The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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CarvedTones wrote: »Last night at the company dinner there was a four course meal - soup, salad, entree/sides and dessert. There were 4 wine glasses in front of every setting as there was a different featured wine for each course. The first one was already poured when we were seated. I asked the server to take the wine away and he pretty clearly understood what I was asking and took the other three glasses also. The guy sitting next to me did not understand and gave me the play by play of what he thought of each wine. It didn't really bother me. It is almost scary how I am becoming conditioned to not drinking, like I am getting lulled into letting my guard down. I am determined not to let that happen.
Today is day 543 - I love interesting numbers like that...
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I won't see you for a while as we are going to London for Christmas to visit our daughter and I will not bring my computer. I feel that even though my husband will probably drink there, I will be able to be strong and stay sober as our daughter does not drink at all. That is my goal anyway. I'm wishing you all a very Merry Christmas and hoping you enjoy your time with friends and loved ones. And for those that are struggling with difficulties and find this time of year challenging, I wish you peace and love. Jen8
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@CarvedTones I think your being "conditioned" to not drink is awesome. I admire your determination and I'll be needing some over the next couple of weeks. I was given a very nice bottle of Baco Noir today from a client and am going to serve it at a dinner I am hosting in 2 weeks.
I had debated about buying a bottle for this dinner & now the debate is over...I was thinking today how relatively easy it was for me to pour several bottles of liquor, a few not even cracked, down my drain way back when I first stopped. I CANNOT bring myself to do the same with this wine...WHAT is with THAT???? It's because wine was my thing. I just thought it was kinda interesting. I have poured my share of wine down my drain in the past, but only after too much the night before & swearing off drinking only to cave within days promising myself that I would moderate....NOT!! Anyway, IF the wine that is now in my cabinet begins to call my name, I will give it to someone for safekeeping until my dinner. I left it wrapped in the cellophane & will not unwrap it until my guests are here...just cause!!! LOL I will pour myself a mocktail in a fancy glass ...
BYE Jen...safe travels!! Looking forward to hearing how you were successfully sober Great that you will have your daughter for encouragement.
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@JenT304 Have a wonderful trip! Make lots of memories. Enjoy every second!!1
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I never wake up thinking “I wish I drank a few glass of wine last night.”
But I do wake up thinking “I am soooooo glad I didn’t drink last night.”
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Happy Friday all! Jen,safe travels and enjoy your vist Lorraine,toss it or regift having it around might just be inviting trouble,I'm having bad anxiety right now cuz christmas is right around the corner,today is my day off and that sometimes gets me in trouble when I can't get out of my head! Grrrrr,send me good vibes peeps,wishes for a fabulous AF Friday!3
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Happy Friday all! Jen,safe travels and enjoy your vist Lorraine,toss it or regift having it around might just be inviting trouble,I'm having bad anxiety right now cuz christmas is right around the corner,today is my day off and that sometimes gets me in trouble when I can't get out of my head! Grrrrr,send me good vibes peeps,wishes for a fabulous AF Friday!
sending you good vibes! Keep busy- go to a movie, go shopping, read in a coffee shop... we are here for you. Xo3 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »I never wake up thinking “I wish I drank a few glass of wine last night.”
But I do wake up thinking “I am soooooo glad I didn’t drink last night.”
SO TRUE. I was just thinking the same thing. I never say, "Gee I wish I drank last night." Never.6 -
I gave up drinking wine about a week ago! Time to make a health change!8
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I stopped swimming in October and at Thanksgiving my sister turned me on to Tabata. I've been doing a 15-minute popsugar routine, plus 12 minutes of tabata (a 4-minute circuit, 3 times) about 4-5 times a week, and running when time allows (only 2 miles, and only about twice a week). My back feels just as strong as when I was swimming, plus I've lost about 5 lbs (but hello arm muscles!). Long story, short: I think I might be in the best shape of my adult life!!! I've had to give up gluten due to an autoimmune thing, add that to having had only 4 drinking nights in about 6 months, I just gotta say ... I wake up these days and my body feels good right away (I used to ache and ouch for about 30 minutes after waking up) ... my head feels clear and my mood is stable. High five and big love to all of us in our 40s that are rocking this life!8
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For future reference, If anyone is cooking a sweet with alcohol, I have found orange juice works good as a substitute.2
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Guess what I got from another client today....?? Drum roll please.....YES, a nice bottle of red wine!!! Oh brother...I'm adding it to my collection & yes I will re-gift one of them & my planned dinner for the other. I'm not trying to be overconfident, but I am not bugged with wine in my house...at least not so far...should I be, it will definitely be going somewhere else...I feel too good & have come too far to go backwards. I am determined!!!!
I think of all those who have spouses or others living with them who drink & have access to alcohol & are convicted to stay AF...If I really wanted to drink, I have an LCBO less than a block from my place....so for me, at least at this point in time, it isn't having the wine here, it's not having the desire to drink it & knowing it would just take me down the slippery slope to nowhere again!! NO Thanks.5 -
Yeah true Lorraine,my hubs likes his few beers a night so there's usually alcohol around here but it doesn't faze me at all,I can be around drinkers and not care either,my drinking only tends to happen when I get myself into a sad,mad or restless mood and I go off to buy it myself2
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Fitness327wk wrote: »I gave up drinking wine about a week ago! Time to make a health change!
Welcome to our forum! Today I'm off to Merry Old England. Wish me luck, I don't love flying. Have a Happy Christmas, Everyone!6 -
Five sober nights in a row! I truly enjoyed looking in the mirror this morning and not seeing Frank Gallagher staring back at me. The crazy dreams I have been having are worth the price of admission. Good luck to all today!11
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Yeah true Lorraine,my hubs likes his few beers a night so there's usually alcohol around here but it doesn't faze me at all,I can be around drinkers and not care either,my drinking only tends to happen when I get myself into a sad,mad or restless mood and I go off to buy it myself
Ditto...it is the emotional stuff that can unhinge me also, BUT I've been working on that & have been through a few things sober & fought the urge to drink & that will be my struggle going forward!! It's interesting to me though that I put the wine in my china cabinet cause I do not go in there regularly...I KNOW it is there, but don't want to be staring at it regularly. Too funny! Thank you for your encouragement!
@JenT304 Yuk to flying! Drugs help. A little sedative chills me out. Thankfully, I don't fly regularly or I might have another issue on my hands. Anyway, Bon Voyage & have a safe & happy time with your Fam!
@Fitness327wk You will certainly feel the difference in your health. Even when I don't have the best night's sleep, it is certainly WAY better than when I drank...I didn't usually drink enough to get a "hangover" that wasted an entire day/two recovering, but I pretty much felt like crap every day...I got used to drinking half - full bottle of wine daily & feeling sluggish & depressed most of the time denying that the source was the nightly or afternoonly vino!! Most of the time I planned my drinking for later afternoon so that it wouldn't affect my sleep AS much...oh the games we play to keep drinking. I have freed up a lot of time & energy just from not having to continually think about my drinking, either how to attempt to control it, how disappointing that I couldn't control it & on & on!! SO thankful to be AF!!
Hoping everyone has a great time with Fam over the holidays and I feel for those who are not with Fam! My goes out to those who don't because this can be the hardest time of year for those who are solo...4 -
Today would have been 5 months alcohol free except for the binge last Saturday and a little wine in Florida. Overall, I am better for it. SLowly but surely I’m navigating life with a clear mind. And like many of you said, for vanity’s sake , it is a game changer. My skin is clear, my stomach flatter, lost weight, feel less anxious, handle stress better, been painting and crafting, have way more energy, stay calm in times of stress, ...
Now if I could only sleep longer... still get up after about 5 or 6 hours. But that will come around I’m sure. Xo7 -
Was at a friends for coffee this morn. Of course there was Baileys & I had cream...she told us a humorous story of a time when her & her paraplegic bro were at a resort in Mexico...she was wheeling him down a rough stone path to the beach & it was quite bumpy so she was relieved to see a huge beautiful deck at the end of the path looking out over the ocean...she wheeled him onto the deck & there was this statue holding a tray of various types of tequila...she says to her Bro, "What kinda resort IS THIS??? They even have tequila strategically placed on the beach!!" As they finished off their 3rd shot they see a wedding party heading down the beach toward them & they clue in that the tray of tequila belongs to the wedding party LOL She said there was no way they could make a quick escape due to the stony path they arrived on. So they waited for the party to get to them & made their apologies & were told, "No problem!!"
As we were leaving her place today there was a case of gin on the floor & my other friend commented on it & our Tequila drinking friend said she special ordered it from Vancouver for a friend in the States who had requested it...her in-laws are coming to Canada for a couple of weeks & were taking it back to deliver it...anyway, the conversation led to talk about some place nearby where you can make your own gin & the fine art of that etc. As they're talking, I'm looking into the dining room & there is a long centerpiece on the dining room table with a bottle of wine in it & a variety of wine glasses. I am taking all of this in and as the day progresses find myself "wishing" I could drink. Of course, I do the pep talk & rather than focus on what I miss about drinking, remind myself of the benefits of not drinking & the disastrous consequences of sliding down the slippery slope. One sip would be all it would take. I KNOW that for a fact. I also know this is a very LONG spiel, but I need to vent this...so, please be patient if you're reading
This is the first time in a very long time that I have even thought about what I miss about drinking. I think it has been a progressive seed planted in my brain in the past few days...receiving a couple bottles of wine & strategizing what to do with them. Of course, there is this season which lends itself to alcohol with extra emphasis on ride programs on the roads to discourage drunk driving, and the attention & discussion around drinking around the holiday etc....and then today was a full-on, in-my-face reminder that I do not drink & most of my friends do. I have carefully kept myself sheltered from temptation. AND I've needed to carefully keep myself from temptation!!!
Anyway, I'm going to watch a couple of Craig Beck/Annie Grace videos to reinforce my conviction...just cause! The thing is, this too shall pass and when the season is over I will be SO glad that I do not drink!
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I had a vivid drinking dream last night for the first time in several months. In the dream I knew I was breaking sobriety and when I woke up I was freaked out for a minute thinking I had been drinking the night before. In 3 days, on Christmas, I will be 18 months AF. Then the next day I turn 60 meeting my goal - fit, trim (BMI ~24) and AF for over a year. That doesn't mean I get to be done with any of that of course.11
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I've been sober for 32 years, working the AA program. It has worked well for me. I put this out here not as a point for/of debate, just as a possible solution. Peace.
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