Gym Protocol
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ImSoSquishy wrote: »yeah it's annoying, it's more annoying when you constantly see them looking at your control panel to check your speed so they can try to one-up you or try to start a conversation too.
Yes, I hate when they start peering at my controls...0 -
I don't understand the problem.I was overweight (I am still ow) and I was brisk walking on treadmill when there were many left empty. Two really fit girls (they were friends) came and took treadmill on either side of mine. And they were running while I in middle just walking.... I don’t know if that was on purpose but very uncomfortable for me!!
The only person against whom you're competing is yourself. I have heard, here, the comparison is the thief of joy. It really makes no difference what anyone else is doing in the gym. The only person with whom you should be concerned is you.ImSoSquishy wrote: »yeah it's annoying, it's more annoying when you constantly see them looking at your control panel to check your speed so they can try to one-up you or try to start a conversation too.
Plug in your ears, and mind your workout. It's not like they are getting onto your dreadmill to share. So what if they are trying to "one up" you? How does that effect your workout? If they try to start a conversation and you are just to antisocial to comply, that's what ear buds are for. Just nod an acknowledgment and continue on your own.
O,P. why is it annoying? Isn't there enough room on your treadmill for you? Do other people really effect your sense of being that much? What they are doing should have no effect on what you do. Go to the gym, get YOUR work in, go home and enjoy life. I don't understand the problem. Now if they had tried to commandeer YOUR treadmill, that would be something annoying.
It annoyed me because:
1) I'm a geeky introvert. (I'm an engineer.) I despise anyone trying to talk to me at the gym.
2) Before starting her treadmill, she took some time bending over pretending to do something with her shoes, but I could feel her eyes on me looking me over.
3) She looked my controls over after starting her machine.
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annaskiski wrote: »I don't understand the problem.I was overweight (I am still ow) and I was brisk walking on treadmill when there were many left empty. Two really fit girls (they were friends) came and took treadmill on either side of mine. And they were running while I in middle just walking.... I don’t know if that was on purpose but very uncomfortable for me!!
The only person against whom you're competing is yourself. I have heard, here, the comparison is the thief of joy. It really makes no difference what anyone else is doing in the gym. The only person with whom you should be concerned is you.ImSoSquishy wrote: »yeah it's annoying, it's more annoying when you constantly see them looking at your control panel to check your speed so they can try to one-up you or try to start a conversation too.
Plug in your ears, and mind your workout. It's not like they are getting onto your dreadmill to share. So what if they are trying to "one up" you? How does that effect your workout? If they try to start a conversation and you are just to antisocial to comply, that's what ear buds are for. Just nod an acknowledgment and continue on your own.
O,P. why is it annoying? Isn't there enough room on your treadmill for you? Do other people really effect your sense of being that much? What they are doing should have no effect on what you do. Go to the gym, get YOUR work in, go home and enjoy life. I don't understand the problem. Now if they had tried to commandeer YOUR treadmill, that would be something annoying.
It annoyed me because:
1) I'm a geeky introvert. (I'm an engineer.) I despise anyone trying to talk to me at the gym.
2) Before starting her treadmill, she took some time bending over pretending to do something with her shoes, but I could feel her eyes on me looking me over.
3) She looked my controls over after starting her machine.
Seems like the "problem" is all yours.
"1)I'm a geeky introvert. (I'm an engineer.) I despise anyone trying to talk to me at the gym." More antisocial than anything else.
"2) Before starting her treadmill, she took some time bending over pretending to do something with her shoes, but I could feel her eyes on me looking me over". Get over yourself. You are not all that and a bag of chips.
"3) She looked my controls over after starting her machine." So? How does that effect anything you are doing. Her "looks" killed your machine.
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Maybe I am HUH!! Didn't think of that, did ya!!annaskiski wrote: »I don't understand the problem.I was overweight (I am still ow) and I was brisk walking on treadmill when there were many left empty. Two really fit girls (they were friends) came and took treadmill on either side of mine. And they were running while I in middle just walking.... I don’t know if that was on purpose but very uncomfortable for me!!
The only person against whom you're competing is yourself. I have heard, here, the comparison is the thief of joy. It really makes no difference what anyone else is doing in the gym. The only person with whom you should be concerned is you.ImSoSquishy wrote: »yeah it's annoying, it's more annoying when you constantly see them looking at your control panel to check your speed so they can try to one-up you or try to start a conversation too.
Plug in your ears, and mind your workout. It's not like they are getting onto your dreadmill to share. So what if they are trying to "one up" you? How does that effect your workout? If they try to start a conversation and you are just to antisocial to comply, that's what ear buds are for. Just nod an acknowledgment and continue on your own.
O,P. why is it annoying? Isn't there enough room on your treadmill for you? Do other people really effect your sense of being that much? What they are doing should have no effect on what you do. Go to the gym, get YOUR work in, go home and enjoy life. I don't understand the problem. Now if they had tried to commandeer YOUR treadmill, that would be something annoying.
It annoyed me because:
1) I'm a geeky introvert. (I'm an engineer.) I despise anyone trying to talk to me at the gym.
2) Before starting her treadmill, she took some time bending over pretending to do something with her shoes, but I could feel her eyes on me looking me over.
3) She looked my controls over after starting her machine.
Seems like the "problem" is all yours.
"1)I'm a geeky introvert. (I'm an engineer.) I despise anyone trying to talk to me at the gym." More antisocial than anything else.
"2) Before starting her treadmill, she took some time bending over pretending to do something with her shoes, but I could feel her eyes on me looking me over". Get over yourself. You are not all that and a bag of chips.
"3) She looked my controls over after starting her machine." So? How does that effect anything you are doing. Her "looks" killed your machine.
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annaskiski wrote: »
Maybe I am HUH!! Didn't think of that, did ya!!annaskiski wrote: »I don't understand the problem.I was overweight (I am still ow) and I was brisk walking on treadmill when there were many left empty. Two really fit girls (they were friends) came and took treadmill on either side of mine. And they were running while I in middle just walking.... I don’t know if that was on purpose but very uncomfortable for me!!
The only person against whom you're competing is yourself. I have heard, here, the comparison is the thief of joy. It really makes no difference what anyone else is doing in the gym. The only person with whom you should be concerned is you.ImSoSquishy wrote: »yeah it's annoying, it's more annoying when you constantly see them looking at your control panel to check your speed so they can try to one-up you or try to start a conversation too.
Plug in your ears, and mind your workout. It's not like they are getting onto your dreadmill to share. So what if they are trying to "one up" you? How does that effect your workout? If they try to start a conversation and you are just to antisocial to comply, that's what ear buds are for. Just nod an acknowledgment and continue on your own.
O,P. why is it annoying? Isn't there enough room on your treadmill for you? Do other people really effect your sense of being that much? What they are doing should have no effect on what you do. Go to the gym, get YOUR work in, go home and enjoy life. I don't understand the problem. Now if they had tried to commandeer YOUR treadmill, that would be something annoying.
It annoyed me because:
1) I'm a geeky introvert. (I'm an engineer.) I despise anyone trying to talk to me at the gym.
2) Before starting her treadmill, she took some time bending over pretending to do something with her shoes, but I could feel her eyes on me looking me over.
3) She looked my controls over after starting her machine.
Seems like the "problem" is all yours.
"1)I'm a geeky introvert. (I'm an engineer.) I despise anyone trying to talk to me at the gym." More antisocial than anything else.
"2) Before starting her treadmill, she took some time bending over pretending to do something with her shoes, but I could feel her eyes on me looking me over". Get over yourself. You are not all that and a bag of chips.
"3) She looked my controls over after starting her machine." So? How does that effect anything you are doing. Her "looks" killed your machine.
Then stop flaunting it and causing a distraction. Those around you just want to work out without being enamored by you. You might be causing a hostile work(out) environment.
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I was reading this and enjoying the comments and then I thought--first world problems!3
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when I used to go gym I ALWAYS used the same machine, the one at the very end, nearest the fire exit.
not so I had a quick get away if there was a fire
but because there were no machine behind it, just the floor where people doing free weights, squats and some times classes going on.
I hated the thought of someone being right behind me (thats not just at the gym thats everywhere I go) and I liked watching people on the floor in the mirror. helped me sort my form out on a few things I was not so good at.
once, at 11pm I was the only person on the treadmil and there was a handful of people upstairs on the weight machine and stuff up there when a bloke arrived at the gym, now this bloke was possibly the most good looking fitest bloke Id ever seen.
so I was not happy when this adonis casually walks over passing 8 empty machines and gets on the one next to me, the short fat girl with a bright red face (it was my last thing to do and had been there almost 2 hours)
he looks at me in the mirror, smiles and says hi. then starts his machine.
Im pretty sure my already red face tured several shades redder! and then felt so awkward as didnt know where to look, in the miorror..looked like I was watching him....which was actually very nice to look at, couldnt see the tv very well from where I was either so I ended up putting my other ear phone in, turned my music up and carried on but looking at my feet in mirror so I didnt make eye contact with him and if I acidentally did he gave me a massive smile
I cut my session short by 15mins and left (he said see ya as I was getting off the machine)
it was the sort of awkward Id feel if doing weights and Eddie Hall suddenly walked in and started working out next me 9 -
MoveitlikeManda wrote: »when I used to go gym I ALWAYS used the same machine, the one at the very end, nearest the fire exit.
not so I had a quick get away if there was a fire but because there were no machine behind it, just the floor where people doing free weights, squats and some times classes going on.
I hated the thought of someone being right behind me (thats not just at the gym thats everywhere I go) and I liked watching people on the floor in the mirror. helped me sort my form out on a few things I was not so good at.
once, at 11pm I was the only person on the treadmil and there was a handful of people upstairs on the weight machine and stuff up there when a bloke arrived at the gym, now this bloke was possibly the most good looking fitest bloke Id ever seen.
so I was not happy when this adonis casually walks over passing 8 empty machines and gets on the one next to me, the short fat girl with a bright red face (it was my last thing to do and had been there almost 2 hours)
he looks at me in the mirror, smiles and says hi. then starts his machine.
Im pretty sure my already red face tured several shades redder! and then felt so awkward as didnt know where to look, in the miorror..looked like I was watching him....which was actually very nice to look at, couldnt see the tv very well from where I was either so I ended up putting my other ear phone in, turned my music up and carried on but looking at my feet in mirror so I didnt make eye contact with him and if I acidentally did he gave me a massive smile
I cut my session short by 15mins and left (he said see ya as I was getting off the machine)
it was the sort of awkward Id feel if doing weights and Eddie Hall suddenly walked in and started working out next me
Oh hon--WHY did you pass up this opportunity?9 -
snowflake954 wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »when I used to go gym I ALWAYS used the same machine, the one at the very end, nearest the fire exit.
not so I had a quick get away if there was a fire but because there were no machine behind it, just the floor where people doing free weights, squats and some times classes going on.
I hated the thought of someone being right behind me (thats not just at the gym thats everywhere I go) and I liked watching people on the floor in the mirror. helped me sort my form out on a few things I was not so good at.
once, at 11pm I was the only person on the treadmil and there was a handful of people upstairs on the weight machine and stuff up there when a bloke arrived at the gym, now this bloke was possibly the most good looking fitest bloke Id ever seen.
so I was not happy when this adonis casually walks over passing 8 empty machines and gets on the one next to me, the short fat girl with a bright red face (it was my last thing to do and had been there almost 2 hours)
he looks at me in the mirror, smiles and says hi. then starts his machine.
Im pretty sure my already red face tured several shades redder! and then felt so awkward as didnt know where to look, in the miorror..looked like I was watching him....which was actually very nice to look at, couldnt see the tv very well from where I was either so I ended up putting my other ear phone in, turned my music up and carried on but looking at my feet in mirror so I didnt make eye contact with him and if I acidentally did he gave me a massive smile
I cut my session short by 15mins and left (he said see ya as I was getting off the machine)
it was the sort of awkward Id feel if doing weights and Eddie Hall suddenly walked in and started working out next me
Oh hon--WHY did you pass up this opportunity?
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MoveitlikeManda wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »when I used to go gym I ALWAYS used the same machine, the one at the very end, nearest the fire exit.
not so I had a quick get away if there was a fire but because there were no machine behind it, just the floor where people doing free weights, squats and some times classes going on.
I hated the thought of someone being right behind me (thats not just at the gym thats everywhere I go) and I liked watching people on the floor in the mirror. helped me sort my form out on a few things I was not so good at.
once, at 11pm I was the only person on the treadmil and there was a handful of people upstairs on the weight machine and stuff up there when a bloke arrived at the gym, now this bloke was possibly the most good looking fitest bloke Id ever seen.
so I was not happy when this adonis casually walks over passing 8 empty machines and gets on the one next to me, the short fat girl with a bright red face (it was my last thing to do and had been there almost 2 hours)
he looks at me in the mirror, smiles and says hi. then starts his machine.
Im pretty sure my already red face tured several shades redder! and then felt so awkward as didnt know where to look, in the miorror..looked like I was watching him....which was actually very nice to look at, couldnt see the tv very well from where I was either so I ended up putting my other ear phone in, turned my music up and carried on but looking at my feet in mirror so I didnt make eye contact with him and if I acidentally did he gave me a massive smile
I cut my session short by 15mins and left (he said see ya as I was getting off the machine)
it was the sort of awkward Id feel if doing weights and Eddie Hall suddenly walked in and started working out next me
Oh hon--WHY did you pass up this opportunity?
married
LOL Good reason!0 -
annaskiski wrote: »So..
You are at the gym, there are 50 empty treadmills.
You jump on the one about halfway through. Another person walks over and gets on the one next to you, ignoring the 48 other empty choices.
Annoying? Or am I too much of an introvert?
I wouldn't be annoyed. I am usually flattered because it makes me think I may motivate their routine. I tend to work out near people, machine-wise, for this reason. It helps psych me up and stay focused.2 -
annaskiski wrote: »So..
You are at the gym, there are 50 empty treadmills.
You jump on the one about halfway through. Another person walks over and gets on the one next to you, ignoring the 48 other empty choices.
Annoying? Or am I too much of an introvert?
I have my ONE favorite treadmill out of all the empty treadmills around. If someone is on the treadmill next to my favorite I am working out next to them. They either deal with it or move. Cuz I am not moving!!! LOL!2 -
The only time it bothers me if someone is on a nearby treadmill (and this doesn't have to be the one next to me) is if someone's footsteps are loud and also a different cadence from mine. Yesterday the combined cadence sounds (hers and mine) made me dizzy so I went to another treadmill in another block of treadmills. Problem solved.0
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MoveitlikeManda wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »when I used to go gym I ALWAYS used the same machine, the one at the very end, nearest the fire exit.
not so I had a quick get away if there was a fire but because there were no machine behind it, just the floor where people doing free weights, squats and some times classes going on.
I hated the thought of someone being right behind me (thats not just at the gym thats everywhere I go) and I liked watching people on the floor in the mirror. helped me sort my form out on a few things I was not so good at.
once, at 11pm I was the only person on the treadmil and there was a handful of people upstairs on the weight machine and stuff up there when a bloke arrived at the gym, now this bloke was possibly the most good looking fitest bloke Id ever seen.
so I was not happy when this adonis casually walks over passing 8 empty machines and gets on the one next to me, the short fat girl with a bright red face (it was my last thing to do and had been there almost 2 hours)
he looks at me in the mirror, smiles and says hi. then starts his machine.
Im pretty sure my already red face tured several shades redder! and then felt so awkward as didnt know where to look, in the miorror..looked like I was watching him....which was actually very nice to look at, couldnt see the tv very well from where I was either so I ended up putting my other ear phone in, turned my music up and carried on but looking at my feet in mirror so I didnt make eye contact with him and if I acidentally did he gave me a massive smile
I cut my session short by 15mins and left (he said see ya as I was getting off the machine)
it was the sort of awkward Id feel if doing weights and Eddie Hall suddenly walked in and started working out next me
Oh hon--WHY did you pass up this opportunity?
married
No reason not to be friendly and say hi. I thought we were a social animal. Seems more and more people just want to be left alone, with no contact from anyone and then worry why they are getting depressed. A smile, a friendly greeting, a nod of acknowledgement, polite conversation really isn't painful. I frequently find it to be enjoyable. You all do belong to the same club.6 -
MoveitlikeManda wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »when I used to go gym I ALWAYS used the same machine, the one at the very end, nearest the fire exit.
not so I had a quick get away if there was a fire but because there were no machine behind it, just the floor where people doing free weights, squats and some times classes going on.
I hated the thought of someone being right behind me (thats not just at the gym thats everywhere I go) and I liked watching people on the floor in the mirror. helped me sort my form out on a few things I was not so good at.
once, at 11pm I was the only person on the treadmil and there was a handful of people upstairs on the weight machine and stuff up there when a bloke arrived at the gym, now this bloke was possibly the most good looking fitest bloke Id ever seen.
so I was not happy when this adonis casually walks over passing 8 empty machines and gets on the one next to me, the short fat girl with a bright red face (it was my last thing to do and had been there almost 2 hours)
he looks at me in the mirror, smiles and says hi. then starts his machine.
Im pretty sure my already red face tured several shades redder! and then felt so awkward as didnt know where to look, in the miorror..looked like I was watching him....which was actually very nice to look at, couldnt see the tv very well from where I was either so I ended up putting my other ear phone in, turned my music up and carried on but looking at my feet in mirror so I didnt make eye contact with him and if I acidentally did he gave me a massive smile
I cut my session short by 15mins and left (he said see ya as I was getting off the machine)
it was the sort of awkward Id feel if doing weights and Eddie Hall suddenly walked in and started working out next me
Oh hon--WHY did you pass up this opportunity?
married
No reason not to be friendly and say hi. I thought we were a social animal. Seems more and more people just want to be left alone, with no contact from anyone and then worry why they are getting depressed. A smile, a friendly greeting, a nod of acknowledgement, polite conversation really isn't painful. I frequently find it to be enjoyable. You all do belong to the same club.
There is the really handsome, FINE "A" fit guy at my gym. We say hi to each other every day. We know each other by name. Yesterday we were both lifting and I walked up to him and said. "I am not trying to come on to you. I'm happily married for 30 yrs. But I just wanted you to know you are my gym boyfriend!!" He just laughed he was like "I'm flattered!" it was hilarious! 11 -
MoveitlikeManda wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »when I used to go gym I ALWAYS used the same machine, the one at the very end, nearest the fire exit.
not so I had a quick get away if there was a fire but because there were no machine behind it, just the floor where people doing free weights, squats and some times classes going on.
I hated the thought of someone being right behind me (thats not just at the gym thats everywhere I go) and I liked watching people on the floor in the mirror. helped me sort my form out on a few things I was not so good at.
once, at 11pm I was the only person on the treadmil and there was a handful of people upstairs on the weight machine and stuff up there when a bloke arrived at the gym, now this bloke was possibly the most good looking fitest bloke Id ever seen.
so I was not happy when this adonis casually walks over passing 8 empty machines and gets on the one next to me, the short fat girl with a bright red face (it was my last thing to do and had been there almost 2 hours)
he looks at me in the mirror, smiles and says hi. then starts his machine.
Im pretty sure my already red face tured several shades redder! and then felt so awkward as didnt know where to look, in the miorror..looked like I was watching him....which was actually very nice to look at, couldnt see the tv very well from where I was either so I ended up putting my other ear phone in, turned my music up and carried on but looking at my feet in mirror so I didnt make eye contact with him and if I acidentally did he gave me a massive smile
I cut my session short by 15mins and left (he said see ya as I was getting off the machine)
it was the sort of awkward Id feel if doing weights and Eddie Hall suddenly walked in and started working out next me
Oh hon--WHY did you pass up this opportunity?
married
No reason not to be friendly and say hi. I thought we were a social animal. Seems more and more people just want to be left alone, with no contact from anyone and then worry why they are getting depressed. A smile, a friendly greeting, a nod of acknowledgement, polite conversation really isn't painful. I frequently find it to be enjoyable. You all do belong to the same club.
I did smile and say hi back, I wasnt rude to him. i just felt awkward, its not the norm in my gym, everyone gets on with their workout and ony usually talk to people they came with. (except the lady in the changing room who loves to talk to me about anything and everything whilst we are half naked lol)
he looked toally out of place with me on the treadmills, and is somebody Id expect to see with the fit lads up stairs doing weights.
I did see him again a few times and he always smiled and said hi, and so did I. He also bought my water bottle over to me when he saw Id left it on a bike.
Im not great in social situstaion with people I dont know, and have actually suffered from depression and axiety for many many years, even more so after a very traumatic birth with my youngest son in november 2015.
so keep myself to myself
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MoveitlikeManda wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »when I used to go gym I ALWAYS used the same machine, the one at the very end, nearest the fire exit.
not so I had a quick get away if there was a fire but because there were no machine behind it, just the floor where people doing free weights, squats and some times classes going on.
I hated the thought of someone being right behind me (thats not just at the gym thats everywhere I go) and I liked watching people on the floor in the mirror. helped me sort my form out on a few things I was not so good at.
once, at 11pm I was the only person on the treadmil and there was a handful of people upstairs on the weight machine and stuff up there when a bloke arrived at the gym, now this bloke was possibly the most good looking fitest bloke Id ever seen.
so I was not happy when this adonis casually walks over passing 8 empty machines and gets on the one next to me, the short fat girl with a bright red face (it was my last thing to do and had been there almost 2 hours)
he looks at me in the mirror, smiles and says hi. then starts his machine.
Im pretty sure my already red face tured several shades redder! and then felt so awkward as didnt know where to look, in the miorror..looked like I was watching him....which was actually very nice to look at, couldnt see the tv very well from where I was either so I ended up putting my other ear phone in, turned my music up and carried on but looking at my feet in mirror so I didnt make eye contact with him and if I acidentally did he gave me a massive smile
I cut my session short by 15mins and left (he said see ya as I was getting off the machine)
it was the sort of awkward Id feel if doing weights and Eddie Hall suddenly walked in and started working out next me
Oh hon--WHY did you pass up this opportunity?
married
No reason not to be friendly and say hi. I thought we were a social animal. Seems more and more people just want to be left alone, with no contact from anyone and then worry why they are getting depressed. A smile, a friendly greeting, a nod of acknowledgement, polite conversation really isn't painful. I frequently find it to be enjoyable. You all do belong to the same club.
I did smile and say hi back, I wasnt rude to him. i just felt awkward, its not the norm in my gym, everyone gets on with their workout and ony usually talk to people they came with. (except the lady in the changing room who loves to talk to me about anything and everything whilst we are half naked lol)
he looked toally out of place with me on the treadmills, and is somebody Id expect to see with the fit lads up stairs doing weights.
I did see him again a few times and he always smiled and said hi, and so did I. He also bought my water bottle over to me when he saw Id left it on a bike.
Im not great in social situstaion with people I dont know, and have actually suffered from depression and axiety for many many years, even more so after a very traumatic birth with my youngest son in november 2015.
so keep myself to myself
I would suggest the opposite approach. A simple nod and smile and you'll get to feel the warmth, and comfort others can provide free of charge. Does everyone go through their days alone, avoiding any contact to the greatest extent possible, or is this just a gym thing? At work, don't you interact with those around you? At the supermarket/grocery store, after seeing the same person up and down the aisles the whole time you're there, don't you at least nod hi? What is the allure of living your life alone?9 -
The only time it bothers me if someone is on a nearby treadmill (and this doesn't have to be the one next to me) is if someone's footsteps are loud and also a different cadence from mine. Yesterday the combined cadence sounds (hers and mine) made me dizzy so I went to another treadmill in another block of treadmills. Problem solved.
TBH, I'm probably the person you had to get away from - my feet slap down pretty heavy and I know I make a lot of noise. Frankly, I just had to get over being self-conscious about it - I run how I run. I've seen other posts where people complain about people running too loudly on the treadmill and when I just started I thought I was being rude (even stopped running a couple of times when someone next to me was running faster so I wouldn't disturb them), but I've realized that there's no actual protocol for how loud you're allowed to be on the treadmill
I do find it distracting when someone gets on the treadmill next to me and starts talking loudly on their phone while walking. I don't know why this bothers me more than 2 people having a conversation right next to me at the same volume, and clearly this is my problem not theirs, but it's definitely one of my pet peeves.3 -
MoveitlikeManda wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »when I used to go gym I ALWAYS used the same machine, the one at the very end, nearest the fire exit.
not so I had a quick get away if there was a fire but because there were no machine behind it, just the floor where people doing free weights, squats and some times classes going on.
I hated the thought of someone being right behind me (thats not just at the gym thats everywhere I go) and I liked watching people on the floor in the mirror. helped me sort my form out on a few things I was not so good at.
once, at 11pm I was the only person on the treadmil and there was a handful of people upstairs on the weight machine and stuff up there when a bloke arrived at the gym, now this bloke was possibly the most good looking fitest bloke Id ever seen.
so I was not happy when this adonis casually walks over passing 8 empty machines and gets on the one next to me, the short fat girl with a bright red face (it was my last thing to do and had been there almost 2 hours)
he looks at me in the mirror, smiles and says hi. then starts his machine.
Im pretty sure my already red face tured several shades redder! and then felt so awkward as didnt know where to look, in the miorror..looked like I was watching him....which was actually very nice to look at, couldnt see the tv very well from where I was either so I ended up putting my other ear phone in, turned my music up and carried on but looking at my feet in mirror so I didnt make eye contact with him and if I acidentally did he gave me a massive smile
I cut my session short by 15mins and left (he said see ya as I was getting off the machine)
it was the sort of awkward Id feel if doing weights and Eddie Hall suddenly walked in and started working out next me
Oh hon--WHY did you pass up this opportunity?
married
No reason not to be friendly and say hi. I thought we were a social animal. Seems more and more people just want to be left alone, with no contact from anyone and then worry why they are getting depressed. A smile, a friendly greeting, a nod of acknowledgement, polite conversation really isn't painful. I frequently find it to be enjoyable. You all do belong to the same club.
I did smile and say hi back, I wasnt rude to him. i just felt awkward, its not the norm in my gym, everyone gets on with their workout and ony usually talk to people they came with. (except the lady in the changing room who loves to talk to me about anything and everything whilst we are half naked lol)
he looked toally out of place with me on the treadmills, and is somebody Id expect to see with the fit lads up stairs doing weights.
I did see him again a few times and he always smiled and said hi, and so did I. He also bought my water bottle over to me when he saw Id left it on a bike.
Im not great in social situstaion with people I dont know, and have actually suffered from depression and axiety for many many years, even more so after a very traumatic birth with my youngest son in november 2015.
so keep myself to myself
I would suggest the opposite approach. A simple nod and smile and you'll get to feel the warmth, and comfort others can provide free of charge. Does everyone go through their days alone, avoiding any contact to the greatest extent possible, or is this just a gym thing? At work, don't you interact with those around you? At the supermarket/grocery store, after seeing the same person up and down the aisles the whole time you're there, don't you at least nod hi? What is the allure of living your life alone?
I hate shopping because there are people there, worst being the checkout lady/man who want a full blown conversation.
again, IM NOT RUDE AND JUST BLANK PEOPLE ! I smile, say hi back whatever. I just prefer to be left alone.
sorry this seems such an issue for you, Im perfectly happy and very social with my friends and family, it dont mean I have to be friendly with every single stranger I see in the shop
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"it dont mean I have to be friendly with every single stranger I see in the shop" And, thus, the world goes to hell in a hand basket. There may, or may not, be global warming but, as a society, we sure are getting colder.13
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There's a simple solution if it bothers you.....buy your own treadmill. No matter what gym you belong to you will find yourself in close proximity to other people, some of them creepy some of them not. I have a favourite bike at my tri club and, if it's available will use it no matter the number of people showing up for that class (may be slightly different in that we tend to get to know each other over time)1
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"it dont mean I have to be friendly with every single stranger I see in the shop" And, thus, the world goes to hell in a hand basket. There may, or may not, be global warming but, as a society, we sure are getting colder.
Damn dude, she said she has suffered from depression and social anxiety for years. That's a medical condition that is extremely difficult to live with and makes what seem like simple, everyday tasks monumental. You don't have to understand what it feels like but you do need to learn some empathy. It can't just be turned off.27 -
MoveitlikeManda wrote: »I hate shopping because there are people there, worst being the checkout lady/man who want a full blown conversation.
again, IM NOT RUDE AND JUST BLANK PEOPLE ! I smile, say hi back whatever. I just prefer to be left alone.
sorry this seems such an issue for you, Im perfectly happy and very social with my friends and family, it dont mean I have to be friendly with every single stranger I see in the shop
I hear ya. You don't have to have a full blown conversation with everyone you meet, and that's perfectly okay. A smile and nod is fine. Being and introvert is fine. Don't let anyone tell you different.7 -
thanks to the people who gave me hug, and sent out a couple of woo's.
depression and anxiety can not be solved by being friendly to stragers, infact it makes it a whole lot worse.
its nice to know someone understand a little xx18 -
MoveitlikeManda wrote: »thanks to the people who gave me hug, and sent out a couple of woo's.
depression and anxiety can not be solved by being friendly to stragers, infact it makes it a whole lot worse.
its nice to know someone understand a little xx
I totally get this.... don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You can't just turn it off like a switch.7 -
"it dont mean I have to be friendly with every single stranger I see in the shop" And, thus, the world goes to hell in a hand basket. There may, or may not, be global warming but, as a society, we sure are getting colder.
Damn dude, she said she has suffered from depression and social anxiety for years. That's a medical condition that is extremely difficult to live with and makes what seem like simple, everyday tasks seem monumental. You don't have to understand what it feels like but you do need to learn some empathy. It can't just be turned off.
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"it dont mean I have to be friendly with every single stranger I see in the shop" And, thus, the world goes to hell in a hand basket. There may, or may not, be global warming but, as a society, we sure are getting colder.
Damn dude, she said she has suffered from depression and social anxiety for years. That's a medical condition that is extremely difficult to live with and makes what seem like simple, everyday tasks monumental. You don't have to understand what it feels like but you do need to learn some empathy. It can't just be turned off.PressingPatience wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »I hate shopping because there are people there, worst being the checkout lady/man who want a full blown conversation.
again, IM NOT RUDE AND JUST BLANK PEOPLE ! I smile, say hi back whatever. I just prefer to be left alone.
sorry this seems such an issue for you, Im perfectly happy and very social with my friends and family, it dont mean I have to be friendly with every single stranger I see in the shop
I hear ya. You don't have to have a full blown conversation with everyone you meet, and that's perfectly okay. A smile and nod is fine. Being and introvert is fine. Don't let anyone tell you different.Chef_Barbell wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »thanks to the people who gave me hug, and sent out a couple of woo's.
depression and anxiety can not be solved by being friendly to stragers, infact it makes it a whole lot worse.
its nice to know someone understand a little xx
I totally get this.... don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You can't just turn it off like a switch."it dont mean I have to be friendly with every single stranger I see in the shop" And, thus, the world goes to hell in a hand basket. There may, or may not, be global warming but, as a society, we sure are getting colder.
Damn dude, she said she has suffered from depression and social anxiety for years. That's a medical condition that is extremely difficult to live with and makes what seem like simple, everyday tasks seem monumental. You don't have to understand what it feels like but you do need to learn some empathy. It can't just be turned off.
YES!
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"it dont mean I have to be friendly with every single stranger I see in the shop" And, thus, the world goes to hell in a hand basket. There may, or may not, be global warming but, as a society, we sure are getting colder.
You seem to be wanting to pick an argument or maybe you just feel better when you're criticizing someone else. Most people don't want to have random conversations with 'every single stranger' they see.12 -
tbh pushing myself to go to the gym everytime was a massive battle enough without having to deal with people who might want to talk to me as well10
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I'm an introvert, although not as much as you it seems. It doesn't bother me. Also doesn't bother me if people talk to me at the gym - I'd say the majority of people, at my gym at least, have enough etiquette to not be having 5 minute long conversations. Though I am bad at conversing with people I don't know well, so probably not getting more than a few words from me. I go to a local community style gym, so people saying "hi" or "good morning" to each other is a bit common.2
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