What made you suddenly lose interest in someone you were pursuing?
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He drank too much, way too often.
Then there's the guy who made a pass at a friend's 12 yo daughter. *kitten* no.1 -
JaydedMiss wrote: »@JaydedMiss - I can NOT do clingy or needy. The last guy I dated used to text every morning to ask if he could bring me coffee. Cute at first...not after week 26. And if I said I was too busy, his immediate response was, well when can I see you then.
Sometimes I just don't wanna see your face, is that so wrong?
ya its like....i love when you do cute things for me. Its cute. The guy thats around me right now stands no chance and i feel bad because hes super sweet...But he keeps trying to buy me things and be around me all the time and im here like O_O Im so sorry your so nice but your so passive and needy and im not it will never work >.< He picks up literally every chance to try and see me. Im glad someone understands because i feel like a *kitten* xD I work a very dirty tough job, No i dnt want to see you every night i want to see no one i want to sit in bed and wind down alone. When clingy is mixed with the passiveness i pointed out above its a TERRIBLE mixShe had bigger junk than me.
Found out the HARD way.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4_Bxqp2tQU
Yesss! Feels like work after a while.
Maybe I’ll just date you
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_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »I was with my ex husband for 20 years so I'm just starting to date, I imagine I'll be the one screwing things up.
Things that would make me lose interrest in someone : -someone who's too clingy
-if I felt like i was the only one putting effort and didn't feel like the other person meet me half way.
...or if they post Chicago songs to the song thread.2 -
Treats anyone as a lesser person.4
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Right cross to the eye.0
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In the past, I found out a guy I was talking to was married and I immediately left him alone.
I also lose interest if I suspect they are dating other people and we have been on more than few dates.0 -
jillstreett wrote: »He talked a big game about wanting a real relationship and was a genuinely nice and gentle guy but, 6-7 weeks later, still had not taken me on a real date, still didn't know anything about me (we are talking almost 2 months of "hanging out" and he still didn't know what I went to college for or how many siblings I had or what I did for work.) A couple other things that just made me notice he wasn't the one. I just didn't have the butterflies and when I was traveling one weekend, that's when I realized it wouldn't work because I wasn't excited to share my fun weekend with him. I want someone to share everything with and he wasn't it, and that's okay, but still hate breaking it off with someone who finally showed that there are nice guys out there
I saw this and nearly peed my pants. Your post reminded me of it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3MSRu9CfNCY
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_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »When he snapped his fingers at the waitress. I left right then.
Definitely a deal breaker, I used to be a bartender when I was in university and there's nothing more insulting.
Tell half the universe that.
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Somebody who never offers anything in return emotionally or intellectually. Uhh I can't carry the weight of all the feels or be the brains 24/7.1
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They were running too fast0
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jillstreett wrote: »He talked a big game about wanting a real relationship and was a genuinely nice and gentle guy but, 6-7 weeks later, still had not taken me on a real date, still didn't know anything about me (we are talking almost 2 months of "hanging out" and he still didn't know what I went to college for or how many siblings I had or what I did for work.) A couple other things that just made me notice he wasn't the one. I just didn't have the butterflies and when I was traveling one weekend, that's when I realized it wouldn't work because I wasn't excited to share my fun weekend with him. I want someone to share everything with and he wasn't it, and that's okay, but still hate breaking it off with someone who finally showed that there are nice guys out there
You deserve someone who is going to pursue you and where you don't have to lead the relationship. The first problem was accepting "hanging out," in the first place. All the benefits of a girlfriend without any of the work on his part.
If he's only wants to text and never calls, just cut off his texts with, "sorry, I'm busy, I'll call you when I get home." Then call him when you get home.
I did see a red flag on your part, not that you want my advice, but if you want it, it's in bold.
Sharing EVERYTHING with your man is a real quick way to make him feel pressured and smothered, and set yourself up for being abused/manipulated/taken for granted.
Make sure you are taking the time necessary to cultivate your happiness in other arenas of your life besides your relationship.
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Not someone I was pursuing but I always wondered about my first real love and "what if". I later found out he was in a struggling band and kept his mullet until way past it was cool. He was also a stay at home dad so he could make his band work out. Nothing wrong with stay at home dads if it works for the family but his reasoning seemed super off putting. I never wondered "what if" again.1
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If they listen to Creed.
Bye ... 😂2 -
debrakgoogins wrote: »Not someone I was pursuing but I always wondered about my first real love and "what if". I later found out he was in a struggling band and kept his mullet until way past it was cool. He was also a stay at home dad so he could make his band work out. Nothing wrong with stay at home dads if it works for the family but his reasoning seemed super off putting. I never wondered "what if" again.
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