Less Alcohol - March 2018- One day at a Time
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Thanks @ulcaster, that was a great laugh for me to log into and see first thing. In both scenarios it is best to back away! LOL.ulcaster555 wrote: »Temptation was strong last night, She was slender, sexy and sleek
@Norminv you may have some competition in the humor department.
@JulieAL1969 your everyday life experiences with alcohol should be preserved. Maybe we will be reading the next self help book on alcohol written by you.
Damp evening last night with one blueberry twisted tea. TOO SWEET. BLAH!
Have a great day all.
I welcome the challenge 1 -
My goal this month is 2 moderate drinking days (1 baby shower and 1 birthday party) no late night glasses of wine at home. I haven't keep wine in the house since January and it's helped a lot but I could still be doing better.6
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My friend (drinking buddy, pre-2018) was over last night with a bottle of one of my favourite wines ... and a bag of lightly salted Ruffles (bless her!) No matter. I enjoyed my cran/soda with frozen pineapple as I poured the Wolf for her. I did feel a little wistful for the Wolf, but didn't see any benefit to joining her with that. The chips I could not resist eating continually --- one small one at a time. The damage assessment, however, was not too discouraging. Yet, had I been imbibing the Wolf, I would have had to eat a hefty Carbie-Barbie meal beforehand in addition to a lot more chips, and maybe even pizza later. I think I still need to make several adjustments to my diet and exercise habits to get where I want, but going AF helps a lot towards those goals.
If you are talking about Wolf Blass then you are a stronger woman than me and I take my hat off to you. Well done. I would definitely not have been able to resist it.5 -
My friend (drinking buddy, pre-2018) was over last night with a bottle of one of my favourite wines ... and a bag of lightly salted Ruffles (bless her!) No matter. I enjoyed my cran/soda with frozen pineapple as I poured the Wolf for her. I did feel a little wistful for the Wolf, but didn't see any benefit to joining her with that. The chips I could not resist eating continually --- one small one at a time. The damage assessment, however, was not too discouraging. Yet, had I been imbibing the Wolf, I would have had to eat a hefty Carbie-Barbie meal beforehand in addition to a lot more chips, and maybe even pizza later. I think I still need to make several adjustments to my diet and exercise habits to get where I want, but going AF helps a lot towards those goals.
If you are talking about Wolf Blass then you are a stronger woman than me and I take my hat off to you. Well done. I would definitely not have been able to resist it.
Yup, it was Wolf Blast Chardonnay.... truly it made me question the decision. But I remembered Holly's NQTD tattoo (Holly of the Hip Sobriety blog)
NQTD = "never question the decision"10 -
3 days AF! Brain fog lifting. The last three years have been drenched. March will be dry. I'm unable to be moderate which has led to weight gain. At 52, over-drinking just feels embarrassing and undisciplined...13
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Ok so I had 4 days in a row AF. Decided that I would try just one weekend day for wine and pizza. Well I felt awful this am and throughout the day. Maybe it's a coincidence and I just don't feel good but I'm just feeling done with it. No moderation for me.
Finished the Allen Carr book. Book review for those interested: I rate it as Meh. Maybe I just need to read it again. Basically, the gist of the book is we all are addicted with the first drink and that addiction is 1% physical and 99% mental. So you have to kill that mental part and there is basically no such thing as moderation.
Just ordered two more Kindle books. One is Alcohol Explained and one other one...can't remember the title. I'll let you all know how that one is since i know a bunch have already read Alcohol Explained.
I guess I'm different than most of you as I don't feel the need to explain why I'm not drinking when others are. If they ask, I will explain to those that I am friends with my reasons and the rest can just f@#$ off, lol!
Happy AF Saturday night folks!!6 -
I'm 35 AF 12
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Sober_Is_Sexy wrote: »Hey there, I keep seeing this thread pop up and just really debated on whether I should comment or not. I am actually a recovering alcoholic and have been sober for a year and a half. I wanted to say hello and also add that since I’ve gotten sober, the sky is the limit with my health and fitness goals. I’ve never felt and looked better. So I commend all of you! I for one know it’s not easy
Hello , I really like your username
it says alot in a few words. Very positive! (= and encouraging.
Now days u feel u have to b drunk to b sexy. But alot falls on your head if u arnt aware and sober and make sensible decisions.
I am very pleaded you came in to this thread you are an inspiration to us. thank u for your post.
Hi, and thank you for your inspiration. I am about 2 months sober and I am really loving life so much more. I didn't realize how alcohol was costing me so much loss in my life. I am also feeling better, losing weight, and noticed today that I did look sexier! LOL! I had forgotten what my body used to be like before drinking. I am conquering health and fitness goals, and finding personal growth in so many areas.
I don't really even want to drink at this point in my life.-I don't want to ruin what I am living.
Thank you again for your sharing and congrats to you!!! 7 -
@kittybenn That is such a tragic and sad story and I do thank you for sharing it. Just terrible. Drunk driving has very real consequences for all involved. Frankly, I think alcohol ignition locks should be standard on ALL cars but that would not go over well with the restaurant/alcohol industry and they would fight it tooth and nail. Anyway, I appreciate all the stories on here, good and bad, that remind us of why we want to set certain goals for ourselves.2
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My goal is more alcohol.
Which means that I might drink once every 10 days.2 -
ZetaEtaTheta wrote: »My goal this month is 2 moderate drinking days (1 baby shower and 1 birthday party) no late night glasses of wine at home. I haven't keep wine in the house since January and it's helped a lot but I could still be doing better.
That's an intense goal!
Good job on not keeping it in the house : )2 -
I feel the less I think abt alcohol, focus on other things and options, I dont struggle as bad.
At the moment I'm finding food is taking its place on the social days. Like today being Sunday social day, wasnt good in that aspect. But im not giving up !!
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MaryBethHempel wrote: »Sober_Is_Sexy wrote: »Hey there, I keep seeing this thread pop up and just really debated on whether I should comment or not. I am actually a recovering alcoholic and have been sober for a year and a half. I wanted to say hello and also add that since I’ve gotten sober, the sky is the limit with my health and fitness goals. I’ve never felt and looked better. So I commend all of you! I for one know it’s not easy
Hello , I really like your username it says alot in a few words. Very positive! (= and encouraging.
Now days u feel u have to b drunk to b sexy. But alot falls on your head if u arnt aware and sober and make sensible decisions.
I am very pleaded you came in to this thread you are an inspiration to us. thank u for your post.
Hi, and thank you for your inspiration. I am about 2 months sober and I am really loving life so much more. I didn't realize how alcohol was costing me so much loss in my life. I am also feeling better, losing weight, and noticed today that I did look sexier! LOL! I had forgotten what my body used to be like before drinking. I am conquering health and fitness goals, and finding personal growth in so many areas.
I don't really even want to drink at this point in my life.-I don't want to ruin what I am living.
Thank you again for your sharing and congrats to you!!!
Good on you!! Thats awesome!.. 1 -
Last night, had my mom over for diner, and i had a few glasses of wine, in the end turns it my mom drank way more then me, even walked home tipsy(she lives 2 streets over), it was hilarious to watch my mom loaded walking away from side to side and saying'' i'm fine i'm fine'' 1
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ulcaster555 wrote: »Last night, had my mom over for diner, and i had a few glasses of wine, in the end turns it my mom drank way more then me, even walked home tipsy(she lives 2 streets over), it was hilarious to watch my mom loaded walking away from side to side and saying'' i'm fine i'm fine''
Awww,...
.. meanie.. 
That reminds me of what i did to my old man. He had a scotch and Soda and he spilt it on the couch. So thought id be kind and pour him another. He took it and didn't say anything..
Unknown to me he had finished it and it was mainly ice so in the end he had two.
The sad and embarrassing thing was he could hardly stand up and had to be taken out to the car and driven home.
I NEVER forget that. I felt so mean.2 -
I'm addicted to green tea now.....great just great
I do not post much but I learn so much from this group.(Been here since Jan). But this morning I almost spit my coffee out laughing when I read your post. Being AF has made such a difference in my life, I hold a cup of coffee in the morning like it was liquid gold. I watch my tea pot boil like I am a witch watching her brew. Amazing how we all are experiencing life. Anyhow this just cracked me up. Great job everyone. And to all those that get up at 6:30 am or sooner on a Sunday Good morning, I normally would be in bed till 11:00 am. My 2 day weekends have now become 4 since I have so much time on my hands. I do moderate but my goals are only 1 x a week. Hoping to hit that goal this month and doing well with my goal.6 -
ulcaster555 wrote: »it was hilarious to watch my mom loaded walking away from side to side and saying'' i'm fine i'm fine''
It sounds very sad
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ulcaster555 wrote: »Last night, had my mom over for diner, and i had a few glasses of wine, in the end turns it my mom drank way more then me, even walked home tipsy(she lives 2 streets over), it was hilarious to watch my mom loaded walking away from side to side and saying'' i'm fine i'm fine''
I don't get the joke. Most of us have been there at one time or another and it wasn't fun or funny.2 -
Good morning friends! Yesterday, I had a wonderful day. Started with a beautiful meal at an Italian restaurant. Eggplant parmesan and Diet Pepsi- not a perfect match but good enough. Next, I went to see exchibit at a museum. Saw a champagne social event at the museum. I never did enjoy champagne but saw many young people sipping and walking around.
Finally, a surprise visit from my college aged son. Drove around for an hour looking for a table at a restaurant. Any restaurant would have worked. They were all full. Felt stress creeping in on my shoulders, headache was forming....
But never did turn to alcohol. I get depleted and my nerves ache after a long day of hustle and bustle. I need my quiet time, and yesterday I had none, hence the monster headache that formed in the back of my head. Husband had two beers during dinner. I told my college son that I quit drinking on Jan. 1st. He had a big smile and said "good job mom" and gave me a fist bump. He never drinks. And I am so thankful for that. And I pray he never does!
As I sat with him, I thought of the times I was drunk or tipsy in front of him over the years, After neighborhood parties and dinners. Even at Easter last year, I threw up late that evening from the bottle of wine. Such shameful memories started to flow in my mind. I stopped them quickly. We just cant dwell in the past. All the mistakes we made cannot be undone. Forgive ourselves and move on. Be mindful of today. It's all we have.
Today is Day 62 AF. Feeling wonderful in a thousand ways- healthier, skinnier, calmer, able to handles stress so much better without a crutch, clearer thinking..the list goes on. I am sure no one ever regrets quitting alcohol. They just regret ever going back to it. Love you all! Love reading your tales and stories.
P.s. The cravings do go away eventually. The taste for it is gone. Sober living is so much better. Even at a mere 62 days, I feel transformed.
Pss. I still may have a few drinks on St. Patrick's Day. Like my sister said to me, "Just be sober 99.9 percent of the time." That relieves a lot of pressure because I don't want to disappoint my friends on this thread.13 -
OK, I'm in. I won't make my food diary public because I'm embarrassed by my daily martini intake. Last summer I went 2 months AF and felt great, slept better and didn't miss it. Not sure yet if I want to be completely AF or just damp, but I know it will be easier to keep to my daily diet goals without alcohol.
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »Such shameful memories started to flow in my mind. I stopped them quickly. We just cant dwell in the past.
@JulieAL1969 - You continue to inspire! Your comment made me think of so many of my own shameful memories that I almost physically flinched. But you're so right, we can't dwell on them and we need to move on. I know you're also right about people not regretting quitting alcohol. I don't know if I'm just more aware of them now, but suddenly seem to be hearing a lot of very scary stories about folks drinking to excess and the sometimes serious and awful consequences.
I've happy to say I'm having the most moderate weekend since my Dry January, at least so far. Two glasses of wine, one Friday and one Saturday. Probably one or two more tonight at a family dinner. I'm so happy with my new life that I'm having to stop myself from evangelizing about it to friends, which is pretty obnoxious, LOL!
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angelacatheart wrote: »I made it 82 days last year AF, and that was my longest streak in the past few years since I have been tracking. I previously made it to 55 and 59 days before. Anyway, I wish I hadn't had wine at my birthday in October 2017, as that set me back on the path of drinking wine again, pizza, and weight gain.
I'm on day 26 now, and I'm shooting for 100 days, but I'd like to keep going. Wine equals eating too much equals weight gain for me. It seems like I can't moderate. And as much as I love wine, it has to go if I want to lose weight and keep it off. Plus, most of my life's regrets are associated with alcohol. That should be enough motivation in itself, right? I am starting the Naked Mind, and will continue to stay in touch with this thread.
I just want other people who are out there reading this thread to know you are not alone!
Such a poignant reflection! Congratulations on day 26. That is amazing. You've worked through cravings successfully. Yes, most of my life's regrets and bad decisions are involved with alcohol. It's so nice waking up in the morning, without thinking poorly about what I did or said while I was drinking. I think some of us cannot moderate. I'm with you.4 -
JulieAL1969 wrote: »Such shameful memories started to flow in my mind. I stopped them quickly. We just cant dwell in the past.
@JulieAL1969 - You continue to inspire! Your comment made me think of so many of my own shameful memories that I almost physically flinched. But you're so right, we can't dwell on them and we need to move on. I know you're also right about people not regretting quitting alcohol. I don't know if I'm just more aware of them now, but suddenly seem to be hearing a lot of very scary stories about folks drinking to excess and the sometimes serious and awful consequences.
I've happy to say I'm having the most moderate weekend since my Dry January, at least so far. Two glasses of wine, one Friday and one Saturday. Probably one or two more tonight at a family dinner. I'm so happy with my new life that I'm having to stop myself from evangelizing about it to friends, which is pretty obnoxious, LOL!
Thanks! I giggled when you said you are having to stop yourself from evangelizing! Me, too. I was telling my friend how great I feel, and he stopped me and said, "I'm happy for you. But I don't ever want to quit." I replied that's fine with me. To each his own. Xo2 -
Scarlettknits wrote: »OK, I'm in. I won't make my food diary public because I'm embarrassed by my daily martini intake. Last summer I went 2 months AF and felt great, slept better and didn't miss it. Not sure yet if I want to be completely AF or just damp, but I know it will be easier to keep to my daily diet goals without alcohol.
Just a thought: Make your food diary public and it may just be the tipping point towards moderating.
May be good motivation knowing your friends can see your martinis total. Good luck! Happy you are in!
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Ok so I had 4 days in a row AF. Decided that I would try just one weekend day for wine and pizza. Well I felt awful this am and throughout the day. Maybe it's a coincidence and I just don't feel good but I'm just feeling done with it. No moderation for me.
Finished the Allen Carr book. Book review for those interested: I rate it as Meh. Maybe I just need to read it again. Basically, the gist of the book is we all are addicted with the first drink and that addiction is 1% physical and 99% mental. So you have to kill that mental part and there is basically no such thing as moderation.
Just ordered two more Kindle books. One is Alcohol Explained and one other one...can't remember the title. I'll let you all know how that one is since i know a bunch have already read Alcohol Explained.
I guess I'm different than most of you as I don't feel the need to explain why I'm not drinking when others are. If they ask, I will explain to those that I am friends with my reasons and the rest can just f@#$ off, lol!
Happy AF Saturday night folks!!
Ahhh that's awful to feel awful on a weekend. Today is a new day. Sometimes we just need to keep relearning these life lessons to make them sink in.
I read about 2 percent of drinkers cannot moderate. There are several of us like that, too. Xo
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Like a few people on here, I can't really moderate. Love the analogy "if you are on the train track, it's not the caboose that kills you, it's the engine" meaning don't have that first one. Was feeling sorely tempted yesterday so I re read a part of Alcohol Explained. I swear, just open it anywhere and it will scare you into staying dry. It's become my bible.9
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Just had a weepy discussion with my son. It concerned a high school friend of his, a gorgeous, talented artist with two teenage kids about my son's kids' age. He'd fallen out of touch with her, but about a month ago noticed a post by her on Facebook. She'd always been a beautiful woman but he was shocked at how awful she looked all of a sudden. She's in her mid 40s, but had developed a very bad drinking problem and looked like she was much older. And she didn't look healthy at all. A couple of weeks ago, she was driving while drunk, ran up on a sidewalk and killed someone. She will likely be in prison the rest of her life. My son and I talked about the truly awful ripple effects on her kids, the rest of her family, her friends and, most importantly, the person who's now dead and all of his family and friends. Both of us started crying while we were talking about it.
And it really drove home to me -- again -- how drinking to excess is completely incompatible with a healthy, safe, happy life. I'm moderating and handling it well right now, but hearing about something like that is enough to make you consider going completely AF.
That is so tragic and heartbreaking. Death, prison, guilt, shame, horror, sadness, loss of life, etc. All caused by a toxic poison that we all seem to enjoy and think we need to have a good time.
Your story of your son's classmate is so eye-opening. It's a sobering tale:(
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MorningRunner65 wrote: »I am new to MFP and it sounds like this is a great group to join. After my college years and getting married I did not drink - 22 years later, a social drinker and now a stressed out social drinker. I used to run every morning and participated in some long races, and a few marathons for a good cause. I felt great - when training the weight came right off. Amazing. But now at age 50 plus, drinking is a great way to gain and gain I did. I gained about 45 pounds in two years. Uggggh! I am disappointed in myself and how I just let it creep up on me. I live in a climate where it is winter for about 3-4 months out of the year. Spring is now on the way....I have convinced myself to hit the road with a few miles, here and there and put in some Pilates and weight routines as well. Every morning when I wake I say - "Today I will not drink any alcohol...." However, by the end of the day - tada - there is my little friend....Ugh. So my goal is to get fit, change habitual thinking and drinking, and keep myself immersed is a different activity now that the weather is getting more pleasant. I am keeping a personal journal and realize it is a 'one day at a time' thing. . Changing habits and my way of thinking is going to be difficult - but I know I can do it. I looked up the calories in each drink / beer, etc. and WOWeee for what I am consuming it is additional calories and sugar I can do without. I need a different stress outlet - Running clears the mind and keeps the thinking fresh - that will be my focus this Spring. Consistency and determination. I may fall down to my own disappointment, but I refuse to stay down. I know this will get better. Life is a roller coaster for certain - it's great to know MFP has great people and support on line.
Love hearing from you. You are on the right track! Back to running and getting fit. Journaling is a wonderful tool for reflection. Read a lot of alcohol books, blogs, watch videos. Stay vigilant. It's a defensive game in a way. Many of us have armed ourselves with tea and Kombucha (spelling) and coffee and beautiful mocktails. We are here for you.3 -
thetaminator wrote: »3 days AF! Brain fog lifting. The last three years have been drenched. March will be dry. I'm unable to be moderate which has led to weight gain. At 52, over-drinking just feels embarrassing and undisciplined...
Last three years drenched! Me, too. Like a runaway train!
I'm nearly 50 and am feeling like you that it's just becoming embarrassing that I can't hold my liquor or moderate. Great point!2
frog prince. My green juices probably has the same side effect
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