WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR NOVEMBER 2018
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Thank you, Katla and Barbara... Katla, hope it's not a cold! My only recommendation is a big dose of Nyquil and a long sleep the first night. It seems to reset my system and allow it to throw off the symptoms.
Allie, your family memories are truly precious to you. Write them down, girl. Of course, that's advice from a writer... so take that with a grain of salt.
The yeast made it! I invested in six packages of Bob's Red Mill Yeast almost four YEARS ago, no joke, as I read some great reviews, and I was baking a lot at the time, when we lived out on the ranch. It survived six months in an un-airconditioned trailer in NC, and moving from one freezer to the next in the last four years... Amazing stuff. So pleased.5 -
Good morning all Cold here today but it's winter. I choose to live here in the great white northern Ontario.
The foot is feeling better getting more steps in. Walking needlessly again getting in around 1000 steps not much but better than the two hundred I was getting just to go to bathroom and back to either here or my living room chair or bed. It's getting better.
Thanks Barbie and Michele for stopping by page.
Mary where are you in Ontario.
I'm in a little town called Cochrane way up north.
See you all lighter
Linda in the great white Northern Ontario.4 -
Michele: Lisa's advice to you was spot on! Please read it several times because I really think that some of us (me right there with you) have expectations that our children just can't fulfill for us. And, it made me sad to read what you wrote because I remember that at every holiday my mom would be crying. It didn't matter that all five of us children would be there. Holidays just made her sad.
Alison: I enjoyed reading about your memories of Thanksgiving. What fun you and your family must have had.
Karen: Congrats to your granddaughter.
Machka: Nice photography!
Barbie: Enjoy you TD meal with friends.
Hope this is not too much information: I feel a bit sad about TD because my son and his wife are constantly going at it! We are all sharing TD at her mom's house and I feel a bit uncomfortable about the whole situation. DnL never says anything about their problems but we know they are there. She is 10 yrs younger than my son. They were together since she was 17 and I have always wondered if there would come a time when she felt like she had missed out on a lot of good times during that time in her life. She is very, very smart and is working on her 6 yr degree in education. My son on the other hand has always hated school due to his ADD/HD/LD . He has a good job but I wonder if she feels she could have done better. Anyway, I am praying without ceasing and hope the Good Lord will help them work through all this.
I hate Day Light Savings Time. My body just can't seem to adjust as I am getting up at 5 AM or earlier instead of some time between 6 & 7. Ugh!
Carol in GA5 -
Barbara, the directions on the turkey and on the internet say to defrost turkey in the refrigerator for 24 hours for each 5 pounds. My turkey is 15 pounds so that means three 24 hour periods. I'll take mine out when I get home from walking the dogs about 8:30 this morning. That will be more than enough time to make sure that it's ready to deal with early Thursday morning or late Wednesday.
Michele, I'm sorry that you are sad about your children. Stay in the moment and don't get sad today about what might happen in the future. Reach out to them as much as you can and be grateful that they are alive and safe and doing things that bring them joy.
Barbie5 -
Lisa it will take me a little over three hours to get to your house, will the bread be out of the oven then? . Unfortunately we are getting freezing drizzle this morning and its moving east, I have no desire to navigate icy roads. Maybe next time. 🍞
Being the youngest of six we had BIG family holidays and I loved every minute of the noise and chaos. As we all got married and had children it became a truly large gathering, I wouldn't change a moment of it for anything! I won't have a large group this year for Thanksgiving, I normally have at least 12 or so, this Thanksgiving it will just be our next door neighbors but we enjoy the company.
I had planned to take my granddaughter and her new husband shopping for Christmas ornaments and decorations for their first Christmas together, but due to icy roads and them living about an hour away, we had to postpone for now.
Have a terrific day, my friends
Janetr OKC6 -
Grandmallie: what about a stacked unit. My laundry space could only accommodate that since I wanted cabinets in it for craft and cleaning supplies and a linen closet for the half bath. Love it! Especially that warm, fresh from the dryer feeling and smell!2
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Carol, of course it's not too much information. I think we all expose our worries about our kids here, as well as ourselves. I hope your fears about your DDiL's feelings about your son don't come true, dear.janetr7476 wrote: »Lisa it will take me a little over three hours to get to your house, will the bread be out of the oven then? . Unfortunately we are getting freezing drizzle this morning and its moving east, I have no desire to navigate icy roads. Maybe next time. 🍞
Janetr OKC
Janet, you're more than welcome! The bread still has an hour and a half on the second rise before it goes in the oven. We're supposed to get just the edges of the weather you're sending our way, but it will blow back up again into rain once it gets past us... Not s'posed to freeze on our side of the mountain, but high will be only 45 degrees. A good day for baking bread... and possibly roasting a turkey! Corey will only have one day off for Thanksgiving, and I found turkey for 59 cents a pound, so bought two. Shoved one in the freezer for later in the year, and will roast one today. Unless I decide to wait until tomorrow, and we'll just do hamburgers today on the fresh bread. It's so nice having time off to indulge my domestic urges...
At Corey's request, I tend to do a half-recipe of my mother's bread, which makes 15 hamburger/sandwich rolls. He loves them for his weekday lunches, as they're a bit larger than the storebought ones, and stick to his ribs.
Okay, the boys are up and around, and getting ready to get a door hung on our bedroom and the half bath, and I should help out.
Love y'all!
Lisa in AR, getting my domestic goddess thing on...4 -
awww thank's Lisa and Carol... i took a shower and feel more myself ... and have pandora on my T.V. listening to Bing Crosby radio, all sorts of great old songs.. I swear I was born a generation off lol
having a cup of tea... and Alfie snoozing away on the bed..working full time the next 3 days.. I leave Pandora on for Alfie during the day...when I am at work.. think he enjoys it...
have to be upstairs in about 1/2 hr to start the with the 50/ 50 raffle2 -
It's kind of strange, jumping into a board and reading y'all talking about family get-togethers with Thanksgiving and all. I'm not sad about it... I'm simply musing...
See, my husband and I are introverts, and neither of us are big holiday people. Thanksgiving will come and go and the only reason we'll know is because he'll have a day off of work. Same for Christmas and New Year's. We'll probably put up a tree or something for Yule, but that's about it. By the way, we're both Agnostic. I have four grown kids, and four siblings, and they live their own lives a few cities and some states over, and some live on the East Coast, but none of us are rich enough to travel. I'll probably hear about their Thanksgiving shenanigans on Facespace. My parents and I are... not close in any way, shape, or form. But that's a different story.
I guess if we lived closer to Doug's family, we'd get pulled into Thanksgiving dinners, and other holiday celebrations. But right now Doug and I live so far from everyone, it's just not a thing. Anyway, I hope y'all -- those who celebrate Thanksgiving -- have a good holiday with you and yours. We will be here at home playing video games all day, and enjoying the time with the furbabies, because that's what we do.
One good thing about not celebrating the holidays, I don't have to worry about the tempting food from feasts.
Edited to add: Willow from WA USA (I keep forgetting)4 -
lcharpentier2 wrote: »Good morning all Cold here today but it's winter. I choose to live here in the great white northern Ontario.
The foot is feeling better getting more steps in. Walking needlessly again getting in around 1000 steps not much but better than the two hundred I was getting just to go to bathroom and back to either here or my living room chair or bed. It's getting better.
Thanks Barbie and Michele for stopping by page.
Mary where are you in Ontario.
I'm in a little town called Cochrane way up north.
See you all lighter
Linda in the great white Northern Ontario.
Hi Linda....nice to hear from another Ontarian...I live in Stoney Creek...it's attached to Hamilton. yes we had our first taste of winter last Thursday but I don't mind I love winter. We were once in Cochrane on a camping trip in the 80's...love the north so much space and gives you an idea how huge Canada is and that's just our province! Glad your on the mend as I am finally getting over the flu myself and am looking forward to exercising in our pool at the Rec. centre. Take care Mary from Ontario
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Michelle You are a strong woman with a giant heart I don't have the same circumstances that you have but I do know that we raise our kids to be launched into this world, they make their own mistakes and have their own victories apart from us. No matter how brief your time together is, spend it in the moment, not measuring it against anyone elses time. I say this sincerely, not as a judgment cause I really can feel how painful this is to you. When I'm deep in a cycle of anxiety I will talk myself out of it, fake it till you make it, is often my mantra. If you feel some tears coming on, pretend you are having the time of your life and look for what is going on that is funny or delightful or happy--focus on finding that happy while they are right in front of you. You will enjoy yourself more and they will too! I think your DH is right, don't go borrowing trouble before there is any (about the timing of the construction) What NYKaren said, from me too. {{{HUGS}}}}
I'm walking into this interview on Tuesday believing it's the right thing for me to do. My expectation is that I will be my relaxed, professional and quietly charming self. I know I will be able to show to them that I'm coming off a very successful year for my previous council, and would be pleased to use my abilities for the benefit of girls in my new home state. That is both my perception and backed up with hard data. You are going to rock this, Lisa!
Allie, it does my heart good "hearing" you talk about your parents house and the good memories, and about the things you are doing (and have done!) to get yourself past the HUGE upheaval that your life has taken in the last year or so. You got this! Was also happy to hear that your employer thinks you do a great job, I'm sure that's a huge weight off your shoulders!
Have to post in stages today, one page at a time! lol Had a good night last night, actually got my teeth brushed not too long after dinner, well before the post dinner munchies hit and was rewarded on the scale this morning. I know a lot of it was water weight, probably because I didn't have my salted nut fix late last night, but I can live with that! At least the scale is going the right way for a change, despite dinner being somewhat salty. I did drink a lot of water in the evening and was rewarded by more sleepy trips to the bathroom than normal, but oh well. I even got to bed at a more reasonable hour than I have been, hopefully this is the start of some new habits!
Hugs to those needing them, congrats to those celebrating and welcome to the newbies!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island where it's nice and sunny, but chilly!3 -
Lisa - I am SO excited for you! Crossing my fingers the interview goes well if you want it to, lol. You will be vicariously living the dream I had working from home, doing something I really enjoyed and was good at. I kind of satisfied it by working part-time. Very happy the opportunity might present itself for you real soon!
Barbara AHMOD - weatherman is saying 1" of rain here on Thanksgiving.... not sure if it will hit the whole west coast and the fickle weatherman might change his mind.
Heather - what joy to be able to walk to shops and buy fresh seafood and goodies. You'll have your place all fixed up in no time - Home Sweet Home!
Allie - loved the story of the guys jamming in your basement and now getting to see them performing years later. You'd make a great hospice worker.
Michele - lots of good observations about the situation with your kids. I was the one who moved far from home and wasn't real communicative for years and years, while my brother and sister lived close (sis next door, brother hour away) and continued to deal with my dad's abusive nature and my mom's inability to deal with him. Looking back, I don' think they were unique in struggling to raise their kids and even if they'd been perfect, I was the mixed up middle kid. Once I hit my 50's I "woke up" and re-established a very good relationship with my folks and miss them terribly. We ended up much better friends than relatives if that makes any sense.
I'm just about through season 2 of "This is Us" and talk about timely..... there are a lot of flashbacks to the kids' relationships with their parents. I'm intrigued by Kate's relationship with food back then, her mom's concern, her struggles with eating disorders. I could identify with all of it. My dad didn't drink but my SIL who has gone through treatment characterized him as a "dry drunk".
Decluttering is going well and I know why I struggled with it all of these years.... I'd attempt it after downing a few beers which I did for years. I was a weekend drinker. Beer. I'm happy to say it's been around 2 years since I quit. I told myself now that I was retired and no longer just drinking on weekends but every day, I didn't want to spend the next couple decades in a haze. And fighting that fat around my middle.
This morning I re-read an article about fasting mimicking - cutting calories down a few days a month. A lot of what is out there is aimed at young people, not folks over 60 with health conditions. But I know it's worked before for me so eating normally (staying away from sugary binges) then cutting back to 800 or 1000 calories for a day then back to normal is something I can do even once or twice a week. Michael Mosley (The FAST Diet and 8 Week Blood Sugar Diet) even recommends cutting back every other day if a person is overweight and pre-diabetic or has adult onset. I don't have much to lose, just the 5# I've put back on during the last couple months with Halloween candy and my frustration with that aching shoulder limiting some of what I could do.
Exercises and ice and Celebrex are helping the shoulder. I want it to take a few days instead of a few weeks or months.
Thanksgiving - I'm going to friend's house and DH is staying home. He's a borderline agoraphobic (will leave the property for doctor visits but other than that doesn't want to talk to people or deal with traffic, crowds, etc.) So we'll both have a good day. and I'll bring him home a plate.
Before I close - sorry I'm long-winded, yesterday I decided to make some roasted veggies. Cut up a sweet potato, halved some Brussels sprouts, chunked up a zucchini and a red pepper. Put about 1 tsp of ghee in the palm of my hand, let it melt, then "massaged" it into those veggies. Decided to try this instead of olive oil. Dumped it all onto a foil covered cookie sheet, sprinkled with salt, pepper, dry basil and garlic salt. It worked great! 435 degrees for 20 minutes and everything was done perfectly- I stirred it all around halfway through. Here it is:
That's it for now. Have a great Sunday!
Lanette
Sunny & Cool SW WA State9 -
Well tomorrow the 19th, is my youngest Navy sons birthday! He will be 20. I will write a general note on my Facebook page and link it to him. Unfortunately he has his settings set so nothing shows until he oks it. But he hasn't been on for awhile so he most likely won't see it for a bit. I sent him a box, but I haven't a clue when he is going to get that. Well I doing my bit. Trying to jam as much love into boxes and envelopes as possible.👍
I am getting a sinus cold, dang it. Sinus pressure is a bummer, but I'm taking meficine, so life goes on.
Bought two small turkey breasts because the commissary only had the large turkeys the size of toddlers! Lord knows where I would store a turkey that size until Thanksgiving! This rental came with a split door refrigerator/freezer. So neither ho!d's as much as a regular frig/freezer top and bottom. Especially if its a large turkey.
Its going to be strange cooking, because for the last 4 years we have gone to the community center in Warrenton on the coast and eat at the free dinner put on there. It was nice because helping out at the senior luncheon that was held in the same building, I got to know a lot of people. So it was like sitting with relatives.💗
My son works the day check duty section now at his squadron, so I'm cooking more food portions these days! I told my husband I need a jar and after meals son can put money in, if he liked it or not. Unfortunately, son lives in a debit card world, so its rare when he has actual money. Maybe broach the subject of reducing what we give him for rent by 20-50$.
Well I see all the gratitude calendar listings, but I don't have the energy to complete them. I'm sorry. Its nice to read though, and it is fun to see what y'all post💖!
💗Rebecca
Whidbey island
Washington3 -
Regarding family - we moved to Hove to be near the grandchildren, but we were very clear that we also had to do it for ourselves. We knew it would suit us. I see my elder son maybe once or twice a year, but I watch him on Utube every week, which amuses him no end.
I've never thought of myself as a family person, and I am an introvert, but I do hold my near family very dear. I'm not at all good at festivals and find people a strain for long. I like small doses of congenial company, which is one reason why we moved here, so we could just "pop over".
This afternoon we met the grandchildren and my younger son in our local playpark and then they came back for tea and a play.
It went very well, though Edie was very hyper. Nice to say Bye Bye at 5.45.
I love my friends and family, but I don't really "miss" people. I think I internalise them so they are always with me. The only ones I ever missed were the grandchildren.
Today I got the display shelves sorted in the dining room. I think it looks nice now. Still got to arrange the "Cave" (living room)
Lots of micro decisions to make. I like order and I'm a bit OCD.
Tomorrow the "blind man" is coming. We need a Roman blind for the big window in our bedroom and two mini roller blinds for the stained glass windows. All money, money, money. We haven't decided yet if we are cancelling the cruise to Spain in the spring.
We feel very blessed in general in our new life here. Hove/Brighton is wonderful and we are comfortable in our new house, even if it's not perfect. It functions well. Today DH managed to do a light cut of the grass. It looks much better.
Carol - I completely understand how uncomfortable other people's sniping can make you, especially if it is your child. I had to stop seeing old friends because I couldn't stand how the wife kept belittling her husband. Ugh!
Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxx6 -
Hi Gals,
Michele – I know a tiny little bit about a septic system (we are on city sewer where I live) and I have never heard of it filling from rain, I thought the pipes from the home went into the top of the tank, and the water exited via a leach field, so is the rain coming in via the leach field?
- as for exercise in May – my recommendation it to not worry about it till March --- who knows maybe there will be a gym up there or the YMCA you could do a guest membership at.
- Something struck me about the bit of your post about your kids, and that what you were hoping for was to change their behavior; that’s pretty much impossible. But you can change your behavior, your reactions, your language, your expectations --- I learned a ton about this in counseling my situation was super different, it that I needed to protect myself from abuse. But I wonder if some good professional help might be able to give you some insight. Just a thought! Not any form of judgement.
Lisa – Great plan on the interview. And while you could live on just Cory’s income till may 2020 – I can not imagine that you would not do something to add to the cash flow, another book? A column in the local paper….
Carol – Hang in there, Thanksgiving day will be tough for me too – I’ll send thoughts of great peace for your time together, and would appreciate yours coming this way.
Janetr – If I was you I’d hop in that car and head directly to Lisa’s !!!
My mom has a granny smith apple tree and I got a few bags of apples from her, I made applesauce – I make this chunky applesauce, with the peels left on, just cinnamon and nutmeg, and canned it up – so I have 8 pints tucked away, I’m drying some too, a great snack for my gardening days.
The air quality in the San Francisco bay area has been heavily impacted by the Camp – Paradise fire; airflow is interesting as we were not affected as badly by the fires last year; some of which were actually closer to us. But for over a week now our air quality has been between 160-240 on the Air Quality Index – under 100 is ok (not good but ok) Over 200 is severely unhealthy. We do not have any of the problems that those living in Paradise or the surrounding communities have. But we have the ripple effect, so for a week I have not been able to work at my gardening jobs, this is having a serious affect on my income as it is about a 50% cut in my income for this week. We should have rain on Wed (day before thanksgiving) which will help clean the air. I’m hoping I can make up the lost wages in the last few days of the month. One good thing is that everyone at the Kids camp I work at will be gone, so I am taking care of the chickens every day for a week. It’s about 30 minutes each way to camp so I’ve been setting up other reasons to be out that way.
November Gratitude’s
1. Smell = clean dog
2. Technology = smart phone
3. Color = sunrise
4. Food = herbal tea
5. Sound = silence, but heard the coyotes talking, and loved hearing them
6. Nature = the waves
7. Memories = I think one of my favorite memories, is a conglomerate of memories – in the summer when I was a kid – Dad and I would go out to the grass to “pull weeds” we would pull a few, but really we would look at the clouds and point out the things we saw, or make up stories about were the airplanes were going overhead, who was in them… We were not in a flight path but way way high you would see a plane occasionally. And sometimes a small plane those were even more fun to make up stories about.
8. Book – oh so many I love – but the harry potter series as my god-son and I got them together and read them and talked about them almost every night
9. Place – I think the Grand Canyon – I did a 10 day rafting trip down the river for my 50th birthday and it was a life changing event and helped me grow and believe in myself enough to face coming home and being laid off 10 days later.
10. Taste – sweet or salty – for me it is always sweet! But favorite taste is my mom’s marinara sauce with meatballs, it cooks all day, and I could smell it from the corner of our street and knew one of my favorite dinners was that night
11. Holiday – tough one, I have a love of Christmas but it is also the day I was beaten by my domestic abuser so it has mixed memories…
12. Texture – I love cashmere
13. Abilities – I’m very thankful for my abilities – I think the one that comes to mind right now is planning, I can look ahead and figure out how to plan out things that need to be done to make the most of the time and money available.
14. Sight- my god daughter smiling at me…
15. Season- I love them all – it’s winter so it is my favorite right now.
16. Body – I have great thick hair with very little “grey” and actually the “grey” is mostly white, my paternal grandma had beautiful white hair… here’s hoping
17. Knowledge - I think the knowledge that I am in charge of setting boundaries to keep me physically and mentally safe, and how to do it…. I don’t always remember to do it, but I do know how.
18. Art – I have always loved Monet, I read somewhere that he was very nearsighted and his soft focus style was because he painted what he saw – and if that is true it makes complete sense to me as without my glasses my world is the world of Monet. My favorite of his is Water Lilies – probably because when I was in England it was at the National Gallery in London. I spent a lot of time there and always started and ended my visit with 5-10 minutes in front of that picture. I would sit in a slightly different place and just look at it – I never tired of it and it always had just a bit of a different look.
Smiles
Kim from N. California
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Kathy from KY ...Your situation with your daughter is heartbreaking. My brother (he and I were both adopted as well, btw, and neither of us has had a desire to find our birth families), adopted a daughter from Russia 19 years ago. My niece is constantly seeking/threatening to find her birth mother in Russia. It causes so much heartache when she tells my brother and sister-in-law that they are not her "real parents." Young people can be so stupid. Perhaps this time with her blood relatives will open her eyes to how blessed she has been. Hugs.
Lisa ... your advice to Michele and your attitude heading into your interview are spot on!
Beth near Buffalo2 -
Kim: We’ve had air quality issues from California fires, too, and we are a long way from them. The past couple of days have seemed better. I hope that continues to be true. I hope your air quality also gets better. :flowerforyou:
We have invited our niece and her gentleman friend to come to our house for Thanksgiving. I am looking forward to the visit. I’ve only met him twice, and both occasions were so full of people that we didn’t really get a chance to get acquainted. I was lost on my way to my grand neice’s bridal shower the first time we met, and he led me to the right spot. The second meeting was recently at our grandniece’s baby shower.
DH is feeling miserable, and I can’t do anything right. He has difficult health issues. The grumpier he gets, the less I am able to deal with his criticism. I’m getting a bit sad. I need to figure out how to improve my own feelings. Advice welcome. I don't think eating sweets helps.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
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Well the Thanksgiving dinner was lovely..sold 164.00 dollars worth of 50/50 tickets ...
Willow - my son is an introvert and doesn't venture out much unless it is someone he knows .close friends etc..even though he is in retail working at a supermarket..he is good with all the customers that come in...2 -
#18 Art: I am grateful that my DH was able to sell a Pro Hart painting to a couple in Australia and it paid for our son's and DnL's honeymoon to a Mexico resort. I also treasure some beautiful paint by number framed paintings that my MnL did of some of the old building in New Orleans which is where she and my FnL met around WWII.
Carol in GA3
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