People judge - that's just "reality" - BULL****!

You have to figure out what works best for your body type and metabolism, for your stage in life, and go from there. That, to me, is the biggest battle in the weight loss game....figuring out what your body does best and how to work with it.

It's that simple!!!! Finding out how your body responds to what you do is key. Some people take longer than others to figure it out and some never do. Everybody is different

there's a quote that goes somewhere along these lines "All your problems have one thing in common.... YOU" **shrugs**

but i guess that's not reality either

Im fat and I take responsibility for what I put into my body. Science didnt do me in, stuffing my face did.

<---- was fat.........then did something about it.

this is priceless. I made excuses for a long time, then I "did something about it" Its beauty is its simplicity!

I got fat because I was much less active and still ate the same. I ate foods that I liked...ice cream, aged cheddar cheese, french fries...with no thought to how it would affect me. I ate next to nothing for a few years and still didn't lose, because eventually, hunger won (and I overate and retained as fat all the extra calories).

I take full responsibility for my weight issue. I was athletic and active and slim for years....and because I slowed down and didn't pay attention, I gained weight. So, I started paying attention to what I'm eating and being active and lo and behold...I am losing weight. I could blame lots of things...working two jobs, change in hobbies, insulin issues (pre-diabetic), finances, but honestly...it's still my responsibility to take care of myself and my health.

Thank you Stormie =D.

I can understand the reason for the post, but I don't agree how personal you're taking the comments.

The thing with western culture is that no one wants to take responsibility for their own actions, and books and people who tell you 'it's not your fault, it's this hormone, that organ, this drug, etc. etc.' It's the same as an alcoholic blaming their parents' divorce thirty years ago or someone who is addicted to a debilitating drug blaming other people for their problem and their choices.

I think the books have misled you, but that's just my opinion.

And, honestly, there is nothing you can do about people judging you. Everyone judges, and obesity is, unfortunately, something that is kindof easy to spot. Everyone gets judged, though. Women are judged automatically while driving, and there are plenty of people who judge based on race and religion. It's human nature, and it's something that everyone has to live with in some form or another. It sucks, but if you don't like it, then change it. *shrug*

This post is spot on as well.

So, I am keenly aware of the fact that people judge me for being obese. I have a thick skin for this judging at this point. However, where the bull**** factor comes in is when someone tells me "that's just reality". Oh really? So it is "reality" for people to be hateful, stupid, and just plain misinformed?

Yes.

And this is the simple truth regarding the judgement issues. It is reality...get over it, or keep your head in the sand like an ostrich if you like, and be judged for that instead.

I was judged for losing my company in the middle of a recession that hit my industry the hardest. I was judged for losing my company in the middle of the largest emotional crisis my family had ever gone through. I was judged for working my *kitten* off trying to find a job and not being able to. I was judged for being absolutely miserable in my last relationship, but trying my hardest to maintain it and keep it moving forward, completely unsuccessfully. I was judged by her family and friends for all the lies she was telling about me constantly. I was judged for gaining 30lbs plus through that time, due to the depression, lack of self esteem (yeah...me...go figure), and flat lack of willpower to DO anything my reaction to that situation caused. I am currently judged (both positively and negatively) for being a single father, and keeping my kids from going through the abuse and emotional neglect that made their mother the way she is. I am judged for working 10hrs a day 5 days a week now that I finally found a solid job...because those children need me home more.

We are all judged. If you're judged for being fat, do something about it. Complaining at the way the world works won't do you an ounce of good.

And I'm sure you'll be judged for that too.

I got fat because I was much less active and still ate the same. I ate foods that I liked...ice cream, aged cheddar cheese, french fries...with no thought to how it would affect me. I ate next to nothing for a few years and still didn't lose, because eventually, hunger won (and I overate and retained as fat all the extra calories).

I take full responsibility for my weight issue. I was athletic and active and slim for years....and because I slowed down and didn't pay attention, I gained weight. So, I started paying attention to what I'm eating and being active and lo and behold...I am losing weight. I could blame lots of things...working two jobs, change in hobbies, insulin issues (pre-diabetic), finances, but honestly...it's still my responsibility to take care of myself and my health.

Why is it so important to some of you to see obesity as a moral failing rather than a physiological failing?

We know for a fact some people eat to satiety and do not become overweight. We even know that some people who are experimentally overfed automatically and unconsciously expend more energy in thermogenesis and activity.

Obese people (obviously don't). A person isn't morally superior because their body responds to excess energy a different way nor are they morally superior because when they reach a certain level of food intake they feel like they don't want to eat anymore. Yet plenty of people have bodies which respond to overfeeding appropriately, that is their appetite shuts off and their expenditure goes up, unconsciously and naturally.

And not just years, not just decades, not just centuries but literally millenia of telling fat people to pull themselves up by their bootstraps and just stop eating and start doing more has not worked for the vast majority of fat people. We are at a juncture in human history where we have the means to understand the biochemical mechanisms behind all of this and more and more we are learning about it, and it's by learning how we REALLY work that we're going to fix these problems.

But it seems like people are offended by that idea, they are offended by the idea that the fat ugly slobs they see around them, maybe the fat ugly slob they think they are or was, are that way for reasons beyond simply being bad people. And I just don't get it... maybe they need to hate the person they don't want to be in order to sustain the energy to force themselves to stay at a weight their body thinks (possibly wrongly) is way too small.

The problem I have is that - yes for a good sized chunk of the population you could be insulin sensitive, you could be in a growth phase, and you could have a hard time releasing fat to be used as energy because of your insulin levels. All physiological reasons for us to be obese.

But the rub lies in that, in my opinion, I got that way because I over ate. I caused my body to enter that state, and then I didn't do anything to help get me out of that state. It wasn't emotional, but it was inattention. I didn't care what I was eating. I ate what I wanted and when I wanted it, causing my body to enter a state that made it very difficult physiologically to do anything but grow.

So did I gain weight due to circumstances beyond my control, or did I gain weight because I ate too much to put myself there?

I chose to take responsibility for my actions and in actions, and I chose do something about it.

I got FAT because I sat on my *kitten* all day and ate junk food.

I wasn't predisposed to do that.

I was lazy and liked sugar.

No It's because the high sugar/ carb diet you were on made you produce more insulin. Because you ate like *kitten*, that has nothing to do with it. Your body made you do it. You were your own prisoner and the way your body acts to all the horrible crap you put into it is to blame. I would ask you if you want a cookie but, they're all gone....

I got FAT because I sat on my *kitten* all day and ate junk food.

I wasn't predisposed to do that.

I was lazy and liked sugar.

No It's because the high sugar/ carb diet you were on made you produce more insulin. Because you ate like *kitten*, that has nothing to do with it. Your body made you do it. You were your own prisoner and the way your body acts to all the horrible crap you put into it is to blame. I would ask you if you want a cookie but, they're all gone....

It was still my own CHOICE to shovel that greasy **** into my mouth.

The high sugar/carb diet that caused me to produce more insulin? Yeah, that was my OWN CHOICE.

My body didn't force me to eat those things.

I DID.


Edit: I wouldn't want a cookie. They taste like dirt. You can give them to the "victims" of obesity, I'm sure they'll appreciate them more.

I know I was being sarcastic.

This is the last post I will make here and in the forums in general. Fine, you don't agree with me. Fine, what works for me may not work for you and visa versa. But calling me everything but lazy is too far. You don't know me. You don't know my lifestyle. When I referred to my diet, I was talking about my diet as a child/teenager, not now! Regardless of what I say, you will take my criticisms as excuses. So, I'll go my way and you go yours.

You can't come into a topic as hotly debated as this one, with guns blazing...and not expect return fire.

I'm sorry you feel the need to leave over it...but you honestly did set yourself up for this.

/sigh...I wonder what's up with these forums lately? SO many threads attacking thin people, or attacking people period.

Ahh well...at least my MFP friends rock...so I'm all good.