What nobody tells you about losing weight
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MistressSara wrote: »No one told me the target would keep moving, that good enough would no longer be good enough for me.
I wanted relief from aches & pains & to look "normal."
Then I wanted to be somewhat "fit."
Now I think I'm reaching for something beyond average. I'm not quite sure what it is yet, but it ain't mediocrity.
This is how I have been feeling lately, I am 51 and in better shape than the past 25 years and love seeing muscles and fitting into smaller clothes and makes me want to re adjust my goals
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How much psychology plays into overeating for some people (me). Everyone who says who you are doesn't change when you lose is right.
I'm bouncing around 241 right now. The lowest I've ever gotten was in the 230s, eight years ago. I know why: I'm eating too much because I'm afraid to get thinner, because if I get thinner I might have to like and feel good about myself.
Isn't that sad?
I'll get over this hump, because it's my mom's voice in my head telling me I don't deserve to feel good about myself, and by *kitten* I can't let her win!
It's frustrating right now when I keep sabotaging myself on purpose though. Today was a good day, I exercised and will come in under my calories. Tomorrow can be a good day too.
Good explanation of the mental challenges that come with weight loss. One of the things I anticipated most about getting to goal weight was not having to think about my eating all the time, then I realized, "I can make that change now." So I'm trying to put my food choices in perspective, strive for an 80/20 balance and view my weight loss with pride and no shame.18 -
That *some* stretch marks might become MORE prominent. Some of the worst ones have mostly faded now from my stomach but now I'm noticing some old, silver ones in my arm pits that I didn't even know I had.12
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I found scars on my knee caps—my husband knew they were there but I hadn’t been able to see them.4
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jeannemarie333 wrote: »Much more energy and clothes fit better. No one told me I would need to log every single meal and morsel and be committed to doing that in order to lose weight.
Before loosing 102 lbs, finding clothes that fit was a real challenge. Shirts were too tight at the belly or too wide at the shoulder. Pants too small at the waist or it the waist was ok then they had to be super baggy.
I did not expect “standard” clothes to fit well, especially when I was considering custom-tailored garnements at one time!
It bugs me more that I can find more clothes in my old sizes (3XL) than I can in L. Especially when I see sale items. All the L's are gone but loads of 2XL or 3XL.12 -
How much room there will be between your lap, stomach, and the steering wheel, it feels further away
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I’ve lost 25 pounds since last year and found many of the same things already posted. The weirdest thing for me was being able to go bra-less comfortably. After being pregnant or breastfeeding or 50 pounds overweight my entire adult life, I wore a bra every waking moment. Now it’s not an emergency the moment I wake up to slap some supportive underwire on.
Also, while I can’t really see a difference in my face in the mirror or camera, it feels very different when I touch it. Jawline and and around my forehead are bone instead of marshmallow.23 -
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That *some* stretch marks might become MORE prominent. Some of the worst ones have mostly faded now from my stomach but now I'm noticing some old, silver ones in my arm pits that I didn't even know I had.
The ones on my tummy and thighs look like claw marks from a werewolf.
Also, no one memtioned loose skin can be very hard to distinguish from fat if you're not used to it. I play with it and my husband grins and says, "Skin, honey. Skin. Not what you think." **It's still fun to squish it. LOL**18 -
mommyvalarie wrote: »I can't eat empty carbs any more without taking a nap afterwards! I'm 1/4 of the way to my goal, but now that I eat healthy out of habit, if I have to eat something fried (I was working the snack bar at little league and forgot to bring food) It just kills me! I would rather be hungry
Same here. My stomach feels horrible after eating unhealthy foods and I get sleeping.6 -
That the old clothes I kept in boxes all these years hoping to wear some day would be out of date by the time I was skinny enough. Oh well... Will buy new ones.24
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The places where the skin that gets looser as you loose weight starts to rub 4
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carasnewlife wrote: »That the old clothes I kept in boxes all these years hoping to wear some day would be out of date by the time I was skinny enough. Oh well... Will buy new ones.
They'll come back in fashion! I was in the mall with my mom and she said "did they find warehouses of left overs form the 70s? I swear I HAD this shirt"17 -
Wow them are all things I have to look forward to.6
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canyonGeek wrote: »That people will treat you better, and you’ll think less of them for it. Not just some people, nearly everyone, family friends and strangers. That it’s easy to become cynical and jaded by this but very important not to. Happiness depends on it.
Omg!!! Yes...now all of a sudden you're a person who deserves respect and acknowledgment. Like you didn't before??? Hard not to be angry
Yes, people, especially men that wouldn't give you the time of day, before you lost weight, now hit on you. .grrrr17 -
Urg.
Shar Pei butt is a thing...14 -
You get sad boobs, you feel the cold more, you can cross your legs and sit like a lady and sweat way less which is great as I live in a sub-tropical climate!
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newlifeambitions wrote: »You get sad boobs, you feel the cold more, you can cross your legs and sit like a lady and sweat way less which is great as I live in a sub-tropical climate!
The last time I lost weight I got sad boobs too but once I included more chest exercises in my workouts they perked back up!
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I empathize with all the people who have commented about how much of this weight loss thing is mental and emotional, though funnily, my brain seems to be the opposite of most. I started reading this thread from the very beginning a few weeks ago and I think I was up to about page 75 before I saw a comment that resembled my situation. While so many have shared how long it has taken for their minds to catch up with their bodies and, for example, not knowing what to do when someone randomly hit on them, etc., I—who have been doing this only a month and have purposely eased into it so have only lost a couple of inches from my waist and nothing anywhere else—found myself making eye contact with a couple of guys while walking down the street last week, and when their expressions didn't register much interest, I remember thinking, 'No no, you're mistaken, I look great!'
Any other future megalomaniacs out there, who are just waiting for their bodies to catch up with their minds, and who have possibly been doing the world a favour by suppressing their giant egos under layers of fat all these years?
I wrote the above back in June. Now, roughly 30 pounds down (total; maybe 20-25 from when I wrote this) I'm ACTUALLY getting looked at on the street instead of imagining it
I mean, I'm only at the top of the 'overweight' section of the BMI chart now so it's not as if I'm getting gawked at like a supermodel or anything, but it HAS happened. More than once now. And in real life.
Hahahaha I'm 50 lbs down with about 70 more to go, and I'm already a full on megalomaniac I like to think of myself as cute and short and ~thicc~, thanks to my hips that seem to be hereditary (which I don't mind). I've become so vain my catholic teachers would be ashamed to say that I went through their school system. I feel sorry for friends and family that are having to deal with this egotistical monster 
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MistressSara wrote: »No one told me the target would keep moving, that good enough would no longer be good enough for me.
I wanted relief from aches & pains & to look "normal."
Then I wanted to be somewhat "fit."
Now I think I'm reaching for something beyond average. I'm not quite sure what it is yet, but it ain't mediocrity.
THIS!! I’m only 6 weeks into my program and I already know I want more than I originally thought I wanted.14 -
Another thing I have thought of, that if you loose a lot of weight, during the process you need to really looksfter your hair, as it will suffer under the calorie deficit. Mine is much finer now11
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Another thing I have thought of, that if you loose a lot of weight, during the process you need to really looksfter your hair, as it will suffer under the calorie deficit. Mine is much finer now
I don't know anything about your calorie allotment or how you're going about this, but just in case, I thought I'd mention that for some, when hair suffers it has been a sign of an overly aggressive caloric deficit. Possible food for thought? But on the other end of things you could try a vitamin supplement?
As for myself, nobody told me (though I should have known) that when, in my early 40s I got my weight back to where it was in my early 20s it would not mean my body looked the same as then. Gravity is my master now and loose skin started happening by the time I hit around 40 pounds lost. I know it'll improve, especially once I've improved my fitness on the muscles front but still. On the upside, for no apparent reason I have a more defined waist now than I did at this weight in my 20s. My hips are wider now so the weight is there rather than on my spare tire.16 -
Nobody told me my hands would get so "veiny".19
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Does anyone else have times when they workout for months with no weight loss, but then over night you lose all of the weight you should have lost?
I’ve been getting stronger and eating healthy but my body composition has barely changed. Then over night I lost nearly 8lbs and a layer of fat.29 -
Mikeyiscool182 wrote: »Does anyone else have times when they workout for months with no weight loss, but then over night you lose all of the weight you should have lost?
I’ve been getting stronger and eating healthy but my body composition has barely changed. Then over night I lost nearly 8lbs and a layer of fat.
I really hope this happens to me. It's been 4 weeks of increased strength training, calorie deficit and zero losses for me.11 -
Going to the gym or doing a home work out with your SO is actually a fun date night!17
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