WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2018
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Katla- from my experience with my keto diet which is very similar to what your DH is on you do have more energy and you do go through times called "hangry" hungry and angry combined. I think without even realizing that we feel restricted from eating our normal diet we go through withdrawals and criticizing or getting mad easily happens during that time. I can now recognize when it is happening to me. It is a very real thing and people that are on this type of diet which is very similar to your husband's knows all about this behavior. I would mention it to your husband and talk to him about his behavior towards you.
Mary from Arizona4 -
Good Morning everyone, New to the group.
My May plan
Go to bed early so I can get a good night sleep and arise early for work. Present bedtime anywhere from 10pm - 2am. Alarm 6:30am.
Up my steps from 4,000 to 6,000 a day
Exercise 4/5 days a wk
Eat Breakfast
Stop eating out at lunchtime. Bring lunch from home.......so I can walk at lunchtime.
Stop eating after 8pm
Treat myself on pay day.
Increase my clean eating.
I'm 5ft 7in 184lbs just feel bloated and tried... Any suggestions is welcome!!!5 -
KetoneKaren wrote: »Carol & Cheri I even balk at making travel plans to places I really want to go to because I don't want to leave home, I don't want to deal with the public or other travelers, I don't want to be unable to retreat to re-energize. Yep, I have fun when I go out, but I even have to talk myself into going to my grandchildren's sports events! It's kind of a pain.
Karen in Virginia
So glad to hear I'm not the only one! Like my daughter said once "Man it takes effort to live!"
So many of us here are social butterflies online but not in real life! I am with you all!
Reading, photography, computer games, training husbands... this group has so many things in common! Good to know we are not alone. I thought I was weird! This is why I love this group!
RV rita in New Mexico6 -
I am an introvert, but I LOVE travelling ... by myself or with one person I know quite well, like my husband.
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Plus if I have overnight guests, I feel the need to be a good hostess by putting a little extra effort into cleaning, setting up a comfortable place to sleep, ensuring there are towels etc., planning something for breakfast, etc. etc. ... and I just did not have the energy for that.
On the other hand, one of my friends has been wonderful. She has brought me some food, stayed for about 15 minutes and left. In one case, she timed her visit so she could take me to the hospital and I arrived just as visiting hours opened. She has also taken me out for coffee a few times and gave me the opportunity to just talk for about 20-30 minutes. No pressure ... no feeling like I had to spend the whole day with her ... no feeling like I had to be a good hostess.
M in Oz
Machka, like you I love to travel but I am certainly an introvert.
Your friend sounds awesome. That is the type of support I would most appreciate and try to offer. I have, tho, offended the extroverted types by not wanting to do the 24/7 type of support vigil. So I try to gauge my ‘audience’ as it were.
But doing the constant companion support thing, or needing to host/ accommodate the constant companion who is trying to support me can be some of the most draining situations I find myself in.
Thinking of you, lots, friend. Hoping my good vibes make it to you.
Oh got to run, plumber quotes now.5 -
Lenora have you put your phone number on the government no call list? Does your phone give you the option to block phone number?
Heather you are a wise woman!
Kayla in Oregon thank you!
Alie the eye 1a drive is beautiful! I’ve done it in Rhode Island. I bet New Hampshire and Maine are too!
RV Rita in New Mexico5 -
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Lenora As Rita mentioned the Do Not Call registry might help. In case your number isn’t on it, here is the link: https://www.donotcall.gov/register/reg.aspx
I had it handy as we just put my MIL home phone on there last week.1 -
Heather, V Very on point with what you texted to Katla. I think with any emotional shift of responsibilities change has to happen with both people. I know over the years dealing with a sick husband became routine. When he had his transplant, and started feeling better, things became rocky. I have a vivid memory of him leaning down for a kiss, and it startled me. Caretaker I had down, but this? This wife thing? It angered me to think, how can he just turn my wife button on like that, like nothing has happened. I went to therapy about how to deal. I learned just as my husband is a survivor, I am one too. Just as he tried so hard to get better, I keep trying to keep us happy. It doesn't just happen, it's little conscious actions throughout the day. He opens doors for me, and guides me with his hand at the small of my back. We sit together and talk. He compliments me on a great meal. It's the difference between existing and thriving. I'm not saying we always get along but the moment it's not, we discuss it.
Hugs!
Rebecca7 -
Today is shopping day, laundry day, and hopefully call the Nuke son day!!
Hey y'all someone on here said I got me some good life force! * puts my hands out* ogadabogada! There, y'all are covered!!! Love you each and every one of yas!
Rebecca
About to go all domestic now!
on Whidbey island7 -
Hi all!
Went to the shops with DH to buy groceries. Picked up my blood pressure meds. It so annoys me that I still have to take the things when I'm slim and fit. Grrrr! Genetic I guess.
Then I was idly flicking through the cruise brochure for next year ..................... Our wonderful small ship, that we are going on in June for the third time in the same cabin, is being retired next year. We are bereft. There is a sister ship which is a bit bigger, but still small by cruise ship standards. I had a look at the cabins and destinations, not meaning to book anything, but just looking at options. Oooooops! We saw one to Portugal and Spain, nearly all to ports we have never visited before and always wanted to go to. Our preferred suite, looking at the plan, was available with twin beds. (I like twin so I can read my Kindle without disturbing DH) Sooooooo we booked it!!!! Next March/April. Can hardly believe it!
Crazy!
For those who are new (WELCOME!) we are going on a cruise to the far north of Sweden in June. Just over four weeks to go.
I am taking money out of deep savings for these cruises, but "you can't take it with you". We each pay half the cost.
We have so far adored these cruises which are for the 50+ age group. I would say the majority are 70+. Let's hope the next boat is as good. I will definitely be crying when we leave Saga Pearl ll this time.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx10 -
Thought of everyone dealing with moving and new neighbors!
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Re: Online social butterfly/introverts I do find it quite amazing that many of us here fit into the online extrovert but in RL we are pretty serious introverts! Like some of you, I love to travel but I'm best with just one other person that I am very familiar with and comfortable! I guess that's why we come here, because I find that many people I know are very comfortable with being a social butterfly in RL but don't like to spend much time writing out their thoughts. Maybe they need instant gratification for their thoughts or just not enough patience or enjoyment of spending so much alone time while writing! Before I retired, when I got home, I just wanted peace and quiet and the time to do what I wanted to instead of what I had to do. I had my fill and more of interactions with my job, as I was a Medical Researcher and PA at a large medical center/University, so my day was filled with seeing patients and asking them a bazillion questions and listening to them endlessly. At first I really missed my patients because they had become like my very own family over the years, but now five years down the road of retirement, I'm very content to be a home body, with little need to socialize other than church and online!5
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Rebecca -- Heard this story on OPB on my drive to work this morning, and thought of you. Best line: "It's hard to be mean when you're naked."
https://www.npr.org/2018/05/04/607764107/this-love-story-started-at-a-nudist-park
Felicia, not a nudist, but LOVED this story
Willamette Valley, Oregon4 -
hello Ladies. i'm 56, married with two grown children. i'm not working due to health issues.
i've been on MFP for quite a while but just recently chose to start reading and writing on boards here. i was originally here for Keto when i was diagnosed with stage four small lymphocytic lymphoma (no treatment as of yet - as this cancer is a wait and watch type, diagnosed in Dec 2016), and lost 17 lbs on that diet. now i'm officially low to moderate carb and am still somewhat able to maintain my weight of 133 (i'm 5'7")
i have other health concerns too, currently bad lower back pain which i've been rushed to hospital for a few weeks back. i try to keep as active as i can but sometimes i get back into sugar etc again out of emotional eating, and i know it's so bad! i'll eat small amounts of fruit sometimes like blueberries and honeydew melon when i'm feeling righteous, but when i'm not, the icecream my husband and son eat call to me when i'm feeling a little low ! ugh.
any support and chat and sisterly cameraderie is most appreciated - xo Lisa~
Hi, Lisa. Welcome!
I have Celiac Disease, so I know the feeling of having food all around that you can't (or shouldn't) eat. Over time, I have learned to resist, and it hardly bothers me any more.
Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon
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Traveling and Introversion:
Hi, I'm Felicia, and I'm an introvert.
I do love to travel, and I love to travel with my husband and my family, but I am also good going it alone. I think that's one reason I loved Israel so much. I had my husband for dinner, in the evening, and for breakfast, but my days were my own. I had so much fun walking around on my own. Going on tours, by myself (in a group). Hanging out at the beach, by myself.
I confessed to my small group a few years ago that I was an introvert, and some of them nodded, and then I further confessed that I even like to go on long drives by myself -- I mean hours and hours. I even get excited about it. One of my friends said, "Wow. You really are anti-social!" Lol
My husband and I are going to San Francisco in June for a few days. He has a conference to attend, and . . . yep . . . I can hardly wait to have my days alone to explore. Then he said last night, "You know, I could probably skip a day of the conference so we could spend some time together," and I was almost horrified! Lol "Oh, you don't need to do that. You should go to your conference!"
I am bad. But I am also a little like Thoreau.
In Walden, in the chapter "Solitude," Thoreau talks about how much he loves being alone. "I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude."
Then the next chapter, "Visitors" begins: "I think that I love society as much as most, and am ready enough to fasten myself like a bloodsucker for the time to any full-blooded man that comes in my way. I am naturally no hermit, but might possibly sit out the sturdiest frequenter of the bar-room, if my business called me thither."
That's me, too. It's a paradox, I guess.
Felicia, removing the literature professor's robe
Willamette Valley, Oregon7 -
Machka, like you I love to travel but I am certainly an introvert.
Rye -- That's one reason I love swimming so much. You have to be comfortable with yourself in order to endure that time under water alone. And with goggles and ear plugs (I can't tolerate the water in my ears), I really can't talk to anyone. Bliss.
Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon
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OregonMother wrote: »
Machka, like you I love to travel but I am certainly an introvert.
Rye -- That's one reason I love swimming so much. You have to be comfortable with yourself in order to endure that time under water alone. And with goggles and ear plugs (I can't tolerate the water in my ears), I really can't talk to anyone. Bliss.
Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon
Yes, 100% yes. Bliss. Just, you, your thoughts and the peaceful feeling of water on your skin.
Ear infection problems have been keeping me from much swimming this year. But yesterday I had 1&1/2 hour pure bliss lap swim! I was in the best mood after!
My husband upon picking me up from work yesterday: “So you swam today huh?”
ME: “yes, chlorine smell, huh?”
DH:” well yes, now that you mention it. But it was your smile that clued me in. “
Rye
Felicia, my impaired vision and hearing have an odd effect of giving me sensory overload not infrequently. Loud sound and busy and cacophonous noise like you might find in a heavily trafficked city street (say New York or San Francisco) can overwhelm and leave me an inch away from putting my hands over my ears, shutting my eyes tight and whimpering.
Swimming (where I can mostly shut off my brain trying to make sense of the far too loud and frantic busy world pummeling my deficient senses), I find gives me a bit of a immunity or tolerance that I otherwise lack. Maybe like sleep rests the brain, swimming also allows my brain rest from sensory input.
Rye8 -
May 21st I start a ten week transformation challenge. Cash and other prizes; wish me luck.7
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Only problem with the Federal "Do Not Call" List is that you have to have both the name and telephone number that someone is calling you from. If you tell them NOT to call you again or to put your number on their 'do not call list' they just roll over to the next person to harass you. I never ever say 'yes' to anything, 'such as can you hear me'. NO! Hang up! But, I just don't answer them, I've called Windstream no less than 3x to change the number of rings before my voicemail picks up from 10 down to 3. THAT hasn't been done yet, so if not today; will call this afternoon. I think they might have fixed it because while the phone has run, I haven't seemed to get nearly as irritated about it. I delete about 36 - 40 calls a day! That is ridiculous. Now, they seem to be calling cellphones. My GYN was talking about it the other day because I told him that we no longer even answer the phone, if someone wants us enough, they'll leave a message. He said that someone told him that for $2 a month; you can stop the robocalls. He said that he can't just 'ignore' his phones because of women calling to say they are in labor or the hospital calling that they are admitting a patient. I'd think that would really sux.
My most desired exercise is walking in the pool. I work up to where I can walk around it 45x each way; and 45x across twice. Trey's step-brother-in-law is going to get our spa and then trade out fixing Trey's pool (maybe even a 'new' filter system ... it depends. He is trying to talk them into going ahead and replacing the liner at the same time and let him dig it deeper in the middle (leaving a shelf around the perimeter at the present depth. I guess it will all depend on how much work he has to do on the spa. I know it needs 5 new filters which are terribly expensive; and it has been sitting up for a year after a hailstorm damaged the top. I will just be happy to get it out of here.
Traffic in Atlanta makes me happy that we moved; traffic in Jacksonville same reason, traffic in Macon and Albany; but, even around here you have to deal with running up on or into a tractor driven slowly with the wings out and a farmer in the 'air-conditioned' cab not paying the least bit of attention to what is coming up (front or back). Normally, they sit sideways so they can watch the road; and, the ones that are driving one that doesn't have a cab can hear you coming up behind or ahead of them and they will pull over so you can go around them. I usually come up on one when I am already running late to an appointment.
I'm feeling better now that I am not taking the Nexium; but, still having issues with my esophagus (Barrett's Esophagus). They will do one more test on me before doing something a little more invasive; but, the MD says they had very good luck with it.
Hi to all the Newbies - sorry that I have not been addressing every post that I would like to. Trying not to spend too much time on computer.
Have a great weekend!
Lenora1
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