What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)
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elisa123gal wrote: »I get tired of making my food... I wish they had healthy low cal food for delivery.
Similarly, I wish there were more options for sizes and quantities of things at regular supermarkets. Like two hamburger buns or two small cupcakes or a half size pack of cookies, half bread loaves that kind of thing. The ones near me have a few single bakery items but usually only huge bagels and bolillos.23 -
I'm generally a positive person but I'm going to take full advantage of this thread. Most of the things I hate about experimenting with my diet and watching weight etc. is how aware I am of all the bad information and terrible advice that exists out there.
- I hate knowing what works specifically for me through years of experimentation and having other people tell me their *kitten* click bait nutrition tip to "shred fat".
- I hate all the bad advice in general the public keeps rinsing and repeating since the 90's i.e. "you need to avoid fat" "Breakfast is absolutely critical" "Fasting is bad for you" "You need to eat protein every 20 minutes to take advantage of muscle synthesis"
- I hate how people talk about metabolism like it's some magical tiny machine in your stomach that either runs fast or slow based on genetics.
- I hate when people complain that they can't lose weight yet refuse to even entertain the idea of counting macros and doing some basic math.
- I hate all of the dogma around any diet or method of training and the advocates that spend so much time trying to shove it down your throat.
- I hate witnessing parents feed their kids crap food and wonder why they're overweight and unhappy.
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I hate having to always think abut what I am going to eat, I just want to make "normal food", and order anything off a menu, and not have to figure out how many calories I ate. I know I will always count calories because if I don't I gain weight, because I overeat. I fall back into old habits. I lost 125 pounds over two years, thought I had it all figured out and had a better attitude about food, then I put 75 back on over that same period of time.
I also hate all the misinformation out there on nutrition. Stop trying to sell me something and just tell me what works!18 -
I hate that I'm pissy that people notice my partners weight loss but not mine.26
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Ok, I am going to apologize in advance if I offend anyone. My mindset may not be mainstream. I have been through the ups and downs of weight loss. I am very active at times and other time not so much. I am married and have 3 children who are active and like sports. I have gone through several cycles of my life when I didn't make dieting and exercising a priority. In retro... I learned from those days and begun to realize that making excuses and not focusing on my health was getting in the way of what I really wanted to achieve. With that said I am not going to attempt to write a bio or short story here. I just want to emphasize that dieting and maintaining your weight is challenging for some people and doesn't get easier as we age. You can equate it to school or any other challenging time of your life. It going to be difficult for some and others may have developed good habits early in life. Learning how your body responds to different types of food and why you crave this is important. You may have to sacrifice taste at times and when you have extra time to prepare healthy foods, just do it! Exercise can be fun, however you might have to experience some pain if you want true results. The experience can be rewarding and you have to stay positive if you want to fulfill your dreams. NEVER give up an try to find someone who you can share the expereince with. I hope this helps. I know it does not apply to everyone. Good day.
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LivingtheLeanDream wrote: »I've enjoyed reading so many comments, there are plenty I could list but most of the time I just get on with doing what it takes to stay slim. Been maintaining my weight for 5 years, it does get easier so take heart.
Good to hear, it was getting depressing...6 -
What I just really can't understand, is people wanting to be/get healthy or lose weight, but at the same moment do not eat ANY fruits/vegetables whatsoever. I mean; wtf. How do you think you will lose weight if you are just not eating the healthy stuff? Bonus points for people not eating fruits/veggies, but do drink loads of Coke/eat loads of junk food.
Not everyone can handle fruits and vegetables. I am on a low fiber diet because of GI issues17 -
I hate that it was SO easy when I had an active job (PLUS active hobbies) to stay slim and hardly have to think about food, diet, or being hungry. Putting on a couple pounds? Just trim back on the fast food and soda....
Now that I sit on my butt in front of a computer for long days, every day, it requires a LOT of effort to lose weight, and I feel miserable anytime I'm in enough deficit for an appreciable loss (1/2 lb/week or more). Hungry every single day, watching everything you eat, and feeling horribly guilty everytime I say *screw it* and eat what I want, knowing I just undid the tiny progress i maybe otherwise was making. Having to take up a bunch of my free time to go to the gym, leaving very little time for anything else by the time I cook dinner....
Honestly, it has me seriously considering taking a big pay cut to find a more active job again....27 -
I hate having to think about food so much of the time. I wish I could not think about it and not have to plan out what I’m going to eat. I wish I could not give a single thought to food until I get hungry, then eat what sounds good at the time. Sigh.seltzermint555 wrote: »I have a few friends who never seem to be hungry and have only the slightest interest in food. They're not skinny mind you, they are about my size (after a major weight loss), average. But I am jealous in that I am not a person who can skip lunch unintentionally or doesn't have a strong opinion about pasta sauce, fruit, etc. I have to count calories and watch myself in order to avoid gaining lots of weight and some people just have a natural self-control and lack of interest in food that makes it easier for them to maintain a healthy average weight. For me it's a struggle. I'm not claiming that some people are naturally fat/thin, I know that's a hot topic on these forums. I acknowledge that I tend to use food for celebration, consolation, etc, and all of that. I'm just a bit jealous of people who don't do that and have healthy or "don't care" attitudes about what they consume.
yeah, all that...I was invited to a working brunch yesterday, and we all ate lots and it was delicious, and I was fine enjoying it and not really counting and just assuming this would just be a cheat day and those happen. What I really aggrieved me about myself though was that when everyone was done eating and we moved the plates aside and got to the work part, I was still picking at the food left on the table, for hours. Every few minutes, I'd reach for another cracker, another piece of cheese. At one point I made myself more coffee just to have something in my hands, but once I finished it, I went right back to grazing. No one else was doing this.
Why can't I control this? I'd had my - excellent - fill of all of it. I'd guiltlessly tried every single thing on the table. It was a lovely, satisfying meal - but so long as there was something more to grab in front of me, I couldn't think about anything else. That seems like some core issue to try and figure out...
On the other hand, once I left, I didn't think about food for the rest of the day, got home fairly late and didn't even notice I hadn't eaten anything since the big brunch, because I was still full and all 'fooded out' for the day. That's not an ideal way to control weight, I guess, but its something that gives me a bit of optimism that the constant-thinking-about-food can eventually be controlled and ameliorated too - it just needs to be an active, aware project.
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HoneyBadger155 wrote: »I hate that it was SO easy when I had an active job (PLUS active hobbies) to stay slim and hardly have to think about food, diet, or being hungry. Putting on a couple pounds? Just trim back on the fast food and soda....
Now that I sit on my butt in front of a computer for long days, every day, it requires a LOT of effort to lose weight, and I feel miserable anytime I'm in enough deficit for an appreciable loss (1/2 lb/week or more). Hungry every single day, watching everything you eat, and feeling horribly guilty everytime I say *screw it* and eat what I want, knowing I just undid the tiny progress i maybe otherwise was making. Having to take up a bunch of my free time to go to the gym, leaving very little time for anything else by the time I cook dinner....
Honestly, it has me seriously considering taking a big pay cut to find a more active job again....
Yup... One of the reasons I stay at my job, I could make more, but I get to stay active....9 -
madmadviking wrote: »My trick for the foods that are troublesome for me is to do some NLP and program them so that they are disgusting to me. Have to refresh it every now and then but it can be very effective.
What is NLP and how do you program a food that you like into something you hate? I am so in...3 -
LivingtheLeanDream wrote: »"WILL YOU PLEASE STOP OFFERING ME YOUR FOOD YOU DON'T WANT TO EAT!"
Is what I would like to shout at some people.
Seriously though, I had to turn down cakes like 5 times yesterday, from the same person! Although one was by someone else on her behalf. Someone, who I would point out, had just refused the cake herself.
I suppose I'm more sensitive to this because I did used to be the human hoover, eating up anything my friends didn't want. But still!
Don't you just hate when you are kept being offered stuff over and over - a no should be taken as a no. Its very annoying. When someone does that to me now I say a very firm no thanks, I'm full. It usually works so I think its all in how we say no
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LivingtheLeanDream wrote: »"WILL YOU PLEASE STOP OFFERING ME YOUR FOOD YOU DON'T WANT TO EAT!"
Is what I would like to shout at some people.
Seriously though, I had to turn down cakes like 5 times yesterday, from the same person! Although one was by someone else on her behalf. Someone, who I would point out, had just refused the cake herself.
I suppose I'm more sensitive to this because I did used to be the human hoover, eating up anything my friends didn't want. But still!
Don't you just hate when you are kept being offered stuff over and over - a no should be taken as a no. Its very annoying. When someone does that to me now I say a very firm no thanks, I'm full. It usually works so I think its all in how we say no
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I hate that I feel I should not let people know that I'm losing weight. I fudge by saying that I'm walking a lot more--just toning up, etc. I've lost 35 lbs with steady calorie counting--but I don't want to discuss weight because I gained it back last time. So this weekend we're meeting family down the shore and I know I look much better in my bathing suit---I'm dreaded the "wow--how much did you lose---how did you do it" conversations.
I also hate that I looked up the calorie count for Thrashers Fries (a boardwalk tradition since 1939) and Grottos pizza (the legendary taste of the Delaware shore). Why can't I just enjoy the last beach trip!!!10 -
I too hate discussing my weight loss with most people. Because it never seems to just stop with the nice comments of you have lost weight, or you look good. It is the how much have you lost? How much more do you want to lose? What diet are you following? Is that safe? I heard the diet that really works is? (insert any of about 1 to 100 here). Or my favorite as of late, what is your goal weight? I answer I have not decided as of yet. People for some reason have decided I am a liar, everyone has a goal weight when they start losing weight. Sigh!!!
And I always seem to be going into Target when they are making that darn Caramel Corn, the smell it consumes me makes me yearn. And then I say knock it off.11 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »That I can’t eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every night. I sooooo want to!
@quiksylver296 Well there are diet ones like Halo Top that is delicious! Around 300cals for the whole pint. I love them ♥2 -
My biggest issue is my off days. Especially weekend. Since my workout sessions are on weekdays I usually end up having nothing to do on weekends. That's when my cravings and my laziness to do something turn to the maximum, which usually end up in some kind of small slip up. Than I start hating myself untill it's Monday again and I can go to workout. My trainer doesn't work on weekends and I find it hard to go alone to the gym.
@Calildur You could find activities that you enjoy and that get you moving during the weekend! Maybe indoor wall climbing, hiking, a walk in the park, cycling, going for lessons of martial arts or anything really! Just a few ideas. Congrats on your weight loss! ox
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I hate that "diet" anything is not really as good as the original.10
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elisa123gal wrote: »I get tired of making my food... I wish they had healthy low cal food for delivery.
There may be delivery options you haven't found yet - in my town there's one Italian place which has healthy salads, pasta, and wraps, a deli which has a few healthy options, and a Chinese place which will happily cook off-the-menu stir fry with minimal oil and sauce. Get on the internet and check to make sure there's nothing local you are overlooking!7 -
I hate how everyone seems to feel free to tell me how to do or not do what I'm already successfully doing.19
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quiksylver296 wrote: »That I can’t eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every night. I sooooo want to!
@quiksylver296 Well there are diet ones like Halo Top that is delicious! Around 300cals for the whole pint. I love them ♥
I tried the strawberry cheesecake Enlightened this week - is good. Gooooood.5 -
rheddmobile wrote: »elisa123gal wrote: »I get tired of making my food... I wish they had healthy low cal food for delivery.
There may be delivery options you haven't found yet - in my town there's one Italian place which has healthy salads, pasta, and wraps, a deli which has a few healthy options, and a Chinese place which will happily cook off-the-menu stir fry with minimal oil and sauce. Get on the internet and check to make sure there's nothing local you are overlooking!
I find it very easy to find healthy meals ordered from just about any restaurant. I request things cooked differently, no butter, etc.3 -
New_Heavens_Earth wrote: »Another vent in regard "I don't have money to lose weight, eat better, exercise, etc" ... yes it takes money to feed yourself and get a modest amount of exercise equipment. But walking is free. It's not necessary to pay for weight loss or life coaches, or even a personal trainer. Therapists aren't necessary unless you have an extreme or life threatening issue. There's many free options to help the weight loss journey, like this one!
I was just yelled at on IG for saying diets can't fix the emotional or mental issues involved in obesity. Obviously I hit a nerve, because the person gave me a real snarky reply saying she didn't have the money to fix her issues toward food, so how can she possibly lose weight. But yet I know plenty who worked it out for free.
I'm not wealthy, but I'm doing the work and I'm tired of people coming at me with attitude about finances stopping them from getting their stuff together.
In my experience, if folks sought mental health support sooner rather than later, they might not get to the “extreme or life-threatening issues” part.
That would be lovely.25 -
MelanieCN77 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »That I can’t eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every night. I sooooo want to!
@quiksylver296 Well there are diet ones like Halo Top that is delicious! Around 300cals for the whole pint. I love them ♥
I tried the strawberry cheesecake Enlightened this week - is good. Gooooood.
Bananas Foster is my FAV!!!!0 -
MelanieCN77 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »That I can’t eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every night. I sooooo want to!
@quiksylver296 Well there are diet ones like Halo Top that is delicious! Around 300cals for the whole pint. I love them ♥
I tried the strawberry cheesecake Enlightened this week - is good. Gooooood.
WHAT!!! WHERE!!! lol2 -
I think the thing that bugs me the most is how the grocery stores are laid out. What hits you when you first go in? Well, if it's not a hot food deli, its a fast food place, a barbeque or bakery. They know the odors get your brain going and you really have to resist the temptations. I know its more for convenience than anything else but really?
One day I was squeezing a melon and this poor woman on a store scooter pulled up next to me. I moved aside so she could get to them. She looked up at me and smiled then said, quite seriously: "better get something healthy to counter all this other stuff, hey?" I looked in her basket and she had deli meats, fried foods in bags and several cartons of potato and macaroni salads. I felt like telling her that she was going to only make her problem worse but I've learned that most people already know this. They're just choosing to self-delude.
WalMart places the produce right next to the bakery and deli. Which seems rather defeating because you're stuck smelling the other stuff. And I think they know this. I kind of have to hold my nose when I shop there, until I get to the meat department.
HEB has a barbeque place at one door as you first come in and all the bath and body works type stuff at the other end when you first go in. So I always go in that end when I shop there.
Does anyone remember when they told us to shop only the parameter of the store because "all the good stuff" is on the outside? I believe marketing experts caught on.
There's something else that bugs me as well. And this has to do with health care. And no, this isn't a political statement. It's just a fact. I'm on tricare prime. But I think this is pretty much true of all medical insurance plans.
Including medicaid and medicare.
To one degree or another, medical insurance seems to prefer to clean up the mess rather than focus on prevention and help to prevent. They'll pay for everything but prevention measures. Often a dietician is out of pocket (since mine is military it's free but when I didn't live at the base area, I had to pay out of pocket- with a pretty high deductible.)
Personally I think there should be a healthy weight incentive. That if a person is willing to work to get, say, to a better BMI, they will be compensated by the government for the cost of their healthier groceries every month.
Now I know this seems invasive. But if its VOLUNTARY, and a doctor or clinic is willing to keep and log the accurate weight and BMI changes, and the person scans in their grocery receipts regularly, why not do this to encourage people? It doesn't have to ALL of the grocery bill, just maybe 20% of it? Kind of like when you use EBATES?
I would do it in a heartbeat!
Okay so there's my rant lol.17 -
I hate that I can't even have a freaking donut! If it was just normal calorie counting, sure I could have one now and then. But now that I'm diabetic, it raises my blood sugar too high. I guess I could just not care to have one anyway, but I don't like getting into that habit.13
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I think the thing that bugs me the most is how the grocery stores are laid out. What hits you when you first go in? Well, if it's not a hot food deli, its a fast food place, a barbeque or bakery. They know the odors get your brain going and you really have to resist the temptations. I know its more for convenience than anything else but really?
One day I was squeezing a melon and this poor woman on a store scooter pulled up next to me. I moved aside so she could get to them. She looked up at me and smiled then said, quite seriously: "better get something healthy to counter all this other stuff, hey?" I looked in her basket and she had deli meats, fried foods in bags and several cartons of potato and macaroni salads. I felt like telling her that she was going to only make her problem worse but I've learned that most people already know this. They're just choosing to self-delude.
WalMart places the produce right next to the bakery and deli. Which seems rather defeating because you're stuck smelling the other stuff. And I think they know this. I kind of have to hold my nose when I shop there, until I get to the meat department.
HEB has a barbeque place at one door as you first come in and all the bath and body works type stuff at the other end when you first go in. So I always go in that end when I shop there.
Does anyone remember when they told us to shop only the parameter of the store because "all the good stuff" is on the outside? I believe marketing experts caught on.
There's something else that bugs me as well. And this has to do with health care. And no, this isn't a political statement. It's just a fact. I'm on tricare prime. But I think this is pretty much true of all medical insurance plans.
Including medicaid and medicare.
To one degree or another, medical insurance seems to prefer to clean up the mess rather than focus on prevention and help to prevent. They'll pay for everything but prevention measures. Often a dietician is out of pocket (since mine is military it's free but when I didn't live at the base area, I had to pay out of pocket- with a pretty high deductible.)
Personally I think there should be a healthy weight incentive. That if a person is willing to work to get, say, to a better BMI, they will be compensated by the government for the cost of their healthier groceries every month.
Now I know this seems invasive. But if its VOLUNTARY, and a doctor or clinic is willing to keep and log the accurate weight and BMI changes, and the person scans in their grocery receipts regularly, why not do this to encourage people? It doesn't have to ALL of the grocery bill, just maybe 20% of it? Kind of like when you use EBATES?
I would do it in a heartbeat!
Okay so there's my rant lol.
Some health insurance do have incentive like that, mine give you up to $300 back a year if you do certain things, like take the "classes" that they have on line, they'll give you so much back for your gym membership...2 -
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quiksylver296 wrote: »That I can’t eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every night. I sooooo want to!
@quiksylver296 Well there are diet ones like Halo Top that is delicious! Around 300cals for the whole pint. I love them ♥
Yeah. I know. My freezer's full of them. They still aren't B&J's The Tonight Dough.
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