The psychology of needing to eat until stuffed - a discussion

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  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    I want to expand on my reply. I don't usually think of myself as an emotional eater, but of course I'm too. And I have learned to associate food with many things - situations, emotions, times and places, smell, sound, textures, shapes and colors. And learned to expect many things from food, many things that food can't do - food has no other purposes besides "taste good" and "keep me alive" - which certainly isn't unimportant. But there is a need for balance, and I would need a lot of food to accomplish what my subconscious mind belives it should do for me!

    Care to go further with that?
    I think there is some circular reasoning going on, "food will fix this, but the problem is overwhelming, so I need lots of food". Because I'm not really able to short circuit that argument, and truly convince myself that "hunger is not the problem, so food is not the solution". There is also a massive exposure to food cues - food is everywhere, and food is made into so many shapes and colors that resemble everyday non-food objects, it's hard to not be reminded of the taste and mouthfeel. I don't overeat massively/often anymore, but I have urges often because my rational mind is in conflict with my arational mind. To keep this conflict from escalating, it's important that I'm well fed and rested and manage stress.

    Gotcha. Thank you.
  • kds10
    kds10 Posts: 452 Member
    edited September 2018
    Sometimes I worry about why I don't stay full...like today for lunch I had an egg salad sandwich on high fiber bread, two cups of soup, two yogurt, fruit, a handful of potato chips and an Atkins bar and less than two hours later I can honestly say I could eat some more. Seriously, some people eat half of that and it sustains them until dinner but not me:( I could honestly sit here at my desk and easily eat chips and chocolate right now.

    Honestly sometimes only really high fat heavy food seems to sustain me for hours..i.e. a Big Mac and large fries.
  • CSARdiver
    CSARdiver Posts: 6,252 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    CSARdiver wrote: »
    The majority of these habits are developed in early childhood, so this feels "normal" later in life. At early adulthood your genetics begin to have greater influence as opposed to environment.

    The habits you develop follow a pattern. Hormones also follow this pattern. Any shifts from this pattern end up in temporary chaos while your body attempts to restore order. As hormones are free cycling if you are overweight this further compounds the issue and tends toward chaos.

    It is very much rooted in psychology, but we are biological, so everything is connected. Your chances of restoring order increase if you initiate positive changes on multiple root causes.

    I don't disagree. I was hoping that this thread might give me some insight on what angles from which ot attack the problems.

    What worked for me was that the fullness I sought was not compatible with my working out. I went back to the habits taught in the military and ate lighter meals and stopped the learned behavior of cleaning my plate. If I didn't do this I ended up vomiting during PRT cycling.

    I also drink 16 oz of water ~30 mins to meal times and this helps with satiation and I tend to not eat as much and get fuller faster.
  • vingogly
    vingogly Posts: 1,785 Member
    Intuitive Eating is a good book that details the many reasons why people overeat. It's very interesting. They mention many of the reasons stated in this thread. For me, it was emotional eating and response to deprivation. But there are lots of reasons people eat to that level of fullness.

    I'll also mention the Beck Diet Solution, which is a cognitive-behavioral approach to dealing with the behavioral aspects of weight loss and maintenance. There's also Mindful Eating, which is similar to Intuitive Eating. Some links to each of these approaches for the OP:

    http://diet.beckinstitute.org/
    https://www.intuitiveeating.org/
    https://www.mindful.org/6-ways-practice-mindful-eating/

    A comparison of intuitive and mindful eating:

    https://www.fitday.com/fitness-articles/nutrition/whats-the-difference-between-mindful-eating-and-intuitive-eating.html

    Evelyn Tribole, who coauthored Intuitive eating, also has some great cookbooks that show you how to take a favorite comfort food and reduce the calories.
  • VioletRojo
    VioletRojo Posts: 597 Member
    Does it have to be psychological? Can't it just be a personal preference? I like the feeling of being a little over-stuffed. Feeling not hungry after a meal is fine, but it's not as satisfying as feeling full. I manage my need to feel stuffed by eating only two meals per day. That way I have lots of calories to spend on those two meals.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,412 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Interestingly enough, it's happening right now.

    I just had some left-over chicken parm that I brought to work for lunch. It was a small but reasonable portion. It was pretty good, but not OMG good. But even so, I find myself wishing I had 6 more. History tells me it's probably a matter of time before I give in and find something else to eat.

    Instead, I'm hoping to hold out for 20 more minutes until I can leave work. At least that will take my attention away from wanting more food.

    Dude! 20 minutes. Magic number!





    Didja make it?
  • psychod787
    psychod787 Posts: 4,099 Member
    kshama2001 wrote: »
    Maybe you are eating hyperpalatable foods?

    They literally figured out that really sweet foods will taste too sweet after a few bites, and really salty items taste too salty after a short while.

    So they found a point where the fat, salt and sugar ratio was just so that you keep eating them past your satiation point (think potato chips and cookies), what food scientists call the "bliss point." That's why you have sugar and salt in things you wouldn't think would be needed in either (salt in candy, sugar in tomato sauce).

    If you notice you only gorge on certain TYPES of foods, that might be the issue.


    For me, an example is potatoes. I can eat one baked potato and not want any more. I don't need to use portion control on baked potatoes. But I've had to intentionally portion control chips and fries, until I naturally eat less of these than before.

    Worse is if I homecook scallopped potatoes (no cream, just thin sliced stewed potatoes and seasonings), it's like a bottomless appetite for it. I can go three potatoes and still want more. My scallopped potatoes recipe has a bliss point that allows me to eat far larger quanties than I would otherwise. Portion control doesn't "work." I just end up eating as much as is available.

    Best wishes on figuring out the source of your eating past fullness and overcoming it!

    Is that from "Salt, Sugar, Fat"? Fascinating book!

    When I eat 400-500 calories of chicken, broccoli, and potato, or Thai Beef salad, I am full, but not overstuffed, and have no urge to eat more.

    When I have hyper-palatable foods like pizza, I want to eat and eat and eat. It's a real challenge to not. Having a large salad with pizza helps.

    Good book btw....
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    shylady76 wrote: »
    Wow
    I am sitting here reading this thread as I am contemplating what to stuff my mouth with to get the full feeling that I never reach. It looks like I am constantly looking for that high but not getting it. I can stick to a food plan for a while but then something snaps and I can't stop eating. Sometimes it takes me over a week to get back to eating a little more normal. One thing I have learned is that a lot of it depends on where I am in my head
    I'm wondering what you mean by a food plan? Is it you deciding what to eat in advance, or someone else's idea of what you should eat?
  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    kshama2001 wrote: »
    Maybe you are eating hyperpalatable foods?

    They literally figured out that really sweet foods will taste too sweet after a few bites, and really salty items taste too salty after a short while.

    So they found a point where the fat, salt and sugar ratio was just so that you keep eating them past your satiation point (think potato chips and cookies), what food scientists call the "bliss point." That's why you have sugar and salt in things you wouldn't think would be needed in either (salt in candy, sugar in tomato sauce).

    If you notice you only gorge on certain TYPES of foods, that might be the issue.


    For me, an example is potatoes. I can eat one baked potato and not want any more. I don't need to use portion control on baked potatoes. But I've had to intentionally portion control chips and fries, until I naturally eat less of these than before.

    Worse is if I homecook scallopped potatoes (no cream, just thin sliced stewed potatoes and seasonings), it's like a bottomless appetite for it. I can go three potatoes and still want more. My scallopped potatoes recipe has a bliss point that allows me to eat far larger quanties than I would otherwise. Portion control doesn't "work." I just end up eating as much as is available.

    Best wishes on figuring out the source of your eating past fullness and overcoming it!

    Is that from "Salt, Sugar, Fat"? Fascinating book!

    When I eat 400-500 calories of chicken, broccoli, and potato, or Thai Beef salad, I am full, but not overstuffed, and have no urge to eat more.

    When I have hyper-palatable foods like pizza, I want to eat and eat and eat. It's a real challenge to not. Having a large salad with pizza helps.
    I'm using the term hyper-palatable foods less and less, but I do have the idea in the back of my head that food should taste good, but not too good - it helps. I have found that I need to work for my food, I want to be hungry enough to bother with preparation and chewing. My appetite is actually a good guide - I know that when I'm ready for just about any food, I'm hungry, whereas not really in mood for anything but candy or chips, but strongly so, I'm not hungry, I just want "something"; and as I am well nourished and warm and safe, figuring out what that "something" is, is hard. Most days I eat normal, ordinary foods for most or all meals. I deliberately reserve treat foods for special occasions, which doesn't have to be more special than "Saturday" - finding the balance here is so important and quite difficult; when I grew up, treats were "bad", according to my mother, who never said so explicitly, but implied that treats would ruin my health, and absolute abstaining was commendable.

    That's really interesting... not something I hear much on these boards. But then again, maybe it just gets drowned out by the usual chanting.
  • Pineapples
    Pineapples Posts: 246 Member
    I have struggle with overeating to the point that I can't move. It doesn't happen often because for most of my life I've been "dieting". My diets have always consisted of low fat, until recently. I've been doing KETO for almost three weeks and I gotta tell you it's a big difference on how satisfy I feel. Half way through my meals I feel I'm satisfy, not full but I don't feel like i need to keep eating either. I always wonder if maybe I don't have a "i feel satisfy" hormone, because no matter how much I ate I always had that want to keep eating. I'm not saying go and do KETO, it is very strict but it has been working for me. But maybe increasing healthy fats might help overeating.
  • Thebajan
    Thebajan Posts: 20 Member
    Gamliela wrote: »
    I find that I am less tempted to overeat when I am cutting back on calories than when I am in maintenance or over, thats when I am more likely to eat just for comfort, or to stop emotions and feelings of anxiety or stress.

    Thanks for sharing this... it hit home to me and is a point to make note of.

  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    kimny72 wrote: »
    kshama2001 wrote: »
    Maybe you are eating hyperpalatable foods?

    They literally figured out that really sweet foods will taste too sweet after a few bites, and really salty items taste too salty after a short while.

    So they found a point where the fat, salt and sugar ratio was just so that you keep eating them past your satiation point (think potato chips and cookies), what food scientists call the "bliss point." That's why you have sugar and salt in things you wouldn't think would be needed in either (salt in candy, sugar in tomato sauce).

    If you notice you only gorge on certain TYPES of foods, that might be the issue.


    For me, an example is potatoes. I can eat one baked potato and not want any more. I don't need to use portion control on baked potatoes. But I've had to intentionally portion control chips and fries, until I naturally eat less of these than before.

    Worse is if I homecook scallopped potatoes (no cream, just thin sliced stewed potatoes and seasonings), it's like a bottomless appetite for it. I can go three potatoes and still want more. My scallopped potatoes recipe has a bliss point that allows me to eat far larger quanties than I would otherwise. Portion control doesn't "work." I just end up eating as much as is available.

    Best wishes on figuring out the source of your eating past fullness and overcoming it!

    Is that from "Salt, Sugar, Fat"? Fascinating book!

    When I eat 400-500 calories of chicken, broccoli, and potato, or Thai Beef salad, I am full, but not overstuffed, and have no urge to eat more.

    When I have hyper-palatable foods like pizza, I want to eat and eat and eat. It's a real challenge to not. Having a large salad with pizza helps.
    I'm using the term hyper-palatable foods less and less, but I do have the idea in the back of my head that food should taste good, but not too good - it helps. I have found that I need to work for my food, I want to be hungry enough to bother with preparation and chewing. My appetite is actually a good guide - I know that when I'm ready for just about any food, I'm hungry, whereas not really in mood for anything but candy or chips, but strongly so, I'm not hungry, I just want "something"; and as I am well nourished and warm and safe, figuring out what that "something" is, is hard. Most days I eat normal, ordinary foods for most or all meals. I deliberately reserve treat foods for special occasions, which doesn't have to be more special than "Saturday" - finding the balance here is so important and quite difficult; when I grew up, treats were "bad", according to my mother, who never said so explicitly, but implied that treats would ruin my health, and absolute abstaining was commendable.

    ITA. I think this is the toughest thing we try to explain to newbies, and sometimes the real message gets lost in the hyperbole. It's not about cutting out all of the yummy foods, viewing them as the enemy. It's not about being able to eat nothing but twinkies if you hit your calories. It's about finding the balance. And the balance is hard to find when you are surrounded by food you don't NEED, but certainly want, and you're not weak for wanting them. And part of the balance is accepting that some days you will overeat. You just have to keep those to a minimum and limit your exposure to situations where it's likely. Perhaps for some, the balance is too painful to find, but IMHO muddling through to find it is really important, and probably a lifelong effort.

    I do tend to eat the same things for meals with slight variations day to day and week to week. Less decisions - less temptations. My treat foods are foods I can't wait to eat, but through repetition I have gotten used to eating a reasonable portion, at a scheduled time. Then the occasional holiday, restaurant meal, hormonal splurge on a pint of ice cream is less dangerous. I still go off the rails on occasion, because I'm human and that's real life, but it helps. I think scheduled treats and indulgences generally make me feel more comfortable and secure, subconsciously.

    Interestingly, I'm way more likely to stuff myself with "comfort foods" than I am treat foods. My mom's pasta and sausages, a roasted chicken, the saltines and butter I used to eat when I was sick as a child.

    I think looking at it analytically like in this thread is super important - the more emotion you can take out of the equation, the better, though that is sometimes easier said than done! Taking the time to figure out the reasons we seem compelled to do things that ultimately aren't good for us and really understanding them. As another poster said - we're not nuts! This is like evolutionary growing pains. Hopefully we come out the other side with a different relationship with food more attuned to the swing from scarcity to abundance.

    Thank you for posting this... there is some very valuable/important context and nuance here that I don't see spelled out very often.