A married man lied to me?

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  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    So he started sleeping around when his wife was still healing from her pregnancy cause he just had to have some *kitten*?
  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    corinasue1143 wrote: »
    marissafit06 wrote: »
    happilybrad wrote: »
    XxQueenMxX wrote: »
    Is this real? Are u bored and just playing a jokes on us???
    Ok, if not. Then yes girl... you're the side chick *insert eye roll here*. If he really wanted a real relationship with u he would do all those things you mentioned he doesn't do, but most importantly HE WOULDN'T BE LIVING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.

    That he shares children with.

    maybe he's broke AF and can't afford his own place.

    So do you meet him for lunch, and you pay?

    Eta: and who buys his supper?

    He comes over to her place for a bj and then she makes lunch obvi.

  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    Well he isn't technically married but he lives with the mother of his children and 2 kids.When we met he told me that he is the process of separating but is just trying to figure out what's best of their children.I believed him .

    We've been seeing each other for year and he still lives with her.He only see me during his work hours,he hasn't spend a night with me.He ignored valentine's day and he has never bought me any presents.He claims that he would want to spend more time with me it's hard because his kids are very young and require all his attention

    Lately I've been feeling bad about the situation I'm in.I wonder if they are still intimate and it's constantly in back of mind...wondering if they are still together.Did he lie to me?Why do I feel so bad

    Well, whether he is lying about seperating for over a year (vote for lying) the relationship is not what you want.
    Move on to someone without attatchments.
  • xFunctionalStrengthx
    xFunctionalStrengthx Posts: 4,928 Member
    SabotageinStilettos wrote: »
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    SabotageinStilettos wrote: »
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    marissafit06 wrote: »
    Sweetheart - he doesn't care enough about you to make time for you on a regular basis. I work 70+ hour weeks and still make time to see my kids and go to the gym. I wanted to slot in some rando peen I would find a way and could give him a night every now and then. Even if they aren't still together, he is treating you like *kitten* and you deserve more.

    Thinking back,he hasn't spend any real time with me.He claims it is hard because of his kids as they are under 2 years old

    Both kids are under 2 years old but you’ve been sleeping with him for over a year now? What is wrong with you?

    They are twins and yes I realize I need therapy

    Therapy, yes. Maybe even a lobotomy. You’re a side piece. A literal lunch break side piece.

    I've only read the first post and skipped to the last. But, I agree with @SabotageinStilettos You need to break it off. and stop seeing him. Simple as that.

    As bad as it sounds, you aren't that important to him. He's been using the young kids bit (common tactic for cheating people) to make you think he's caring for you, yet being responsible. When someone is important to another person, they find time to be with that person. My schedule is literally insanely busy. But, if I met someone that I really wanted to be with, I'd find ways to free up time to be with her. It might take a month or two. But, she would know, and see that I really am wanting to spend time with her and it's slowly increasing.

    Cut the cord, and watch him fall away. I'd recommend setting up an appointment and seeing a therapist for a bit since it's so difficult to break the bad habit that he is.
  • change_gonna_come_1_day
    change_gonna_come_1_day Posts: 87 Member
    Yes you are way better than that. Let him go.
  • willnorton
    willnorton Posts: 995 Member
    xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
    SabotageinStilettos wrote: »
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    SabotageinStilettos wrote: »
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    marissafit06 wrote: »
    Sweetheart - he doesn't care enough about you to make time for you on a regular basis. I work 70+ hour weeks and still make time to see my kids and go to the gym. I wanted to slot in some rando peen I would find a way and could give him a night every now and then. Even if they aren't still together, he is treating you like *kitten* and you deserve more.

    Thinking back,he hasn't spend any real time with me.He claims it is hard because of his kids as they are under 2 years old

    Both kids are under 2 years old but you’ve been sleeping with him for over a year now? What is wrong with you?

    They are twins and yes I realize I need therapy

    Therapy, yes. Maybe even a lobotomy. You’re a side piece. A literal lunch break side piece.

    I've only read the first post and skipped to the last. But, I agree with @SabotageinStilettos You need to break it off. and stop seeing him. Simple as that.

    As bad as it sounds, you aren't that important to him. He's been using the young kids bit (common tactic for cheating people) to make you think he's caring for you, yet being responsible. When someone is important to another person, they find time to be with that person. My schedule is literally insanely busy. But, if I met someone that I really wanted to be with, I'd find ways to free up time to be with her. It might take a month or two. But, she would know, and see that I really am wanting to spend time with her and it's slowly increasing.

    Cut the cord, and watch him fall away. I'd recommend setting up an appointment and seeing a therapist for a bit since it's so difficult to break the bad habit that he is.

    amen brother
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    4 pages is tame. Dare I bring up the what is thick thread that went on and on and then sprouted another thread too. THICK. :lol:
  • FabulousFantasticFifty
    FabulousFantasticFifty Posts: 195,832 Member
    Oh Honey.................... :#
  • positivepowers
    positivepowers Posts: 902 Member
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    XxQueenMxX wrote: »
    Is this real? Are u bored and just playing a jokes on us???
    Ok, if not. Then yes girl... you're the side chick *insert eye roll here*. If he really wanted a real relationship with u he would do all those things you mentioned he doesn't do, but most importantly HE WOULDN'T BE LIVING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.

    Sadly it is real...I want to end it but idk.I have fallen for him which makes it hard to walk away.If I could take it back I wouldn't have gotten involved in the first place.I hate what I've done to myself

    I can't imagine falling for a piece of crap like this, but here's my two cents. He's giving you something that you need or you would scrape him off like *kitten* off your shoe. Instead of allowing him to use you this way, find your spine and your self-esteem and RUN, DON'T WALK to the nearest counselor/psychologist to find out why you are playing his game. This is to make sure that you don't fall for the next a$$hat who gives you some stupid story about how he's going to leave his wife (or whatever) and marry you.

    Here's another good argument about running the other way, moving to a new city and changing your phone number to get away from him: He wasn't faithful to her; he won't be to you. He's probably incapable of love and fidelity.
  • CaptainFantastic01
    CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member
    marissafit06 wrote: »
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    Well he isn't technically married but he lives with the mother of his children and 2 kids.When we met he told me that he is the process of separating but is just trying to figure out what's best of their children.I believed him .

    We've been seeing each other for year and he still lives with her.He only see me during his work hours,he hasn't spend a night with me.He ignored valentine's day and he has never bought me any presents.He claims that he would want to spend more time with me it's hard because his kids are very young and require all his attention

    Lately I've been feeling bad about the situation I'm in.I wonder if they are still intimate and it's constantly in back of mind...wondering if they are still together.Did he lie to me?Why do I feel so bad

    Why not find some single guy who isn't a liar.

    They're out there, right?

    Nah, all men are lying trash

    Ow. Fair. But ow
  • CaptainFantastic01
    CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    How the *kitten* did this go 4 pages?

    Right??
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  • Momepro
    Momepro Posts: 1,509 Member
    Depends on what you want. Do you want a no strings relationship, where he uses you on his,schedule, and you get whatever you are already getting out of it, but nothing more? Or do you want a caring, respectful relationship with someone who is more interested in you than sex?
    Either is fine, as long as you are both on the same page, and happy with how things are. What you have now is the first. It will never be the second. If you want the second instead of the first, then it is time to look elsewhere.
  • Smilin40
    Smilin40 Posts: 1,828 Member
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  • SabAteNine
    SabAteNine Posts: 1,867 Member
    Yes.
  • Deisler26
    Deisler26 Posts: 357 Member
    Drop the M***erf**ker like Drizzy's latest mixtape
  • h1udd
    h1udd Posts: 623 Member
    I think its time to woman up and drop this one ... there are 7billion people in this world, pretty sure you can find someone else
  • manderson27
    manderson27 Posts: 3,510 Member
    My friend wasted 7 years......7 whole fricken years!!! of her life on a man just like this.

    I begged, pleaded, cajoled, ranted, reasoned and shouted at her to drop him but she wouldn't because she told me "I love him so much". Then he left his wife for another woman the he had only known for a few months.

    Please don't waste another moment on this man, he does not care about you.
  • amluckhurst
    amluckhurst Posts: 40 Member
    I can't comment much on his status or circumstances as I don't know the full story. But warning bells ring if you can't phone his home number/see him during 'social time' ie evenings and weekends, and there are no plans to progress the relationship with you.
    Sounds like he's got the penny and the bun.
    You know it, so beware of fooling yourself. Take a deep breath, put your big girl knickers on and sort your relationship parameters out, or you'll be used forever.
  • Deisler26
    Deisler26 Posts: 357 Member
    ilovetrees145 wrote: »

    I am SHOCKED I tell you. Just SHOCKED. A man lied about being married?! This is inconceivable. Next you are going to tell me that calories really do count if you drink diet soda with your meal.
    https://youtu.be/P8cxRnz0G14
  • sportychic87
    sportychic87 Posts: 214 Member
    ilfaith wrote: »
    He's not leaving her for you.
    They almost never do.
    And when they do,
    they turn around and do
    the exact same thing to you.

    Word.
    Just walk away. He’s not worth it. I can guarantee you that the mother of his children will take precedence no matter what. As someone else said: Why not visit him at his place when she’s home? If you can’t, then they’re together. He’s using you in the worst way possible.
  • princess7955
    princess7955 Posts: 1,277 Member
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  • sportychic87
    sportychic87 Posts: 214 Member
    Somebody had to say it^
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
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  • Cutemesoon
    Cutemesoon Posts: 2,646 Member
    edited March 2018
    Just walk away. He’s not worth it. I can guarantee you that the mother of his children will take precedence no matter what. As someone else said: Why not visit him at his place when she’s home? If you can’t, then they’re together. He’s using you in the worst way possible.[/quote]
    @sportychic87
    From everything she's described thus far, she probably doesn't even know where he lives! :/

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