What is more important to you, true love or good sex?
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My perspective has been changed since the woman I am madly in love with stopped being intimate 15 years ago (Jan 20, 2002 but whose counting). Yes, of course we have been in counseling. I very much miss the intimacy (daily, and I had to move into another room to limit frustration) but look forward to getting home from work every day so I can cook her a healthy meal and talk about life. I would have to say love trumps all.2
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Sex is temporary.
Love is for life.
sex improves with communication which improves with love.
Work to make the sex great and you get the best of both.1 -
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Ps you'd never cheat if it were real love.
You might think it was but you weren't able to make yourself exclusive for that person therefore you weren't in love with them.
You can love but not be in love. As most people are these days.2 -
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Bottom line love or no love great sex keeps you coming back with enthusiasm2
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Can't have one without the other.
Without love sex CAN be great, but not at the level it can be with true love.
True love will erode without great sex, the person on the short end of the stick will either end up getting some on the side or going through extraordinary lengths to suppress that part of themselves and that isn't pretty because they end up not knowing who they are.1 -
cabronlobos wrote: »
I disagree. If you're divorcing you may have loved the other, but were not in love. It's like I love my friends, but I'm not in love with them, I'd probably kill most of them if I were to mistakenly end up living with them.0 -
Kepplekakes wrote: »Seems to me that "true love" is based on the idea that humans are monogamous.
Would you say that 'True Love' can be experienced in a polygamous relationship?
I don't understand that, though admittedly I haven't ever cheated (not as an adult in a proper relationship).
Or are you saying you can have more than one true love at one time?0 -
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Oh the majority probably believe it. I just don't think they're right. I think they love them, they love their company and they think they're in love until someone better comes along.
If you truly love someone, there is no one better.0 -
Great sex can only take you so far, especially as you get older and your hormones are no longer signaling. True love allows you to still stand to be with that person you used have great sex with even after you get fat and dry and have no interest in having sex with a fat old man who can't see his weenie over his belly...1
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Great sex can only take you so far, especially as you get older and your hormones are no longer signaling. True love allows you to still stand to be with that person you used have great sex with even after you get fat and dry and have no interest in having sex with a fat old man who can't see his weenie over his belly...
Thanks that was depressing as all hell3 -
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Great sex.0
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Miracle Max: Sonny, true love is the greatest thing, in the world-except for a nice MLT – mutton, lettuce and tomato sandwich, where the mutton is nice and lean and the tomato is ripe. They’re so perky, I love that.1
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I agree which is why in my first response I questioned if "true love" really exists. I mean I'd DIE for my DD if that meant keeping her safe and alive. But that's a different kind of love. Would I do that for my wife? I hesitate to answer that.Kepplekakes wrote: »Kepplekakes wrote: »Seems to me that "true love" is based on the idea that humans are monogamous.
Would you say that 'True Love' can be experienced in a polygamous relationship?
I don't understand that, though admittedly I haven't ever cheated (not as an adult in a proper relationship).
Or are you saying you can have more than one true love at one time?
I'm saying that more than likely.. true love is not real and humans are not a monogamous species. There is no such thing as this exclusivity. And I am not talking polygamy. I simply mean that the notion that there is only one "true love" for each person is an illusion. Love is not a requirement for a very basic need such as sex.
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Being that there are over 4 billion people in the world and most people have had an average of 7 real relationships before marriage, how can one say they truly met the person they were supposed to be with?cabronlobos wrote: »Oh the majority probably believe it. I just don't think they're right. I think they love them, they love their company and they think they're in love until someone better comes along.
If you truly love someone, there is no one better.
Is it possible that true love is temporary? As people we change and evolve as we grow....maybe our true love will change as we change? Maybe true love is a myth? I don't think it's a slam dunk answer.
Lol, I watch a lot of ID network and you see so many real cases of people who kill their spouses for money, to get out of a relationship, etc after years and years of "happy" marriage assumed by friends and relatives.
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Kepplekakes wrote: »Kepplekakes wrote: »Seems to me that "true love" is based on the idea that humans are monogamous.
Would you say that 'True Love' can be experienced in a polygamous relationship?
I don't understand that, though admittedly I haven't ever cheated (not as an adult in a proper relationship).
Or are you saying you can have more than one true love at one time?
I'm saying that more than likely.. true love is not real and humans are not a monogamous species. There is no such thing as this exclusivity. And I am not talking polygamy. I simply mean that the notion that there is only one "true love" for each person is an illusion. Love is not a requirement for a very basic need such as sex.
Not a requirement for any old sex no.cabronlobos wrote: »Oh the majority probably believe it. I just don't think they're right. I think they love them, they love their company and they think they're in love until someone better comes along.
If you truly love someone, there is no one better.
Is it possible that true love is temporary? As people we change and evolve as we grow....maybe our true love will change as we change? Maybe true love is a myth? I don't think it's a slam dunk answer.
Agree, maybe it does change and evolve as we do. Or maybe some just don't see anyone else as a potential partner whilst in a relationship.
If you're screwing people behind their back, then you're not 'in love'.
Everybody is different, for me morally I believe you can only ever be 'in true love' with one person. Sure you can be 'in love' again with others if you break up or your partner dies etc, but don't ever believe love is a myth.
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Great sex can only take you so far, especially as you get older and your hormones are no longer signaling. True love allows you to still stand to be with that person you used have great sex with even after you get fat and dry and have no interest in having sex with a fat old man who can't see his weenie over his belly...
What?! The older you get the BETTER sex can be! Fewer inhibitions, no worries about pregnancy, much more likely to communicate freely and openly with your lover. It just gets better and better. Ask any 80 yr old man who is still sexually active.
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FitOldMomma wrote: »Great sex can only take you so far, especially as you get older and your hormones are no longer signaling. True love allows you to still stand to be with that person you used have great sex with even after you get fat and dry and have no interest in having sex with a fat old man who can't see his weenie over his belly...
What?! The older you get the BETTER sex can be! Fewer inhibitions, no worries about pregnancy, much more likely to communicate freely and openly with your lover. It just gets better and better. Ask any 80 yr old man who is still sexually active.
That menopause life. If I can still get it up at 80, I'll be happy. Hopefully I'll be in good shape at that age.2 -
carbkiller1971 wrote: »Great sex can only take you so far, especially as you get older and your hormones are no longer signaling. True love allows you to still stand to be with that person you used have great sex with even after you get fat and dry and have no interest in having sex with a fat old man who can't see his weenie over his belly...
Thanks that was depressing as all hell
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daddyfitt1 wrote: »FitOldMomma wrote: »Great sex can only take you so far, especially as you get older and your hormones are no longer signaling. True love allows you to still stand to be with that person you used have great sex with even after you get fat and dry and have no interest in having sex with a fat old man who can't see his weenie over his belly...
What?! The older you get the BETTER sex can be! Fewer inhibitions, no worries about pregnancy, much more likely to communicate freely and openly with your lover. It just gets better and better. Ask any 80 yr old man who is still sexually active.
That's why i like older ladies
Ehh older women are cool.....not all of them though. Some of them can be more annoying and immature even compared to women in their 20s. Most are easier to talk to and don't play games I give them that. But if it came down to a serious relationship, younger all the way. Unless the woman is only several years older than me, I would never seriously date a older woman.2 -
I like older women, less drama5
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DasItMan91 wrote: »daddyfitt1 wrote: »FitOldMomma wrote: »Great sex can only take you so far, especially as you get older and your hormones are no longer signaling. True love allows you to still stand to be with that person you used have great sex with even after you get fat and dry and have no interest in having sex with a fat old man who can't see his weenie over his belly...
What?! The older you get the BETTER sex can be! Fewer inhibitions, no worries about pregnancy, much more likely to communicate freely and openly with your lover. It just gets better and better. Ask any 80 yr old man who is still sexually active.
That's why i like older ladies
Ehh older women are cool.....not all of them though. Some of them can be more annoying and immature even compared to women in their 20s. Most are easier to talk to and don't play games I give them that. But if it came down to a serious relationship, younger all the way. Unless the woman is only several years older than me, I would never seriously date a older woman.
I like 'em young .... how you doin'? 1 -
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Kepplekakes wrote: »
And I am sorry I will never believe that great sex only happens when you are in love or young. I'm with @FitOldMomma; Sex has only gotten better for me the older I get.
I agree 100% it's not age exclusive. I also agree you can have great sex outside of being in love and I in no way feel they are immediately tied. But it has seemed to improve throughout relationships.
p.s Who is this Dazzler216?0
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