WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2018

afternoon ladies~
I basically didnt do squat today.. which feels good,
did go look at a apt that my son is thinking of renting...found out he brings home about 800.00 a month... and the place he would rent has a 6x 5 ft kitched a tiny bathroom and maybe a 8x8 bedroom thats, it, the other side is a bit bigger but that is 600.00 a month.. Sean found a job at Aldi's warehouse about 1/2 hr away from here that starts at 18.00-22.00 an hr, paid vacations,ins everything.. he is 33 yrs old and has to come to the realization that he has been riding on everyones coat tails and now he has to live in the real world.
Tom tried calling me and I didnt answer, I am at the point that if I am paying mucho bucks for my attorney , it will be taken care of by her.

Karen love the flowers.

Heather sounds like a good plan.

Even after one therapy visit as a family we are learning the how difficult it is to communicate. Overall we were very respectful to each other. It was good to hear my older son defend our younger son in how his grandmother on DH side treated him. She had Alzheimer's and took some of her frustration out on him. He is one not to complain, so I think his pain being acknowledge was one of the good things that came out of our first session.

Boundaries and communication were not a strong suit in my family growing up.

Janetr having worked with children for over twenty years as an educator I am for anyone speaking up for children. It is difficult for children to have a voice. I say keep up your passion they need you.

I too replied strongly to what happened to Heather. I would do it again. I just wish someone had been there to defend her when it happened.

I unfortunately do have times even as a substitute when students complain of inappropriate touch by a classmate. I believe them and defend them. It is important for them to speak up and not accept this kind of behavior.

Margaret

Janetr I wish you would tell us more about the memories that were triggered by Heather's abuse. Instead of taking it back, plunge in and fill in the details as much as you can stand to. I get so furious when I think about children being abused.

Katla You should have been allowed to attend your cousin's funeral. It was a mistake not to trust you to be able to handle it.

Margaret Thanks! My granddaughter was here yesterday so we went out to cut daffodils and look at moss.

Karen in Virginia

Oh bugger I wish I knew how to post pics from my tablet to MFP! Frustrating!
Becca
Tech stupid at the moment
In Oregon.

Heather, you said your son was going to counseling which is wonderful. Is that a possible place where you could tell him and he would have any support he needed right there? Just a thought.

(((Machka)))

Spent the morning hemming the bedroom curtains. They have bugged me for so long (no pun intended). Glad they are finally done. Also up and down stairs doing laundry today. For just two people we sure can generate a lot of dirty clothes.

Well that’s about all my brain can handle tonight.

Hope everyone had a good day.

Terry in VT where today it felt like spring!

Evie – whenever I can, I try to preportion out my food. It’s so handy, as you’ve found. Good for you!

BeachLife – welcome!

The other day I posted on facebook “my pool is all ready for St. Patrick’s Day and I didn’t even have to add any dye!” Do you know that Pete’s mother didn’t understand that I was referring to the fact that algae had grown in the pool over the summer? Denise had to explain it to her. She actually thought we had the pool open! Guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree 

Allie – so sorry about the teapot, especially with it being so sentimental

Nite all!

Michele in NC

Machka- Thank you for touching base. Prayers to all the ladies who are patiently waiting for healing husbands.

So sorry to hear of the losses everyone is experiencing. This week I have heard of 4 deaths of people I was acquainted with.;( One of them was a former customer and veteran. He was honored at the WTU banquet last night. Remember to be kind to one another, we don't know what might happen tomorrow.

One of the things I love about all you ladies is your support and sharing. We all need an outlet that is safe for us. Please keep sharing!

Life is a little crazy right now. Springtime in a mower shop (in spite of Mother Nature's temper tantrums..... Son in law possibly leaving for a new job I asked my SIL if she even asked him about it. She said no, we can't meet what he will be making. I am not the boss, so am not in a position to say much, but I know of two things that would make him stay. If she or my husband would ask, I would be happy to suggest. It seems really ignorant to allow an employee to leave that is good at his job and you've spent two years training, and not offer an alternative-SMH! It isn't like folks are beating down the door for a job that is 50 hours a week and requires getting dirty. Renter of 12 years moving out. Lots of work. Did get most of kitchen and entryway flooring taken up and put back down today.





My husband asked me to get before pictures, I forgot, so got during pictures The last two are after pictures. I am excited to get the new lights in as well as the carpet, and the new linoleum in the bathrooms. I really wouldn't mind putting this vinyl planks in bathrooms, but just don't have the time. We spent 8 hours working on it, then found out we are about 4 planks short....bummers. Still have to figure out trim work. But am pleased with a project well done with my DH! No hollering, bossing, or yelling. We asked questions and gave suggestions. All in all a successful day. All done on an empty stomach. The pancakes just didn't carry us over very long, but didn't want to stop since next time we can go over is Wednesday. My knees are achy tonight just from getting up and down so much. Laundry is going so we will have work stuffs tomorrow. Still haven't made it to grocery. May just have to put that in the plans for tomorrow evening.

Time to get ready for bed. (((HUGS)))

Kylia sleepy in Ohio

Wendy, great photos! So glad you've found some one to talk to! It really is awesome to find a kindred spirit!
Barbie how lovely that you have your life just the way you like it!
Kylia, that floor looks amazing!
Decent day today, so happy to not be working tomorrow! I'm tired. Still have to get up early tomorrow to get to my TRX class, but that's okay, the rest of the day is open. Well, sort of. I do have some stuff around the house that I need to catch up on.
That's it for me! Hope everyone has a great day!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island

Allie: WTG!!! "Tom tried calling me and I didn't answer, I am at the point that if I am paying mucho bucks for my attorney , it will be taken care of by her."


Karen: "Katla You should have been allowed to attend your cousin's funeral. It was a mistake not to trust you to be able to handle it." Thank you for standing up for me. I should have been at my cousin's funeral. :broken_heart;



I've been reading Amazons and Swallows books, written by British author, Arthur Ransome. This one is called Swallowdale. It is part of a series. I have all of these books and love them. It has been a few years since I read this one. It is set in Coniston Waters, GB, between the world wars. I love these books. The girls are as brave, smart and strong as the boys. I recommend the set.

Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!" -Audrey Hepburn

Plan to have a run after lunch. I'm now reading my 15th running book! I've also read 5 or 6 alcohol books . I will run up to one pub, back down to another pub and back up to home. I won't go into either of the pubs. :laugh:

Barbie - I'm like you. I now have the life I always wanted. Part of that is just luck and part of it I worked for. All of it could change in the blink of an eye. I am grateful for what I have.
Things I love every day:

My wonderful husband
My health
The people I love - family and friends
My fitness and exercise
My writing
My plans for moving
My almost AF life
Self discipline
This thread

There are many, many more, including a diet that I love and enjoy. Self discipline sounds a bit weird, but it is a largely new joy for me, as I spent most of my life 'winging it' and unhappily trying to catch up with myself. Now I am at peace with myself.
I'm not sure what was the final piece that slotted into place. It could be finishing the memoir. It could be conquering the alcohol demon, it could be the new passion for running, but something has shifted this year and I feel stronger.
I am so aware that it could change, through no fault of mine, in an instant, so I am far from complacent. But I do have a little island of peace for the moment.
My word for 2018 was EMBRACE.

Not to forget DON'T LET THE PERFECT BE THE ENEMY OF THE GOOD Getting better at that.

Wendy - Looks like such fun!

Allie - WTG! We are with you today.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

Kylia - The floor looks great! I really like it.

We need to do the flooring in our house. Part of my hesitation is cost, part is not knowing if we will be staying here for a decent amount of time (hubs job could force a move), part is the mess and shuffling of all the furniture required to do it. We lived through re-flooring the whole downstairs of our former house, we slept in the formal living room for 3-4 days (with our bed set up in there while they did our bedroom suite). We could do it again here, but geez, the mess, the intrusion, the money. Then there is also the decisions to make, I would really prefer wood (wide plank, distressed) because it is much easier for me to take care of than ceramic. However, wood look ceramic would be much cheaper and for most people, easier to take care of. All my friends say I am crazy that wood is easier to take care of. Then there is the question of what floor we replace. Hubs just wants to replace what is now ceramic with new ceramic. I want to rip up the whole house (which is wood that I love and would like to put in the whole house) in two bedrooms, cork in the master, carpet in two bedrooms, ugly (to me) formal wood in the dining and living room and ceramic in the rest. I think having the same floor through the whole house would be a great selling point for later. I think we will probably compromise with replacing the tile that is here, the two carpeted bedrooms and our master with new wood look ceramic. We both hate the cork. It is great for noise absorption, but it dents easily. We had a large dog (140 lbs) and his toenails left some battle scars on the floor. I love seeing those marks on the floor, they make me think of him and smile at the memories. Sorry for the ramble!

Not a lot going on here today. I need to make some egg cups to freeze so I can use up some veggies before they go bad. Hubs has decided when he is home next week that he wants me to feed him for the week to see if he can get his weight moving down again. He has been swapping the same pound up and down for about 6 weeks. I offered to help him if he wanted me to and he immediately said yes, I will eat whatever you tell me to, including taking my lunch to work to see if we can get me going again. I knew he was frustrated, but I didn't want to overstep. He's a grown man, he can eat what he wants. He has cut back a lot and has lost weight since we started last June. I think he has done great for doing it while traveling for work about 45% of the time. I have to work out what he should be getting calorie wise and put together a 4 day meal plan to make sure he is getting enough to eat and see if that shows him a drop from M-F of next week. If it does, I suspect the weeks he is home he will continue with it. I really think one of his biggest issues is sodium from eating out for lunch every day and water retention from flying weekly. I may even set him up a MFP account that I will log his food in for those few days to make sure I am feeding him enough

That's all I've got this morning Ladies, have a great Monday. Hugs to those that need them, congrats to those with victories, welcome to the new ladies and prayers and good thoughts for those struggling and especially for those with husbands that are healing.

Okie in the TX Hill Country