"You're too skinny!" Do others ever make you question your maintenance weight?

I think that even when people care about us, they can tend to say things out of jealousy - even when they don't realize it themselves. When you try hard and accomplish something like losing a ton of weight, there is going to be the part of other people that thinks, "I wish I could do that," and then they may make excuses for "why" you were able to (and they aren't). Like for instance, maybe you are doing something unhealthy, like getting too skinny. Don't listen to them, just keep doing you! Here is for all my fellow fit chicks https://www.myliporidex.com/blog/15_signs_that_you_are_a_fit_girl/

They might be JEALOUS!
Ignore, or change the subject or respond however you like but it's annoying.
Carry on with what you are doing.
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"Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you."

On my way to reaching my -30 lbs weight loss goal with MFP, people skinny-shamed me too. It was hurtful, and hard to forget the mean comments.

At one point, I was eating a healthy lunch at work in the staff room, seated in between two women who were obese. Another woman across the table from me said, "You are too skinny! When are you going to stop? I'm WATCHING YOU."

It was humiliating.

Why didn't she address her comments to the women on either side of me?

"You are too fat! When are you going to stop? I'm WATCHING YOU."

Somehow, skinny-shaming is culturally-acceptable. But I agree with many people on this thread: deep down, the people who make those insensitive none-of-their-business comments are jealous that they haven't experienced the same weight loss success that you have. They know it takes self-discipline and effort over a long period of time, and it's easier to skinny shame you than to ask themselves why they haven't been able to muster the same dedication that you have shown to your health.

If you have a BMI and body fat percentage within the healthy range, then those skinny-shamers need to keep their comments to themselves.

And if any one of us who have experienced skinny-shaming actually did have an eating disorder, which is a serious mental health issue, would public skinny-shaming make it better or worse??

Keep your head up, and ignore the comments. The people who make those insulting statements don't know what they're taking about.

mzbek24 wrote: »

I get it a bit, I'm 4kg bigger than the minimum weight for my height according to bmi, and I want to maintain at around the minimum, because I have a small frame and I also want to be faster, for my running. If you feel happy with how you look at your maintenance weight and are perfectly healthy, tell them so. People like to assert their personal preferences, but I just think "Too skinny for what?" your preference? okay thanks for letting me know, but I'll be doing what I prefer, as it is my body, thank you.

You don't have a small frame. You are probably short.

I suppose I'd probably give them the same amount of giving a *kitten* as I have when they tell me I'm too fat.

I will never understand why people think it's their right to comment on other people's weight anyway....

My theory is that the general population is overweight, so being bigger is the new norm these days. So when they see someone who isn't in the norm, they see it as someone who doesn't eat much. When I did a cut, I was told by countless people how I look sick. That's because a couple of months ago, they used to see me much more bigger. I know they mean well, but I don't listen to anyone, I just stick to my objectives and move on.

My husband tells me all the time that im too bony and orders me to not lose any more weight. I say "ok honey" and do what I want. If your healthy and there is no medical concern with losing weight, I think you should do what you want with your own body. *kitten* what ither people say

I'm 5'7 and I'm currently trying to get build up muscle and I'm trying to stay within the 120 range at least until I start building up my muscle weight. However I am constantly getting comments saying I'm getting too skinny. Back in 2011 I was 111 lb. and people were telling me I was too skinny and 2 years later I had gained so much weight due to my birth control that I ended up gaining over 30 pounds. I worked hard and finally got rid of some of the extra weight but trying not to go back to being at 111. Why can't people just mind their own weight and stop making such uncivilized comments, I'm so tired of it.

It depends how it is said. If someone says something like “you don’t need to lose any weight!” That is meant as a compliment. I wouldn’t be offended by that. I have had that said to me and it never bothered me. I know I’m not “too skinny” I can clearly see my body in the mirror. But yes it is pretty rude to tell someone they are too skinny. That’s the same as telling someone theyre fat. It’s just not their place to make that comment.