and it can be really frustrating when your schedules don't line up, but it's not something that will be fixed unless you communicate this feeling with her.
I'd also suggest talking to her about scheduling a date night or something like that, because then it can't be turned around into you not "respecting her free time" or something, which a lot of people like to turn these conversations into...
Yeah actually, to exhaustion in fact...
Like you said though, it always gets twisted into "Well you got to work out..."
To which I usually point out how I get up before the sun to get mine, even on my days off... Only to hear..." I'm not you"... Yeah, no shi+...
Sorry just #venting0 -
JstTheWayIam wrote: »JstTheWayIam wrote: »Question:
So my first day off in like 9 of 10 days (all 10hr days except for one 12hr day). I recommend she gets up and works out with me but she prefers to sleep in, eat breakfast and watch TV...
By the time I finish, she's getting out of the shower to go to zumba and body pump and gone for a few hours. She then comes home and wants to eat lunch and shower...
Now I'm sorry but I've worked my *kitten* off for this time off and I'm not sitting around waiting for you like a dumbass... I'm going to take my boy to the park and have errands to run...
For dinner she's taking off with my sister in law (whom I just love btw) and my son and I are going Lazer tagging...
Tomorrow it will be the same thing only she's going out with friends for a bday...
I've got a bottle of wine that is just not going to get drunk until Sunday unless I drink it myself and I could really use a drink since I don't at all on work days...
I mean the you know what last night was freaking mind blowing but other than that, it's hard to not feel... Undervalued I guess, especially since how little of each other we've seen the last week and a half..
I'm I over reacting?
Have you said this to her?
Because I can understand where you're coming from, you seem to have really long work days and it can be really frustrating when your schedules don't line up, but it's not something that will be fixed unless you communicate this feeling with her.
I'd also suggest talking to her about scheduling a date night or something like that, because then it can't be turned around into you not "respecting her free time" or something, which a lot of people like to turn these conversations into...
Yeah actually, to exhaustion in fact...
Like you said though, it always gets twisted into "Well you got to work out..."
To which I usually point out how I get up before the sun to get mine, even on my days off... Only to hear..." I'm not you"... Yeah, no shi+...
Sorry just #venting
That's rough. And it's sometimes really hard to have those conversations without someone taking offense and getting upset.
Maybe just talk to her about a date night. Or just plan one and tell her to be ready for it and not really give her an out to say she doesn't feel up to it or whatever.
It's really tough when one or both of you work long hours and weird schedules to make time for those deeper connections and time for each other. You just have to make it a priority and let her know she is one and hope she reciprocates.0 -
JstTheWayIam wrote: »Question:
So my first day off in like 9 of 10 days (all 10hr days except for one 12hr day). I recommend she gets up and works out with me but she prefers to sleep in, eat breakfast and watch TV...
By the time I finish, she's getting out of the shower to go to zumba and body pump and gone for a few hours. She then comes home and wants to eat lunch and shower...
Now I'm sorry but I've worked my *kitten* off for this time off and I'm not sitting around waiting for you like a dumbass... I'm going to take my boy to the park and have errands to run...
For dinner she's taking off with my sister in law (whom I just love btw) and my son and I are going Lazer tagging...
Tomorrow it will be the same thing only she's going out with friends for a bday...
I've got a bottle of wine that is just not going to get drunk until Sunday unless I drink it myself and I could really use a drink since I don't at all on work days...
I mean the you know what last night was freaking mind blowing but other than that, it's hard to not feel... Undervalued I guess, especially since how little of each other we've seen the last week and a half..
I'm I over reacting?
I don't think you are over reacting, you are upset and it sounds like with fair reason.
Both of you deserve to do what you want with your days off, and you should.
It's good that you have plans with your child, that should be fun for both of you.
If it were me, I would try to explain to my SO in a casual non confrontational way that I miss spending time with them and ask them how they think that the two of you can make that happen. Whether it is scheduling time (which I kinda hate the sound of "scheduling") or maybe just by bringing it up it will make your SO aware that this is upsetting you. Maybe she is unaware that you are upset?
I hope you can find a balance in your schedules and relationship.0 -
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briansolomon7863 wrote: »
Still sexy.0 -
Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Man, if I have a day off, I'd actually have breakfast with my wife and not ask her to go work out with me. She does not enjoy working out. And I know that.
I like to eat together. But I prefer working out alone. And I learnt a long time ago to not bother her sleeping in because my *kitten* was handed to me in a platter
You may be overreacting a bit.
Two points:
Always say yes for lunch
Don't tamper with sleeping in
Piggy lessons of the day.
You're probably right..
We did make up, I just tried to laugh it off with her joking that if we could still have that much "fun" together... Everything else is really Bs...0 -
JstTheWayIam wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Man, if I have a day off, I'd actually have breakfast with my wife and not ask her to go work out with me. She does not enjoy working out. And I know that.
I like to eat together. But I prefer working out alone. And I learnt a long time ago to not bother her sleeping in because my *kitten* was handed to me in a platter
You may be overreacting a bit.
Two points:
Always say yes for lunch
Don't tamper with sleeping in
Piggy lessons of the day.
You're probably right..
We did make up, I just tried to laugh it off with her joking that if we could still have that much "fun" together... Everything else is really Bs...
Glad you guys made up0 -
lmjohnson110 wrote: »
Second FR sent.0 -
LittleHearseDriver wrote: »Is there any profession that would discourage you from dating someone?
Yes. If I was single now...A Marine would make me pause a minute. I married a Marine, it was a hard life. Great but tough. The worry during war and the long absences during deployment. Idk if I'd be willing to go through it at this point in my life. So I would be leery of getting involved with a Marine....much as I love them!!!!2 -
A prostitute or stripper !1
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JstTheWayIam wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Man, if I have a day off, I'd actually have breakfast with my wife and not ask her to go work out with me. She does not enjoy working out. And I know that.
I like to eat together. But I prefer working out alone. And I learnt a long time ago to not bother her sleeping in because my *kitten* was handed to me in a platter
You may be overreacting a bit.
Two points:
Always say yes for lunch
Don't tamper with sleeping in
Piggy lessons of the day.
You're probably right..
We did make up, I just tried to laugh it off with her joking that if we could still have that much "fun" together... Everything else is really Bs...
I always say I aint arguing with someone I can't have make-up "fun" with....
It's hard with different schedules and long work days. I get both sides of it. Make it a plan to have a scheduled date night. That's what we've done the past several months and it's helped us out for sure.1 -
So I was taking to this women who I thought everything was cool, we met a few times, but ever since I moved we have only been able to video chat and phone call. Well feelings were generating (i'm assuming) and everything was chill. She had always constantly told me about this one ex of 3 years that is her best friend that emotionally abuses her and etc but yet she still hangs out with him cause hes family and cause hes helped her out in the past and he "protects her" but yet shes depressed,in a rut, lost (or so she says)
She sends me screen shots of their chats and him bashing her, literally dehumanizing her, she calls me asking what to do, and I give her my opinion. Well apparently today she didn't like my opinion and she blew up saying that it's non of my business and that I should be more considerate and that how can she cut ties with someone who is family shes not "heartless" and that it doesn't matter that he does what he does cause shes "emotionally numb"
I'm kind of taken aback because A)I did not mean to stir a hornets nest or even want to get involved in their situation but she threw me in there anyways by always sending me their chats and telling me how depressed shes feeling, and I TRY to help I try to be a friend..and
would it be wrong if I just ghost'ed her after this because in reality I do NOT have time for that kind of jazz nor want to be around any negativity i'm a positive dude and if people don't want to be helped then idk how else I can help! 0 -
andrewq6100 wrote: »So I was taking to this women who I thought everything was cool, we met a few times, but ever since I moved we have only been able to video chat and phone call. Well feelings were generating (i'm assuming) and everything was chill. She had always constantly told me about this one ex of 3 years that is her best friend that emotionally abuses her and etc but yet she still hangs out with him cause hes family and cause hes helped her out in the past and he "protects her" but yet shes depressed,in a rut, lost (or so she says)
She sends me screen shots of their chats and him bashing her, literally dehumanizing her, she calls me asking what to do, and I give her my opinion. Well apparently today she didn't like my opinion and she blew up saying that it's non of my business and that I should be more considerate and that how can she cut ties with someone who is family shes not "heartless" and that it doesn't matter that he does what he does cause shes "emotionally numb"
I'm kind of taken aback because A)I did not mean to stir a hornets nest or even want to get involved in their situation but she threw me in there anyways by always sending me their chats and telling me how depressed shes feeling, and I TRY to help I try to be a friend..and would it be wrong if I just ghost'ed her after this because in reality I do NOT have time for that kind of jazz nor want to be around any negativity i'm a positive dude and if people don't want to be helped then idk how else I can help!
She seems to be an askhole. I wouldn't spend anymore time with her.4 -
andrewq6100 wrote: »So I was taking to this women who I thought everything was cool, we met a few times, but ever since I moved we have only been able to video chat and phone call. Well feelings were generating (i'm assuming) and everything was chill. She had always constantly told me about this one ex of 3 years that is her best friend that emotionally abuses her and etc but yet she still hangs out with him cause hes family and cause hes helped her out in the past and he "protects her" but yet shes depressed,in a rut, lost (or so she says)
She sends me screen shots of their chats and him bashing her, literally dehumanizing her, she calls me asking what to do, and I give her my opinion. Well apparently today she didn't like my opinion and she blew up saying that it's non of my business and that I should be more considerate and that how can she cut ties with someone who is family shes not "heartless" and that it doesn't matter that he does what he does cause shes "emotionally numb"
I'm kind of taken aback because A)I did not mean to stir a hornets nest or even want to get involved in their situation but she threw me in there anyways by always sending me their chats and telling me how depressed shes feeling, and I TRY to help I try to be a friend..and would it be wrong if I just ghost'ed her after this because in reality I do NOT have time for that kind of jazz nor want to be around any negativity i'm a positive dude and if people don't want to be helped then idk how else I can help!
I personally would never turn away someone who comes to me for help or just to vent...
But I would make it clear at the same time that I'm hear to be a friend and listen at the very least...
Not to serve as a punching bag or someone they can take their frustration out on...4 -
JstTheWayIam wrote: »andrewq6100 wrote: »So I was taking to this women who I thought everything was cool, we met a few times, but ever since I moved we have only been able to video chat and phone call. Well feelings were generating (i'm assuming) and everything was chill. She had always constantly told me about this one ex of 3 years that is her best friend that emotionally abuses her and etc but yet she still hangs out with him cause hes family and cause hes helped her out in the past and he "protects her" but yet shes depressed,in a rut, lost (or so she says)
She sends me screen shots of their chats and him bashing her, literally dehumanizing her, she calls me asking what to do, and I give her my opinion. Well apparently today she didn't like my opinion and she blew up saying that it's non of my business and that I should be more considerate and that how can she cut ties with someone who is family shes not "heartless" and that it doesn't matter that he does what he does cause shes "emotionally numb"
I'm kind of taken aback because A)I did not mean to stir a hornets nest or even want to get involved in their situation but she threw me in there anyways by always sending me their chats and telling me how depressed shes feeling, and I TRY to help I try to be a friend..and would it be wrong if I just ghost'ed her after this because in reality I do NOT have time for that kind of jazz nor want to be around any negativity i'm a positive dude and if people don't want to be helped then idk how else I can help!
I personally would never turn away someone who comes to me for help or just to vent...
But I would make it clear at the same time that I'm hear to be a friend and listen at the very least...
Not to serve as a punching bag or someone they can take their frustration out on...JstTheWayIam wrote: »andrewq6100 wrote: »So I was taking to this women who I thought everything was cool, we met a few times, but ever since I moved we have only been able to video chat and phone call. Well feelings were generating (i'm assuming) and everything was chill. She had always constantly told me about this one ex of 3 years that is her best friend that emotionally abuses her and etc but yet she still hangs out with him cause hes family and cause hes helped her out in the past and he "protects her" but yet shes depressed,in a rut, lost (or so she says)
She sends me screen shots of their chats and him bashing her, literally dehumanizing her, she calls me asking what to do, and I give her my opinion. Well apparently today she didn't like my opinion and she blew up saying that it's non of my business and that I should be more considerate and that how can she cut ties with someone who is family shes not "heartless" and that it doesn't matter that he does what he does cause shes "emotionally numb"
I'm kind of taken aback because A)I did not mean to stir a hornets nest or even want to get involved in their situation but she threw me in there anyways by always sending me their chats and telling me how depressed shes feeling, and I TRY to help I try to be a friend..and would it be wrong if I just ghost'ed her after this because in reality I do NOT have time for that kind of jazz nor want to be around any negativity i'm a positive dude and if people don't want to be helped then idk how else I can help!
I personally would never turn away someone who comes to me for help or just to vent...
But I would make it clear at the same time that I'm hear to be a friend and listen at the very least...
Not to serve as a punching bag or someone they can take their frustration out on...
I agree with this 100%
Very well said3 -
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Yes sorry I should have reference the question first , my bad lol1
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