Has anyone become attractive after losing weight? If so then tell me..

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  • jennybearlv
    jennybearlv Posts: 1,519 Member
    Look_Its_Kriss wrote: »
    nurseangelamomof5boys wrote: »
    EbonyDahlia wrote: »
    Sorry, but if you're ugly, you're ugly. Thin or fat. No diet will fix that.aaftbljz1dmg.jpg

    What the saying means is
    You can change being fat
    You can't change being ugly "ugly as ugly on the inside"
    There is no such thing as ugly . Beauty​ is subjective. Everyone is beautiful in there own way.
    You should be trying to make people feel good about themselves not hate who they are tsk tsk tsk!
    I'm sorry I opened this thread

    You and me both @nurseangelamomof5boys
    This thread has honestly caused so many mixed feelings inside of me since my response several pages back.
    Since i was 5 i have been over weight, never skinny but longed so badly to just not have to wake up and be picked on, beaten up physically or abused. For so many years i wished to be pretty. I wanted to be a human. I wanted to not just be that fat ugly girl who should go kill herself because she is a waste of life. Every day of my life i was told how disgusting i was.. and in my journey to get healthier and remove diabetes i started some self healing.. i had started telling myself that people back then were just mean to be mean cause we were too young to be thoughtful human beings. But as i read through this thread and read some of the comments about how larger people ARE more unattractive then people with a healthy weight.. all the people supporting this idea.. it really just validated something for me. That the abuse i received for being fat was actually because i was unattractive, they were not just being mean for the sake of mean, it was truth. I almost feel like this gives them the okay for how they treated me since it's okay to judge others by their shell. Since my 117 pound weight loss nothing besides the verbal abuse has changed. Maybe my corner of the world is different then everyone elses but i do not get any attention for my new smaller shell now. My only conclusion was that i fixed the fat but i am still ugly, you can't fix that. I have basically spent the few days since then mentally finding a way to come to terms with it. It seems this world is not meant for people who are great on the inside, we must have a fit, attractive outside in order to be worthy, it makes me sad.

    Getting bullied and told you are fat, ugly, and worthless happens to girls of all sizes. I was a gymnast, so absolutely no way was I ever fat as a child, but for whatever reason was not likable, so I got called fat as an insult to make me feel insecure about myself, even if it wasn't true. I believed these cruel children and spent my life through my twenties thinking I was fat and ugly. I don't know what changed, maybe it was actually becoming obese for the first time or getting therapy and medication for my mental health problems, but I realized how ridiculous my thinking had been and changed it. When my husband, my mom, or a friend compliments me I take their word for it now and when someone says something hurtful I usually believe it has more to do with them than me. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the only eyes that matter are your own.
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  • shakenbake57
    shakenbake57 Posts: 303 Member
    jennybearlv wrote: »
    Look_Its_Kriss wrote: »
    nurseangelamomof5boys wrote: »
    EbonyDahlia wrote: »
    Sorry, but if you're ugly, you're ugly. Thin or fat. No diet will fix that.aaftbljz1dmg.jpg

    What the saying means is
    You can change being fat
    You can't change being ugly "ugly as ugly on the inside"
    There is no such thing as ugly . Beauty​ is subjective. Everyone is beautiful in there own way.
    You should be trying to make people feel good about themselves not hate who they are tsk tsk tsk!
    I'm sorry I opened this thread

    You and me both @nurseangelamomof5boys
    ..... when someone says something hurtful I usually believe it has more to do with them than me. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the only eyes that matter are your own.

    This is so true! One of the most important things I've learned in life is that I can never know what is another's head. Their behaviors/values are based on their beliefs/experiences. Some people just seem to have stinkin' thinkin'. Perhaps had their own horrible experiences, leading them to think behaving badly is OK and normal. i.e. ok to hurt others.
  • goalpeace
    goalpeace Posts: 272 Member
    I was attractive to my husband when we met and I was at my highest. I worked really hard and got to my lowest for the wedding. I've since gained most back. I am back at it for a couple weeks and I was working out the other day and mentioned my stomach and he said he likes it that way. My husband likes women who have meat on them. He has a type.

    With that said, I have always had men attracted to me (women too :smile: ) at all sizes.
  • PrincessMel72
    PrincessMel72 Posts: 1,094 Member
    goalpeace wrote: »
    I was attractive to my husband when we met and I was at my highest. I worked really hard and got to my lowest for the wedding. I've since gained most back. I am back at it for a couple weeks and I was working out the other day and mentioned my stomach and he said he likes it that way. My husband likes women who have meat on them. He has a type.

    With that said, I have always had men attracted to me (women too :smile: ) at all sizes.

    I could've written this! This is SO me!
  • cfritchley26
    cfritchley26 Posts: 47 Member
    edited March 2017
    Attraction has very little to do with weight...there are so many other things that go into it...personality, finding someone mentally stimulating, confidence, and so much more. My husband and I have been together through a lot of different weight fluctuation...I have found him incredibly attractive at every stage, and he has also found me attractive at every stage. I find my husband very handsome and incredibly physically attractive, but I also find his personality and he heart attractive...and that fact that he is my very best friend also contributes to that.

    There is no clear cut answer...but being attractive should not be the only thing that motivates you. Don't get me wrong, I want to feel good about myself physically...there are just so many other things that are motivating me to lose the weight.
  • Silkysausage
    Silkysausage Posts: 502 Member
    Err..what! Basing people on looks is never a good thing, very shallow indeed. I hate the phrase 'even though they're fat they still have a pretty face', how insulting
  • angeldaae
    angeldaae Posts: 348 Member
    I have been heavy and I have been slim(ish), and I can tell you that "attractiveness" isn't suddenly created when you lose weight. On my own face, though, I did discover that losing weight helped my attractive features become more noticeable/visible. I have great eyes, but they become a little hidden when my face gains weight. When I lose weight, they stand out more. Same with my cheekbones and jaw line.
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