WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2017

Cool videos everyone - loving the walking horse and the fashions.

Had a quiet morning as we were both tired and the weather was damp. I did my strength exercises. Set off to the grandchildren after lunch. Just read an article on research by Oxford and Cambridge that people who live in cities are healthier than people who live elsewhere. Because they WALK everywhere. How true! I must say, most people here look incredibly healthy! Lots of cycling paths too, especially along the seafront.
Had an exhausting, but fun afternoon with them. I made zombies out of lolly sticks with Max and we had a great dance session with balloons. Bea loves her music and dancing! Now DH is reading the bedtime story and I will be going out to fetch fish and chips and mushy peas. (Me no chips) I also like a large pickled onion - a tradition. Or I might have a pickled egg. DS and DDIL are going to a 40th birthday party. Phew!
Tomorrow I will be up early in order to leave the parking bay by 9 am. Home late morning. We have a supermarket delivery in the early evening, with essentials. I will get the yoghurt started in the Instant Pot.

The painter has almost finished and just has touching up to do, so I am excited to see our pink hall. Actually it has a lilac tinge.

Sad news from my cancer friend. The new chemo pills are making her very tired and one of her best friends, who lives near and has been the most enormous help to her, has just been diagnosed with extensive secondaries. She was at the party I went to in the summer. I think she is her oldest friend.

Much love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxx

Katla I'm envious of your ride on the Tennessee Walker. They are beautiful horses and I just LOVE their smooth fast walk that they are so famous for. We only have a few here in New Zealand. I rode one a long time ago in California, but I never forgot it. And I love the cool colours they come in too.

Penny I really enjoy reading about your Northern adventures.

Heather keep giving us the details on your interesting life, enjoying every minute and sucking the juice out.

It has been raining here for days and days and I am desperate for sunshine. My shoulders have been very sore after leading Esme for nearly five hours the other day. I spent most of yesterday sorting out a new phone and putting all my favourite apps on it, choosing new music to listen to when I run and getting my audio books downloaded. I am feeling fat and out of control with my eating. But I know I can turn things around. Hopefully today will be the day I manage to flip the switch... Wendy

I love the videos. My SIL who lives in Kentucky who really loves their horses, had a horse that she would use and do the show horse where they had all the different walks and prances. She was gold medal several times in her age group and level of experience. But times really interesting to watch. She lie Katla had a horse on some done else's property but it was her horse

I remember my Mommwearing several of those fashions throughout the years. As far as the more recent, the only one who really had anything I could relate to was e one with the hair and the can of hairspray. I bought Christina 12 cans of hairspray a year. If she ran out it was up to her to buy more. And she frequently did. When she got a permanent, her hair was so thick it took a double permanent to get it done.

Oh, I just had a 10 pound kitten jump in my lap. I don't know how it will be as he grows older. At 7 months will he continue to grow?

Allison I a, glad your grand daughter was taken of but it's a she,e Tom now has the keypad entry. Can it be changed?

Joyce, Indiana

It is Sunday here, a rainy sunday, and I have been musing and feeling grateful for the amazing gift of life we each have been given. The question I ponder is how best to spend our unknown number of minutes here? I am reminded of this poem:

The Summer Day
Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean-
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down-
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
—Mary Oliver

Wendy

The family photos are so wonderful! I hope to see more!

Margaret – Thank you. I don’t know if women who have had a miscarriage have the same sort of post-partum depression that some that give birth. She sounds so low when I have talked to her or texted her. I wish there was something I could do or say to make her feel better. I haven’t talked to Will since this occurred over Labor Day weekend. She has not spoken to her mother since she told her to ‘get over it’ after her niece had a baby and her mother thought she should come over and be with them. Says she just can’t do it. Says that everybody talks about pregnancy, having babies, breast feeding, everything she just doesn’t want to hear when there are a million-and-one other things to talk about. She has to be nice because she is a cosmetologist and chit-chatting is sort of expected of her. Normally she is so 'bubbly' and 'talkative'. Right at the moment she is 'sad' and it isn't like her to be this way. That's why I was wondering about post-partum depression for someone who had suffered a miscarriage.

Katla – It has been hard on me as it brings back a time when I was pregnant and then found out something terrible had occurred in the pregnancy (had what they call a ‘mole’ pregnancy). Hydatidiformole Pregnancy. I think I ‘bawled’ for 4 or 5 nights running. It upset Louis. I know my son can be really tenderhearted; and, I hope that he will comfort her in this time. They aren’t going to say if they are going to go through the IVF procedure again. She wants to because she wants to have a baby by Will. I told her they were family – I view Mallory the same as I do my other three granddaughters; but, I can understand how she feels. It just hurts; and, to think her mother would be that callous just really pisses me off. I want to take her out back and strangle her. I’m looking forward to possibly having another grandchild, if they succeed. But, I hope if they aren’t they will be strong enough to weather the storm.

One of our neighbors raises Walking Horses. The one he rides during parades is HUGE! I like seeing him ‘prance’ around.

Allie – Sounds like Bev’s mom needs to have one of those medic alert necklaces she can wear all the time. That way she could call for help; or they would call for her and stay on the phone until help arrived. If she could not get out of her chair, she needs to keep a phone near that chair. When our mother had a stroke which put her into an Assisted Living Facility we bought her one of those stand-up chairs; but, she wouldn’t let it stand her up, she was so overweight that to get out of a chair, she had to rock herself out of it. Suzanne finally showed her that it would put her upright without having to do anything other than push a button. When she was living at home the only 2 people who could pick her if she fell was her maid and my BF’s dad, who worked as an EMT. He’d get behind her and put his arms under hers and lift her right up as if she was a normal sized woman.

The 2 friends that Tami had in her wedding had hairdos that were from the 40’s. One, more so than the other; but, it looked good on her.

Chris - It is funny about Mr. Nice Shoes. For some reason that rates high up on my scale of whatever you want to call it. I first look at a man’s face; then his shoes. Shoes tell you a lot about people. Whether they take care of things. A man could be dressed to the 9’s; but, if his shoes are not polished … he might as well be wearing ragged shorts and flip flops with awful looking feet. I like a ‘well-put-together’ man, especially if he is working in an office setting.

Evelyn – Thank you … I just am ‘at a loss’ as to what to say. Don’t want to bring anything up that might upset her. Said that last weekend, they did not go to church, not that she is mad at God or anything, she just got tired of people coming up to her and patting her tummy and they she’d have to tell them she had lost the baby. Just couldn't keep on repeating it to people. IF she gets pregnant again, I don’t think she will tell anybody as soon as they did. But, they were ‘so excited’ and this embryo was the last one that could be implanted. The specialist did something that the nurse told her she had handled very well. Most women are screaming and cursing because it hurts so much and is done without anesthesia. When she tried to get Will to say something to her, the nurse told her not to interrupt him, he was praying. Now, they will have to start all over. I just worry about her health-wise.

Joyce – Tux will easily weight 20lbs+ in winter when he eats more. Right now, I need to take him to the vet. He must have gotten into a fight with our son’s cats. Trouble doesn’t take to Tux much especially when Tux messes with Callie (his sister). If it like, ‘she is MY sister so don’t mess with her … only I can do that!
I’m sure a keypad can be changed. Tami has one on her house. Said she would never go back to a key entry.

Wendy – Nice poem (saying) … Makes you ‘think’ … what will I do with my ‘wild and precious life’? I’d like to say that I can influence others; not to change them in any manner to suit me; but, just to have someone say that I ‘touched’ their lives and they will never forget me.

My Mother was 16 when she went off to college and met my Daddy who was almost 10 years older. Louis’ parents are the same difference in ages; as Louis and I are. But, from the moment I ‘heard his voice’ … I knew that if I ever got married, it would be ‘to him’. Just celebrated 45th anniversary and I don’t think I could ever ‘replace’ him. Sometimes he drives me wild; but, his tenderness is what impresses me most about him.

Lenora

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Lenora, I don't think there is anything that you could say to your dil that will make her feel better, unfortunately this is such a personal journey, so grateful that it's not one that I ever had to take. But if you get a nice card, maybe with a picture of her favorite flowers or something like that and all you need to say is that you are thinking of her, and that you will stand by her whatever choices she decides to make. Doesn't need to be anything to elaborate, just enough to let her know that you care and that you will support her decisions.
That's all I got for now, must go back to work!

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Hi all, got way behind with posts so just got caught up.

I worked all day getting the house in order and cleaned. Did laundry and now I'm relaxed in clean sheets. Going to bed on fresh sheets is one of my favorite things.

My daughter suggested that we exercise together in the morning before work. She has gained back some of the weight she lost and has decided she needed to do something about it. Maybe her doing it with me will get me started. I'm doing well on the weight loss but terrible on the excercising.

Down another lb so now only 3lbs away from that magic 200 number.

This are still not good for my mil and SIL in PR. I worry too because my mil takes a few meds. I don't believe the pharmacies are open and I don't know what will happen if she can't get her meds. Now the phone is out again so my DH can't talk to her. I know that bothers him terribly. Seeing Trump tossing paper towels and flashlights into a crowd like it was some joke made me so angry! What is going on in the world? Have we lost our humanity?

Tomorrow I'm going to try and work on the craft project for our wellness program for work's winter activity. Guess I've been volunterred to do this. I'm kind of looking forward to it as it should be fun.

((Hugs)) to everyone who is struggling with something in their life right now.

Welcome to the newbies.

Congratulations to those who have rocked it this week.

So happy for those who had medical issues that turned out good.

Off to bed and my book as I'm beat.

Terry in VT

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Ok, my whole post just went poof but yet when the page reloaded I could see the pictures of Peaches parents. Reminds me of my parents who also got married around that time. I would imagine a lot of our parents got married about that time and for the same reason. The man is going off to war and they want to get married first.

I hope I can think of what I was writing. Lenora, any Mom can have post Parton depression, no matter what stage of pregnancy she was in. And yes, all you can do is just love them. It's a journey tha some one else can walk beside them but they are in their own mind all n them selves. Many marriages are destroyed because of this because the husband and wife don't know how to support the other.

Michele, Maria Mir have scheduled the rehearsal dinner at a less intimate place so that no one really has a chance to be intimate with her. It's to noisy as you say. I wonder wha her wn marriage was like.

Charlie had quite a situation tonight. We were out to eat and I saw one of my best nurse friends. So she said ey would come over and eat with us. Is nurses get together and eat all the time and I don't see anything wrong in what she said. But they are bothe very staunch Democrats, strict Cathlics, he was in a union, against guns and many other things that Charlie could really keep a person's ear busy for an hour. I told him they were coming and told him not to worry, Janet and I would take care of it. We get together all the time and there is n reason to talk about all those things.mwe are good friends and that's all that counts. You forget about al the things you don't have in common, you talk about what you do have in common. And for him and Joe, it might be fun to find those things out. They love to travel, they love to travel to nature sights, etc. we all love our kids. So we got through it OK. And Charlie wasn't mad at me letting them come over without askinhim first. They just kind of arrived at our table at a fast food place. He had heard Janet talk about our new kitten so he asked about it. There was never any discussion over politics, etc. I am sure Charlie would have liked to have a heated debate but I think that Janwt and him would have left if that started and it would have put a strain on our own relationship. I would have hoped she would have understood.mwe all talk about that shortcomings our husbands have. And the wonderful things!!!!!

It rained cats and dogs today during the time of the big parade at the Fall Festival. Bummer. We are going to take a day trip next week to see the kids. Christina would love for us to stay longer but have no room in thier house and we would be paying for everything. We do want to take some kind of tri before Trinity graduates from high school next year. Wow, isn't that a scary though???? My first grand child graduating from high school. Makes me feel old!

Night, night, Joyce, Indiana