Less Alcohol- May 2018- One Day at a Time
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@Alzzi76 you did really great! Especially with the daughter situation, it was one of those things you could have made yourself reason out since it was a gift. Well done!
I had a dry weekend. Yesterday was my only temptation because we had a bbq with my daughter-in-law to be and all that new family. Absolutely nothing in common with these people except the grand baby and they were all drinking. It would have been so easy grab a drink and lighten the awkwardness, but instead I drank my water and tried not to roll my eyes the whole time ;-) le sigh
Here's to a great week for us all...stay strong, friends!!7 -
islandbeez wrote: »@Alzzi76 you did really great! Especially with the daughter situation, it was one of those things you could have made yourself reason out since it was a gift. Well done!
I had a dry weekend. Yesterday was my only temptation because we had a bbq with my daughter-in-law to be and all that new family. Absolutely nothing in common with these people except the grand baby and they were all drinking. It would have been so easy grab a drink and lighten the awkwardness, but instead I drank my water and tried not to roll my eyes the whole time ;-) le sigh
Here's to a great week for us all...stay strong, friends!!
Thats so awesome. I could imagine it as i was reading it. Its so tricky. The whole time i have to kelp talking myself through it. When im good i sip on lemon and soda water..
The feeling after is amazing. When everyone is ready to go to sleep im ready for a run such a contrast.
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »First, you drink one or two, then you drink a bottle and eventually you drink every day all day, but it does not dull or get rid of the deep pain you harbor.
Just wow. Makes you realize there's no end to the escalation. Thanks for this, @JulieAL1969. Always appreciate what you pass along. You've worked that AF muscle a bunch and I know it's going to be like riding a bike for you when you get home. I've had to prove to myself over and over again since January that it just ain't worth it. Oh, I think having one glass of wine is great, but it's the drinking to the point of being hung over that isn't worth it at all.
And speaking of one glass of wine, that was my total consumption this weekend. One. Out with my husband for happy hour. Said no to #2 and had a glass of water. Had a sip of a bottle of red I'd had open at home since Christmas just to see if it was still good. Nope. Threw it out. The old me would've been appalled at wasting it.
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Loss: now that I have been moderating to only one day a week of drinking for over four months - hangovers are tremendously worse than ever in my life. I cant even fathom how I was ever able to drink on back to back days.
OMG, yes, exactly. I drank every. single. day. I know I've forgotten how bad I felt and I take for granted how great I feel now. And that level of drinking screws up SO many other areas of your life: exercise, weight, finances, performance at work, relationships. I could go on and on, but not telling anyone here anything they don't already know.
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Pretty successful moderation weekend here - drank a bottle of wine total at home between Friday-Sunday, plus an extra beer both Saturday and Sunday at social events.
I did have that feeling Friday night though, that I wasn’t sure I really wanted a drink but felt like I should because it was my plan to drink moderately on weekends. I had a glass of wine while eating a late dinner, but wasn’t tempted to keep going, it didn’t honestly taste that good (didn’t prevent me from finishing the bottle Sat and Sunday though!). I think it was @kittybenn who said she felt like she was drinking on the weekend just because that’s when she had planned to drink, not because she really wanted it or for any special reason. I need to think about it a little more and maybe consider what constitutes an “event” that I would want to drink at and not just drink because it’s the weekend.
Back to AF this week!
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I had a glass of wine yesterday on what was supposed to be Day 14 AF. We were at Book of Mormon. That’s my only excuse. Wine was good BUT. I was miserable last night wanting more. Seriously? When will I convince myself that moderation doesn’t work for me? I’m off to a job interview in 30 minutes. Thankful I didn’t indulge past that one glass. Day 1 today.
PS. “Woo” is bad? I never knew what it was.5 -
I am day 11 AF. I have been dealing with boredom. TV seems boring without drinking and honestly, I do not know what to do with myself. This week my kids will be with their dad so I will have plenty of time to get bored. Trying to come up with things to do so I do not get too bored. Alcohol Experiment talked about willpower and boredom. I am doing okay on the willpower just bored. I am avoiding going out with friends as that always seems to involve alcohol. Will try working out post work.7
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I had a glass of wine yesterday on what was supposed to be Day 14 AF. We were at Book of Mormon. That’s my only excuse. Wine was good BUT. I was miserable last night wanting more. Seriously? When will I convince myself that moderation doesn’t work for me? I’m off to a job interview in 30 minutes. Thankful I didn’t indulge past that one glass. Day 1 today.
PS. “Woo” is bad? I never knew what it was.
Good luck at the interview!
Yes most people use Woo to mean “that’s a load of hooey” it’s commonly used when people are spouting pseudoscience . When MFP first added it they told people it could be used positively “woo hoo!” Or negatively “that Woo out has no place here”. Because of all the confusion they’ve since come back and clarified that it is best meant as a negative reaction, like on the countless ACV threads where someone says that they read on Instagram that drinking ACV will help get rid of stubborn belly fat... that’s a WOO in an eye rolling way. But a lot of people are still confused and then you have people who think Woo is always negative getting woo’d by people who mean it positively. It’s a mess.4 -
I had a glass of wine yesterday on what was supposed to be Day 14 AF. We were at Book of Mormon. That’s my only excuse. Wine was good BUT. I was miserable last night wanting more. Seriously? When will I convince myself that moderation doesn’t work for me? I’m off to a job interview in 30 minutes. Thankful I didn’t indulge past that one glass. Day 1 today.
PS. “Woo” is bad? I never knew what it was.
No worries! I 'm happy you had just one. After 14 days of none. Great success!
I feel like you. I'm starting fresh today and thought it's going to be a long month without alcohol. I did enjoy it this weekend, but today woke up after a great night sleep so fresh. It is worth the battle to abstain the mornings are so much better. Good luck at your interview!4 -
Starting fresh today. Weather has been sooo good and hubby perfected a margarita using fresh juice from grapefruits we picked off our friends trees, soooo back to dry Monday5
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Thanks for the good wishes. It seems the job is mine if I want it, and I do. About 4 crazy “coincidences” were involved in my learning about and then getting this position. I’ll be teaching in a prison, and that is something I’m very excited about. I won’t start till August so will have a relaxing June and July.
@Alzzi76, I like your attitude toward “woo-ers.” Just assume they mean it as a compliment. I once heard that the best response to an insult is “Oh, thank you!” Not many insulters would be brazen enough to try to clarify their nasty intent after that.5 -
Weekend was a mixed bag. Saturday was great. Had the two cocktails I planned to have. Yesterday . . . did not go as planned. Spent some time today trying to figure out what went wrong and what I can do differently to avoid a repeat. I guess my insights fall into relatively surface-level stuff (I seem to really struggle to moderate when I mix fruit juice and liquor) and more profoundish stuff (I drink when I do things I really enjoy because I fall into this "magical thinking" trap that I can somehow capture or prolong the experience with alcohol and that is why Sunday afternoons and evenings can be so tricky for me and it's something that I'm going to have to figure out an approach for now that it's approaching summer, my favorite season).
Just not feeling the greatest today. Physically, of course, I feel pretty awful (I didn't just exceed my two drink limit, I pretty blew up the entire concept). And just like, ugh, this isn't something that should be hard.5 -
I had a hard time this weekend, but toughed it out!! Such beautiful weather, I felt like being outdoors, BBQing and having a few, it was SO hard!!! I stayed active, pushed the limits with the calorie intake, but all in all it was an OK weekend. I miss my booze!
My challenge is to hang in there at least until May 16th (I've only had 1 evening of drinks since April 2nd)...and about to embark on back to back business trips where it's almost expected that I drink.
Does anyone else feel EXHAUSTED? I can't stay awake, last night I was nodding off at 7PM?!?!
Whatever you've committed to, hang in there! No judgement - I'm proud of you all for being here!
Hugs
Rosie
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So nothing this weekend went the way I wanted it to and I don't think talking about it yet is good. I have to learn to treat it the way I treat food and not be angry.6
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So nothing this weekend went the way I wanted it to and I don't think talking about it yet is good. I have to learn to treat it the way I treat food and not be angry.
Oh, I hear this. I had this same thought this morning. I don't get angry or resentful when I make certain food choices to hit a calorie goal. I don't eat a piece of pie and then polish off the rest telling myself "Well, I already blew my calorie goal . . . . I might as well." Alcohol (for me) involves all these faulty rationales and messy emotions that I no longer have with food.3 -
I had one more drink than I was suppose to on my AF days and one less drink on my moderating days, so I guess the week was a pretty good one.
However I had some self realization on Friday. I brought home some wings and fries for dinner. My husband and I stood in the kitchen and devoured the fries with our cocktail. While doing so I literally sucked down my glass of wine like it was water. I couldn't believe it! I was not thirsty as I had already drank 7 glasses of water for the day. So not only am I a wine sucker but a french fry muncher as well!! I will have to remember that the two shall not mix. I wanted to immediately pour another one, but I filled my wine glass with ice water instead and drank it first. I did pour another, but I was able to sip that one and then have dinner. (There were no fried to go with our wings. oops)
I guess I'm just happy that I was able to control it with one. Whenever I think about breaking, I think about you all, and it helps to keep me on track.
(In the beginning I use to get upset with a woo, but now I don't give them a care. I'm me and that's all I can be. If you woohoo me in a positive way then I will woohoo you right back, because I'm that kind of a girl! :-) I believe most people are good.)
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@Auntieodie, Yes to exhaustion! I’ve been reading that it’s common for up to a month or so but eventually goes away. I’m waiting for that.2
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janejellyroll wrote: »So nothing this weekend went the way I wanted it to and I don't think talking about it yet is good. I have to learn to treat it the way I treat food and not be angry.
Oh, I hear this. I had this same thought this morning. I don't get angry or resentful when I make certain food choices to hit a calorie goal. I don't eat a piece of pie and then polish off the rest telling myself "Well, I already blew my calorie goal . . . . I might as well." Alcohol (for me) involves all these faulty rationales and messy emotions that I no longer have with food.
So much this! I've been in this group since January, and after about the first week or two something clicked for me and I just started treating my plans to moderate and restrict my alcohol intake the same way I do my food intake. Track it, accept that sometimes bad days are going to happen, and move on.
Ever since I started looking at it the same way I look at food, the mindful moderation thing has really worked out well for me. I'm the kind of person who really thrives on a plan, but can accept that sometimes plans don't fall into place, and understanding how to mitigate damage really helps keep things under control.6 -
Maybe take B vitamins--that helped me to finally not feel exhausted after a few months. I also had to take some iron. Since alcohol messes especially with B12 and Folic Acid and you need the B12 for iron processing, that is what I did.
Plus you will sleep better once your body feels better after not drinking.
Who knows how long it takes to repair organ damage......and I am sure it is done during sleep probably.
Hang in there. The rewards are worth it.
If you are having to eat sugar at times to compensate, that will affect your energy, too.
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