What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)
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JeromeBarry1 wrote: »Saturday was a typical day for me. I ate all I wanted, exercise all I needed to, and slept poorly. This morning I weighed-in with a 3 lb loss from yesterday. I h8 that It's not always that easy.
This. I hate that it wouldn't be difficult if I just had more control over how I spend most of my days. On the weekends I can easily balance my intake with my output, but during the week I am trapped at my desk. The difference between a work day and a weekend day can easily be 500-600 calories. I just wish I could pace during calls and meetings rather than sit idly in a chair.
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What's your beef?
People who say it is too complex. I was at my 35th high school reunion last night and was asked how I’ve lost ~50 pounds. I said I was already exercising and that didn’t prevent me from gaining weight, so I started watching what the fork I was eating.
Showed my before and after even though my after is 10 pounds heavier than I am now. Showed the app. Even logged my fish tacos and beer I had for dinner in about 15 seconds.
Almost everyone thought it was too hard, complex, or bothersome.
Shrug.33 -
That I can’t eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every night. I sooooo want to!32
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kommodevaran wrote: »What is "naturally fat"?
An imaginary condition that occurs with lack of personal accountability. In very rare cases could be caused by a medical issue, but not likely.62 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »That I can’t eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every night. I sooooo want to!
I do miss cookies and cream cheese cake core
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quiksylver296 wrote: »That I can’t eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every night. I sooooo want to!
Ohhhhhh...that I do miss. The decision to binge watch crap TV whilst mindlessly spooning the entire pint of Chunky Monkey into my happy belly. Halo Top =/= Ben & Jerry's!!!! Not even close.18 -
MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
This is me as well...when I'm in the groove, I don't find it difficult - to the contrary, I enjoy it, its a project, a hobby: how low can I go? How can I get enough protein? What should I cook? What should I buy? What treats make sense? How about today? How much have I lost? Is that too fast? Two slow? Lets check all the last months net calories and level of iron consumption (...never enough iron) while we're at it...Etc, etc...and therefore also a timesink, an opening to obsessiveness and competitiveness.
The problem - I don't really think its a very good hobby. I'm in it because its speaking to some current motivations (I want to be healthier! I want to be sexier!) and anxieties (thinness is a class status marker! It easier to get taken seriously as an academic! The boys I like don't like me, would it help if I was prettier?) but I don't want this to be what I put all my spare thought and energy into. I'd rather have that for doing something social, or learning another language, or getting on with my dissertation, or reading a novel once in a while, and I'm worried I'm going to have to dedicate that mental space to my weight for...well, ever. That's not gonna work.
Of course, I spend barrels of time and energy to disliking my weight and feeling bad about it and stressing about where I was going to buy my next pair of jeans when I'm not losing weight, so who knows.30 -
I hate that I have to go on long walks with my dog even if I really don't feel like it. Before, if I was really tired or the weather was especially bad, I'd just do a few short rounds a day (1-2 times a week, max, he gets "real" walks on the other days). Now, if I want to eat more than my measly 1380 calories (and I do), I have to walk 7-10k a day, no matter HOW I feel about it. And fall is just starting. I'm already dreading the next few months, were it's always dark, cold and often rainy.
Also, I miss eating big bowls of pasta with just butter and salt. My ultimate comfort food. I can't have pasta in moderation, that just makes me sad and angry, so I rarely have it at all anymore.32 -
That I can't graze away mindlessly on a large bowl of nuts. I also hate how little I get to eat on days I'm not active. Sometimes I just want to relax, do nothing, and happily eat without having to make all kinds of considerations to be satisfied. I hate that I have to be aware of things and I miss that mindless bliss. I accept that I can no longer do that in a "it is what it is" kind of way, but doesn't mean I have to like it.38
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amusedmonkey wrote: »That I can't graze away mindlessly on a large bowl of nuts. I also hate how little I get to eat on days I'm not active. Sometimes I just want to relax, do nothing, and happily eat without having to make all kinds of considerations to be satisfied. I hate that I have to be aware of things and I miss that mindless bliss. I accept that I can no longer do that in a "it is what it is" kind of way, but doesn't mean I have to like it.
I wonder who woo's this? It's true for me as well.13 -
Not being able to munch my way through entire bags/packs of foods. Yes, I KNOW I can exercise moderation. But it's just not the same. I want to be able to eat 500g of M&Ms without it mattering. Sigh.36
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My biggest issue is my off days. Especially weekend. Since my workout sessions are on weekdays I usually end up having nothing to do on weekends. That's when my cravings and my laziness to do something turn to the maximum, which usually end up in some kind of small slip up. Than I start hating myself untill it's Monday again and I can go to workout. My trainer doesn't work on weekends and I find it hard to go alone to the gym.
Than what I hate too is figuring out the food to eat. I tried meal preping but I don't like to eat the same thing over and over, so I usually go to the grocery store every day and trying to find a food I'd like to eat. What make it worse is that I'm extremely picky and before my journey I found confort in junk foods. Than at times I don't want to eat a certain food even thou I like it, or just want to make something simple. It drives me crazy. At first I counted calories as accurate as I can, nowadays I just calculate in my head.
These issue are mostly because my self discipline, but I try to not give up and keep losing weight, just some days are harder than others.10 -
That I have anxiety about it. Now, I have anxiety in general. It's something that I deal with on a daily basis and have medication for. Counting calories and exercise increases that anxiety because I am so worried about going over or not eating enough. Worried about getting the right macros. Worried that I don't get exercise because of one of my many injuries acting up. Worried about when plans change like if I forget my lunch or forget to thaw what I need for dinner. And it goes on and on.
But usually I can handle that added anxiety. I simply tell myself that I will do the best I can. Yada yada yada...
But if anything else happens? That goes out the door! My dad passed away just about a month ago now. Due to the added depression and anxiety from that, I was having full blown panic attacks because I couldn't fit in the treat I wanted. Over a treat. It was too much. I just wanted a dang cupcake but I couldn't because of those stupid calories.
So right now, I am on maintenance. I am nowhere near at the weight I want, but I need to get my mental and emotional health in line before I can focus again on my physical health. The timing works since I am heading to Disney World in a week and wouldn't count then anyway. But it still frustrates me that my mental health issues are keeping me from focusing on weight loss.
And I still want that dang cupcake...57 -
It drives me nuts how food-centered my office is. At least once a month there is some sort of event where the office buys everyone lunch, but it is always from the same place where there really isn't a calorie friendly option I will enjoy so I usually pass. I eat with everyone still to be social but then I get all the lovely "you're so thin why don't you live a little comments". Almost every other day someone brings some sort of treat in to stare at me in the kitchen while I microwave my lunch and try to resist.
Also, almost everyone in my office is overweight and are constantly asking me how I lost weight while and of course when I tell them I simply count calories that is way too hard and complicated for them to do.31 -
I agree with so many of these! As one person said in the beginning, I hate that not everyone has to do this. The way we are raised and the emotions/habits that we develop as kids and our genes have such a big impact on being overweight that people like myself who grew up on the heavy side will just always have to deal with weight, whereas there are others who might gain at points in their lives but don't have all the baggage. I hope that makes sense, and its not that we can't make changes but sometimes I get frustrated that I have to work so hard.
Also the anxiety piece - I'm a planner so I don't mind planning out my food/exercise but when there is uncertainty I struggle a lot and to lose weight regularly I have to be thinking about it and keeping myself in check all the time, it's tiring.
But I'm 72 lbs down and getting some momentum back so I'm happy for now!20 -
I hate knowing the amount of calories in everything I like at restaurants now! I've looked up and researched almost all my favorites to exhaustion. I mean, yes, knowing so you can track is great! But I just want one meal of total oblivion where I have honestly no idea how many calories are in something and I eat it, and don't look back!21
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When I get sick and can't exercise. I just can't stick to sedentary maintenance calories.. let alone a deficit.
When hanging out with friends and there's no 'healthy' option (and I don't want to be THAT person who doesn't like what's offered)
Dieting has taken all the fun out of dining out for me as well (I'm a foodie and I'm hungry and typically can't be satisfied with a reasonable calorie meal unless it's overpriced grilled meat and veggies... then I get frustrated and feel deprived).
When I just end up pretty much giving up during PMS because I'm just so hungry that it's just completely depressing thinking about what I'm doing to my diet19 -
Money talks and no doubt commercials play a big part in obesity. Same for fast food restaurants. I use this website as well as tracking on excel to see trends. I see very slow progress and will follow up with my nutritionist. Some of this is because of self control and choosing smaller portions. The good news is that loosing weight gradually forces lifestyle changes that hopefully will last verses some fad diet that fails sooner or later.10
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Seeing commercials for Oreo Blizzards or some caramel candy cereal sundae shake or whatever and knowing I can never unlearn just how pointless those foods are. I never had a big sweet tooth, but the mentality changes.
And like two people above just said, I want to just sit down some nights with a movie and plow through a family bag of yoghurt pretzels, but it just ain't in the cards any more.15 -
Pretty much!MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Sick of looking at numbers.
Can’t wait to hit maintenance so I won’t have to be so strict.
Soooooo agree, I always feel like from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed I have to consistently think about what I eat, how much I eat, I shouldn't have ate that, etc.. its a constant struggle and battle that I soo frustrating. I can never truly relax.10 -
Packerjohn wrote: »kommodevaran wrote: »What is "naturally fat"?
An imaginary condition that occurs with lack of personal accountability. In very rare cases could be caused by a medical issue, but not likely.
That is really judgmental and I really disagree. So do children lack personal accountability? I have a sister and she is underweight/bordering underweight and her children are as well. I have always been heavy. I was 20-30 lbs overweight from the time I was 8 or so years old. My son is the same way. We were raised in the same household with the same parents. So much of weight is genetic. I did gain a lot, over 100 lbs in 5 months, on medications though. For some reason it just made my appetite become enormous and it was a known drug for weight gain. I've always had a hard time losing weight as well because I feel hungry constantly and I hate feeling hungry. I have lost over 100 lbs with a lot of added activity. While I have a harder time reigning in my appetite, exercise comes more easily for me and I enjoy pretty much anything.58 -
I've been doing this for over a year now and I thought by now it'd be easier.
I thought I'd be satisfied by a "normal" portion of food by now... but I could always eat more. I thought my cravings for sweets would be less, but they're not. I thought I could relax a little on the logging, but I have to be more strict now than I ever was before.
It's a lot of work, and it can be incredibly frustrating sometimes, but the results have been worth it!33 -
My trick for the foods that are troublesome for me is to do some NLP and program them so that they are disgusting to me. Have to refresh it every now and then but it can be very effective.
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I miss the tasty triggery things that can't be found in single servings (I have no self -control and I know it). Soon it will be winter, and the tasty variety of buyable-by-the-scoop ice cream (in a lovely 15-20 calorie cake cone) will be harder to come by as well.2
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MonkeyMel21 wrote: »
Pretty much!MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Sick of looking at numbers.
Can’t wait to hit maintenance so I won’t have to be so strict.
Spoiler alert, maintenance is almost just as hard, lol.
Way to rain on my parade 😅😊
I think in many ways it's harder. You think you can relax but you really can't and you don't get any regular motivation of seeing progress on the scale. That's my gripe with this whole thing. Having to be vigilant and mindful day in and day out.
Just to be clear. I never said it would be easy. I meant you can be more lenient ( when maintaining) with counting calories, I won’t have to be as strict with logging whereas now counting and logging is very crucial as I’m trying to lose weight.
I’ve read people saying on maintenance they don’t feel the need to log everyday. I’m aware it’s still important to count and log while maintaining though.
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MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Probably this for me as well.8 -
Explaining to people once the weight is gone that you are still 'watching' calorie intake. It's the benefit (or curse) of the learning process from logging.
eta.. And explaining... yes I still workout and do it because I enjoy it.12 -
anothermfpuser wrote: »Explaining to people once the weight is gone that you are still 'watching' calorie intake. It's the benefit (or curse) of the learning process from logging.
eta.. And explaining... yes I still workout and do it because I enjoy it.
yep this. Having to explain the proper order of cause and effect when it comes to weight. As in: "No, I don't not have to watch my calories because I'm thin (as if I was blessed with some miracle unicorn metabolism that lets me eat all the things). I'm (relatively) thin because I DO watch my calories." Up there with explaining to my fellow cyclists post-ride that "No- my 4'10" 112 lb self most definitely did NOT burn enough calories on that 30 mile hill ride to eat a plate of burger and fries/order of chicken wings and a beer in the pub afterward)."19 -
Oh I have a few:
1) watching my husband eat late at night, and it’s always something good like ice cream. I do eat ice cream but it’s earlier in the day, but I still want some when he has it.
2) people springing a surprise dinner idea on me like an hour before dinner. I like to eat most of my calories earlier in the day, unless a big dinner is pre-planned I usually only have around 300 cals for dinner. I have refused these when I just can’t swing it, and don’t feel bad about it.
3) as I have lost weight the same exact exercise burns less calories. I mean it’s good that I am losing but.......26
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