The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living

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  • whitpauly
    whitpauly Posts: 1,483 Member
    Hey all,yea it has been quiet here :(@73CL350 does your baby have a cold or something else? Been going around here too and we've all been sick,think its the up and down weather,waves to all and here's to a booze free weekend!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,371 Member
    73CL350 wrote: »
    He has a staph infection covering about 50% of his body. It is blistering and painful. Heartbreaking really. He is only 10 months so he doesn't understand and just screams and screams when I have to clean him. It has been very emotionally taxing.

    Dr. said yesterday in a week he will be mostly back to normal.

    Oh my ! That is heartbreaking for all of you. Very stressful, too.
  • whitpauly
    whitpauly Posts: 1,483 Member
    73CL350 wrote: »
    He has a staph infection covering about 50% of his body. It is blistering and painful. Heartbreaking really. He is only 10 months so he doesn't understand and just screams and screams when I have to clean him. It has been very emotionally taxing.

    Dr. said yesterday in a week he will be mostly back to normal.

    That's terrible! Poor little guy,worse cuz theyre so tiny and can't talk just cry out in pain,hope it clears up fast big ((hugs)) to you all
  • whitpauly
    whitpauly Posts: 1,483 Member
    Happy Birthday @islandbeez <3 wishing everyone a happy AF Saturday!
  • salleewins
    salleewins Posts: 2,308 Member
    Happy Birthday @islandbeez !!
  • whitpauly
    whitpauly Posts: 1,483 Member
    Good job on passing on the wine @RubyRed427 I think your excuse was fine for now,you can always tell everyone you quit for good down the road,@73CL350 how's the baby doing? Any better? I hope so,my daughter was pumping gas today and I seen a huge neon BEER sign thru the glass door of the station,one I've been to many,many times and I was just thinking about how some people can drink alcohol moderately and not go all crazy,just weird to me that I can't and go hog wild,not missing it just thinking about how different I am
  • islandbeez
    islandbeez Posts: 162 Member
    @73CL350 What a sweet happy little guy! I hope he improves quickly, thanks for sharing his darling little face!
  • SunnyDays930
    SunnyDays930 Posts: 1,573 Member
    Babies are a blessing. What a sweet face. I hope he is feeling so much better now. I ate WAY too much this weekend but I am still trying to get over my sugar addiction without the wine in the mix anymore. Yikes, it is hard. Anyway, tomorrow is a new day. I will do better. :)
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,371 Member
    @73CL350 What a cutie pie!
    @whitpauly I know what you mean. My brain is like yours. Cannot moderate to save itself. We are wired differently. I sometimes mourn that, but I also know that life will and is sweeter without any fog. I’m happy you’re at peace. Xo
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,371 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    @salleewins wow, that was totally inspirational. I can see myself in so much of what you said, especially the part about being on auto pilot as you drive into the liquor store parking lot after telling yourself all day you will not drink. I have learned so much from every one of the comments on these boards. It has truly changed my life for the better. Here it is, Friday night and I am home drinking my tea and getting ready to read a book. My mind is feeling sharper every day. I am feeling so much more peaceful than I have in a long time.

    Thanks again, Jen! This board is just what I needed these past 82 days AF. I don’t have any worries expressing my inner thoughts because I know that everyone on here is on the same journey and so incredibly supportive. Xo
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,371 Member
    crazykatlady820 wrote: »
    I just wanted to pop in and celebrate day 365 of living alcohol free!

    What a beautiful anniversary to celebrate! Congrats!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,371 Member
    fdhunt1 wrote: »
    73CL350: My wife & I have your little guy in our thoughts and prayers. No matter how stressful it gets stay AF for him.
    Wrapping up day 15 for me and hanging in there. Hard to be a Packers fan and not drink these days. And after checking the balance in my 401K this week, WOW - double whammy! But I'm sticking to my guns - no booze.

    Hope the Packers won. Congrats on 15 days!
  • lorrainequiche59
    lorrainequiche59 Posts: 900 Member
    whitpauly wrote: »
    I was just thinking about how some people can drink alcohol moderately and not go all crazy,just weird to me that I can't and go hog wild,not missing it just thinking about how different I am

    From what I've learned from Craig Beck & others, you're NOT that different!! Most people who drink an addictive substance become addicted & according to Craig Beck THAT is normal!! SO, just for the record YOU are normal!! I think that those who can truly moderate, which is one daily drink for women & two for men according to people who study the subject (actual moderation isn't what WE decide is ok for us. That is just a trick we play to keep doin' what we're doin' & deny the harm we're actually doin').

    Addiction has different levels. The common idea for many people of someone who is a problem drinker/alcoholic is someone who has a lot of consequences from their drinking or the skid row bum. That may be the end result of a drinking career for some, but there are a lot of variations in between. From what I've learned, it is when a person attempts to stop drinking that will be the indicator of an actual drinking problem. If there is any level of difficulty stopping the behavior, guess what? There's likely a problem.

    Those who can truly moderate are the exception and there are those who do not have an issue doing it. Then there are others who spend a lot of time planning, plotting, & strategizing to drink according to what they want moderation to be for them. For instance, one "strategy" is to drink a glass of water in between alcoholic drinks. WELL, if that is the plan & you are a woman who is "planning" to drink moderately you only get ONE standard glass of alcohol per day, so there should be no need to plan, plot or strategize....if you are drinking a glass of water in between drink(s), you have already gone past the point of moderation unless you plan on splitting your 5 oz glass of wine for eg into increments & have a glass of water in between those increments totalling a 5 oz glass & lots of water in between. Does anyone get my point here??

    I think I am moving past the point of envying those who can drink moderately cause I have discovered it wasn't the taste of wine as much as the buzz of the wine that had me wanting it, SO what is there for me to envy when someone has a 5 oz glass of wine...if they are drinking it the way they "should" by savoring & really enjoying that one glass...s-l-o-w-l-y, there will be no buzz to follow!! LOL I am just so absolutely convinced that there is NO benefit to drinking alcohol that there really is nothing for me to envy!! THAT is a really good feeling!!!

    Btw @RubyRed427 alcohol isn't part of your diet anymore so I think you spoke your truth. That may not be what motivated you but you can share that part later if anyone of your hubby's family broach the subject at some point. :):) You GO girl!!!

  • joha5603
    joha5603 Posts: 102 Member
    RubyRed427 wrote: »
    lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
    One decision I made was not to smoke a joint. My friend actually brought it for me saying since I’m not drinking anymore, I could get high and have fun. I decided I didn’t want to trade one drug for another. I’m content with my decisions.
    ... I live in an area where there is A LOT of weed and while I've abstained for many years (after many decades of use), I've considered dabbling again.... but then the thought occurred to me: WHY? It's obvious to me that I'm looking for a small chemical/head change to replace my beloved beer ... but WHY? So, I'm not going that route. I'm going to sit in this mildly uncomfortable (yet sober) space and still examining what it is I really need.

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