JUST FOR TODAY ....... One day at a time ..... Daily Commitment Thread for 2018
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »mytime6630 wrote: »I was so sad to read this Tracy!!! I am so sorry if your mom was negative. I KNOW @Bex is going to love it!!
SO please, do not let your mother take away from the joy of sewing. If you saw my early quilts you would see what I mean. I have been quilting now for almost 25 years, so don't ever compare yours to anyone else.
I would love to see it ..... I know it is beautiful!!!! So please, do not do anything different. If you need help with how to finish it, please send me a private email- and I will send you my personal email address, and I will be more than happy in giving you suggestions as to how to finish it off.
@PackerFanInGB Ditto everthing Joan said, hon. Hey maybe we could do some kind of video conference!
Thank you! I'm going to work on it this afteroon, and if I get stuck, I will message you and Joan privately for help!
Maybe a Skype session or something if I get REALLY stuck! LOL!
My husband is going to my bonus son's (his son) house for a 3:00 cookout, steak dinner, and I am not going to be able to go. It's going to be nearly a 100 degree heat index with high humidity and I would be miserable. My body doesn't handle heat well anymore. My right arm (the one I had to get therapy on for lymphedema) swells horribly in the heat and it would send me right back to the therapist. So, I'll be downstairs working on the quilt and I'm really looking forward to jumping back in and not worrying about it being perfect!
I love how everyone’s chipping in to help you get it finished! You’re all so lovely!!
Also don’t post pics in here! I want it to be a surprise!!!2 -
JFT - Saturday and Sunday
I missed updating my goals from Friday and posting yesterday, Friday was fairly successful. Over a tiny bit on my calories but only by 100. Other than that did ok.
Yesterday was my last swim lesson for this session, my instructor said he thought I was very successful and I’m so close to the breathing properly. I did it once perfectly, got so excited I ended up swallowing water.
I woke up early this morning and hubby put me right to work. We then realized we needed some parts for what we were doing and we ended up at Home Depot before they even opened. Stopped and grabbed the kids came back home made breakfast then took Lauryn to work. Now Rodg is napping and the kids and I are snacking. I have to pick lauryn up from work around 330 will be stopping for propane on the way back then making dinner twice. Lauryn’s husband won’t be done work until late so I’ll cook his when he gets here.
No real goals today except getting my water in and staying close to Green. Probably won’t have s chance for a walk.
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JFY (Saturday)
1. Drink all my water before having a Diet Coke
2. Log all the food I eat
3. Stay close to "in the green" with my calories
4. Stay "in the green with my sodium
5. Go visit Dad for Father's Day BBQ
6. Finish 2 orders from my shop
JFT (Sunday)
1. Drink all my water before having a Diet Coke
2. Log all the food I eat
3. Stay close to "in the green" with my calories
4. Stay "in the green with my sodium2 -
Just for today: going to hit under my calorie goal. Going to do my best with my stretches. Going to take my psyllium. Going to be kind to my parents and try to make my dad feel special & appreciated today. Going to help my mom. Going to read and try not to be upset about not doing more - everything hurts and I feel tired and a break is okay. This is enough.
This is absolutely enough! Don't get upset about not doing more! We can only do what our body and mind allows us to in a given day, and I think helping your mom and showing your dad he is appreciated and special is an awesome goal!
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »For @Bex,
For me, personally, I think it's important to pick one or two meaningful items for the day. I don't think of this as my to do list for the day (and I rarely post in this thread anymore).
Think of one or two mini challenges that are meaningful to you. I notice you take the baby out in her stroller. Is there a particular place or park you would like to go with her and maybe gradually extend the walking time?
A lot of people post about drinking 8 glasses of water a day, but this might not be realistic right off the bat. If you're currently drinking one or two, set your initial goal for three or four. If you're not drinking any water, let your goal be one glass in the morning and one in the afternoon, or even just one a day.
I think we need to set ourselves up for success. I honestly find it demoralizing to see these long lists of repetitive to do's and things that don't get accomplished. I can "feel" the frustration, and I think we need to be realistic about what we can and cannot achieve on a given day. We are all different, with different lifestyles, health concerns, etc. When I see a list of 10-20 items, I just get discouraged because I know, for me, that is not realistic.
I think we need to build ourselves up, not make ourselves feel bad, and then GRADUALLY increase our goals.
Good luck to you, Bex, and everyone else!
Very insightful! I think you are right. I do feel bad when I don't meet all the goals I set. I think after being on here for years I don't always look at things from the view of someone else. Thanks for this post! I'm going to scale back my goals and maybe seeing some smiles will help me be more successful!
BTW, it's great to hear from you, again!! It's been a while!
Thank you, @PackerFanInGB! Maybe I'll try to pop in more often. 3 -
Just for today: going to hit under my calorie goal. Going to do my best with my stretches. Going to take my psyllium. Going to be kind to my parents and try to make my dad feel special & appreciated today. Going to help my mom. Going to read and try not to be upset about not doing more - everything hurts and I feel tired and a break is okay. This is enough.
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I hope you feel better. Rest and recover.1 -
Favorite Zumba Youtube video?Snowflake1968 wrote: »JFT - Monday June 11
2L of Water -
Stay in Green -
Outside 15 Minutes - No, wind gusts were up steady at around 40km/hour and gusting up to 90 all day and evening. Terrible drive home yesterday signs blown all over, trees and poles down. I saw three accidents and it was a struggle at times keeping the car in the lane.
June Challenge - See Below
Plank Challenge - Completely forgot
Stretch Challenge - Completely forgot
Write in Journal - Completely forgot
Exercise?- A Zumba YouTube video
10 Somethings at work -
Some, but not every hour
Finish Father's Day card -
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drbeanie2000 wrote: »Favorite Zumba Youtube video?Snowflake1968 wrote: »JFT - Monday June 11
2L of Water -
Stay in Green -
Outside 15 Minutes - No, wind gusts were up steady at around 40km/hour and gusting up to 90 all day and evening. Terrible drive home yesterday signs blown all over, trees and poles down. I saw three accidents and it was a struggle at times keeping the car in the lane.
June Challenge - See Below
Plank Challenge - Completely forgot
Stretch Challenge - Completely forgot
Write in Journal - Completely forgot
Exercise?- A Zumba YouTube video
10 Somethings at work - Some, but not every hour
Finish Father's Day card -
I don't have a favourite, I've only done 2 and they were a few years apart. I really should find a favourite, and then maybe I would do it more often.2 -
Daily check-in to see how I did today:
Grocery shop for my weekly menu ✅
Exercise (nothing too scary) for 30 minutes ✅
(Was ridiculously hot and humid out but I did it!)
Meal prep for the week-so so. I did what I could for tomorrow.
Keep up my water challenge-80 oz. day 14!!✅
Start tracking food and exercise✅
Tidy the house for the week-got halfway through
Post on a forum for accountability ✅
Tomorrow’s goals:
House chores
30 minutes exercise
Track food and exercise
Finish tidying
Water challenge-80 oz.
Post here for accountability tomorrow night
Here goes my first weekday with healthy habits in place! Wish me luck!6 -
Well I am relieved to be at the end of a fairly rubbish weekend. I really tried not to let things get to me but some plans fell through and I ended up spending lots of time on my own and a combination of boredom, frustration and sadness all led to some emotional eating. I did work out both days, did lots of chores and went to hot yoga yesterday plus got at least 10000 steps both days so not a complete bust!
Keeping goals minimal today:
- morning workout
- April challenge
- May challenge
- June challenge
- Steps to 12k+
- Early night4 -
Never logged on to JFT this weekend ~ just so busy! So sad to read of some the struggles posted here, and so pleased to see the outpouring of support. JFT is wonderful group of people!
Please know I keep you all in my prayers.
Friday was last work day until 6/25 for hubby and myself ~ yippee! Had an unproductive day in office (go figure) but got lots of my pre-weekend tasks done. Managed to keep net calories to -17 hahaha with walking dog 3.55 miles before work.
Sat. hubby & I headed to my sister's for family combo bday party (70, 50, 30 + misc. over several months). Before we left home, I walked dog 3.32 miles & made couscous salad to bring to party. Total car time = 5.5 hrs ~ ack! There was no logging of food or drink, including multiple adult beverages + no regrets.
It was a wonderful day filled with family and food was good too. 
When we got home at 9 p.m. I was exhausted & was asleep before I could watch weather forecast during 10:00 news. 
Today (Sun.) after church, hubby I were busy around home, quick grocery run & packing for our mini vacation trip. My late afternoon snack attack of sesame stix pushed my net calories to -462 and sodium very red ~ ack! Otherwise I ate what I planned, and at least I drank 14c water ~ SO hot & humid today ~ ick! Also walked dog 3.6 miles ~ we went way slower than usual ~ even dog was dragging.
Tomorrow morning, I hope to walk dog if thunderstorms let us. On Friday we had > 2.5" rain in the gauge, and this evening more heavy downpours. At least my rain barrels and planters are all set. Mon. mid-morning, SIL and her hubby arrive to pet and house sit while hubby and I leave town for our three night getaway ~ woohoo! I decided to log off MFP ~ want to be focused on hubby & our time together, not sneaking onto MFP to read threads. Wishing everyone a good week!1 -
Hello friends! I am back from a lovely weekend with the husbands up in the mountains. Left Saturday morning and made it to the beer fest just as it was opening. My earlier JFT was to not eat any sugar on Saturday and that's exactly what happened! In fact, I had allowed myself wine at supper and I ended up passing it up as well (I just didn't want to spend 14 bucks on a glass of wine when I really wasn't even hankering for it) I also split a sandwich with the hubs at the fest and then ate half the entree at dinner. Got back to the hotel and the receptionist offered homemade cookies. Oh my word. NO!!! I got upstairs and bolted the door! (Told the hubs to please leave the food in the car)
We went home a more scenic route today. We went onto some dirt roads, in a meadow with delightful flowers and had a light picnic with cheese and wine, and a snooze in the sun. It was a glorious day. We got back on the main road and after awhile we pulled over next to a stream and took another nap with the sound of the water rushing by. I think the curves of the road were lulling us to sleep, lol! It was a great time to just relax and completely unwind.
Peace and joy!
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No. WE'VE got this!! Peace and joy everyone!
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Today's commitments:
- Log everything I eat
- Stick to food plan
- Stick to alcohol plan
- 4 bottles water
- 30 mins lunch break
- French podcast + article + Duolingo
- Look at emails at intervals only
- Don't panic!
- Leave work by 6pm
- Get train home at 9.45pm
June challenge:
June 10: "I'm on holiday" = chocolate
June 11: Stress = gin, no food
June 12: No emotional eating
June 13: 'celebratory' mood + pub + burger/ ice cream
June 14: No emotional eating
June 15: I wasn't particularly healthy at my friend's but this was more about greed than emotions..
June 16: No emotional eating
June 17: No emotional eating
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Just For Yesterday Update:1) Log all food and stay under goal.
2) Treat myself well, which includes oral hygiene, physical therapy, relaxation, and fun
3) Call my dad and brother as we can't be together this Father's Day. Had really nice talks with both of them. I'm really blessed in my family.
Just For Today, I commit to:
1) Log all food and stay under goal (I was 6 calories over when I prelogged, so going to try to trim a bit: maybe only half a potato?)
2) Drink 8 glasses of water
3) Get out of the house even though it's going to be really hot
4) Physical therapy morning and evening
5) Yoga routine
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JFY (Sunday)
1. Drink all my water before having a Diet Coke
2. Log all the food I eat
3. Stay close to "in the green" with my calories
4. Stay "in the green with my sodium
JFT (Monday)
1. Drink all my water before having a Diet Coke
2. Log all the food I eat
3. Stay close to "in the green" with my calories
4. Stay "in the green with my sodium
5. Go to the gym
6. Finish 7 orders from my shop2 -
Hello friends! I am back from a lovely weekend with the husbands up in the mountains. Left Saturday morning and made it to the beer fest just as it was opening. My earlier JFT was to not eat any sugar on Saturday and that's exactly what happened! In fact, I had allowed myself wine at supper and I ended up passing it up as well (I just didn't want to spend 14 bucks on a glass of wine when I really wasn't even hankering for it) I also split a sandwich with the hubs at the fest and then ate half the entree at dinner. Got back to the hotel and the receptionist offered homemade cookies. Oh my word. NO!!! I got upstairs and bolted the door! (Told the hubs to please leave the food in the car)
We went home a more scenic route today. We went onto some dirt roads, in a meadow with delightful flowers and had a light picnic with cheese and wine, and a snooze in the sun. It was a glorious day. We got back on the main road and after awhile we pulled over next to a stream and took another nap with the sound of the water rushing by. I think the curves of the road were lulling us to sleep, lol! It was a great time to just relax and completely unwind.
Peace and joy!
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Realise I forgot to post goals for Saturday/weekend in last night’s post. To be honest, I’m a little anxious about this weekend. I don’t have plans yet (other than a trip to the dentist which I know won’t involve good news).
Feeling reflective this morning as I have my coffee before working out. Tomorrow marks exactly five years since my ex walked out. We had been married six years and together for 10. My daughters were 4 and 2. It was pretty much out of the blue and was one of the most horrific experiences of my life.
Since then, I have gone back to uni and got a post grad degree, qualified as a teacher and am now in a job I love and am good at. I am in the shape of my life, having always felt like a naturally chubby, unathletic person. I work out at least six times a week, have found exercise I love and am good at. I’m blessed with a loving family and good friends. I have a home, I am financially independent. I look after myself, my kids and my home without a partner’s help.
Most important, my two girls are happy and kind and make me so proud.
It is still sometimes hard. It’s hard when my kids tell me they hate going to their dad because they don’t like his girlfriend. It’s hard that all of my friends are still married and are raising their kids in partnership with their husbands. It’s hard trying to stay fit and healthy when every night and some weekends I spend so many hours on my own. I now have a boyfriend but things there are complicated and it’s hard trying to make that work when my children are still young and my absolute priority. It’s hard trying not to worry about the future. Whether my kids will stay relatively unscathed by it all, whether I will remain living alone once they have flown the coop, whether I can continue to afford my life on a teacher’s salary, how to keep managing childcare...
So, JFT/this weekend I think I’m going to plan not to plan. I’m up this morning so I will workout. I”ll go to the dentist. I will stay mindful of the April, May and June challenges. I’ll try and reflect on how far I’ve come rather than what may or may not lie ahead. I will cuddle my girls extra tight when they leave and then return this weekend.
And everything else I will allow to fall where it does.
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I can't imagine what that must have been like for you when your ex walked out. It sounds to me though that you are a very strong woman and you were able to keep going. Your girls sound awesome and you have kicked butt! There will still be some obstacles ahead but with the strength you have already proven you have you will meet any challenges head on. You should be proud of yourself 1 -
Not really posted again, can’t seem to do this consistently, I think I’ve slacked on the whole “JFT” and what it stands for. Like I know I’m posting goals to achieve that day but if I don’t complete them I think “never mind I’ll do it tomorrow” as if the day doesn’t count, but when I do that every day then it’s just a downfall from there!
Need someone to re-align my perspective on this!
So I will post goals for today, even though the days nearly over.
- 8 glasses of water
- Be in the green
I personally think that even when I'm not meeting the goals I am aware and that is better than just mindlessly eating and not paying attention. I didn't post goals this weekend at all and it felt incredibly strange because I think it's the first time since I joined this group that I haven't.0 -
mytime6630 wrote: »Didn't get a chance to post or even read all the posts ..... busy day yesterday, so today will be simple
JFT, Sun
1. spend fathers day with hubby. Making him a nice breakfast and dinner, and plan to go to the gym with him this afternoon. (Thats what he wants to do, so I'll go along, even though I hate working out in the afternoons!).
2. april challenge - 8+ cups of water
3. june challenge - mindful eating
Last nite was hard foodwise ... but I ended up eating 2 rice cakes, 2 cups of grapes, and finally a protein bar. I know it was stress eating ... but ... I avoided the ice cream calling my name in the freezer!
We thought we were done with daughters disability ... apparently when they made the decision that her disability will continue, they did not look at last years paystubs. So now we are starting all over again. So between that, and then my mind started worrying about my son ... I just wanted food. But ... I resisted. Even though my calories were higher than I wanted, at least I did not have a all nite binge with icecream!
But on the plus side for me, one entire week of not giving into food in the evening, and my weight is down almost 3 pounds! I am really hoping next week to get out of the 190s!
Hope you all have a great fathers days today
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »
This sounds like a scene straight out of a romantic movie! Sounds just lovely! Glad you had such a great, peaceful day. [/quote]
It was! It's nice to go on outings with him---gets us out of the same ol same ol routine 1 -
Daily check-in to see how I did today:
Grocery shop for my weekly menu ✅
Exercise (nothing too scary) for 30 minutes ✅
(Was ridiculously hot and humid out but I did it!)
Meal prep for the week-so so. I did what I could for tomorrow.
Keep up my water challenge-80 oz. day 14!!✅
Start tracking food and exercise✅
Tidy the house for the week-got halfway through
Post on a forum for accountability ✅
Tomorrow’s goals:
House chores
30 minutes exercise
Track food and exercise
Finish tidying
Water challenge-80 oz.
Post here for accountability tomorrow night
Here goes my first weekday with healthy habits in place! Wish me luck!
Looks like a good start to your goals and plans to start off the weekdays! I personally find I do better during the week than I do on the weekends. Good Luck
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Jft and tomorrow Recap
1. Be kind to yourself
2. Log all food
3. Be present
4. 2 cups regular water + seltzer
Only 1 regular water - never enough on the weekends
5. Laundry
JFT Monday
1. Drink Lots of water
2. Log all food
3. Meds AM and PM
4. Eat packed lunch
5. Tidy kitchen
6. Pick up cream at farm on way home
7. Print Quotes for 365 Days of Happy
8. Finish Reasons I love you - 365 Days of Happy3 -
cschmitz110515 wrote: »Never logged on to JFT this weekend ~ just so busy! So sad to read of some the struggles posted here, and so pleased to see the outpouring of support. JFT is wonderful group of people! Please know I keep you all in my prayers.
Friday was last work day until 6/25 for hubby and myself ~ yippee! Had an unproductive day in office (go figure) but got lots of my pre-weekend tasks done. Managed to keep net calories to -17 hahaha with walking dog 3.55 miles before work.
Sat. hubby & I headed to my sister's for family combo bday party (70, 50, 30 + misc. over several months). Before we left home, I walked dog 3.32 miles & made couscous salad to bring to party. Total car time = 5.5 hrs ~ ack! There was no logging of food or drink, including multiple adult beverages + no regrets. It was a wonderful day filled with family and food was good too. When we got home at 9 p.m. I was exhausted & was asleep before I could watch weather forecast during 10:00 news.
Today (Sun.) after church, hubby I were busy around home, quick grocery run & packing for our mini vacation trip. My late afternoon snack attack of sesame stix pushed my net calories to -462 and sodium very red ~ ack! Otherwise I ate what I planned, and at least I drank 14c water ~ SO hot & humid today ~ ick! Also walked dog 3.6 miles ~ we went way slower than usual ~ even dog was dragging.
Tomorrow morning, I hope to walk dog if thunderstorms let us. On Friday we had > 2.5" rain in the gauge, and this evening more heavy downpours. At least my rain barrels and planters are all set. Mon. mid-morning, SIL and her hubby arrive to pet and house sit while hubby and I leave town for our three night getaway ~ woohoo! I decided to log off MFP ~ want to be focused on hubby & our time together, not sneaking onto MFP to read threads. Wishing everyone a good week!
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Hello friends! I am back from a lovely weekend with the husbands up in the mountains. Left Saturday morning and made it to the beer fest just as it was opening. My earlier JFT was to not eat any sugar on Saturday and that's exactly what happened! In fact, I had allowed myself wine at supper and I ended up passing it up as well (I just didn't want to spend 14 bucks on a glass of wine when I really wasn't even hankering for it) I also split a sandwich with the hubs at the fest and then ate half the entree at dinner. Got back to the hotel and the receptionist offered homemade cookies. Oh my word. NO!!! I got upstairs and bolted the door! (Told the hubs to please leave the food in the car)
We went home a more scenic route today. We went onto some dirt roads, in a meadow with delightful flowers and had a light picnic with cheese and wine, and a snooze in the sun. It was a glorious day. We got back on the main road and after awhile we pulled over next to a stream and took another nap with the sound of the water rushing by. I think the curves of the road were lulling us to sleep, lol! It was a great time to just relax and completely unwind.
Peace and joy!
That sounds like an absolutely perfect weekend away, I especially like your drive home.2 -
slittlemeister wrote: »Today's commitments:
- Log everything I eat
- Stick to food plan
- Stick to alcohol plan
- 4 bottles water
- 30 mins lunch break
- French podcast + article + Duolingo
- Look at emails at intervals only
- Don't panic!
- Leave work by 6pm
- Get train home at 9.45pm
June challenge:
June 10: "I'm on holiday" = chocolate
June 11: Stress = gin, no food
June 12: No emotional eating
June 13: 'celebratory' mood + pub + burger/ ice cream
June 14: No emotional eating
June 15: I wasn't particularly healthy at my friend's but this was more about greed than emotions..
June 16: No emotional eating
June 17: No emotional eating
This seems to be my big one. I just want the taste of something more than I should have 1 -
This weekend flew by like the blue jays chasing a hawk in my yard Saturday. We were either physically busy or busy binge watching Rome episodes. Saturday we painted most of the downstairs in a little house next door that my son may move into or we will rent. We did sit outside and relax a little watching nature after we cleaned up. We also ate out that night. Sunday was Father's day in the USA. Our kids are out of the house but each was able to come by and see their dad. That was nice. I spent the majority of the day with my daughter. Her ex roommate removed the remainder of her property from the apartment. I know there are always two sides to a story, but what I have heard from the ex and seen in the apartment makes me wonder why my daughter did not evict her months ago. There is serious deep cleaning to be done and a new person scheduled to move in this upcoming weekend. I am scheduled to assist Wednesday after work.
I had a great week eating wise last week, but this weekend just went straight to hell, although at least it was not the deepest level. Saturday we went out to a sports pub type place. We split a shrimp appetizer then I had fajitas (only ate half.) So not too bad, but I right away started retaining water. Then yesterday I got breakfast to go on my way to DD, had lunch from Taco Bell - and not the lighter menu - then grilled nice strip steaks for the father's day dinner. Ate very late for us, after 9:00. So the bloat continued this morning. Time to get the train back on the track and loose 5 pounds in a day or two. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
I have not a chance to read through the last two days posts yet. I'll catch up tonight.
Just for today I will- Stay in the green (I don't have a meal plan for the week yet)
- Get 8000 steps 10K may not be realistic with work today
- Drink 64 oz water
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I have an interruption in my schedule today; I'm taking my sister for a medical thing. My plan for today is to not let that interfere with my food plan for the day. I'm going knowing that it's so easy to grab a snack before, during, and after an outing like this. I'm going to spend the time waiting either walking or reading my Beck Diet book on my iPad. Maybe both.
That's my plan - won't let one activity derail me
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JFT - Monday June 18
2L of Water
Stay in Green
Outside 15 Minutes
Walk tonight?
Laundry
Wow what a busy weekend I had, I didn't even really get a chance to check out MFP or FB almost all weekend. In the mornings I like to spend 1/2 an hour or so, just reading posts and seeing what people are up to. Saturday I woke up a bit late and had to rush out for my swim lesson. Sunday I got up and settled onto the couch when hubby started wanting to do work. It was only 630, but he is always up around 4-5 so he had already had his relaxing time. I finally stopped last night around 830 and logged onto the laptop to start reading when my friend started chatting with me on messenger. She is struggling severely with bi-polar, she was only diagnosed 2 years ago so I took time to talk with her as she is very down right now. I have known her since I was 13, her three children are my Godchildren. It is a struggle for me not being able to fix this for her.
I took the Grands to the splash park yesterday while their Mom was at work. Gave hubby some quiet time alone. We left there to go get their Mom and then we ran to the store for a last minute Father's Day gift. I bought him a garden gnome that is "flipping the bird". His sarcastic, grouchy attitude loves it.
My husband, about 5 or 6 years ago, decided that he would not acknowledge Mother's Day for me as "I'm not his mother". I find it very hurtful and it ticks me off. I try every year not to do anything for him for Father's Day because of this and I always find myself feeling petty, hence I bought him a gift. Before I bought a gift though I let him know how I felt. Yesterday morning we had to go to Home Depot, he started pointing out all of these things that I could buy him for Father's Day. Without causing a fight but still getting my opinion heard, I said well you should talk to your Daughter's because as you tell me, you're not my Father. He smiled at me, but I think it shocked him that I would say anything. We'll see what next year brings, but I think there are some days in a year that you should be made to feel special. Birthday, Mother's/Father's Day and Anniversary. We seem to have forgotten to do these things for each other and I think we need to get it back.
Of course, I have a funny Grand story this morning.
Last night for dessert, I bought a DQ log ice cream cake. We were all having a slice and Michaela was having a hard time getting hers cut and on her spoon where the fudge is. Rodger is helping her and Lauryn says to her, "are you struggling"? Michaela says yes. Jonah pipes up in between bites of his own cake and says "Are you struggling emotionally or physically" ?
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@Faebert Life doesn't always go as planned, does it? And sometimes we are completely derailed and are left trying to put the pieces together, and not even sure which of the pieces are ours to pick up. You are still moving forward, no matter how painful, no matter that you don't want to some days, no matter that that there are days where you feel a crushing weight on your very soul. You are still moving. You have done a lot so that you and your young ones would survive this storm.
You have discovered a passion! Teaching! Do you know how few people actually know what they are passionate about and then get to do it? That is so great. The students need teachers like you! You are making a significant difference in their lives. You have two lovely, supportive, and fiercely loyal children. You are going to have no regrets of not being there for them or providing for them or showing your love for them when they are grown and out of the house. They will look back one day and appreciate and marvel at your strength and your determined efforts to put them as a priority. (So many kids can feel abandoned in this situation.) You have found an outlet to throw your frustration/sadness/anger into that provides good health. You could have chosen the bottle to daily drown your emotions but you chose fitness. You could hire a babysitter and be out drinking and finding solace in quick relationships. But you chose to get and keep your body healthy and in shape. And that helps keep your household healthy and you in a place where you can keep going.
No doubt that despite all the above it is still a hard, lonely road that was not of your planning. The biggest obstacle for me would not to let bitterness take root in my heart. Over the years I have had to fight to not let various bad experiences take over my life and quench my joy. Bitterness can utterly destroy a person and those around him/her can be tainted by it as well. I hope you fight that horrible weed with all your being and soul. It absolutely chokes out any joy so that a person just finds him/herself existing day to day instead of thriving.
You keep moving forward. Know that you are loved and supported here in this place where we can be real and vulnerable. May peace abound in your heart and may you continue to fight for a heart filled with joy.
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