What nobody tells you about losing weight
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You need more underwear - when you start exercising one set per day just won't cut it19
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1) As someone who has lost over 100 pounds and kept it off for like 5 years (until I had another baby) I am always incredibly frustrated by the fact even if I look good in my clothes I do not and will not ever look good in a bathing suit or naked with out lots of surgery...
2) I do not feel better mentally or physically because I lost weight.
3) I still think I am a fat person40 -
catebonarrigo wrote: »
3) I still think I am a fat person
I still think that. In medium t shirt, 34" jeans and yet I'm still convinced I'm a fat person
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Your alcohol tolerance goes down!21
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Nobody told me how frustrating it is walking into the doctor's office and having a doctor suggest that you lose weight when you'd already lost 30lbs, and that with an 8-10" healing incision in your side core muscles.24
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You’ll need a new mattress since the firm one you currently use was enhanced by the extra “padding” you used to carry.
I loved my orthopaedic mattress and used to spend hours reading in bed. Now my hips and bum ache after about 15mins of sitting up. Time for a new softer mattress.12 -
Best thing so far was this morning I was feeling a little down since I've reached a plateau and was thinking what to do to push past it and I was walking down the hall and a coworker said, "You're looking really skinny today!" And I'm still a size 12 down from a 16 in the past 6 months but that was great to hear even though I know I have a long way to go still.42
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i'm about 24 pounds down with ~75 to go...but some things in this thread are resonating with me already.
-getting hit on more, chatted up more, flirted with more. maybe it's the combination of my increased confidence and smaller body, but it feels like the more weight i lose, the more people find me attractive (guys and gals but especially males!).
-more energy. sometimes i have too much energy. one of my friends commented that i'm "always up buzzing around these days." i wake up less tired, nap less.
-climbing hills is easier! i live in seattle so hills used to terrify me. i'd walk out of my way to avoid steep ones. it's embarrassing to be huffing and puffing up the hill. but now i embrace it and say f it, if anyone has a problem with me being out of breath then that's their issue. i refuse to be embarrassed anymore.
-clearer skin!
-more compliments on my appearance, just in general. people are noticing my weight loss, yes, but also starting to compliment me on my makeup and hair etc.
the more weight i lose, the more visible i become to the world. as someone who's been fat since age 5, it's simultaneously wonderful and scary.36 -
How much fun clothes shopping becomes!
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catebonarrigo wrote: »1) As someone who has lost over 100 pounds and kept it off for like 5 years (until I had another baby) I am always incredibly frustrated by the fact even if I look good in my clothes I do not and will not ever look good in a bathing suit or naked with out lots of surgery...
2) I do not feel better mentally or physically because I lost weight.
3) I still think I am a fat person
Yes. I’m feeling the exact same thing.
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catebonarrigo wrote: »1) As someone who has lost over 100 pounds and kept it off for like 5 years (until I had another baby) I am always incredibly frustrated by the fact even if I look good in my clothes I do not and will not ever look good in a bathing suit or naked with out lots of surgery...
2) I do not feel better mentally or physically because I lost weight.
3) I still think I am a fat person
Yes. I’m feeling the exact same thing.
I am at the other extreme. I feel more confident, younger and stronger. I feel like a fit person and I love it.16 -
tinkerbellang83 wrote: »I don't know who I am anymore!!
(At least I still have absolutely no desire to wear a skirt! I think that may cause people to have a heart attack!)
@beerfoamy yet
nah, I still hate skirts/dresses with a fiery passion! Plus they NEVER have pockets (my mates rant quite a lot about this)
Geeky dresses with pockets
Oh my wooooord these are awesome!!
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At 50 years old, one thing that surprised me after losing 30 pounds was how much older I looked. My thinner (bonier) face just looked harsher, with more sharp angles and deeper shadows under my eyes. People also started asking me if I was tired, and if I was feeling okay.21
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(1) Keep track of your passwords because Face ID may not recognize you.
(2) Your insecure "pretty" friends might turn super petty (actually they would've always been petty, but since you're now a "threat," the pettiness is directed towards you).
(3) Everyone wants to weigh-in on how you lost the weight.
(4) You may experience a mild case of body dysmorphia.23 -
I tried to post this the other day for all my fellow cold all the time peeps, Wrangler makes fleece lined cargo pants, you can get them at Meijer in Michigan these days. First time I’ve been warm since August.
I'm a few pages back and it's summer now.. but L.L. Bean has fleece lined jeans too. lol2 -
How much harder it is to shave your armpits 15
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Lots of room in theatre seats to move and no longer wedged into the seat with a shoe horn.8
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cherbear1858 wrote: »Lots of room in theatre seats to move and no longer wedged into the seat with a shoe horn.
And flying economy class is no longer torturous!10 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »That sometimes I get a little vain. I realize that I now wear clothes to show off my butt, back, and shoulders instead of wearing clothes to hide myself.
My wardrobe has also gotten a lot more colorful instead of my nearly all black attire that was my staple when I was obese.
Yes! I want my shoulders showing at all times!
I just bought a set of strappy tops I couldn't really afford purely because I want the world to see my collarbones. I WORKED for these, darnit, and you're gonna appreciate them!29 -
-My mood stays mostly elevated...in spite of difficult circumstances. Everything seems possible.
-I'm at an 80#-loss right now, and I remember how emotional I was before I began. Every little thing would be a huge hurdle. I can't wait to see what the next 80#-loss will do for my self-esteem. Omg!32 -
How annoying shopping for dress clothes is going to be.
I work in a school, and was asked if I would help out at graduation this Saturday. I said yes, and then later realized I had no dress clothes for the ceremony that fit. So I went to JCPenney after work. There were no size 28 dress pants, only 30 and higher. So I grabbed the only 30 they had.
My neck size measures in a 15", but I have a naturally wide chest at 40". So the dress shirts in a neck size 15 were way too tight in the chest, so I ended up having to go up in the neck size just to get a shirt that fit.
$200 later, and I now have dress clothes that kind of fit me...16 -
That I'd end up having to pay to get my kilt retailored and not just altered. But it looks good!
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- How great plain food tastes when you're hungry
- How nice it is to NOT snuggle hips with your row mate on public transport.
- How much taller you look
- I have copd and am on xxygen 24/7. A highest weight I needed oxygen flow of 5. 98 pounds later, I am down to 3 flow. And can walk much further
- Being able to bend over and pick things up off the floor without making a strategy and plan.
- Being able to buy chairs and workout equipment without checking the weight limit
- Being able to get in and out of the back seat of a car without getting so winded
- Being able to walk and carry on a conversation at the same time
- Having a jawline
- Being able to see your junk without a mirror. (The opposite is my great-aunt's definition of how to know you need to lose weight.)34 -
catebonarrigo wrote: »1) As someone who has lost over 100 pounds and kept it off for like 5 years (until I had another baby) I am always incredibly frustrated by the fact even if I look good in my clothes I do not and will not ever look good in a bathing suit or naked with out lots of surgery...
2) I do not feel better mentally or physically because I lost weight.
3) I still think I am a fat person
Yes. I’m feeling the exact same thing.
In hopes this helps you both, I will share that I went through a period where I felt like this. I actually saw a counselor about it, as my self-loathing was getting worse and worse even though I'd lost a lot of weight and kept it off. This turned up some very significant underlying issues, and I spent a year actively working through them with a therapist and I am one of those people who really doesn't believe in that sort of thing - but I believe now, because it helped immensely. *IF* you decide to go the route of counseling, find someone you like. I had to try 3 before I found mine. My work had an employee assistance program so it was free, but honestly the rewards were so great that knowing what I know now, if work DIDN'T pay for it and I had an issue, I'd see a counselor.
That being said... I also searched and read a lot on the subject of body image. One of the things that really stuck with me, and I keep it bookmarked in my phone so I can always pull it up if I'm feeling badly about how I look, was an article and blog post by Lauren Fleshman.
https://www.runnersworld.com/runners-stories/a20789986/lets-keep-it-real-about-our-bodies/
What I can offer to you is that, THIS TOO SHALL PASS. But there are some things you can do to speed the process along. Embrace your body for what it can do and how you CAN move in it. Tell yourself you look great. Recognize you *aren't* overweight and celebrate your accomplishment. Frustration will come, all the time, BUT... find ways to kick it out of your mind quickly (this is where counseling helped me) or else it will drag you back to where you started.
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No one tells you that
- As you lose weight, you'll also lose some friends... BUT you'll gain new ones!
- Your EYES will look SO much bigger in photos!
- Some friends and family, who don't see you often, will still think of you/remember you as the big one... so when they mistake the larger brunette for you in a Facebook photo, or even in real life, resist the urge to smack them
- It's up to you to tell people how best to support you, and realize that not everyone is going to be supportive.
- The only opinion that matters is YOURS, so find a way to love yourself enough to respect what you say to yourself. If you wouldn't say it to a friend, don't say it to yourself.
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How annoying shopping for dress clothes is going to be.
I work in a school, and was asked if I would help out at graduation this Saturday. I said yes, and then later realized I had no dress clothes for the ceremony that fit. So I went to JCPenney after work. There were no size 28 dress pants, only 30 and higher. So I grabbed the only 30 they had.
My neck size measures in a 15", but I have a naturally wide chest at 40". So the dress shirts in a neck size 15 were way too tight in the chest, so I ended up having to go up in the neck size just to get a shirt that fit.
$200 later, and I now have dress clothes that kind of fit me...
Go online, I found a women's suit maker that will custom make my suits (jacket & trousers/skirt) for about $200-400. They also make everything else from shirts to coats, all by my measurements. I am certain that there are men's suit makers that will make custom fitted clothes online.3 -
catebonarrigo wrote: »1) As someone who has lost over 100 pounds and kept it off for like 5 years (until I had another baby) I am always incredibly frustrated by the fact even if I look good in my clothes I do not and will not ever look good in a bathing suit or naked with out lots of surgery...
2) I do not feel better mentally or physically because I lost weight.
3) I still think I am a fat person
Yes. I’m feeling the exact same thing.
I sometimes still feel that way. I am having a tummy-tuck though. When I first started I calculated my grocery bill, as I was eating less my grocery bills went down: 3 years later and I saved up enough from just not buying as much food to pay for my belly flap to be removed. Also, if it's prone to infection, insurance may cover some of it (they are covering 50% of mine) as preventative care.17 -
catebonarrigo wrote: »1) As someone who has lost over 100 pounds and kept it off for like 5 years (until I had another baby) I am always incredibly frustrated by the fact even if I look good in my clothes I do not and will not ever look good in a bathing suit or naked with out lots of surgery...
2) I do not feel better mentally or physically because I lost weight.
3) I still think I am a fat person
Yes. I’m feeling the exact same thing.
In hopes this helps you both, I will share that I went through a period where I felt like this. I actually saw a counselor about it, as my self-loathing was getting worse and worse even though I'd lost a lot of weight and kept it off. This turned up some very significant underlying issues, and I spent a year actively working through them with a therapist and I am one of those people who really doesn't believe in that sort of thing - but I believe now, because it helped immensely. *IF* you decide to go the route of counseling, find someone you like. I had to try 3 before I found mine. My work had an employee assistance program so it was free, but honestly the rewards were so great that knowing what I know now, if work DIDN'T pay for it and I had an issue, I'd see a counselor.
That being said... I also searched and read a lot on the subject of body image. One of the things that really stuck with me, and I keep it bookmarked in my phone so I can always pull it up if I'm feeling badly about how I look, was an article and blog post by Lauren Fleshman.
https://www.runnersworld.com/runners-stories/a20789986/lets-keep-it-real-about-our-bodies/
What I can offer to you is that, THIS TOO SHALL PASS. But there are some things you can do to speed the process along. Embrace your body for what it can do and how you CAN move in it. Tell yourself you look great. Recognize you *aren't* overweight and celebrate your accomplishment. Frustration will come, all the time, BUT... find ways to kick it out of your mind quickly (this is where counseling helped me) or else it will drag you back to where you started.
Thank you for taking the time to share this. It made me want to rant out a little bit just to get things out of my chest.
In my entire life after grade 3, I have only been in healthy weight categories for 4 months. Then broke to my personal high of 285lb. It was an akward day going to the tailors with friends to get new suits for another buddy's wedding. Steeping on the scale for the first time in 3 years and realized I am 30lb heavier than I thought I was.
I am now 213lb. With 15% body fat between 24 to 25 bmi. I have hit the goals and readjust them again and again. Yet the joy or the rise in self esteem as many people had expressed started to diminished. I am still loosing but felt lost. I pinch around my core and felt the inches of fat between my fingers and wonder wt*. I mean everything should be ok now with great blood test results, average body fat percentage (though slightly high bmi), but those inches of fat from the past sit there making the statement that I am still fat and obese no matter what had happened.
Anyhow thank you for reading my long rant. Feels a little better telling the world about it.
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