What made you suddenly lose interest in someone you were pursuing?
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_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »When he snapped his fingers at the waitress. I left right then.
Definitely a deal breaker, I used to be a bartender when I was in university and there's nothing more insulting.
Tell half the universe that.
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Somebody who never offers anything in return emotionally or intellectually. Uhh I can't carry the weight of all the feels or be the brains 24/7.1
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They were running too fast0
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jillstreett wrote: »He talked a big game about wanting a real relationship and was a genuinely nice and gentle guy but, 6-7 weeks later, still had not taken me on a real date, still didn't know anything about me (we are talking almost 2 months of "hanging out" and he still didn't know what I went to college for or how many siblings I had or what I did for work.) A couple other things that just made me notice he wasn't the one. I just didn't have the butterflies and when I was traveling one weekend, that's when I realized it wouldn't work because I wasn't excited to share my fun weekend with him. I want someone to share everything with and he wasn't it, and that's okay, but still hate breaking it off with someone who finally showed that there are nice guys out there
You deserve someone who is going to pursue you and where you don't have to lead the relationship. The first problem was accepting "hanging out," in the first place. All the benefits of a girlfriend without any of the work on his part.
If he's only wants to text and never calls, just cut off his texts with, "sorry, I'm busy, I'll call you when I get home." Then call him when you get home.
I did see a red flag on your part, not that you want my advice, but if you want it, it's in bold.
Sharing EVERYTHING with your man is a real quick way to make him feel pressured and smothered, and set yourself up for being abused/manipulated/taken for granted.
Make sure you are taking the time necessary to cultivate your happiness in other arenas of your life besides your relationship.
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Not someone I was pursuing but I always wondered about my first real love and "what if". I later found out he was in a struggling band and kept his mullet until way past it was cool. He was also a stay at home dad so he could make his band work out. Nothing wrong with stay at home dads if it works for the family but his reasoning seemed super off putting. I never wondered "what if" again.1
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If they listen to Creed.
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debrakgoogins wrote: »Not someone I was pursuing but I always wondered about my first real love and "what if". I later found out he was in a struggling band and kept his mullet until way past it was cool. He was also a stay at home dad so he could make his band work out. Nothing wrong with stay at home dads if it works for the family but his reasoning seemed super off putting. I never wondered "what if" again.
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Or 3 Doors Down.0
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She was a Nickelback fan.
JK.
Actually she turned out to be a smoker. Deal breaker for me.1 -
Another one hated children.0
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Wears shorts and t-shirts in Jan. In 14 degree weather.0
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She wanted a relationship and went back to her boyfriend
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Bad kissing. Went on a date and it went well. He was super nice and friendly and genuine. End of the night, and he kissed me. Thought it would be a nice small kiss, but no. Pretty sure he was trying to suck on my whole face at once. It was awful, and I had to fight for air, and to get out of his arms (he was a lot larger than me). Needless to say, we never, ever, ever, ever went out again......
Also, constant interruptions. Another time I was out with a guy and he would ask me something. As I am responding, he interrupts with something related or unrelated. Didn't matter. Whatever I said didn't even reach his ears. It was all about him. It happens a lot with me... not just with dates either. Makes me not want to talk to people.3 -
bad breath/smelly ...
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I realized they were too good for me.
I realized I had no chance with them.
I realized they were engaged.
Take your pick...2 -
Bad sword fighter2
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IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »
In reality, or in my own perception?
People who think highly of themselves will never understand it.
People who don't know exactly what I mean.
It kind of goes back to the 8-10 thread and the out of your league thread.0 -
i know iv been big on the clingy thing but- Expects me to change. I dont date easily if i agree to the title its been some solid time and getting to know eachother. Why would the title then mean i have to suddenly make time for you ALWAYS and why would you expect me to change....You know i disappear some nights into my loner bubble after a long days work...You know im watching netflix and talking to no one, So why it suddenly seems people think i must be off at bars cheating or something because they are now my partner..? Or that im suddenly just going to happily be around them always.2
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IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »
In reality, or in my own perception?
People who think highly of themselves will never understand it.
People who don't know exactly what I mean.
It kind of goes back to the 8-10 thread and the out of your league thread.
I think you are a pretty cool guy. And from what I have seen you score pretty highly on the rating scale0 -
IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »
In reality, or in my own perception?
People who think highly of themselves will never understand it.
People who don't know exactly what I mean.
It kind of goes back to the 8-10 thread and the out of your league thread.
I just don't get it. If you think they are so great, why wouldn't you be happy you snagged them?
Just explain one situation you had where you lost interest because you thought they were too good for you. To me, that's like winning the lottery and not being happy about it.
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IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »
In reality, or in my own perception?
People who think highly of themselves will never understand it.
People who don't know exactly what I mean.
It kind of goes back to the 8-10 thread and the out of your league thread.
I think you are a pretty cool guy. And from what I have seen you score pretty highly on the rating scale
Thank you.
My self-image has changed a bit over the last decade or so, but it's not been a full 180.
That's also part of the reason I like on-line interactions - easier to hide parts of me I'm not so proud of.
Depression has been, for me, like alcoholism for some... even if you aren't consumed by it, it's always there, lurking in the depths, waiting to reappear.9 -
IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »
In reality, or in my own perception?
People who think highly of themselves will never understand it.
People who don't know exactly what I mean.
It kind of goes back to the 8-10 thread and the out of your league thread.
I think you are a pretty cool guy. And from what I have seen you score pretty highly on the rating scale
Definitely agree with this!
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IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »
In reality, or in my own perception?
People who think highly of themselves will never understand it.
People who don't know exactly what I mean.
It kind of goes back to the 8-10 thread and the out of your league thread.
I just don't get it. If you think they are so great, why wouldn't you be happy you snagged them?
Just explain one situation you had where you lost interest because you thought they were too good for you. To me, that's like winning the lottery and not being happy about it.
Why chase something you don't believe you can catch?
Maybe it's a wording issue - it's not so much that I lost interest in them, it's that I didn't think I could win the chase. So I gave up on what I thought to be a losing battle.2 -
IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »
In reality, or in my own perception?
People who think highly of themselves will never understand it.
People who don't know exactly what I mean.
It kind of goes back to the 8-10 thread and the out of your league thread.
I just don't get it. If you think they are so great, why wouldn't you be happy you snagged them?
Just explain one situation you had where you lost interest because you thought they were too good for you. To me, that's like winning the lottery and not being happy about it.
Why chase something you don't believe you can catch?
Maybe it's a wording issue - it's not so much that I lost interest in them, it's that I didn't think I could win the chase. So I gave up on what I thought to be a losing battle.
Oh yeah, I have done that. I figure he wouldn't be interested anyway, and if he was, it wouldn't last more than 5 seconds before he found someone better.
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