The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Congrats on 4 months sober @lorrainequiche59 !! That's awesome4
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RubyRed427 wrote: »lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Hello everyone Pretty quiet on here!! Hoping everyone is doing good.
I am doing well. I hope everyone else is too. I am on day eleven and have been struggling a little bit pulling through. Choosing to stay the course amongst challenges. Hope you are well!
Congrats on day 11. Alcohol never solved struggles or helped challenges, keep that in mind. You’ve come so far. Treat yourself to a little gift! You deserve it. I once bought a bracelet at day 10 AF and I still wear it and remember how good I felt then,... and now.
Thank you Ruby! You are a legend. You are an inspiration to me. Thank you for your encouragement words. I think I may buy myself a cute ring or something. Happy day 12.3 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Hello everyone Pretty quiet on here!! Hoping everyone is doing good.
I am doing well. I hope everyone else is too. I am on day eleven and have been struggling a little bit pulling through. Choosing to stay the course amongst challenges. Hope you are well!
Congrats on day 11. Alcohol never solved struggles or helped challenges, keep that in mind. You’ve come so far. Treat yourself to a little gift! You deserve it. I once bought a bracelet at day 10 AF and I still wear it and remember how good I felt then,... and now.
Thank you Ruby! You are a legend. You are an inspiration to me. Thank you for your encouragement words. I think I may buy myself a cute ring or something. Happy day 12.
You're so kind. I know the journey you are on so intimately. I feel we are accomplishing so much for our mind body and soul, That small rewards along the way make it sweeter yet. Congrats on day 13 (today). Xo1 -
Good Luck! You can do it! Some days will be tougher than others. I was a everyday drinker for 28 years but after losing a son it became my crutch. I knew when I woke up each morning looking for something to go in my coffee that something had to change! Quit cold turkey 41/2 years ago.9
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ByFaith4Life4Christ wrote: »Good Luck! You can do it! Some days will be tougher than others. I was a everyday drinker for 28 years but after losing a son it became my crutch. I knew when I woke up each morning looking for something to go in my coffee that something had to change! Quit cold turkey 41/2 years ago.
Thanks for posting! Your message is inspiring.2 -
Good morning. Happy to have found this thread 😊 AF since June 15 this year, so day 112, was part of a 6 months challenge. Very excited about the idea of simply not letting my old me back into the house7
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Welcome to all the new faces! You will find support and compassion here. We are a judgement- free group, all striving for the same thing. Good luck for a Sober October to all!
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I was an alcoholic
My wife is an alcoholic, she doesn't want to stop
I'm 12 weeks alcohol free
It was so easy
20 years of drinking
All I did was read one book
Alan Carr the easy way to stop drinking
2 weeks ago I was on holiday with friends, I had a sip of beer "I didn't like it, so spat it out"
I can now say "I don't drink"
Good luck everyone
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Hello Andy, glad to see you here. I will check out Alan Carr's book. Thank you.1
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I just joined MFP so I havent read all the posts to catch up ... but I am 4 days sober and could use some encouragement so I'd like to subscribe to the thread
Thanks.11 -
Hi Guys. Day 65 for me. New job I love but quite an adjustment. Federal offense to take a phone into the facility where I teach and am beat after work so haven’t checked in for awhile. So glad for sobriety. I couldn’t do this drinking. I second the recommendation of Alan Carr. Clicked for me.5
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Hi Andy Welcome @73CL350 and @guterpflo and @jhikene
Have been having bouts of anger lately & some depression...the anger eventually dissolves into tears, that's just how it works for me, so I had a really good cry with a friend today....I REALLY needed to clean it all out...there will be more bouts, but I truly believe it is some of the anger I stuffed by pouring alcohol down my throat & now it's surfacing.
As far as the depression, I was thinking yesterday that I would rather be sober & depressed than be dependent on alcohol & depressed AND guilty, AND ashamed, AND hopeless AND all the other stuff that comes with an alcohol dependency!!! Depression can due to repressed anger & underneath anger can be hurt, frustration, etc. SO my tears are healing tears. I love this blurb by Melody Beattie, (Letting Go) "Sometimes we need to fall apart to get put back together."
I've decided I'm giving myself one year to heal...so from May 29/18 when I stopped drinking to May 29/19. Then I'll take it from there. But I think I need to give myself some time & space to work through my sobriety and be kind to myself in the process.
I truly hope we all find our way through our individual process7 -
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Sorry I've been MIA for a month.
Been very busy in my spare time drawing, running, doing handstands, running threads and groups (both online and IRL).
8 months without alcohol and counting! Or rather, not counting. It's just the New Normal!3 -
andysport1 wrote: »I was an alcoholic
My wife is an alcoholic, she doesn't want to stop
I'm 12 weeks alcohol free
It was so easy
20 years of drinking
All I did was read one book
Alan Carr the easy way to stop drinking
2 weeks ago I was on holiday with friends, I had a sip of beer "I didn't like it, so spat it out"
I can now say "I don't drink"
Good luck everyone
Hi Andy, I was wondering how you’re doing. I really need to get the Carr book; I’ve read mostly everything else people have suggested. But need to keep reading and educating myself. Happy for you! And I”m happy for you!1 -
Hi Guys. Day 65 for me. New job I love but quite an adjustment. Federal offense to take a phone into the facility where I teach and am beat after work so haven’t checked in for awhile. So glad for sobriety. I couldn’t do this drinking. I second the recommendation of Alan Carr. Clicked for me.
So true! Drink was a brief escape like someone said above but then all the stress and issues were always still there lurking. Now, we face life head on. I am happy you are finding your job rewarding.3 -
I just joined MFP so I havent read all the posts to catch up ... but I am 4 days sober and could use some encouragement so I'd like to subscribe to the thread
Thanks.
Join in whenever you want to post. Let us know your thoughts. We are here to help. Just be sure to have substitutes handy when you get a craving. Read Alan Carr’s book. People on this thread say it does the trick.0 -
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I went on Amazon and there are a bunch of different Alan Carr books. Please advise which ones you read.1
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It's way too quiet on here!! Hope everyone has a great, sober weekend along with some fun & relaxation. I am volunteering with 3 teen girls this morn & then we are hanging together this aft so it should be lots of fun & giggles. Hanging with teen girls takes me back!!6
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Good morning, friends! No issues this week with alcohol cravings. That has passed. But some anxiety has replaced the cravings. I am overtaxed at work, so I need to sit down this weekend and really make a list of priorities, and things that I can let go for now. The only alcohol related thought I have lately is feeling a little jealous that I don’t have a stress outlet like my husband or friends (I dont drink, smoke, etc.) But of course, I know that I should be grateful for that.
It’s been 10 weeks since my birthday binge, and I am extremely happy every Saturday/Sunday morning when I open my eyes and have no hangover. That’s a big gift to me. Tonight, I’m going to a party at my drinking friends house; I’ll go for a little while and sneak out. I just don’t have fun at them anymore. I should really change my mindset however and view it for all the other positives like good conversation, food, laughter and connecting with new people.
@lorrainequiche59 You’ll have a lot of fun today!7 -
I always thought I wouldn't be able to go to a bar without being able to smoke a cigarette, or be around people who smoked. I understand not feeling like you can enjoy events without drinking.
It is all about mindset @RubyRed427 !
Although everyone is different, and some benefit from staying away from "trigger" situations, you are still you, even without the alcohol. Hope you have fun!7 -
@jhilkene Thanks so much! Xo Hugs!1
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RubyRed427 wrote: »The only alcohol related thought I have lately is feeling a little jealous that I don’t have a stress outlet like my husband or friends (I dont drink, smoke, etc.) But of course, I know that I should be grateful for that.
It’s been 10 weeks since my birthday binge, and I am extremely happy every Saturday/Sunday morning when I open my eyes and have no hangover. That’s a big gift to me. Tonight, I’m going to a party at my drinking friends house; I’ll go for a little while and sneak out. I just don’t have fun at them anymore. I should really change my mindset however and view it for all the other positives like good conversation, food, laughter and connecting with new people.
@lorrainequiche59 You’ll have a lot of fun today!
Interesting you should mention missing the stress outlet of drinking cause I recently thought the same thing. Even though it is "temporary" there is this sense of a chillax factor that I miss too. BUT, then I thought of the feelings & anxiety & depression that comes after the "relief" & my envy vanished. Like you said we can be grateful for sobriety. It IS a gift!!
As for your lack of fun at parties with your drinking friends, I think you'll find a new kind of fun at some point as in good conversation etc & will be able to change your mindset when you're ready for that. Please be gentle with yourself & allow yourself to do whatever it is you need to do to take care of yourself at this point, and if that means making a brief appearance & then disappearing then that's ok. You don't need to "should" yourself into doing anything you're not ready for yet.
You seem to have a really good balance in taking care of yourself & being positive. You are definitely a stength & really good example for all of us on this thread.
AND YES, I had lots of fun with my young group of giggling teens...I am also exhausted....if I had only one 10th of their energy.....!!!!2 -
@JenT304, the one that totally changed my mindset was titled something like Quitting Drinking The Easy Way For Women. That may not be exact but close enough.
I MISS you guys! Hopefully things at the wonderful crazy juvenile jail will level off soon and I can participate more. Much love to you all.3 -
Today, I surpassed my AF record from wintertime. It was 76 days AF and then St. Pat’s Day hit. Today is day 77AF. All is well. Will reward myself with a trip to Ulta. Wishing everyone a great day!11
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@JenT304, the one that totally changed my mindset was titled something like Quitting Drinking The Easy Way For Women. That may not be exact but close enough.
I MISS you guys! Hopefully things at the wonderful crazy juvenile jail will level off soon and I can participate more. Much love to you all.
What’s extra nice about your job although stressful, is that you are in the zone, living in the moment each day at work. That’s such a good thing. We miss you too.0 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »The only alcohol related thought I have lately is feeling a little jealous that I don’t have a stress outlet like my husband or friends (I dont drink, smoke, etc.) But of course, I know that I should be grateful for that.
It’s been 10 weeks since my birthday binge, and I am extremely happy every Saturday/Sunday morning when I open my eyes and have no hangover. That’s a big gift to me. Tonight, I’m going to a party at my drinking friends house; I’ll go for a little while and sneak out. I just don’t have fun at them anymore. I should really change my mindset however and view it for all the other positives like good conversation, food, laughter and connecting with new people.
@lorrainequiche59 You’ll have a lot of fun today!
Interesting you should mention missing the stress outlet of drinking cause I recently thought the same thing. Even though it is "temporary" there is this sense of a chillax factor that I miss too. BUT, then I thought of the feelings & anxiety & depression that comes after the "relief" & my envy vanished. Like you said we can be grateful for sobriety. It IS a gift!!
As for your lack of fun at parties with your drinking friends, I think you'll find a new kind of fun at some point as in good conversation etc & will be able to change your mindset when you're ready for that. Please be gentle with yourself & allow yourself to do whatever it is you need to do to take care of yourself at this point, and if that means making a brief appearance & then disappearing then that's ok. You don't need to "should" yourself into doing anything you're not ready for yet.
You seem to have a really good balance in taking care of yourself & being positive. You are definitely a stength & really good example for all of us on this thread.
AND YES, I had lots of fun with my young group of giggling teens...I am also exhausted....if I had only one 10th of their energy.....!!!!
Thanks for your message. I enjoyed my party mostly. But one friend kept saying to me and the girls, “Let’s go bar hopping tomorrow for the football game. NOT you Julie, I know You cant go.” She was like a broken record. She said “bar hopping/not you Julie” about five times. So, either subconsciously she is jealous of my sobriety, because she’s stated a few times how much stronger I am than her. OR she was just being a b*tch!! Ha!
I told her “I wouldnt want to go anyway. I have things to do.”7
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