What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)

PEOPLE who know the plan you are following because they see what you eat (i.e., co-workers, close friends) but insist that they know a better way, why just look at them, they are thin...and yet you know they have NEVER had a weight issue. that is really what bothers me. and just wishing I never had to worry about mine ever again!!!

I hate that I don't have my own pool so I didn't have to wait for lanes at the gym.

Also - I hate people pointing out that I lost weight.. like several times in a month. Yeah I am trying to lose weight, I don't need the outside "encouragement" which actually makes me feel awkward trying to acknowledge.

carolynsutton6 wrote: »

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I hate thinking about the holidays and the foods I will have to avoid.

I don't avoid anything on holidays (the actual day of the celebration - the weeks leading up to and after require more restraint, I'll admit). It's not what you eat those 3 or 4 days a year - it's what you eat on all the rest of them.

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Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »

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cheryldumais wrote: »

I resent the ones out there who have 1900 calories (or more) a day for maintenance even though they are similar or lower weight, height and age as me.

I hate people assuming I can eat out anywhere now just because I am at maintenance. 1300 calories a day just doesn't go well with restaurant food.

Last is like many already stated, the ones who are trying to tell me I need to use their eating plan when they are still struggling with too much weight yet I've reached maintenance.

Rant over...........

on the bright side: saving a ton of money on eating out WAY less often than I used to (a 1900 long cardio day won't go very far with restaurant food either)... which brings me to another pet peeve of mine: the "it's so expensive to eat healthy" whiny people. No, No it's not... we got fat eating EXTRA food we no longer have to buy. ..And a lot of that extra food for quite a few of us wasn't exactly cheap (ie restaurants, tasty luxury items, etc).

I fall outside of your “quite a few of us.” I was not eating in restaurants very much before (maybe 1-2 times/month, and then usually fast food or grocery-store deli), and my tasty treats were the cheapest I could find on sale.

Fresh, nutrient-dense foods tend to cost more than starchy foods stabilized with sugars and fats. Minimally prepared foods such as fresh produce can be fairly inexpensive, but sacrificing the convenience of pre-washed greens and cut-up chickens carries its own costs.

I’m not saying that I can’t afford to eat healthy (I can),; just that, for me, it is in no way cheaper.

I disagree. I too spend less on food. I never went to fancy restaurants, (seldom even fast food, family restaurants, or deli items) or purchased “luxury” type foods. Shopping sales, buying bulk foods, and cooking and preparing food from scratch is less expensive than convenience items. Been there, done that (convenience foods). More servings per package for bulk vs convenience and preparing your own food. Maybe costs more initially, but many more meals.Time is definitely a factor, but you make time. Isn’t the health of you and your family worth the extra time involved? I realize some people are extremely busy, but most of us can find a few hours a week for meal preparation. It’s all about priorities. Your choice.

Er?

Shopping sales, buying in bulk, and cooking & preparing from scratch all save money, yes. But they don't necessarily help you lose weight. I can prepare some very low nutrient calorie-dense meals from scratch ingredients bought in bulk on sale. (...Say, how many corn fritters do you suppose I can fit in the freezer? )

Convenience foods are something else I seldom bought before I started losing weight; so, again, I'm missing out on all the big savings there.

Loving the changes, but of course there is still stuff I hate!

I hate that everyone thinks I'm going to give up. I tried to keep it a secret from the family to avoid judgement.
I hate that at holidays my family pressures me to eat desserts because "It's the holidays, you can't start a diet now- you can binge on holidays".
I hate that I'm afraid I will slip, and the judgement that will ensue.
I hate that if I treat myself to something small (one cookie, or an oz of sausage, or some sushi) that I'm going to be judged for it, or questioned why I'm eating it, and if it means I'm done with my 'diet'.
Another thing I hate is having to say 'diet' or people referring to it as a my diet. It really is a life style change, I'm not planning on giving up after reaching my goal weight!
I hate that I'm questioned on all my choices. "I thought you were staying away from cereal?" "I thought you said that was healthy." "I thought you said that was unhealthy." I really don't know what I'm doing, I'm figuring it out as I go, and new information keeps coming up! All I know is it's working.

And most of all, I hate that someone who told me "You shouldn't lose weight, you'd look ugly. You wouldn't look right. You've always been big, it just fits you," is now trying to be a part of my journey, and saying positive things like "Wow, looks like you lost weight! You can definitely tell." Nah I'd rather you continue to be rude, to fuel my motivation.

Wow, I guess I hate a lot of things haha. I'm sure I could go on

Knowing how little a TBSP of peanut butter really is. 15g of peanut butter is just depressing.

It is slow but I dont mind, I like the process ;D
And a little positivity in this discussion;

You are enough and beautiful. And you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

New_Heavens_Earth wrote: »

Another vent in regard "I don't have money to lose weight, eat better, exercise, etc" ... yes it takes money to feed yourself and get a modest amount of exercise equipment. But walking is free. It's not necessary to pay for weight loss or life coaches, or even a personal trainer. Therapists aren't necessary unless you have an extreme or life threatening issue. There's many free options to help the weight loss journey, like this one!

I was just yelled at on IG for saying diets can't fix the emotional or mental issues involved in obesity. Obviously I hit a nerve, because the person gave me a real snarky reply saying she didn't have the money to fix her issues toward food, so how can she possibly lose weight. But yet I know plenty who worked it out for free.

I'm not wealthy, but I'm doing the work and I'm tired of people coming at me with attitude about finances stopping them from getting their stuff together.

You are quite right, and I am living proof.

I live on social security disability, get food stamps, and "shop" at the food bank. My disability severely limits my ability to exercise; and, honey, I have got more issues than National Geographic.

And I'm losing weight.

Would it be easier with a larger grocery budget, a modest amount of exercise equipment, a weight loss coach, a life coach, a personal trainer, and/or a therapist? *kitten* yeah! Everything's easier with more money - in a way, that's what money is about.

But it's certainly possible to lose weight even if you live on an officially defined "low income."


OTOH, and because apparently I'm cranky tonight, please allow me my own vent about the bolded text above:
walking is free

....And walking shoes aren't.

You gotta have proper well-made walking shoes. You gotta have arch support. And you gotta have cushioning. (And, because the universe runs on irony, I wouldn't need so much cushioning in my walking shoes if I didn't need to lose so much weight.) Worst of all, you're supposed to buy new ones every 500 miles, or else once or twice a year.

(Don't get me wrong: it's not that I can't afford good walking shoes. It's just that I have to work at it.)

VUA21 wrote: »

Knowing how little a TBSP of peanut butter really is. 15g of peanut butter is just depressing.

I will never, ever get over how disappointing a properly measured serving of peanut butter is