I hate when people scrutize my food
gabriellejayde
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I can't eat much at once.
Today in work we had a lunch meeting. On the way there, someone said they were hungry and I said me too. I had a little container of 2oz of tuna that I picked at. Someone in the meeting kept saying, "that's it? That's all you're eating? You want half my sandwich? Do you want to run and go get something?"
I kept saying I was fine... I just wanted a little tuna. My other coworker finally stepped in and put a stop to it.
I left there so annoyed.
Today in work we had a lunch meeting. On the way there, someone said they were hungry and I said me too. I had a little container of 2oz of tuna that I picked at. Someone in the meeting kept saying, "that's it? That's all you're eating? You want half my sandwich? Do you want to run and go get something?"
I kept saying I was fine... I just wanted a little tuna. My other coworker finally stepped in and put a stop to it.
I left there so annoyed.
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gabriellejayde wrote: »I can't eat much at once.
Today in work we had a lunch meeting. On the way there, someone said they were hungry and I said me too. I had a little container of 2oz of tuna that I picked at. Someone in the meeting kept saying, "that's it? That's all you're eating? You want half my sandwich? Do you want to run and go get something?"
I kept saying I was fine... I just wanted a little tuna. My other coworker finally stepped in and put a stop to it.
I left there so annoyed.
2oz of tuna is not even enough for a baby though. Maybe they were concerned you couldn't afford more and felt bad. And if your diary is right youre eating 500-700 calories per day?... Do you have a medical reason you eat less? Gastric bypass? Something? Because if not, that would qualify as an eating disorder. And if you have pain of some sort when you eat more than a tiny amount, you should see a dr. You can really harm your body eating that low long term.39 -
Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »I can't eat much at once.
Today in work we had a lunch meeting. On the way there, someone said they were hungry and I said me too. I had a little container of 2oz of tuna that I picked at. Someone in the meeting kept saying, "that's it? That's all you're eating? You want half my sandwich? Do you want to run and go get something?"
I kept saying I was fine... I just wanted a little tuna. My other coworker finally stepped in and put a stop to it.
I left there so annoyed.
2oz of tuna is not even enough for a baby though. Maybe they were concerned you couldn't afford more and felt bad. And if your diary is right youre eating 500-700 calories per day?... Do you have a medical reason you eat less? Because if not, that would qualify as an eating disorder. And if you have pain of some sort you should see a dr. You can really harm your body eating that low long term.
I have a medical reason and I don't have an eating disorder.
Frankly though, what I eat was none of this woman's business.6 -
gabriellejayde wrote: »Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »I can't eat much at once.
Today in work we had a lunch meeting. On the way there, someone said they were hungry and I said me too. I had a little container of 2oz of tuna that I picked at. Someone in the meeting kept saying, "that's it? That's all you're eating? You want half my sandwich? Do you want to run and go get something?"
I kept saying I was fine... I just wanted a little tuna. My other coworker finally stepped in and put a stop to it.
I left there so annoyed.
2oz of tuna is not even enough for a baby though. Maybe they were concerned you couldn't afford more and felt bad. And if your diary is right youre eating 500-700 calories per day?... Do you have a medical reason you eat less? Because if not, that would qualify as an eating disorder. And if you have pain of some sort you should see a dr. You can really harm your body eating that low long term.
I have a medical reason and I don't have an eating disorder.
Frankly though, what I eat was none of this woman's business.
I might offer because you never know if someone is struggling or starving and has no money to feed themselves. 2oz of tuna is literally nothing substantial. 4-6oz on bread with a fruit would be a "normal" meal... I understand if there are medical reasons, but if I saw that I might worry too. And if it was someone younger like a teen I might think eating disorder and find the need to step in because honestly certain things are our business. If I see someone hurting themselves with a razor I try to help and if they won't let me I call the police and eating disorders are self-harm in their own way so I would definitely be concerned. I'd rather be "rude" and at least try because I care and I've been there. (I had an ED myself and still struggle on occasion.)41 -
Severely restricting your calories is unnecessary and can prove counter productive. I messed up my metabolism by severely restricting my calories and the weight hasn't come off as easy as it was in the beginning. I've been eating at maintenance for the last couple of months and it has improved my metabolism. I don't plan on that kind of restriction again.11
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Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »I can't eat much at once.
Today in work we had a lunch meeting. On the way there, someone said they were hungry and I said me too. I had a little container of 2oz of tuna that I picked at. Someone in the meeting kept saying, "that's it? That's all you're eating? You want half my sandwich? Do you want to run and go get something?"
I kept saying I was fine... I just wanted a little tuna. My other coworker finally stepped in and put a stop to it.
I left there so annoyed.
2oz of tuna is not even enough for a baby though. Maybe they were concerned you couldn't afford more and felt bad. And if your diary is right youre eating 500-700 calories per day?... Do you have a medical reason you eat less? Because if not, that would qualify as an eating disorder. And if you have pain of some sort you should see a dr. You can really harm your body eating that low long term.
I have a medical reason and I don't have an eating disorder.
Frankly though, what I eat was none of this woman's business.
I might offer because you never know if someone is struggling or starving and has no money to feed themselves. 2oz of tuna is literally nothing substantial. 4-6oz on bread with a fruit would be a "normal" meal... I understand if there are medical reasons, but if I saw that I might worry too. And if it was someone younger like a teen I might think eating disorder and find the need to step in because honestly certain things are our business. If I see someone hurting themselves with a razor I try to help and if they won't let me I call the police and eating disorders are self-harm in their own way so I would definitely be concerned. I'd rather be "rude" and at least try because I care and I've been there. (I had an ED myself and still struggle on occasion.)
No, I understand that... but a...i work at a company that pays well and it was a room of executives. Nobody was concerned that I couldn't afford more. And I weigh over 200lbs.
But even if she was worried...she wouldn't stop calling attention to my lunch in front of everyone.
That's just rude.10 -
gabriellejayde wrote: »Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »I can't eat much at once.
Today in work we had a lunch meeting. On the way there, someone said they were hungry and I said me too. I had a little container of 2oz of tuna that I picked at. Someone in the meeting kept saying, "that's it? That's all you're eating? You want half my sandwich? Do you want to run and go get something?"
I kept saying I was fine... I just wanted a little tuna. My other coworker finally stepped in and put a stop to it.
I left there so annoyed.
2oz of tuna is not even enough for a baby though. Maybe they were concerned you couldn't afford more and felt bad. And if your diary is right youre eating 500-700 calories per day?... Do you have a medical reason you eat less? Because if not, that would qualify as an eating disorder. And if you have pain of some sort you should see a dr. You can really harm your body eating that low long term.
I have a medical reason and I don't have an eating disorder.
Frankly though, what I eat was none of this woman's business.
I might offer because you never know if someone is struggling or starving and has no money to feed themselves. 2oz of tuna is literally nothing substantial. 4-6oz on bread with a fruit would be a "normal" meal... I understand if there are medical reasons, but if I saw that I might worry too. And if it was someone younger like a teen I might think eating disorder and find the need to step in because honestly certain things are our business. If I see someone hurting themselves with a razor I try to help and if they won't let me I call the police and eating disorders are self-harm in their own way so I would definitely be concerned. I'd rather be "rude" and at least try because I care and I've been there. (I had an ED myself and still struggle on occasion.)
No, I understand that... but a...i work at a company that pays well and it was a room of executives. Nobody was concerned that I couldn't afford more. And I weigh over 200lbs.
But even if she was worried...she wouldn't stop calling attention to my lunch in front of everyone.
That's just rude.
Well, true - I might pull someone to the side not out them in front of a room full of people if I needed to ask did you forget your wallet or do you have something causing you to not eat, etc. I wouldn't do that loudly in front of people if I was truly concerned. Weight really isn't important though. Even if 300lbs it's dangerous to eat low. But working somewhere that pays well I guess would make sense that they should know you have the $ as well. It's a tough one... I can see both sides.19 -
amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.10 -
gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
You could have given her half your tuna for half her lettuce.59 -
gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
How big was the bowl? lol. Unless it was HUGE I'd probably had said something to her too...like why just lettuce? and how? I'd be so bored. Bland. bleh. lol4 -
Tiny_Dancer_in_Pink wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
You could have given her half your tuna for half her lettuce.
Lol. That was pretty funny. Although 1oz of tuna might be kind of pointless lol5 -
Verity1111 wrote: »Tiny_Dancer_in_Pink wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
You could have given her half your tuna for half her lettuce.
Lol. That was pretty funny. Although 1oz of tuna might be kind of pointless lol
That was the point! Both people eyeing each other's food! If I were a fly on the wall!4 -
amyrebeccah wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
Did she talk about being hungry right before that? You appear to have taken this extremely personally. As I said, it sounds like she should have let it go, but you seem really defensive about this. And what does your weight have to do with it?
I didn't take anything personally at all. That's an odd thing to surmise. I mentioned my weight because I'm clearly not anorexic.
Whether it's a small amount of food or a huge amount, it was rude to bring up and NOT drop. This wasn't a friend of mine.1 -
Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
How big was the bowl? lol. Unless it was HUGE I'd probably had said something to her too...like why just lettuce? and how? I'd be so bored. Bland. bleh. lol
Why would you comment about someone's "salad"?
You'd say, "bleh" ? You sound great. Lol6 -
gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
Did she talk about being hungry right before that? You appear to have taken this extremely personally. As I said, it sounds like she should have let it go, but you seem really defensive about this. And what does your weight have to do with it?
I didn't take anything personally at all. That's an odd thing to surmise. I mentioned my weight because I'm clearly not anorexic.
Whether it's a small amount of food or a huge amount, it was rude to bring up and NOT drop. This wasn't a friend of mine.
Size is irrelevant to eating disorders. That's also irrelevant to this thread. I highly recommend the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a *kitten*." Seriously, it's life changing. Rude or not, a comment about your lunch shouldn't have this much power over you.35 -
Oh wow! I never knew that MFP replaced the F word with *kitten*! I really thought there were just a lot of "oh shucks, golly gee" cutesy posters on here.44
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Your commenting on her salad is the same thing as their commenting on your tuna.36
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gabriellejayde wrote: »Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
How big was the bowl? lol. Unless it was HUGE I'd probably had said something to her too...like why just lettuce? and how? I'd be so bored. Bland. bleh. lol
Why would you comment about someone's "salad"?
You'd say, "bleh" ? You sound great. Lol
Lettuce isn't a salad.....its just lettuce. And, you just commented on the "young, thin" assistant.22 -
Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
How big was the bowl? lol. Unless it was HUGE I'd probably had said something to her too...like why just lettuce? and how? I'd be so bored. Bland. bleh. lol
I eat lettuce with hot sauce. Would you really say something to me?9 -
gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
Did she talk about being hungry right before that? You appear to have taken this extremely personally. As I said, it sounds like she should have let it go, but you seem really defensive about this. And what does your weight have to do with it?
I didn't take anything personally at all. That's an odd thing to surmise. I mentioned my weight because I'm clearly not anorexic.
Whether it's a small amount of food or a huge amount, it was rude to bring up and NOT drop. This wasn't a friend of mine.
Size is irrelevant to eating disorders. That's also irrelevant to this thread. I highly recommend the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a *kitten*." Seriously, it's life changing. Rude or not, a comment about your lunch shouldn't have this much power over you.
This much power? Lol yes, because it's really effected me.
Not.
I found it annoying, amd rude, but it hasn't had an ounce of power over me, effected my mood or made a bit of difference to my life.
You sound a little judgy though, to be honest. I could be wrong. But I also don't really care. Lol1 -
Tiny_Dancer_in_Pink wrote: »Your commenting on her salad is the same thing as their commenting on your tuna.
It would be, if I had commented to her about her salad. Which I wouldn't do because it's none of my business.
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Oh wow! I never knew that MFP replaced the F word with *kitten*! I really thought there were just a lot of "oh shucks, golly gee" cutesy posters on here.
Gee golly, wouldn't want to offend anyone who might give a toot about my ding dang dottily doodling.
That's how you curse here I think29 -
Oh wow! I never knew that MFP replaced the F word with *kitten*! I really thought there were just a lot of "oh shucks, golly gee" cutesy posters on here.
Gee golly, wouldn't want to offend anyone who might give a toot about my ding dang dottily doodling.
That's how you curse here I think
LOL! I have definitely misread a lot of people's tone on here but it's also made this community a lot sweeter for me. 6 -
I'm more shocked you ate tuna in a work meeting and no one commented on that. Such a work place etiquette no no usually. No stinky foods in meetings. But saying you're hungry and then eating a couple small bites of food would make me question you too. Not to be rude but just general concern because you said you were hungry!34
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gabriellejayde wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
Did she talk about being hungry right before that? You appear to have taken this extremely personally. As I said, it sounds like she should have let it go, but you seem really defensive about this. And what does your weight have to do with it?
I didn't take anything personally at all. That's an odd thing to surmise. I mentioned my weight because I'm clearly not anorexic.
Whether it's a small amount of food or a huge amount, it was rude to bring up and NOT drop. This wasn't a friend of mine.
Size is irrelevant to eating disorders. That's also irrelevant to this thread. I highly recommend the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a *kitten*." Seriously, it's life changing. Rude or not, a comment about your lunch shouldn't have this much power over you.
This much power? Lol yes, because it's really effected me.
Not.
I found it annoying, amd rude, but it hasn't had an ounce of power over me, effected my mood or made a bit of difference to my life.
You sound a little judgy though, to be honest. I could be wrong. But I also don't really care. Lol
And yet... you were bothered enough by it to start a thread here. So clearly it has affected you.
What does a normal day's eating look like, beyond the small can of tuna?34 -
i don't understand why a co worker i.e; stranger would think they could make headway with someone who they think is under eating ..starving.. broke.. or suspect has an eating disorder. Especially in a group setting.
I get why you were annoyed.
Now, if someone in your family or a close friend brings it up.. they have the right to ask questions and be concerned.
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gabriellejayde wrote: »I can't eat much at once.
Today in work we had a lunch meeting. On the way there, someone said they were hungry and I said me too. I had a little container of 2oz of tuna that I picked at. Someone in the meeting kept saying, "that's it? That's all you're eating? You want half my sandwich? Do you want to run and go get something?"
I kept saying I was fine... I just wanted a little tuna. My other coworker finally stepped in and put a stop to it.
I left there so annoyed.
You picked at "2 oz tuna" after you said you were hungry? Gee I wonder why they thought that was weird.gabriellejayde wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
Did she talk about being hungry right before that? You appear to have taken this extremely personally. As I said, it sounds like she should have let it go, but you seem really defensive about this. And what does your weight have to do with it?
I didn't take anything personally at all. That's an odd thing to surmise. I mentioned my weight because I'm clearly not anorexic.
Whether it's a small amount of food or a huge amount, it was rude to bring up and NOT drop. This wasn't a friend of mine.
Size is irrelevant to eating disorders. That's also irrelevant to this thread. I highly recommend the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a *kitten*." Seriously, it's life changing. Rude or not, a comment about your lunch shouldn't have this much power over you.
This much power? Lol yes, because it's really effected me.
Not.
I found it annoying, amd rude, but it hasn't had an ounce of power over me, effected my mood or made a bit of difference to my life.
You sound a little judgy though, to be honest. I could be wrong. But I also don't really care. Lol
Dunno, it sounds like it triggered you enough to make a post about it online.Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
How big was the bowl? lol. Unless it was HUGE I'd probably had said something to her too...like why just lettuce? and how? I'd be so bored. Bland. bleh. lol
I eat lettuce with hot sauce. Would you really say something to me?
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Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
How big was the bowl? lol. Unless it was HUGE I'd probably had said something to her too...like why just lettuce? and how? I'd be so bored. Bland. bleh. lol
I eat lettuce with hot sauce. Would you really say something to me?
I'd say "lady, pass me that hot sauce, I'm clean out".
Otherwise, unless I'm complimenting someone on a tasty lunch I keep my work-nose out of other's bowls.9 -
It would be quite impolite to comment anyone's lunch. I might be silently judging you though.16
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gebeziseva wrote: »It would be quite impolite to comment anyone's lunch. I might be silently judging you though.
Oh, I silent judge the bejezzus out of people.20 -
well this didnt go how i expected.... and then i remembered its MFP, so actually it did!
top work peeps, carry on...
and i am totally judging the tuna AND the lettuce.... :laugh:15
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