I hate when people scrutize my food
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You said you were hungry and then "picked" at 2 oz of tuna. Doesn't sound odd at all.....5
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moonstroller wrote: »Just because someone states he or she is hungry doesn't mean that person intends to eat a double cheeseburger, large order of fries, and a giant milkshake. Being hungry doesn't imply requiring the consumption of a full on meal. I can be hungry, eat an apple, and then I'm good. For the OP a small can of tuna was enough to satisfy her hunger. What she eats, and how much she eats, is entirely her business.
Didn't say it wasn't, but if we were going to a lunch meeting and someone made a big thing about being hungry and didn't seem to have a lunch (especially if they were picking at a small amount of food) I'd think it was nice to ask if they didn't get a chance to get their lunch. Assuming doing that is bad and rude seems wrong (and unfair to the person not here) to me.5 -
She should have said she was hungry then scarfed down a pizza ... everyone would have been happy4
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I understand why say you're hungry and then eating 2 oz of tuna sounding odd. Totally.
From what I'm gathering. Someone said they were hungry and she just said me too. She didn't go out of her way to let everyone know she was hungry.
That's what I'm reading but I may be wrong.4 -
DJ_Skywalker wrote: »She should have said she was hungry then scarfed down a pizza ... everyone would have been happy
Only if she ordered enough for everyone!1 -
lemurcat12 wrote: »I tend to take these kinds of threads with a grain of salt, like the "my spouse is horrible" ones. We only have one side of the story and it's not uncommon to have someone build up a single comment or two (like "is that all you have for lunch? Do you want to run get something? Or here, have some of my sandwich") with some kind of extreme harassing. We'd probably get a different story from the co-worker (or maybe not, some people are just weird).
I actually find that kind of thing annoying too (I would never want any of someone else's sandwich--I went to a Bears game with someone once not intending to eat or to buy something if I wanted it and my friend kept trying to push her healthy extra sandwich on me), but I see it as understandable and well-intentioned, and if I told someone else I was really hungry and then proceeded to not eat or eat very little I would not be surprised or bothered at a comment.
My mother is a food pusher. If I told her I was hungry and only ate two oz of tuna, she WOULD NOT REST until I ate more.
(I do realize mothers and friends are different from coworkers.)3 -
I guess there aren't different levels of hungry?
To me saying you're hungry means...you would like something to eat. It does not necessarily mean you want to eat a huge meal, it simply means...you want something to eat.
I work in an office with 3 other women. It is not uncommon to mention being hungry for something...and then eating a handful of crackers, or a cheese stick. 2oz of tuna is right in that category.
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So I had 2 oz of tuna for lunch today...with another 350 calories of other stuff to round it out.4
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She makes it weird by saying "picked at" 2 oz of tuna like it is some enormous task. She said it's medical. And that's fine. But she herself made it sound bizarre and didn't like the reaction.8
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kshama2001 wrote: »So I had 2 oz of tuna for lunch today...with another 350 calories of other stuff to round it out.
Hope it was a plate of bacon3 -
kshama2001 wrote: »lemurcat12 wrote: »I tend to take these kinds of threads with a grain of salt, like the "my spouse is horrible" ones. We only have one side of the story and it's not uncommon to have someone build up a single comment or two (like "is that all you have for lunch? Do you want to run get something? Or here, have some of my sandwich") with some kind of extreme harassing. We'd probably get a different story from the co-worker (or maybe not, some people are just weird).
I actually find that kind of thing annoying too (I would never want any of someone else's sandwich--I went to a Bears game with someone once not intending to eat or to buy something if I wanted it and my friend kept trying to push her healthy extra sandwich on me), but I see it as understandable and well-intentioned, and if I told someone else I was really hungry and then proceeded to not eat or eat very little I would not be surprised or bothered at a comment.
My mother is a food pusher. If I told her I was hungry and only ate two oz of tuna, she WOULD NOT REST until I ate more.
(I do realize mothers and friends are different from coworkers.)
For sure. I'm with your mom. I have 4 kids. 3 of which are teenagers, I'm the same way.2 -
DJ_Skywalker wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »So I had 2 oz of tuna for lunch today...with another 350 calories of other stuff to round it out.
Hope it was a plate of bacon
Bacon? Why did we bring bacon into the thread? Now I want bacon. Nothing better than bacon than some extra bacon.
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Steph38878 wrote: »DJ_Skywalker wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »So I had 2 oz of tuna for lunch today...with another 350 calories of other stuff to round it out.
Hope it was a plate of bacon
Bacon? Why did we bring bacon into the thread? Now I want bacon. Nothing better than bacon than some extra bacon.
That extra bacon needs bacon2 -
She makes it weird by saying "picked at" 2 oz of tuna like it is some enormous task. She said it's medical. And that's fine. But she herself made it sound bizarre and didn't like the reaction.
Right -- making a big thing about eating a little bit of food draws attention to it, and that's what I'm imagining.
Also, if I knew I wasn't really eating lunch during a lunch meeting I'd preempt it by saying "oh, lucky for me I had a big breakfast" or "I hate eating at these things, would rather eat at my desk later," not "oh, yeah, I'm hungry!"
But nothing wrong with what OP did, I just don't think we can draw conclusions about the co-worker without hearing her side of the story (and there are enough clues in even OP's account that make me think it might have been well-intentioned and not so weird in actuality).7 -
kshama2001 wrote: »So I had 2 oz of tuna for lunch today...with another 350 calories of other stuff to round it out.
So I am eating mine, and it includes liver, along with other things. When I went to the kitchen to get it a co-worker asked what I was having and I told him fully expecting (and not minding) that I would be told that this was weird (or "ick," which is what I got). If I had wanted to avoid that I would have said "leftover chicken," which is also part of it. (Co-worker also asked about the spaghetti squash, wanted to know if it tasted like spaghetti, and I said "not really." None of these seems weird or inappropriate to me, people are nosy.)1 -
I am SO hungry now ... off to a meeting ... One Love3 -
My best friend makes comments all the time about my nasty, weird food. But she's my best friend. I just throw a worse insult back. *true friend
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DJ_Skywalker wrote: »I can't assume whether someone is eating 500-3000 calories a day just by 2 oz of tuna or a leaf of lettuce. Who knows what they had for breakfast or will have at home. We are so busy at work, so many of us hardly have time to eat during the day apart from snacking here and there.
Yeah but again... OP said she was hungry! Then she ate almost nothing.
Context, people.
I had a woman argue with me in a cafe after i ate half a slice of toast and a bit of scrambled egg in a cafe
She kept on about ordering stuff and not eating. I told her repeatedly i had been hungry when i ordered but was now full. I explained i had a gastric bypass etc
In the end i had to explain how sometimes foods stick and restriction means i cannot eat more
Her throw away comment was next time order a kids meal ( her colleague refused that as im over 12 years old)
All this was said with everyone listening.
Even with context its still not ok to badger another person about thier choices6 -
ruqayyahsmum wrote: »DJ_Skywalker wrote: »I can't assume whether someone is eating 500-3000 calories a day just by 2 oz of tuna or a leaf of lettuce. Who knows what they had for breakfast or will have at home. We are so busy at work, so many of us hardly have time to eat during the day apart from snacking here and there.
Yeah but again... OP said she was hungry! Then she ate almost nothing.
Context, people.
I had a woman argue with me in a cafe after i ate half a slice of toast and a bit of scrambled egg in a cafe
She kept on about ordering stuff and not eating. I told her repeatedly i had been hungry when i ordered but was now full. I explained i had a gastric bypass etc
In the end i had to explain how sometimes foods stick and restriction means i cannot eat more
Her throw away comment was next time order a kids meal ( her colleague refused that as im over 12 years old)
All this was said with everyone listening.
Even with context its still not ok to badger another person about thier choices
I'm just about certain, I would have calmly, politely told her to mind her *%!# business. That was uncalled for.4 -
DJ_Skywalker wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »So I had 2 oz of tuna for lunch today...with another 350 calories of other stuff to round it out.
Hope it was a plate of bacon
Actually, it was a kale salad
A local supermarket had a sale on everything bacon last week and I bought bacon-cheddar burgers, bacon wrapped chicken thighs, bacon wrapped tuna, and bacon cheddar ravioli. It's all gone except the remnants of the ravioli, which we are polishing off tonight.
The bacon wrapped chicken thighs didn't grill very well - I think he started on too high a heat.4 -
gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
Did she talk about being hungry right before that? You appear to have taken this extremely personally. As I said, it sounds like she should have let it go, but you seem really defensive about this. And what does your weight have to do with it?
I didn't take anything personally at all. That's an odd thing to surmise. I mentioned my weight because I'm clearly not anorexic.
Whether it's a small amount of food or a huge amount, it was rude to bring up and NOT drop. This wasn't a friend of mine.
I am overweight and BMI is obese and I have bulimia (binging then excessive exercise or fasting) and even if I'm at this moment recovered if I went back to it I would have an eating disorder and be overweight and need treatment or help from family. So yeah your weight doesn't matter. Anorexia isn't the only eating disorder. Eating a few hundred calories a day with no medical reason even if you are 300lbs is an eating disorder - period.5 -
Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
How big was the bowl? lol. Unless it was HUGE I'd probably had said something to her too...like why just lettuce? and how? I'd be so bored. Bland. bleh. lol
I eat lettuce with hot sauce. Would you really say something to me?
With hot sauce it is not just lettuce. Hot sauce itself is a meal... It's like a delicious spicy soup. lol. Well, not really, but it is amazing.2 -
DJ_Skywalker wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »So I had 2 oz of tuna for lunch today...with another 350 calories of other stuff to round it out.
Hope it was a plate of bacon
Tuna with bacon?
Ill take the bacon hold the tuna please1 -
Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
Did she talk about being hungry right before that? You appear to have taken this extremely personally. As I said, it sounds like she should have let it go, but you seem really defensive about this. And what does your weight have to do with it?
I didn't take anything personally at all. That's an odd thing to surmise. I mentioned my weight because I'm clearly not anorexic.
Whether it's a small amount of food or a huge amount, it was rude to bring up and NOT drop. This wasn't a friend of mine.
I am overweight and BMI is obese and I have bulimia (binging then excessive exercise or fasting) and even if I'm at this moment recovered if I went back to it I would have an eating disorder and be overweight and need treatment or help from family. So yeah your weight doesn't matter. Anorexia isn't the only eating disorder. Eating a few hundred calories a day with no medical reason even if you are 300lbs is an eating disorder - period.
She has already stated multiple times she is under medical care due to surgery of her esophagus.
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ruqayyahsmum wrote: »DJ_Skywalker wrote: »I can't assume whether someone is eating 500-3000 calories a day just by 2 oz of tuna or a leaf of lettuce. Who knows what they had for breakfast or will have at home. We are so busy at work, so many of us hardly have time to eat during the day apart from snacking here and there.
Yeah but again... OP said she was hungry! Then she ate almost nothing.
Context, people.
I had a woman argue with me in a cafe after i ate half a slice of toast and a bit of scrambled egg in a cafe
She kept on about ordering stuff and not eating. I told her repeatedly i had been hungry when i ordered but was now full. I explained i had a gastric bypass etc
In the end i had to explain how sometimes foods stick and restriction means i cannot eat more
Her throw away comment was next time order a kids meal ( her colleague refused that as im over 12 years old)
All this was said with everyone listening.
Even with context its still not ok to badger another person about thier choices
I remain skeptical that badgering actually occurred vs. someone being nice and asking if she wanted to get food.6 -
ruqayyahsmum wrote: »DJ_Skywalker wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »So I had 2 oz of tuna for lunch today...with another 350 calories of other stuff to round it out.
Hope it was a plate of bacon
Tuna with bacon?
Ill take the bacon hold the tuna please
Fresh tuna wrapped in bacon and grilled is yummy!4 -
elisa123gal wrote: »i don't understand why a co worker i.e; stranger would think they could make headway with someone who they think is under eating ..starving.. broke.. or suspect has an eating disorder. Especially in a group setting.
I get why you were annoyed.
Now, if someone in your family or a close friend brings it up.. they have the right to ask questions and be concerned.
Because everyone is different. Sometimes a stranger can make a difference. Not for me, but for some people, yes, anyone caring is a good thing.1 -
kshama2001 wrote: »ruqayyahsmum wrote: »DJ_Skywalker wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »So I had 2 oz of tuna for lunch today...with another 350 calories of other stuff to round it out.
Hope it was a plate of bacon
Tuna with bacon?
Ill take the bacon hold the tuna please
Fresh tuna wrapped in bacon and grilled is yummy!
Fresh tuna is way different than canned. I bet wrapped in bacon is really good!0 -
gabriellejayde wrote: »Verity1111 wrote: »gabriellejayde wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »You said you were hungry and then you were eating very little. I would have also offered to share my food with you for the same reasons. I'm sure she went on longer than she should have, but it's not hard to figure out why she said something.
Nobody said anything to the young, thin assistant in the room eating a big bowl of lettuce. Just lettuce.
How big was the bowl? lol. Unless it was HUGE I'd probably had said something to her too...like why just lettuce? and how? I'd be so bored. Bland. bleh. lol
Why would you comment about someone's "salad"?
You'd say, "bleh" ? You sound great. Lol
Uh did I say Id SAY bleh no. I said Id say something to her as well. Then dots hinting a pause. I would be thinking BLEH. Youre assuming Id say "lol" as well? Because people walk around saying lol? There were dots. And sorry but lettuce is not salad by the most accepted definition:
sal·ad
ˈsaləd/Submit
noun
a cold dish of various mixtures of raw or cooked vegetables, usually seasoned with oil, vinegar, or other dressing and sometimes accompanied by meat, fish, or other ingredients.
No combination when it's just lettuce not even any dressing. It's just lettuce.0
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