Less Alcohol- May 2018- One Day at a Time

JulieAL1969 wrote: »

Just went to the local beach. At 3:00 , I heard an announcement about happy hour beginning... then they described the drink specials.
I was arguing in my mind, "Well it isn't June yet." Then, I thought, "You always have an excuse."
In the end, I skipped the happy hour drink. Little triumphs.

Those little victories are so big.

So the last two days I’ve had the habit of getting a beer call me. Both times I took one out and put it in a sleeve. Then I just put it in front of me and thought about do I really want this or is it the habit. I know if I want a beer I can have it it’s my choice. Both times I put the beer back in the fridge. Two days down!

@JenT304 @donimfp Oh man, do I get the mortification. I almost didn't post this here because it's so mortifying, but in solidarity . . . I think I've mentioned that my son and girlfriend have been pretty much AF since March after a breakup that had to do with her excessive drinking. Prob his too, TBH. So, they're back together and we three are in various states of moderation/AF. They are doing amazingly well. I'm trying to keep up! Anyway, my son told me recently that a long time ago we drove our grandsons home to his house after being out to dinner with them. He said he knew we'd been drinking but didn't want to say anything. I died. I really did. Shame, mortification, the whole range of emotions. What if anything had happened to my beloved grandsons? I'm in tears thinking about how awful it would have been. It was only a couple of glasses of wine, but still. It just brought this rush of shame. I'm sitting here now with my face turning red, I kid you not.

Okay, moving on. Those days are behind me. Things have been pretty good, not perfect, with the drinking since we got back from our cruise. I need to tighten up a bit, but otherwise things are ok. Looking forward to starting a new month, both alcoholwise and foodwise. Best to everyone here. V excited about the new addition, @JenT304.

Thank you as always @JulieAL1969, for being our guiding light.

@kittybenn I hear you. There’s just something especially heartbreaking about any implication that we’re not trusted with the most precious people on earth to us. That came up in the latest season of Grace and Frankie with Lily Tomlin’s character, and even though it didn’t involve alcohol it just slew me

But we need to be compassionate to ourselves. We know better and we do better. For you relative “youngsters” here, be so thankful you’re working through this now. May your grown children never have to have a second’s concern about entrusting you with their (and your) most beloved little humans.

@amberellen12 One of the most important reasons I need to give it up is I would have fights with my husband and wake up in the morning and wonder why he was not speaking to me. I literally would not remember one word I said. Thank you for sharing this story with us. It really reinforces my desire to stay 100% sober.