WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR FEBRUARY 2018
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Wendy - All I can give you is my own experience, and you can take that with a grain of salt. I do, absolutely, clean if I know someone's coming. It's always been a good excuse. But it's been extraordinarily freeing to simply be myself, and a massive weight lifted. I was always what everyone wanted me to be... and when I stopped, I had to figure out who I was. You've got a really good handle on who you are... now you just have to hold onto that with other people. Oddly enough (or maybe not), I've made many more friends and better ones than when I was trying to be all things to everyone. You're an amazing person, and they know that already... so let them join your lives instead of stopping it for them. It will probably be a lovely experience for them. And quite different. People here PAY to work at places like yours, no joke.
And, I'm trying to go to sleep, but fell asleep over my book this afternoon, and napping always throws me off. So I'll lay down with it again and see if it creates the same magic.
Love y'all,
Lisa in NC
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Saw this and snorted!
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Your Suki The Cat pic!
Becca
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Wendy, You have gotten some good suggestions about your guests. I can't add anything better. Best wishes for a visit that meets your needs and those of your husband.
Stats for today:
*13,000 steps
*189 minutes walking Sasha and Bessie
*208 minutes riding the exercise bike
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Did Beach Pilates Plus workout today. This is one of the DVD's that I got at Habitat for Humanity. Actually, it's supposed to have 4 workouts, but it's missing one of them. But for $3, I can live with missing one of the workouts. Since we'll be leaving tomorrow, the plan is to do the Shape Ultimate Bikini Body workout then if I have time I'll do a segment of a 10 Minute Daily Yoga Fix and hold my plank. I'd really like to get going as early as possible.
Mary - thanks for your kind words. At least he opened the box of cereal today. One thing is that if I wait for him to get to things, sometimes I'd be waiting for the second coming of Christ (joke). I'm just the opposite, I would rather get something done asap. There have been times when I've reminded him "weren't you supposed to do xxx" and he forgot! Oh well.... I know deep down that if I can't do something, he'll do it. Like if for some reason (god forbid) I can't walk, I know that he'll do things like take out the trash. He has brought in the garbage cans and things like that.
Went to WalMart to get some newspapers since we stopped delivery of the papers and mail. Then bought gas. Cleaned the windows in my car, the insides were pretty streaky. Want to clean part of the floor. Doing the last load of laundry right now, then I can finish packing. Vince SAID he wants to get the car packed as much as possible. I know that the refrigerated foods can't go in yet and neither can my laptop. They won't go in the car until tomorrow.
For some reason, I couldn't get much sleep last night. Plan to take a shower tonight and then want to get a good night's sleep
Made this giant cookie for Vince to have when we get home. Tried my hand at something new. Didn't follow a recipe exactly. Used lemon cake mix and on top of that put M&M's Hope it tastes OK.
Karen in VA - what a neat word! Yes, I was thinking of Heather's "pluck"
pip - congrats on the sale. I didn't even know that you were selling your lot!
Rye - you and hubby feel better soon.
Lori - welcome! The Weather Channel is calling for sun tomorrow and Tuesday. At least where we'll be. Good -- get rid of the yukky weather before we get there. That I can live with
Vince packed the car with the things that can be packed. Not sure why he didn't put the laptops in. He said before that they can go in. I did say that I thought they should go in the trunk. I'd be afraid that one time when we stopped to get eat, someone would break into the car and steal it/them. Clothes -- I don't think anyone is going to want them.
Lanette - you and I are awaiting the teleporter.
Does anyone watch "The Good Place"? I want to see if I can stream the episodes from last season. It looks like you really need to have seen it from the beginning to fully understand about the characters. I looked online and was surprised by some of the things that I learned. I think it's a really good show about morals and character
Becca - I love that picture! I would probably like it in the bright colors.
Wendy - I'm so sorry for your daughter and you. BREATHE girl!
Wendy - could they be bored??? I'm pretty sure that the reason Steve comes to see us is that he's bored and he can talk computers (in-Depth) with Vince. Personally, I have no idea what they're talking about lots of times, but he really can't discuss computer-related things with his family, yet Vince understands. If Vince weren't here, he'd probably not stop. You sound a lot like me. I don't like to sit around and just talk and I like going to bed early and getting up early. The last time Steve was here (he has the direct opposite schedule from me), I started doing a craft, I started to make a hat. Unfortunately, I didn't find any solution to the bed situation. Why do you feel the need to clean out your cupboards? I can understand about the other things. We have 4 cats and there's ALWAYS fur around. I like a clean stove. Do you REALLY need new towels? If you don't, don't buy new ones just because they're coming.
Thinking a lot of Bryan and missing him. Tomorrow is his birthday. Lucky me will be in the car all day with not much else to do except think about him.
Sue in WA - a new puppy! How exciting. Be sure to post pics.
Colored the roots of my hair today before I took a shower. They weren't real bad but I know that in a week or so they'd be getting bad so I just decided to do it today. I really impress myself at how much food I managed to get rid of. I only have one insulated bag to take with me of things like carrots, a cuke, things that would go bad in a few weeks.
Michele in NC who will be saying "in FL" tomorrow...yippee!
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Michelle, you are probably right. They might be bored of their regular life. I know the guy comes to visit because my hubby usually takes off a week and goes fishing with him. (He hires expensive fishing guides and they go to exclusive spots where they can catch huge trout and he pays for it all, so my hubby is happy to go. This has caused lots of arguments in our marriage because my hubby then won't take any time off to go on holiday with the family or me because for the past 20 years he's used up his holidays to go on the guy's fishing trip instead.) The fact that I got to go to both Fiji and Vanuatu this year was a total fluke and usually I get no holiday with my husband whatsoever. My hubby finally told him this year that he couldn't go fishing with him as he had already used up his days off with me. That was a huge victory, hard fought, for me. But the guy is still coming and bringing his wife.
So, when the wife comes too, I am expected to entertain her while they do guy things. She has a very stressful job so I think the contrast when she comes here is refreshing. I spend my days trying to think of fun things to do. Even though I work hard, I also play hard. I'm not sitting in front of the tv. I'm out doing. I have taken her garage saleing and one year we bottled Black Doris plum jam. To my husband, I joke around and say she has come over to go "slumming." I don't really know. I've never been to their place though I have seen photos of their house and entertainment areas and hot tub etc. Even though they've been visiting us for 20 years, I don't really know them that well at all. I just think that she needs something from me, and I'm not sure what. Maybe it's just accepting her and not expecting anything from her. She lives in a corporate world where image is everything and the demands are huge...and political. I am so uninterested in politics that I never talk about it. Probably quite different to most people she is around. Maybe she just wants to be at a place where she doesn't need to put forth her perfect image. Let her hair down a bit. We are slowly thawing to each other. Will be interesting to see what this year brings forth.
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Imagine: Free Dreamer Horse Rider Waterfall Girl trying to find common ground with Career Woman Power Player High Flyer. Perhaps she secretly wants to gallop horses on the beach and go barefoot and grow her hair long. LOL. Or maybe she just keeps a secret notebook of all the crazy chit that happens here and then has amusing stories to relate at her Prestige Dinner Parties. LOL. (There was one year that we chased chickens around with a crazy woman...and then the year she got chased by a bull when we were biking...)2
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wildhorsewendy wrote: »Imagine: Free Dreamer Horse Rider Waterfall Girl trying to find common ground with Career Woman Power Player High Flyer. Perhaps she secretly wants to gallop horses on the beach and go barefoot and grow her hair long. LOL. Or maybe she just keeps a secret notebook of all the crazy chit that happens here and then has amusing stories to relate at her Prestige Dinner Parties. LOL. (There was one year that we chased chickens around with a crazy woman...and then the year she got chased by a bull when we were biking...)
Have you taken her galloping on the beach?
If it were me, I think I'd be inclined to suggest hikes (like the one you did a month or two ago), long bicycle rides, galloping on the beach ... and other active activities.
Maybe she does just like the contrast to her own life. Hers is probably exhausting having to keep up a certain image. Maybe she finds she can relax with you.
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Wendy, I think you have for excellent suggestions from everyone. You say they go on African safaris. I think at least the wife might find your bee keeping interesting, it is a little bit of working with the wild side. Have you asked her what is interesting around your home that she might like to participate in? I'm just glad I don't have that problem. When my kids come, it is for a weekend and they go home.
My husband used to always say he was going to sell our house and buy a trailer. Or if we divorced he would just move in a trailer, he told the girls to get a trailer. Well Christina got a trailer. She was I thrilled by the bay window in the kitchen and in the living room. She loved the large kitchen and the garden bathroom. What she didn't see was the addition they put on themselves. It was awful. It was a master bedroom with large closet and office and a large addition to the living room. Well they didn't get the new and old cane red very well. I think they were connected by carpet only. They also put a studio apartment on top of the roof. You could have access by a big scary ladder in the garage or a big staircase on the side of the house which was what was used the most.mit was also used by some furry guys. The trailer had some serious mold problem and the longer they lived there the worse it got. Also they kept a base ball cap by the commode to put on your head if it rained. I was never so glad when she called and said that the back foreclosed on them. They had enough they were able to rent a fairly decent townhouse. It wasn't the Taj Mahal but it was better than they were living in. Then they found a 3 bedroom ranch to rent. Both girls now have their own bedrooms, a good size master and the family room which was a garage makes a perfect office for my SIL. And it has a large fenced in back yard so they don't have to walk their dog. I felt so sorry for that dog at times. Now he has a whole back yard of his own. We own our house and I don't regret it. I just regret that it is a bilevel.
Oh, the relief I got from my cold fingers and face lasted about 12 hours. I woke up this morning frozen again. But I will let my doctor know and let him do. The thinking
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Katla - I am so glad that you are having some bonding time with your grandson.
Sue - You have had a rough go of it. I hope that February is better for you.
Chris - I am glad that your work situation has improved.
Martha - It can be a struggle to drink enough water each day. We can do this.
Michelle- My boss just doesn't seem to value the people that work for him. I won't tell you some of the things that were said to me when my Mom was in the hospital dying. My respect for him has never been there.
Terry - Your next project really appeals to me.
Lisa - I am sorry to hear about your son's troubles. It is so hard because the instinct is to try to help but he does have to figure it out for himself.
Beth - Saying a prayer for your son, your situation and the best resolution.
Barbie - Is there a reason Jake is thinking he would like to live in Canada? We do have a lot of beauty up here as you know.
Becca - I did panels like that for a friend quite a few years ago. I used buttons from my Mom's button can. Almost 20 years later my friend still has it hanging in her home.
Wendy - Enjoy the company as best you can. Maybe they admire the way you live? Come on now, who wouldn't want to go on an adventure with you?
I am sorry that your daughter had to return to the hospital.
Allie - Stick to your guns. Don't pay attention to others. You deserve alimony. It's great that you are finding comfort in your cozy condo.
I've been procrastinating on my disability challenge. I just needed to take a rest from doctors and forms but know I should get back on it.
Thursday we went to Moxies for Keira's birthday supper. I had a Shirley Temple with her. We took Harmony with us as Jason went to an NA meeting and took Kim with him. He says he will probably just go by himself from now on. Probably a good idea as there may be things he doesn't want the rest of us to hear. It is his recovery. The methodone the doctors in Ontario put him on to get him off the prescription drugs has been just as problematic.
Friday was work and then Larry and I went to see "Hostiles". I also had to stop for coffee at Jheri's to have coffee with Keira before her art party.
Today we went and had a look at the STARS house. It is very nice although I doubt I could afford the taxes. My sister says we could live upstairs and they can live downstairs. I pointed out there was no kitchen downstairs. She says that I could cook for all of us and Larry and Les could do the cleaning. I guess she would just be the Queen from the sounds of things. Always fun to look and to buy a ticket or two. It is a good cause.
Then we went to "12 Strong" with some friends. As much as I like a true story I am ready for a comedy now.
Soup got burnt in the Instant Pot but I am not supposed to mention that. The new bread maker is having a few problems.
-Sharon in Lethbridge who actually made it to the exerbike yesterday.
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Lanette, yes sometimes we can hear the surf, when the tide or winds are right. Stepping out of the car, it smelt like Mendocino Woodlands or the Santa Cruz mountains. Joe looked around at all the trees and said "This is it!"The ocean peek sealed it for me. We were lucky to get cable/internet here, it only took 2 months
Thanks Rye for the Spoiler tipI
Barbie Jake sounds like a real mover and shaker upper. Why Canada?
Lori from FL welcome!
Wendy wow. Evie and Ben Franklin are right about fish and visitors stinking after 3 days. Does your husband know how much work and expense these visits incur? Congratulations on your holiday triumph! Love Lisa's honesty advice, Terry's "if all things fail..." and Machka's hiking and galloping hints. How about a rich cultural experience of barn chores and bee keeping Do they ever treat you? Might she come for what is lacking in her own life, children, animals, and a husband with whom she shares interests and activities? Ditto Michelle: Do you really WANT to buy new tea towels, clean out the cupboards fridge stove or laundry room? If not, take a deep breath and let it be. Biking and camping sound like great alternative plans! Trust your cats ;}
Maybe 20 mins pc time isn't realistic. Max 1 hr?
Mindful hugs to all,
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD.
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MMMMhhhh. Hiding under the house with the cats could be my Plan B.
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EAGLES WIN THE SUPERBOWL
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Terry - When Heather asked how you keep the jewelry clean, I thought not so much about keeping it shiny, but more about how to get lint and dirt out of all those holes and crevices. As a former lab-ratHeather, I keep my jewelry in individual plastic bags. This will keep them from tarnishing. If you have something that is already tarnished I use a polishing cloth. You can also get from a jewelry store a liquid jewelry cleaner that you dip the jewelry in which works pretty good. I use something by Connoisseurs. I’d ask at a good jewelry store in your area.
I would suggest using an ultrasonic cleaner. You drop whatever you want to clean into a little chamber full of ordinary tap water, zap it with ultrasound for a few minutes and it comes out squeaky clean. All the grime is gone. People use them for jewelry, glasses, dentures... I wouldn't be one bit surprised if most jewelers have them on hand for when customers come in and want things cleaned.
Heather - I'm with you on the earworms. I can get stuck on a catchy but trivial tune for days on end. But I've also learned I can counterattack with the baryton aria "Betrachte meine Seel" from Bach's St. John Passion. I love that aria, so it easily exorcises any mere earworm, but it also has the decency to leave me alone after I've hummed through it a couple times. Any chance you could find an exorcist of your own?
Becca - Ever since we lived in Miami for my husband's post-doc, I've been a fan of pink grapefruit. In my childhood home we also had pointy grapefruit spoons, and a couple decades ago, my husband bought a set of four grapefruit spoons with serrated tips. But I'm lucky enough to enjoy the physical process of segmenting and de-membraning grapefruit, so I always do my own. For me, it's a double treat!
I'm in the process of finalizing — er... hmm... trying to finalize — the annual report I'm editing so the layout person can take over. About 10 days ago I sent out the edited articles to their authors and gave them today as a deadline for any comments and corrections. Most responded right away, but as always, some let it slide. I'm still waiting for responses from seven of them. Worse, I'm still waiting for translations of three or four articles — I haven't even begun to edit those.
Meanwhile, we're in the throes of a humdinger of an arctic snowstorm. Soon I've got to walk down to the grocery store and replenish my supply of veggies. I'm a bit reluctant, but I know as soon as I venture out into the fray, all I'll feel will be exhilaration. I do love me a good storm, yes indeedy! As long as it isn't dangerous.
/Penny at the
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Good morning all! Happy Monday! Monday, monday, weigh in day! The only reason to celebrate weigh in day is if I have lost. Which I have! Yea! Two more pounds down. So...that is five pounds in two weeks. This is with just watching my CICO because I haven't been able to exercise due to the knee. That said; after my knee "popped" last Friday and the majority of the pain went away. I cleaned my house immediately that night; then we got a foot and a half of snow between Friday night and Saturday morning, so I also shoveled for an hour or so. Knee was a bit swollen, so I RICEd Saturday night and Sunday. As long as the knee doesn't get any worse, I am going to add walking back in. Maybe just every other day, to start. I had to make a trip to the library yesterday to pick up some children's books. This week is Children's Authors/Illustrators Week! I pick five authors/illustrators and we read some of their books and plan/do a craft or activity based on the book. Authors I have picked for the kids: Eric Carle, Leo Lionni, Dr. Seuss, Lois Ehlert, Maurice Sendak. While I was at the library, I picked up a couple books for myself. The book I started reading first is Killers of the Flower Moon. True story (reads like a mystery) about the horrible way the Osage tribe was treated/murders, when oil was discovered on their land. Hurts my heart to read, but it is riveting.
Penney-Arctic Storms! I can just see you dressed in your arctic gear headed to the store. I guess you don't have to worry about your ice cream melting!
BArbie- I imagine I will be the instigator in my marriage to downsize our way of life. At 51, I am already planning my "downsize". I imagine my DH will fight me much of the way. He is becoming somewhat of a "keeper" of things.
Heather- When I was running, I needed the music to get me going and then to keep my going, once I lengthened my runs. That said, once I got started, I found I was able to "tune out" the music, so I just began turning it off and just listened to my breathing and my feet on the pavement. It was very calming; almost meditative.
Wendy-I have to agree with the advice you are getting from the others. YOU lead a very interesting life. I don't know about your rich guests, but most people take vacation to remove themselves from their "normal". I say, be honest (especially with the wife). She might really enjoy getting out of her comfort zone and doing something different (like helping with your chores/life work). She might find a hike very refreshing and I would bet she goes home and brags to her friends about what interesting things she did while she was with you.
Sharon- LOVE the party pics! I really like the idea of the "painting" activity at a older kids party! Makes for a nice gift for the guests to take home.
Well, still waiting on my licensing consultant to come and renew me!! Kids arriving shortly, so I better get my breakfast in me. Here is a first for me: I actually have ALL of my own meals planned for the week! I usually plan my daycare meals and some what plan my dinners (which I have done), but I usually just prep meat, veg, etc; then figure out what to do with them as the day/meal arrives. BUT this week, I actually have them all written out and hung in my cupboard. All I have to do is look, make, eat. If I stick to it, I should continue my downward spiral to Onederland! Yea! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
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Monday -- back to work, and will also need to devote a rather significant amount of time later today to studying for my final exam.
M in Oz
My head just doesn't feel ready to study yet.
In regular semesters, the class ends and we've got a full week before any possibility of exams. In these intensive courses, I've got 3.5 days.
So I've got to remain in intensive mode ... no short breaks to catch my breath.
Machka in Oz4 -
Wendy - sounds like you have a really good handle on why these people come to visit you.
I'll need to post answering people on each page because we shut down the servers last night and I can't get to my Word document.
Joyce - that trailer sounds horrible! Bet the previous owners were so happy when it was sold. So glad that now they have a good place
Michele in NC going to FL1 -
Last night it wasn't so great that the football game ran late. I wanted to see the season finale of "This is Us". This sure answered a lot of my questions.
Oh, how I love pink grapefruit. When our friends go to see her grandson and usually stay at the condo, they many times bring me back a bag of grapefruit. Honestly, I need to limit myself to one/day or else I'd just pig out on grapefruit.
Penny - stay safe
Heard Vince was up so cut my exercising short this morning. I still did Shape's Bikini Body DVD. I'll probably do some HIIT tomorrow since I don't do that for as long and I'll need to run to the store, sign up to use the gym, lots of other things. I just want to be sure I have enough time for everything.
Well, we'll most likely be on the road soon (yeeaaa!)
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Sharon - thank you for sharing pictures of Keira's birthday. She is adorable! Good that Jason is in NA and hope he has a good sponsor. I once had an alcoholic boss who was out of control, finally joined AA and it changed his life. As I recall, I think he went to 30 meetings the first 30 days and I'm glad it was there for him. Working for an alcoholic was almost like being married to one and I went to a few Al-Anon meetings myself.
Wendy - know that if any of us came to visit you, we'd be perturbed if you went out of your way and bought new towels and sheets, lol. We'd even clean the toilet if it needed it-just show us where the cleaning supplies are!
Your guests do sound like interesting people and I'll bet she's looking forward to spending time with YOU - otherwise she'd find a reason to stay home. If your house isn't clean enough or the sheets aren't new enough, c'est la vie.
I don't think our DH's understand how much trouble and worry we go through having female house guests. There was a time my DH loved to have his guy friends visit - easy to entertain, just make sure there's plenty of beer and snacks. Girls are more picky!
Barbara- thank you for sending those pictures! I agree with your DH, what a lovely place to be - even though it's off the beaten path. Do you have any close neighbors nearby? Anyhow, I'll visualize myself there when I need a break and that will have to do until the Teleporter gets out of the shop.
Michelle - have a safe trip!
This laptop is acting strange so I'd better hit the post button before I lose this.
Lanette
SW WA State
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Kelly - When I read your first description I wondered if your knee might have been slightly dislocated. Hurts like a sumbitch but once it's back in its proper place, the pain subsides immediately. Just a thought.That said; after my knee "popped" last Friday and the majority of the pain went away.
Penney-Arctic Storms! I can just see you dressed in your arctic gear headed to the store. I guess you don't have to worry about your ice cream melting!
And when I go shopping for veggies there is NO ice cream involved :noway:
/Penny, now lunched and ready to venture out at the
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Heading home today. I got sick during the Super Bowl program—stuffed myself with a bean dip that goes on crackers, something I would never normally eat. DS & DH thought I had too much alcohol. I had a little, but not enough to make me sick. I was sick enough to keep me barfing in DH is mad at me today.
Katla who is ready to fly home.6 -
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Heading home today. I got sick during the Super Bowl program—stuffed myself with a bean dip that goes on crackers, something I would never normally eat. DS & DH thought I had too much alcohol. I had a little, but not enough to make me sick. I was sick enough to keep me barfing in DH is mad at me today.
Katla who is ready to fly home.
((((Katla)))) sounds like you both are getting a touch of vacation burnout. Different food, different beds, different time zones, different weather, different schedules.
There's no place like home and hugging your pup again.
Have a safe flight
Lanette
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Michelle The Good Place is my favourite current TV show. Season One might very well be my favourite season of any TV show ever. It is streamable from pay services like Amazon Video and Netflix but I don’t know of any free streaming.3
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Hi Everyone - I just joined and am glad to find this forum. Seem to be gaining weight from HRT, and trying to kick the daily red wine habit. Wish me luck!3
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Wendy ~ I stressed for you describing the upcoming visit. Whenever I know there will be folks coming, I have anxiety attacks. As everyone else has said, the lady probably just enjoys being away from the hustle and bustle of the corporate world. I would make her help with the dishes. If she is a gourmet cook, there probably are a lot to wash. Also, as someone else mentioned, let her go food shopping by herself. She might just enjoy being able to shop alone without any expectations made of her.
Barbara ~ I love the fir trees and the view you must have.
Terry ~ My husband cleans silver/gold with a liquid called "TarnX". And, of course he has a polishing cloth.
Katla ~ So sorry you are ill. It was probably the beans. Have a safe trip home.
I would love to declutter but am too lazy!
I need to go through my closet and drawers and throw away about 80% of my clothes. You can imagine how old some of them are if you remember Bobby Brooks and Misty Harbor. After I do that, I need to make myself go to a shopping center and buy some new decent things. I hate to try on clothes but everything I have ordered online never fits and gets put in the Goodwill pile. I have wasted so much money doing that.
Got to go walk the POM!
Carol in GA
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Well I'm home and changed for work.
His Jacka$$ lawyer didn't show.
Asthma attack,so it is postponed again
I am hoping at pre trial we can get it sorted out.and done.arghhhh8
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