WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2018
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I think I'm liking NOW I SEE ME - A father. A daughter. Innocence abused.
Hmmmmmmmm.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx7 -
Machka-Yeah, I'd say that questionnaire could have been handled better. It does sound a bit like age-ism, but they were probably just fishing for information for future positions open. Either way, some one should probably take the young writer of the questionnaire in hand and show him a better way to compose them.
Katie- Aw! Poor Tripp! RIP little man. Peace and comfort to his family.
Glad your "twinge" is getting better and Nice that you got a photo of the author of Unafraid. Sounds like a very interesting subject!
Terry-Most of my daycare activities, I have been doing for years. When I first started doing daycare, I was bored out of my mind, so I really think all of the party days and activities came from me needing to liven things up and make it interesting for me. Way back then, there was no internet, and I got most of my ideas from magazines (Family Fun was a godsend) and from talking to other parents. Now we have websites everywhere to get ideas. The best place is probably Pinterest.
Betty- So sorry for your stress and anxiety! Hope you can find peace and let some of that go!
Karen VA and Lisa-I am kind of over the MeToo movement. Over it, in the sense that, I myself am aware that there are many, many, to the nth women in the world who, at some point in their life have been harassed or abused by a man. That stands to reason, that there are many, many, to the nth men out there that have, in some form or another harassed or abused a woman. I think we have reached the tipping point where we can't arrest all of them, press charges against all of them; but we are in that place where we need to make change happen. It is very hard to be right here on the edge of change, to see women so close to having more say in everything. Women having the muscle and hopefully using the muscle the right way and not abusing it. That said, I have a son. I can't be a man hater. I married one, gave birth to one, am helping raise even more of them. I want them to have equal success and chances as my daughters. BUT...genetically speaking, I think women are better equipped to be leaders, as women tend to have a "pack" mentality and think of the whole rather than themselves.
Katla- Thank you for the nice compliment! I got a giggle when I saw your almost last sentence about you being in your jammies, still. Come on over!
Rye- Happy birthday! You slipped that in very quietly! Lots of love to you!
ttfn xoxoxo KJ6 -
Okie- Whoot! Congrats on your loss! Cheering over here!!
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Okie, congratulation on the weight loss. I use people coming over to motivate me to clean too. Unfortunately, we don’t entertain except about once a year. Lol
Rye, kitty looks depressed which can happen. Hope he or she is better soon. I think a lot of cuddles are in order.
Heather, VT is a beautiful state and snow like this happens about once a winter. Because we live on a dirt road, spring is “mud season” because of the snow melting. But summer and fall can’t be beat. I like the new title. Also “Innocence stolen” might fit.
Karen, Man hating??? Too bad the Me Too movement is seen by some that way. I never thought of it that way.
Kelly, you should have told you DH that he was wrong and it was a bag of life.
Forgot to mention in this morning post that I’m down 1.8lbs. Now how could I have forgotten that? I’m finally going in the right direction.
Terry10 -
Woo hoo Terry!
Okie3 -
Do any of you play Pogo Scrabble online? I am addicted to that game.
Carol in GA1 -
Happy World Sleep Day!
“World Sleep Day is … intended to be a celebration of sleep and a call to action on important issues related to sleep, including medicine, education, social aspects and driving. It … aims to lessen the burden of sleep problems on society through better prevention and management of sleep disorders.” Think we should all celebrate with a nap this afternoon!
Beth – That does not sound like a fun adventure. Glad you and your husband made it home safely!
Michele – Welcome! You’re on the right track… logging everything should help you figure out what’s going on with your weight.
Brennerjlb – You don’t have to wait until your birthday… we’ll let you sneak in here a little early!
Liz – Whole30 sounds like an interesting challenge. I know I’d benefit from a regular practice of meditation, but I struggle to set aside time for it.
Machka – Ugh, that survey sounds positively insulting and potentially actionable. Definitely the product of someone who doesn’t have a clue.
Okie – Congratulations on the new low!
Today I’m doing an upper body workout. Which is to say, I’ve pulled of the 1950’s sparkly linoleum from our bathroom floor and now I’m laboriously scraping up 80 years’ worth of mastic and other goo from the wood floor underneath. Right now my arms feel like over-cooked noodles! Hands are shaking a bit, so it’s obviously time for a long break. Maybe I’ll post photos later.
Y’all take care!
-Yvonne in TX8 -
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Fitness and losing weight While mostly it was a journey to abate aches and pains, I admit a small amount of vanity and how I would look was motivation.
Last year at this time I hurt. I hurt when I stood up if I sat longer than 5 minutes. I hurt standing longer than a couple of minutes. I routinely awoke in the middle of the night not only from hot flashes, but because I was in pain. Holding a book longer than five minutes hurt. Acid indigestion and reflux were pretty much constants. I hobbled around like a cartoon 90 year old lady - because my feet and legs were screaming in pain.
Given that I was just about to turn only 52 and I couldn’t take any over the counter meds (except Tylenol- which didn’t help one whit) I just turned a switch. Not mini actions, complete revolutionary change.
I started with a very restrictive one month elimination diet: no sugar, no gluten, no legumes, no dairy, no trans fats, no refined foods if possible. I started with 30 minutes exercise a day (generally walking, dancing in the garage, or exercycling). I read everything free I could get my hands on about health fitness and aging.
I came out of the elimination diet determined to keep all the eliminated foods to a minimum, especially gluten and added sugar. I picked up MFP and severely restricted my caloric intake. I found a swimming pool and we scraped up the money for me to join the fitness center by getting rid our our cable tv. Started swimming and going to aqua exercise classes.
Two months or so in (June) I had lost only 10 pounds or so, was exercising about 20+ hours a week and eating 1200 calories of mostly whole foods. I was hungry and felt like crap - but I could now walk to the store or gym without being winded. My acid reflux and indegestion was gone. I hobbled and hurt a little less than before.
I kept going. I found this group and the Strong Women book recommendation and added strength training to the mix. I experienced some awful hangries. And some spectacular fitness related failures. (Anybody in my neck of the woods need a bicycle I couldn’t afford and I can’t safely ride?).
Days where I didn’t think about pain started to become more frequent. My confidence grew and I remembered how much I love swimming in hot weather. I started taking photographs again. I heard about a job and had the audacity to put my name into the ring.
Fall came but I think someone forgot to tell my part of Texas - it was still summer stifling. I didn’t let it keep me from walking tho, averaging 15000 steps a day in October. I participated in a fund raising swim, was crushed and humiliated by my treatment at it - but was back swimming laps in my safe local pool the following Monday. The possible job lead became a job application with several almost dead ends. And by Mid October (about 6 months) my total weight loss for all this change was only around 20 pounds and down only one pants size.
But I kept at it. Learned about 5:2 fasting and started doing that. Got that job - and since I started, I have not sat at the desk at work for more than 1/2 hour total on any shift. I lift that moveable desk to it’s highest, and stand while I work. Sometimes I stand on one leg to work on my balance. I go to work early so I can stop at the swim pool beforehand and do some laps. I realized I’m sore a whole lot now, but don’t think about pain anymore. I sleep between hot flashes, no longer toss and shift in pain.
By the end of the year I was 40 pounds lighter. And my whole life was different.
This day it is closer to 50 pounds down. My 53rd birthday is not far off. But I could not even have imagined myself this way last year. And I’ll keep doing whatever I can to keep that former constant pain away. Last weekend I took some of that money I earn at my job and worked with a trainer to fine tune my weight lifting routine - giving me a much better but still safe and simple way forward.
Oh, yeah. When I started, I never let my eyes look at myself in a reflection. And if I could, I didn’t allow any pictures. I don’t do that anymore, and sometimes smile at what I see in photos or reflection. I even smile at the cellulite thunder thighs - I’m just not sure I’d recognize myself without them.
Just a story of a 360 degree revolution in weight and fitness. I’ve always been a jump off the high diving board type of person, tho. I wish micro-actions worked for me, it would certainly be less wear and tear on my loved ones nerves if nothing else. But I find it so easy to dismiss the micro action- deny it because it didn’t take a lot of effort. I find I personally stay in track better when I don’t want to waste great effort that has proceeded. Maybe (and maybe not) this personal experience can help someone.
Rye (who needs to get off her backside and do today’s hula hooping)
This. You and I are the same age, I'm one year behind you on this journey. I am not ashamed to say I have tears in my eyes. Thank you so much for sharing. I am truly inspired and motivated.8 -
Machka, I'm glad you gave them some comments also! That kind of smacks of ageism! I'm happily working part-time in a job I really enjoy, but I didn't cut back, the place I had been working at closed down. I quite happily took a part time job, much less stress, not just because it's not full time, but the job in general is less stressful, so truly enjoying it.
Barbie, hope both you and Jake survived the trip home!
Becca, good to hear that Lee is taking some steps! Ice water and ice chips eh? Not sure how long I could sustaing that diet! lol Hope all continues to go well.
Kelly, pj day? Love it!
NYKaren, have to agree with Kelly, the young teachers probably are looking to you for your experience as much as you are looking to them for new strategies. And may I say, kudos to you for being interested in new strategies! A lot of folks who have been doing the same job for years will not change the way they do things "I've always done it this way". Can be annoying!
Day is going well, so far anyway. Food intake is under control, I went to the gym and dinner is planned. Just need to stop at the store to pick up a few things to enhance the dinner experience! lol
Evelyn, Vancouver Island where it's still sunny and cool
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Happy Friday!
The "Adventure" ... Our family deals with these kinds of crises on a regular basis! We have to laugh at them or we'd always be in tears!
While I thought that getting the car to the service garage and getting a new tire would be the end of things ... you know it was not. I learned that I am very fortunate ... that blown out tire occurred because the springs and strut broke ... puncturing the tire. I was only going 20-25 mph ... imagine if I had been on the highway ... as I usually am several times a week. Feeling thankful about that.
Because one vehicle in the garage is not enough ... husband's truck decided to act up yesterday 100 miles from home. His truck quit over 30+ times while he tried to get home on the thruway! Could only go one speed and couldn't touch the brakes or it died. Now imagine that on the thruway. I suggested he just stop before he was in an accident and call a tow truck ... but no, giving up is not in his DNA!
I love having my younger son home and can't believe the week is almost over ... but I also need to get him out of the house so I can get back to a more reasonable menu. All of his favorites are calorie dense and I've succumbed!
Tomorrow will be corned beef and cabbage ... I'm going to try it in the instant pot!
Have a good weekend!
Beth near Buffalo ... who is evidently funding her local car repairman's next vacation!
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When I arrived at work this morning, there was a survey for employees aged 50 and up.
I think it was meant to be a "how can we make the workplace a better place for those of you who are 50+" kind of thing, but unfortunately it didn't come across that way at all.
I can sum up all the questions with ... "how can we encourage you to retire already and really, why are you still here"
My husband figures that some 20-something work experience student in HR was told to create a survey, and that was the result.
For example, one of the questions actually asked if I was willing to take a part-time job at a lower band level because of my age!!! That was one choice of several. In my last few years on this side of retirement, would I be willing to ... shift to a part time position, or be interested in job sharing, or be interested in going to a low paying part-time position, or be interested in teaching some bright young thing how to do my job and then job share with that person .... things like that!
And why are us ancient, one-foot-in-the-grave folk even coming to work? Again, select all that apply. Is it because we want the social interaction, or is it because we just want to keep ourselves busy once in a while, or is there some faint feeling of accomplishment or something, or is it because we need the cash.
There were about 30 questions like that with words like "winding up our employment", "easing out of the work world" etc., and then a comment section at the end. I (politely) gave them a bit of a blast and pointed out that those of us at 51 years old probably have 16-20 years of employment left. We're still climbing the ladder! We want education and experience opportunities that could put us into higher band level positions with better pay.
I just hope my comments give someone something to think about. A bit of a shift in the obvious preconceived ideas conveyed in the survey.
If the survey had been directed to people in their mid-60s who can actually access their super and the gov't pension, it might have been different, but it'll be a good 12 or 13 years before I can even look into getting ahold of all that so that I can potentially retire! Sure ... I'd like to go now and keep buying those lottery tickets but ...
Anyway, meanwhile, since I don't have one foot in grave, I will continue to work, attend uni, cycle, and enjoy life!
If I've inherited my grandmother's genes, I could have a long, long way to go.
Machka in Oz
This is horrible, Machka. Good for you for speaking up. Wow. I'm 57 and I would have been insulted. I still have at least 10 years of work left.
Felicia
Still kicking in Willamette Valley, Oregon6 -
Katie, Hugs to you. RIP Tripp
Kelly, thanks for the giggle! Even my co-worker got a chuckle (it was just too good to not share!)
Heather, fartlekking sounds like a good way to get your run in! Hope your knees don't protest too much. I've got chili out for dinner also! Found some in the freezer yesterday while I was looking for other stuff!
Karen in VA, wow, that's quite the morning!
Allie, how nice that your zen den patio is coming along so nicely! Sad to hear about your friend's cat. I have an old gal that won't be with us much longer either. She's getting pretty shaky on her feet, amongst other issues. Poor old thing. How thoughtful of you to get the trivet for your friend, love really does flow freely!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island
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Machka, I work in Human Resources and a work survey like that has red flags written all over it. Please tell me the survey was given to all employees and not just 50+. Identifying employee ages is a no no here (and embarrassing for the employee). Good for you blasting them with a well worded response. I do agree with Lanette that they are looking long term and estimating turnover do to retirement. We do that where I work but we don’t send out surveys. Sheesh.
I'm in academics. We have people in their 70s here. We would never think of even implying they should think about retiring -- even if we privately wonder what their plan is.
Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon
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Beth, so glad you were going so slowly! Oh my, that could have been just downright ugly had you been going fast! Yeah, I think you are funding some mechanic's holiday, between you and your hubby anyway.... Ugh. Nice that your son is home with you, but too bad about the food. Have you tried feeding him some of your new favourites? Although if he's anything like my younger one, that wouldn't fly at all.... Boys, honestly, they just get taller!
I'm kind of over the #metoo thing as well. I do not mean this as a condemnation of women who are speaking out, I'm glad that these women who have suffered abuse and harrassment at the hands of men are finally comfortable enough to speak out about it and I think they need and deserve our support. However (there's always a however!) I think sometimes the situation needs to be taken in context. Where were you? What actually happened? For example, were you walking past a construction site and some guy wolf whistled at you? Or were you in the workplace and a supervisor groped you in the coffee room? At this point in my life, I'd be thrilled about a wolf whistle! lol A grope in the coffee room on the other hand.... at any point in my life would not be welcomed.
I am not a man hater, I married a man and raised two young men. I like to think that we raised them right and when my younger son tells me that he stopped on a road in Ontario to help a woman with a flat tire, and when I see our older son interacting with his fiancee and son, I feel like we did okay. Okay, that is my rant for the day. This is, of course, my opinion. Feel free to disagree with me, I promise not to be offended.
Evelyn, Vancouver Island7 -
Regarding age. One of my favorite poems, "that which we are, we are. . . . to strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield." Tennyson's "Ulysses" the last lines read by Helen Mirren.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=aJb_zJbJ7FI
Watch quickly before the link disappears (if it does -- I'm still not sure what is okay and not okay to post), but you can also just google Helen Mirren Stephen Colbert Ulysses.
Much love.
Felicia, literature nerd
Willamette Valley, Oregon3 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »I think I'm liking NOW I SEE ME - A father. A daughter. Innocence abused.
Hmmmmmmmm.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
I love that title.4 -
Katla Tell your husband I just looked at the ecovent website you mentioned, and was so impressed I submitted information for a quote. It's so great! May not be in the budget for this year.
Karen in Virginia5 -
If any of you are interested in how far reaching little Tripp was in his lifetime, just google “Tripp dies” and you will see. His mother’s post about his death on FB already has over 237,000 comments.
My mother and I went shopping today. I’m hoping to get some house cleaning done tomorrow. I feel confident that the master bath will be finished next week. I am beyond excited as we see it coming together.
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