Fat Shamed at Grocery Stores

This kind of thing does happen. I've seen it in small towns, insular neighborhoods, churches, etc., but also there are some people who are just *kitten* and enjoy being mean for whatever reason - usually because they just like it, but even if there's another "legitimate" psychological reason or they're "just trying to help" or they're just letting their mouth overload their brain, I don't care. Doesn't make it right. And those people are here in my hometown (which is not small) and all over the world. People who tell me I need to get contacts or I'll never land a man, people who think I'm too old to wear Game of Thrones t-shirts and cutoff jeans, people who tell me my hair shouldn't be so long when I'm over 30, people who tell me to trade in my Docs for high heels, people who tell me my top is too sheer and they can see my bra (quelle horreure), and yes, people who inform me that I'm fat, as if I didn't know, and give me their unsolicited and unwanted advice (I've got bad teeth, and some people tell me that too WOW I WONDERED WHY MY MOUTH HURTS ALL THE TIME THANK YOU O WISE ONE). These people need to STFU, and sometimes I straight up tell them that. When I'm feeling more patient I give them the Long Look With Delayed Wow as another poster said above. When I'm in a situation where saying what I actually think would be inappropriate (like work, ha ha, or when it's one of my dad's friends or his nosy nosy next-door neighbor), I say, "Thanks, I'll think about that." Which I do. I think, "What a bunch of *kitten*," and then go on as before. I've even been known to put on my "mother" voice and inform people that my son had better manners at age 3.

I kind of wonder if this happens more in Texas, where snark masquerades as concern on a regular basis and it's not uncommon to have long conversations with strangers, but I've never lived outside Texas, so don't really know.

Ultimately these people are not important in your life. You've decided to get healthy and that's great, so if you fall down, pick yourself up and carry on as before. A whole large pizza is quite a lot, but it's not the end of the world.

If you're trolling, or made up this story for attention or whatever (I really don't know), well, that's just sad, but I hope someone else will be helped by some of the suggestions here.

You people go through some stuff that I can't even imagine. I am very insecure at times, but I've never gone through any of this stuff, like @LokiGrrl , @billglitch , the OP, and others have. Amazing!

Most of the people in the Great North Wet are nice. Very nice. I have, however, lived in Mississippi, and a lot of the women there have a wild sense of humor that makes things come out of their mouths that leave the listener whirling. I always thought it was funny, though, when I would figure out what they really meant 10 minutes after they'd walked away. Maybe I have a whacked-out sense of humor.

This sounds like the next Weird Al song.

I can hear it now...

That is RIDICULOUS and terrible customer service! Notify a manger and do not return. No employee should treat a guest like that, and they are in the wrong.

Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »

OP. Look up 'learned helplessness'. Several people on these boards suffer from it. It goes like this:
1) Post about a problem or incident that is far worse than anyone on here has ever experienced in the history of the world.
2) Shoot down every possible solution/action for various reasons then tell everyone you have stuffed your face because of aforementioned problem/incident
3) Get called out for attention seeking
4) Post a generic short response 'Thanks everyone', 'I am back on track' etc because your attention cup has now been filled and to minimize negative backlash

Rinse. Repeat.

God forbid humans need attention. Really, we should just be isolated little self-healing machines. /sarcasm

Your comment makes you sound like a wanker. Are you a wanker?

Ok, that's just horrible. No matter what your BMI, you need to eat, and they need to treat all customers with respect. As the others said, I hope you reported this. One step further- if this ever happens again, you should stop and take their picture. See if they like someone posting about what a horrible person they are (and sending to their management).

Im appalled and what i just read. I really hope you spoke to the managers both times. That is not okay. But i know how you feel. Ive never been obese but i was over weight for 8 years and i cant tell you how many times i wore a dress and women asked me how many months pregnant i was and when id say im not pregnant they'd give me dirty looks like "oh youre just fat" then say "oh sorry" and walk away. There was a handful of times my husbands family asked me too and when i said i wasnt they literally said "you look 5 months pregnant". That doesnt happen anymore thank goodness. You have to take control and say eff them.

If anything, you should feel sorry for the cashier.... she's obvious miserable and hates herself. When people are unhappy they try to put others down and attack. You do you, you try to fix you and don't worry about her sorry *kitten* or anyone else.

Zombies! Zombies!!

jenilla1 wrote: »

Is this for realz?

It's 7 months old and i seem to recall op started a couple similar threads relating to different stores around her town. OP has also deactivated.

this is appalling and I hope you complain to management!

To be honest, both those people sound like *kitten* and bullies. Don't take any of their *kitten*. Hearing your story has made me angry, that these people think they have a right to comment about you. I would say avoid those cashiers, go to other ones or use self-check out. And if anything tell them off because that is horrible and is pissing me off.

Neanbean13 wrote: »

I may be 'fat' but hey, atleast I'm not a cashier! *smirk* walk away

Don't ever disrespect someone because of their job.

Geeze, I went to friend this person and saw the account was deactivated. Then I realized this post was from almost a year ago lol. Felt bad, hopefully the OP got through it ok.