What nobody tells you about losing weight
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Slamming your thighs together to catch something with your lap is painful now.... I bruised my knees doing this as I no longer have the fat on my thighs to absorb the impact.23
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Hungry_Shopgirl wrote: »
Yes! And shampoo!
I've had to switch from cupping shampoo with my whole hand to using just my palm. The horror!14 -
I didn’t know that when I started loosing weight I’d look worse before I looked better. I was blown away actually to watch my bust go first (the only thing I really liked) and then my butt next... my stomach stuck out seeming way more than it had previously and I was deflated in the better areas.
The only thing that kept me going at the beginning was I FELT better, more energy, happier, not as sore. My stomach is in better proportion to the rest of me now, but I still have a long road ahead. It was a real eye opener to realize that dropping 20lbs doesn’t mean I get to keep the overflowing bust and loose the belly... you don’t get to decide where it comes from. I had to reevaluate my weight loss goals to smaller than I original thought to find the balance I’m looking for.
That all being said I am proud of the work I’ve done and wouldn’t change any of it, just a realization of how naive my expectations were when I was going into all this!34 -
Your body will change faster than your brain. I still stare at my pants thinking there's no way I can possibly fit into something that small, yet I can.26
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I didn't realize that I would have to learn how to dress all over again, like a girl figuring out who she is in high school. When I first shrunk out of my clothes, I went and bought a bunch of smaller clothes in the same sorts of styles that I was used to looking for, based on what would flatter my fat body - knit tunics, loose tops, concealing pants. Got them home and realized I don't even like those sorts of clothes. I ended up giving some of them away with the tags still on them. It turns out, skinny me, when not wearing athletic wear, likes dressing up like a girly girl, in cute casual skirts and dresses. I recently saw my in-laws for the first time since my weight loss, and my mother-in-law, who has the same sort of taste, was just amazed, not just by the weight loss but by the style transformation. When you have all the clothes in the world to pick from, not just "whatever comes in 4x and hides my belly enough that it sort of halfway looks decent," it takes a while to figure out what you want!
The other surprise is that I have muscular armpits, which makes it hard to shave.45 -
I am learning that I will need to go through my whole closet and pretty much replace everything that I was wearing 50 lbs ago cause it doesnt fit anymore. Ill be making a few trips to goodwill or salvation army to get some new clothes for sure! Also learned that after losing a big amount of fat I still have it in my mind that im fat even if people around me are telling me im not. Anyone else have that mentality still? I cant take my shirt off anywhere pretty much cause im self conscious about the belly even if most of it is gone.22
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I had a pair of sunglasses fit better, I must have lost some face/head fat lmao16
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phillipsaw wrote: »I had a pair of sunglasses fit better, I must have lost some face/head fat lmao
Wait till gloves and shoes have to be replaced. Didn't realize that both hands and feet lose fat too...and shoe sizes shrink as your feet aren't speeding out due to the weight.9 -
I am learning that I will need to go through my whole closet and pretty much replace everything that I was wearing 50 lbs ago cause it doesnt fit anymore. Ill be making a few trips to goodwill or salvation army to get some new clothes for sure! Also learned that after losing a big amount of fat I still have it in my mind that im fat even if people around me are telling me im not. Anyone else have that mentality still? I cant take my shirt off anywhere pretty much cause im self conscious about the belly even if most of it is gone.
Not the naked me, but size me. I still look at seats with apprehension, especially anything with arms. I know I can, but I still second guess my size as being able to sit comfortable in chairs with arms.8 -
rheddmobile wrote: »I didn't realize that I would have to learn how to dress all over again, like a girl figuring out who she is in high school. When I first shrunk out of my clothes, I went and bought a bunch of smaller clothes in the same sorts of styles that I was used to looking for, based on what would flatter my fat body - knit tunics, loose tops, concealing pants. Got them home and realized I don't even like those sorts of clothes. I ended up giving some of them away with the tags still on them. It turns out, skinny me, when not wearing athletic wear, likes dressing up like a girly girl, in cute casual skirts and dresses. I recently saw my in-laws for the first time since my weight loss, and my mother-in-law, who has the same sort of taste, was just amazed, not just by the weight loss but by the style transformation. When you have all the clothes in the world to pick from, not just "whatever comes in 4x and hides my belly enough that it sort of halfway looks decent," it takes a while to figure out what you want!
The other surprise is that I have muscular armpits, which makes it hard to shave.
@rheddmobile Not just a whole new style, but almost an overwhelming list of options. For a long time I had a whopping two stores (other than the very limited plus size selection at department stores) to buy anything that fits. Being able to go into any store and finding 100 differnt things that all fit. The only limit is if they have my size...2,4,6, 10....dangit!11 -
I didn’t know that when I started loosing weight I’d look worse before I looked better. I was blown away actually to watch my bust go first (the only thing I really liked) and then my butt next... my stomach stuck out seeming way more than it had previously and I was deflated in the better areas.
The only thing that kept me going at the beginning was I FELT better, more energy, happier, not as sore. My stomach is in better proportion to the rest of me now, but I still have a long road ahead. It was a real eye opener to realize that dropping 20lbs doesn’t mean I get to keep the overflowing bust and loose the belly... you don’t get to decide where it comes from. I had to reevaluate my weight loss goals to smaller than I original thought to find the balance I’m looking for.
That all being said I am proud of the work I’ve done and wouldn’t change any of it, just a realization of how naive my expectations were when I was going into all this!
* Hugs! *
Give it time though, your body is a work in progress. And do some strength training if you can. I lost 50 lbs in a year, then pretty much no weight at all the next year or so, but I've been lifting 5x a week and my body looks nothing like when I first lost the weight. So much more defined and "tight". My belly is still there, no visible abs yet lol but I can honestly say I love the way I look even though I still have many flaws.
As a sign on a nearby gym here says:
No sweat, no beauty.
No squat, no booty.
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That if you were DeathFat to start with, losing weight can play silly *kittens* with your menses.
So, I was sort of aware that my light and irregular not-even-proper-periods were due to my weight, because fat produces something like estrogen. But it wasn’t even on my radar when I started The New Regime. Until suddenly, one day, I dropped past some threshold weight, my natural cycle reasserted itself, and I discovered I’m a fountains-of-blood kinda gal.
That was over a year ago, but after cleaning the bathroom and putting on some laundry at 5am this morning FOR REASONS, I thought I ought to warn others
Same. I recently passed out at work and discovered I was anemic because of the “fountains-of-blood”. I’m down 161 lbs down and have lots left to lose, but after being obese my entire life I think my lady parts freaked out on me.
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How quickly it becomes a lifestyle instead of a diet. 36lbs down, not sure when it will stop but I’m enjoying the benefits 24
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People will start making comments on your food choices like 'You don't need to watch what you eat, you're already so small' or 'why are you working out? You don't need to lose weight'.
Um, I got this way -because- I started to watch what I ate and work out. I'm not going to go back to eating like *kitten* and not working out just because I am small now. That's how I gained weight to begin with.34 -
beachbody4l wrote: »People will start making comments on your food choices like 'You don't need to watch what you eat, you're already so small' or 'why are you working out? You don't need to lose weight'.
Um, I got this way -because- I started to watch what I ate and work out. I'm not going to go back to eating like *kitten* and not working out just because I am small now. That's how I gained weight to begin with.
I don't know what's worse: that or when you bugdet in a treat and get shade for it "how can you eat a burger and lose weight?!" Usually followed by accusations of quack dieting, an eating disorder (I had one person ask if I was going to throw up my burger because "no one can eat burgers" and lose weight"), or surgery.34 -
Others question my food choices, some will say I’m getting too thin, some will ask how I lost the weight and when I tell them they respond by saying, no really how’d you do it.18
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face becomes angular, look like a soccer player now.
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I love men's sports watches, they are much simpler in appearance than women's. I don't want sparkles, or flowers, or pink watches. I just want the plain black ones. My wrists are now too small to wear the men's, even on the smallest wristband settings.
I can't even wear my favorite watch now.17 -
I love men's sports watches, they are much simpler in appearance than women's. I don't want sparkles, or flowers, or pink watches. I just want the plain black ones. My wrists are now too small to wear the men's, even on the smallest wristband settings.
I can't even wear my favorite watch now.
I'm the same, but they do sell simple black watches for women. I've had this for years and it's taken so much abuse, but still ticking. Still not anywhere near the smallest setting, and I don't think I ever will be - my bones are too large.
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My poor boobs. I have barely started my weight loss and they are already starting to deflate.
I am irrationally concerned about the potential loose skin. If I wasn’t motivated by my health to lose weight, the fear of loose skin would probably be enough to discourage me from losing it. Ridiculous, I know.
Wrinkles…I think the fat was filling them in before…
I can relate to the mixed responses from friends and family, and the making new friends part, even though it has only been about 2 months. And I am surprised by the “subtle support” I guess you could call it. For example, co-workers who I am friendly with but would not call friends, giving the cold-shoulder to people who are trying to push junk food on me or they turn down junk food that is offered to them while they are in my office area. And because I started losing weight so quickly (my inflammation went down very quickly with my new diet, making it look like I lost a lot of weight very quickly) a couple of people did mention that I looked great, but they hoped whatever I was doing I was doing safely. I really appreciate that they were more concerned about my health than the way I looked.
I realized how much of the socializing I did revolved around food and sedentary activities, whereas now (and before I gained the weight) there is so much more activity involved in my social and down time. Looking back, I can’t believe just how drastic the change, without even realizing it was happening!
Unlike a lot of people who find healthy eating to be expensive and time consuming, I have always found the opposite, and just like the socializing, I am amazed how much time and money I had been spending around meal consumption without really realizing it. I have saved a lot on meal related expenses over the last two months without even trying, and I have stocked the freezer with fish and steak.
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This freezing all time thing is just annoying. It’s 80 degrees outside, after 10 minutes of turning on the AC i have to turn it off or wear a sweater. I’m still using my mini space heater at work. I really lost some good insulation with all that fat gone.
On the plus side my self confidence is on a whole new level! I’ve always had high confidence/ self-esteem but losing weight takes things to a higher new level, my goodness! I’m 5ft 2in and walk around as if I’m 6 ft tall and it’s incredible 19 -
My poor boobs. I have barely started my weight loss and they are already starting to deflate.
I am irrationally concerned about the potential loose skin. If I wasn’t motivated by my health to lose weight, the fear of loose skin would probably be enough to discourage me from losing it. Ridiculous, I know.
Wrinkles…I think the fat was filling them in before…
I can relate to the mixed responses from friends and family, and the making new friends part, even though it has only been about 2 months. And I am surprised by the “subtle support” I guess you could call it. For example, co-workers who I am friendly with but would not call friends, giving the cold-shoulder to people who are trying to push junk food on me or they turn down junk food that is offered to them while they are in my office area. And because I started losing weight so quickly (my inflammation went down very quickly with my new diet, making it look like I lost a lot of weight very quickly) a couple of people did mention that I looked great, but they hoped whatever I was doing I was doing safely. I really appreciate that they were more concerned about my health than the way I looked.
I realized how much of the socializing I did revolved around food and sedentary activities, whereas now (and before I gained the weight) there is so much more activity involved in my social and down time. Looking back, I can’t believe just how drastic the change, without even realizing it was happening!
Unlike a lot of people who find healthy eating to be expensive and time consuming, I have always found the opposite, and just like the socializing, I am amazed how much time and money I had been spending around meal consumption without really realizing it. I have saved a lot on meal related expenses over the last two months without even trying, and I have stocked the freezer with fish and steak.
@cjchelli
Don't be upset at the boob thing. I lost my boobs too. There's a huge upsides to losing breast volume.
1. NO UNDERWIRE!!!! Seriously, I wear those tiny and super cute bralettes. Smaller breasts have so many more bra options.
2. $$$$$. My bralettes cost on average $10 each. (I've been known to find them on sale as low as 5 for $20)
3. No tenting of shirts. Flowy and lose shirts don't tent without the huge boobs.26 -
My poor boobs. I have barely started my weight loss and they are already starting to deflate.
I must be in the minority of women pleased that their boobs basically disappeared. Have hated them since the age of 11, when my spiteful sisters made a comment about them that has stayed with me for nearly four decades (some things you just never forget).
But those over-sized and out-of-proportion boobs are on the way out. My smaller size means that bras are easier to find and they look better with my smaller self.
My dear sisters, on the other hand, have been out of my life for over a decade. Between them, they pretty well ruined my childhood. I finally realised, after I had my own children, that my lovely sisters were an unnecessary and unwanted evil in my life. Things are much more pleasant without them giving me grief.60 -
If you are single, dating is so much easier after loosing weight19
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Madwife2009 wrote: »My poor boobs. I have barely started my weight loss and they are already starting to deflate.
I must be in the minority of women pleased that their boobs basically disappeared. Have hated them since the age of 11, when my spiteful sisters made a comment about them that has stayed with me for nearly four decades (some things you just never forget).
But those over-sized and out-of-proportion boobs are on the way out. My smaller size means that bras are easier to find and they look better with my smaller self.
My dear sisters, on the other hand, have been out of my life for over a decade. Between them, they pretty well ruined my childhood. I finally realised, after I had my own children, that my lovely sisters were an unnecessary and unwanted evil in my life. Things are much more pleasant without them giving me grief.
@Madwife2009
Oh no, you're not alone in that...I love my tiny breasts now. I am truly an A cup and love the fact that I don't worry about a button popping open on my shirts, or not being able to zip a jacket up. Working out is easier without the bouncy melons that I used to have. So is finding a comfortable position to sleep in. Swimsuit tops and even shirts don't look risque if you have no cleavage. I would never want to have large breasts ever again.19 -
Madwife2009 wrote: »My poor boobs. I have barely started my weight loss and they are already starting to deflate.
I must be in the minority of women pleased that their boobs basically disappeared. Have hated them since the age of 11, when my spiteful sisters made a comment about them that has stayed with me for nearly four decades (some things you just never forget).
But those over-sized and out-of-proportion boobs are on the way out. My smaller size means that bras are easier to find and they look better with my smaller self.
My dear sisters, on the other hand, have been out of my life for over a decade. Between them, they pretty well ruined my childhood. I finally realised, after I had my own children, that my lovely sisters were an unnecessary and unwanted evil in my life. Things are much more pleasant without them giving me grief.
@Madwife2009
Oh no, you're not alone in that...I love my tiny breasts now. I am truly an A cup and love the fact that I don't worry about a button popping open on my shirts, or not being able to zip a jacket up. Working out is easier without the bouncy melons that I used to have. So is finding a comfortable position to sleep in. Swimsuit tops and even shirts don't look risque if you have no cleavage. I would never want to have large breasts ever again.
I'm torn between whether I want to lose some of my boobs or not! My boobs are over-sized, but currently proportional to the rest of my over-sized self. I have stated out loud that I would consider a breast reduction after I'm done having kids and breastfeeding. I'm still irrationally afraid of getting saggy boobs if I lose weight from them, though. I really like the shape and feel of them now, but I'd be happy with them being a bit smaller. My boobs have grown continuously since I turned 12 (first natural growth, then weight gain), and I'm pretty much done with going up the size chart.
Just so this thread doesn't get completely hijacked into boob discussions, here's what nobody told me: how touchy people get about discussing any activity-related issues with an overweight person who works out. It's almost like they have this internal thought process of "she's talking about going to the gym, that must mean she's dieting, and talking about that is a no-no". Sure, weight loss is a nice benefit of working out, but I'm happy to exercise, try new activities and gain strength even when it's completely unrelated to weight loss or body composition. Might be nice to discuss that with my friends once in a while.8 -
Madwife2009 wrote: »My poor boobs. I have barely started my weight loss and they are already starting to deflate.
I must be in the minority of women pleased that their boobs basically disappeared. Have hated them since the age of 11, when my spiteful sisters made a comment about them that has stayed with me for nearly four decades (some things you just never forget).
But those over-sized and out-of-proportion boobs are on the way out. My smaller size means that bras are easier to find and they look better with my smaller self.
My dear sisters, on the other hand, have been out of my life for over a decade. Between them, they pretty well ruined my childhood. I finally realised, after I had my own children, that my lovely sisters were an unnecessary and unwanted evil in my life. Things are much more pleasant without them giving me grief.
@Madwife2009
Oh no, you're not alone in that...I love my tiny breasts now. I am truly an A cup and love the fact that I don't worry about a button popping open on my shirts, or not being able to zip a jacket up. Working out is easier without the bouncy melons that I used to have. So is finding a comfortable position to sleep in. Swimsuit tops and even shirts don't look risque if you have no cleavage. I would never want to have large breasts ever again.
here's what nobody told me: how touchy people get about discussing any activity-related issues with an overweight person who works out. It's almost like they have this internal thought process of "she's talking about going to the gym, that must mean she's dieting, and talking about that is a no-no". Sure, weight loss is a nice benefit of working out, but I'm happy to exercise, try new activities and gain strength even when it's completely unrelated to weight loss or body composition. Might be nice to discuss that with my friends once in a while.
I love talking about going to the gym. I really try to talk about it only to my gym friends though. And those conversations can get pretty funny because we don't quite know everyone's names. We refer to people like:
- The woman who won't give up "her spot" in yoga.
- The girl with the pink glasses.
- The girl with olive skin who looks mean.
- The girl with the blue hair.
- The woman who can do real pushups.
-The girl with the really long hair
Really we are not mean and gossipy (ok, maybe a bit gossipy) but it's usually talking about how far people have come and also if we think they enjoyed themselves and will return. (Group fitness) Or if we happen to run into them outside the gym. Ex. "I saw the girl who can do real pushups at Home depot." Lol24 -
LOL. I do that^^, too.
I've learned lots of names, but some still have nicknames. Like Mr. Joshua. He looks just like the Mr. Joshua character from Lethal Weapon and he's got the same personality.12
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