JUST FOR TODAY ....... One day at a time ..... Daily Commitment Thread for 2018

@acrylicfox I totally get it! It's kind of easier now that I dont have a job, but once I start working again it will definitely be harder. On the days I used to work, I hated having to make dinner. I hated cleaning too let alone get to the gym every day! It was just so taxing. I can't even imagine how much harder it's going to be when we have kids! I just hope I can do it all! You are doing a great job of getting back on the horse and you WILL get results. It may not seem like anything is happening at first, but things will start to look up! I wish I had that pill too!

acrylicfox wrote: »

I'm at day 17 of this journey and I'm feeling good about it all but I just want to call my 2019 self to make sure that all this effort pays off, ya know?
(it'd be nice to actually SEE some changes, where is the pill I can take to wake up fit tomorrow! )

It's time consuming and I feel more than a bit selfish dedicating so much of my time to me, which I know is a silly thing to say but the issues that brought me to this unhealthy place can only be dealt with solo and it's taxing,

I did want to dedicate 2018 to reeling back in all the things I've let slide, I simply didn't think it would take sooo much of my attention... and that no one around me would understand,

anyway, thank you all for being here, I know you get it

Ha! I often thought, "How wonderful it would be if I only had a little pill!"

I do hear you and am walking right along side you. I was thinking about this a day or two ago...how I have to stay so focused on this. But what is THIS?

THIS is: a battle. And when a person is in a battle, in order to win, it is of the utmost importance to remain vigilant. To remain focused on what is right in front. To be on the lookout for traps. To not only focus on what is in front but to also look ahead and search for upcoming obstacles to avoid or to be ready for. Sometimes it's hand to hand combat, with desire and diligence wrestling. I am in the battle for my life.

People "back home" away from the battle ground aren't going to understand the pressures, the "bullets" we have to dodge, the tactics we must plan for, the battle plans from others who made it through and are sharing their experience. We have to make sure the people on the sidelines do not become a distraction, causing us to lose focus.

Although we keep our eyes on the target we stay focused on what is directly before us and what is coming up next. That's how we win. Seeing our target. Planning, forming strategies and then acting. Because our lives truly depend on it.

And when thoughts come into your mind ask yourself, "Is this truth or is this a lie?" Is it really true that absolutely no one around you understands? Is there one person you know who has taken the same journey? Or who is a natural empathizer? If there's absolutely no one, I suggest you go to a gym or an exercise class at the Y or at a church and find some like-minded folks. And beyond all that, you have us. And, as you said, we do get it. We do understand. I'm not a joiner. But I am so thankful I found this group. We lift each other, care for one another, are real with one another.

So, anyway, lies are traps within this battle: I can't do it. It won't matter, I'll lose weight, just to gain it back again. I'm too old. I'm too weak. I'm never going to get where I want to be. I don't have time. Fat is the new beautiful so I don't need to lose weight.

Keep going! Stay Focused. Stay determined. Reach your target.

Peace and joy.

@toaljasa That is incredible advice! I am so thankful for you and all of your wonderful, insightful advice and friendship. You are such a positive voice on this board! "Is this truth or is this a lie?" is something my Mom taught me when I was going through a breakup and was really down on myself. I never thought that it pertains to my weight loss journey as well. It can actually be used in every facet of life I think. I will have to keep this in mind. I think I'm gonna write it on a few sticky notes and post them around my house.

MLHC1 wrote: »

2/16 Friday JFT:

✔▪Regular morning routine for kids
✔▪Breakfast w/ hubby
✔▪Self pampering
✔▪Prenatal Yoga
✔▪Lunch
❌▪Research work from home - Analyze 15 glycopeptides
✔▪Regular afternoon routine for kids
✔▪Bake cookies for kiddos and sitter
✔▪Pick up Costco Pizza for kiddos and sitter
✔▪Date night w/ hubby
✔▪Bedtime ~ midnight

2/17 Saturday JFT:

✔▪Breakfast w/ family
✔▪Watch movie with kiddos
✔▪Lunch
✔▪Baseball Tryouts
✔▪Nap
✔▪Little bit of house cleaning
✔▪Dinner by 7 pm
✔▪Bedtime by 10 pm

2//18 Sunday JFT:

▪Breakfast w/ family
▪Laundry
▪Review budget
▪Grocery List
▪JFT
▪Research work from home - Need to finish excel ledger
▪Lunch
▪Grocery Shopping
▪Prep paperwork for taxes
▪Prepare doc. for hubby
▪Review baseball manager tasks
▪Dinner by 7 pm
▪Bedtime by 10 pm

Haven't been on here to log since Friday but I've been reading everyone's posts. Honestly my pregnancy hormones are all over the place this weekend. Life is just plan crazy right now, between the house remodel, kid's school, my research, teenager hormones, hubby's busy work season, being pregnant and now baseball; I'm not sure how to do it, Lol The baseball league didn't have enough coaches to have every kid play on a team this year so my hubby and his buddy decided to step up and do it so all the kids could play. That's the right thing to do but his buddy is now coaching two little league teams, my hubby is way too busy with work so he has volunteered me to be the "manager behind the scene." Which means I'll be doing ALL the managing work for the baseball team plus I have two kiddos playing on two different teams!! LOL!!!! I'm ready to have the baby just so I can be around the female hospital staff who understand how challenging being a woman can be, Lol!! I think men just believe we are ALL superwoman

Didn't mean to get on here and vent my issues, but you ladies understand, I hope

Not to mention, I'm going to have quite the task post-pregnancy bc I've gained a lot of weight I'm not eating junk, except for the occasional non-fat frozen yogurt. My body just blows up when I'm pregnant. It is all for a good cause I know, it is just hard to constantly look in the mirror and see yourself swell up more and more!! My doctor says me and baby are healthy so no worries. I guess I just need to let it go!

Well, I hope everyone continues on strong! I'm sorry I'm not much support this weekend. Sometimes my weaknesses show too, Lol

HGSmith0920 wrote: »

JFT, 2/18/18

1. Up at 8
2. Morning routine Done and Done!
3. Church Was good. It was about parenting. Gave me so good insight for when we start raising children
4. Gym Plans derailed so I took a rest day. It was very nice.
5. Lunch Just an apple. I'm pretty terrible at eating meals during the day, I guess.
6. Nap Slept for an hour. It was very nice and I actually got up when I wanted to. Also, wasnt in a terrible mood after either
7. Laundry Two loads dont and put away. I've discovered that if I use Alexa as a timer then I dont forget about it as often
8. Clean I did a bit of sweeping but nothing else really.
9. Chicken in Crockpot Right on time too. It was perfect when we were ready to eat it
10. Read Read for a while before I took my nap. I'm finding that if I read propped up in bed it helps me to fall asleep much faster
11. Write/look at short story Done! Look below
12. Hockey Pens won! The DH got home to catch the end of the game
13. Make mashed potato Not a completely failed experiment. Next time I'm gonna have the DH mash the potatoes for me and I'll cook them a little longer. But the taste was good.
14. Dinner/Dishes Two pots left! Also learned that I should have used frozen broccoli or steamed it before I added the rest of the ingredients to it
15. DH time Doing this now. He had a really terrible day at work and my incessant chattering was putting him off a bit so I've cut back and am now working on other things. Lol
16. Bed by 11:30 Maybe...who knows. I'm really terrible at this!

So I decided that I would go along with my plan to work on expanding one of my short stories into something longer. I printed out a hard copy and went about revising it. I've dedicated a whole notebook to write down ideas and parts of scenes and things. I'm actually really excited. I spent 45 minutes on it today and it totally flew by! I think I just needed a few days of just random writing to get back into the swing of it. Also, I was talking to Mom about a different short story that I wrote about 5 years ago. I wanted to email it to her so she could read it. It turned out all I could find on my computer and my saved files from all over the place was a half-finished first draft. I was absolutely devastated. I love that story. It took me a long time to write because I had to put it down for about 2 years before I came up with an ending that I really liked. I was running back and forth between the cabin and Mom's house doing laundry. I told her that I couldn't find the finished draft. She looked in her computer files and found a finished copy! I must have sent it to her a really long time ago. She emailed it to me but could only do it as a PDF because I have a PC and she has a MAC. I printed out a copy of it and am going to revise and edit it as well. That way I can retype it when I'm ready. I love that I have been inspired again! I have to buy a book on grammar and punctuation though. Those seem to be my downfall!

So onto my list!

JFT, 2/19/17

1. Up at 7
2. Morning routine
3. Take out garbage
4. Gym time
5. Breakfast!
6. Read
7. Make lunch for DH
8. Clean of table
9. Make phone calls!!!!!!
10. Spend the afternoon with M
11. Ask Mom about vacuum
12. Dinner/Dishes(on my own for the night)
13. Work on stories
14. Bed by 12

I hope everyone has a great day! See you in the morning!

HGSmith0920 wrote: »

@biche896 Welcome!!! This a great and VERY active thread. Lol. Every day we support and encourage each other. If you are feeling down or weak or discouraged, come on here and we will definitely lift you up! Good job on the weekdays! We have a lot of people who fall off the wagon on weekends but we are all working on it. We know that this is a problem and we are actively working to fix it. I hope you stay long and have a good time!

Thank you! I'm already feeling so motivated, coming back here to check my list and see which ones I've ticked off so far! By the way, how do you guys add those ticks and crosses into the post?

I didn’t make it back on here last night as everything was so rushed when my ex brought the kids back home later than planned. Grrrr!
Recap goals for 18/2:

- get some exercise in ✅ skipped my usual morning workout as really needed a rest from weights etc (see below) and instead walked 5 miles in the sunshine! Which meant I ticked off three goals in one. Efficient!
- Get some rest ✅
- Pack and prep everything ready for a new week ✅
- try not to let the negativity of others affect me. Accept that I cannot fix everything and am not responsible for everything. ✅ my morning walk really helped me with a bit of thinking time and perspective. Things are still not great but I feel more accepting and calm about it.
- Try and get out in some sunshine (fingers crossed for nice weather). ✅
- Early night Nope. Starting the week tired.

Goals for 19/2:
- exercise before kids get up
- 15k+ steps
- 2ltr+ water
- Download pics and sort website copy
- Request time off for medical appointments
- Email School re L’s medical appts
- Stay in calorie goal
- Hot yoga???
- Early night - this has to happen!

Have a happy Monday all x

MLHC1 wrote: »

HGSmith0920 wrote: »

@MLHC1 I'm glad you are having time with your family this weekend. I hate how sometimes it does feel like we have to be superwomen! I know it's all for a good cause though. You can always come here and vent and share your experiences with us. It is helping me to understand and prepare for motherhood when we start having babies. I know that life can be crazy, I just hope I am up to the task! Lol. I know that you will lose the weight quickly after the baby comes. You are such a hard worker and I know that you love your elliptical! I hope that you have a great day today!

Thank you!! I'm just not sure you can ever fully prepare for having children, Lol!! I hope to lose the weight within a year bc hubby and I may want to have one more in a year. Then I'm closing up "shop."

Totally agree with this.
Nothing really can prepare you but once baby arrives you just kind of adapt to it pretty quickly lol! You won’t even know you had it in you!

After this pregnancy my shop is closed haha! I am SO done.