Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen.
The biggest lie they tell fat people. Being thin makes you hot and popular. Being thin fixes your whole life.
reality - You're still you just thinner. But now that you don't have fat to obsess over you have to learn how to fix your own life.
Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen.
The biggest lie they tell fat people. Being thin makes you hot and popular. Being thin fixes your whole life.
reality - You're still you just thinner. But now that you don't have fat to obsess over you have to learn how to fix your own life.
Yup! For me it was more like...I thought I couldn’t make friends because I was fat. I realized I actually have to make an effort.
Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen.
The biggest lie they tell fat people. Being thin makes you hot and popular. Being thin fixes your whole life.
reality - You're still you just thinner. But now that you don't have fat to obsess over you have to learn how to fix your own life.
Yup! For me it was more like...I thought I couldn’t make friends because I was fat. I realized I actually have to make an effort.
I wonder this about the vast majority of things people say they are going to do once they lose the weight.
I will go to the beach once I lose the weight! Really, why not just go now? I know quite slim people who hate being seen in their bathing suits, but the thing is, they aren't required at the beach.
I will start a weight lifting program once I lose the weight! Why not start now, rather than lose muscle, then try to build it up again?
I mean, if you are 300 pounds, you will probably think twice about horseback riding, but their are breeds that can handle even that. And I won't be trying aerial silks until my upper body strength to body weight ratio improves, but most things that people are waiting for just might make them happier right now.
Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen.
The biggest lie they tell fat people. Being thin makes you hot and popular. Being thin fixes your whole life.
reality - You're still you just thinner. But now that you don't have fat to obsess over you have to learn how to fix your own life.
Yup! For me it was more like...I thought I couldn’t make friends because I was fat. I realized I actually have to make an effort.
I wonder this about the vast majority of things people say they are going to do once they lose the weight.
I will go to the beach once I lose the weight! Really, why not just go now? I know quite slim people who hate being seen in their bathing suits, but the thing is, they aren't required at the beach.
I will start a weight lifting program once I lose the weight! Why not start now, rather than lose muscle, then try to build it up again?
I mean, if you are 300 pounds, you will probably think twice about horseback riding, but their are breeds that can handle even that. And I won't be trying aerial silks until my upper body strength to body weight ratio improves, but most things that people are waiting for just might make them happier right now.
People don’t realize that your wants and desires will never go away. Once you get that promotion, what then? Once you hit that goal weight, what comes next? Our ego is always thinking “if I can just get xxxx, than I’ll be happy.” But that’s almost never the case.
Something else I never realized was I am much more comfortable saying the word fat. I would never say it when I was 200+. Now, I use it frequently, typically describing myself in the past tense.
That when I lie on my side and all the skin and guts slide down to the mattress that I’d be able to feel what the back of my pelvis feels like, and the juncture of my femur and hip, and ribs... I’ve never felt my bones before!
That my body shape has completely changed! 100 lbs ago, I was more pear shaped (but still had crazy big arms and shoulders). Now, I've lost all the bulk but have slender arms and hips. More of a triangular shape?
Also, I always told myself I was big-boned and large-framed. Turns out, I have a small frame. Who knew?
That my body shape has completely changed! 100 lbs ago, I was more pear shaped (but still had crazy big arms and shoulders). Now, I've lost all the bulk but have slender arms and hips. More of a triangular shape?
Also, I always told myself I was big-boned and large-framed. Turns out, I have a small frame. Who knew?
That my body shape has completely changed! 100 lbs ago, I was more pear shaped (but still had crazy big arms and shoulders). Now, I've lost all the bulk but have slender arms and hips. More of a triangular shape?
Also, I always told myself I was big-boned and large-framed. Turns out, I have a small frame. Who knew?
I know just what you mean. I always thought I just had big hips and butt thanks to southern Italian genes, but it turns out I was just pudgy. Now my hips and butt are actually too small for the pants that hug my thighs. Turns out I was spot-on thinking I had big thighs 😆
I had heard that it is expensive to replace a wardrobe but until I was faced with it I didn't realize HOW expensive it really could be. NOTHING fits (bras/undies, tank tops, pjs, pants, coats/jackets, snow pants, blouses, workout clothes, etc). Thank goodness I can drill new holes in my belts and my socks still fit! I don't have a decent thrift store close to me so I can get very little 2nd hand.
Seconded. Suggestions:
1) Any dresses or skirts you love: may be worth getting them altered.
2) Anything else you have in good condition: try shopping it to a thrift store or on Poshmark.
3) For basics, online fast fashion is your friend. I picked up a several nice basic shirts on Amazon for $10 each.
try thredup online? ... both to sell your too big items and to pick up new stuff.
Something I noticed last night..
I cant sleep on my side because my knee bones hurt when they touch each other
I am also having that issue. If you sleep on your side does your shoulder hurt in the morning too? Or am I just old?
Put a pillow between your knees. It helps.
For the shoulder, it can also help to have a nice fluffy pillow that you cuddle, as it helps keep you from collapsing into your shoulder.
This!! I always have to cuddle a pillow now that I’m 60 lbs down. My boyfriend calls the pillow the 3rd wheel 😂
We each have one. You signal that you are interested by removing the huggable. You signal that you are not interested by hanging on when the other one tries to remove your pillow.
Pillow fights are just one reason I say that we are five year olds with credit cards
This was new, I was walking the dog yesterday and got hit by a gust of wind, it actually pushed me back a half step. It caught me off guard, 60 pounds ago a breeze never pushed me around!
No one told me that I would be EXCITED for the weather to change so that I could wear outfits (in public!!!) that I wouldn’t have even worn around my husband before. ❤️😭 I’m so ready for shorts and tank top weather! I guess 76lbs will do that for you! Lol
Something I noticed last night..
I cant sleep on my side because my knee bones hurt when they touch each other
I am also having that issue. If you sleep on your side does your shoulder hurt in the morning too? Or am I just old?
Put a pillow between your knees. It helps.
For the shoulder, it can also help to have a nice fluffy pillow that you cuddle, as it helps keep you from collapsing into your shoulder.
This!! I always have to cuddle a pillow now that I’m 60 lbs down. My boyfriend calls the pillow the 3rd wheel 😂
We each have one. You signal that you are interested by removing the huggable. You signal that you are not interested by hanging on when the other one tries to remove your pillow.
Pillow fights are just one reason I say that we are five year olds with credit cards
In a weird way, I kind of miss my “padding”. I’m not used to feeling my bones so much. When my boyfriend would put his head on my shoulder 60 lbs ago, it was cozy. Now it kind of hurts my shoulder because it’s so bony. He’s nice and hasn’t said anything but I’m sure he feels it too.
Compliments can be weird. I live in a small town. I had one of the town employees tell me the other day that I'm "looking 100%". I've known him for years and he was genuinely being kind. BUT then he told me, "ya, I told all the guys at the shop, wow you've got to check her out!" Again, he wasn't being creepy or suggesting they "check me out" in a creepy way but knowing people are talking about me and how I look makes me soooo uncomfortable. It's happened quite a few times now that I find out that people are talking about my weight loss. Ugh. Better than talking about how much I've gained I guess!
Compliments can be weird. I live in a small town. I had one of the town employees tell me the other day that I'm "looking 100%". I've known him for years and he was genuinely being kind. BUT then he told me, "ya, I told all the guys at the shop, wow you've got to check her out!" Again, he wasn't being creepy or suggesting they "check me out" in a creepy way but knowing people are talking about me and how I look makes me soooo uncomfortable. It's happened quite a few times now that I find out that people are talking about my weight loss. Ugh. Better than talking about how much I've gained I guess!
Geez, lose a few pounds and it gets all sexualized. Ick. This doesn't happen in the same way to men.
i went in a rollercoaster and it was so uncomfortable that every time the rollercoaster went over the hill my butt would move up from the seat. I used to completely fill out the seat so that was never a worry. A whole new scary dimension to rides in a theme park.
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The biggest lie they tell fat people. Being thin makes you hot and popular. Being thin fixes your whole life.
reality - You're still you just thinner. But now that you don't have fat to obsess over you have to learn how to fix your own life.
Yup! For me it was more like...I thought I couldn’t make friends because I was fat. I realized I actually have to make an effort.
I wonder this about the vast majority of things people say they are going to do once they lose the weight.
I will go to the beach once I lose the weight! Really, why not just go now? I know quite slim people who hate being seen in their bathing suits, but the thing is, they aren't required at the beach.
I will start a weight lifting program once I lose the weight! Why not start now, rather than lose muscle, then try to build it up again?
I mean, if you are 300 pounds, you will probably think twice about horseback riding, but their are breeds that can handle even that. And I won't be trying aerial silks until my upper body strength to body weight ratio improves, but most things that people are waiting for just might make them happier right now.
People don’t realize that your wants and desires will never go away. Once you get that promotion, what then? Once you hit that goal weight, what comes next? Our ego is always thinking “if I can just get xxxx, than I’ll be happy.” But that’s almost never the case.
Also, I always told myself I was big-boned and large-framed. Turns out, I have a small frame. Who knew?
I know just what you mean. I always thought I just had big hips and butt thanks to southern Italian genes, but it turns out I was just pudgy. Now my hips and butt are actually too small for the pants that hug my thighs. Turns out I was spot-on thinking I had big thighs 😆
try thredup online? ... both to sell your too big items and to pick up new stuff.
This!! I always have to cuddle a pillow now that I’m 60 lbs down. My boyfriend calls the pillow the 3rd wheel 😂
We each have one. You signal that you are interested by removing the huggable. You signal that you are not interested by hanging on when the other one tries to remove your pillow.
Pillow fights are just one reason I say that we are five year olds with credit cards
Haha I love this!
Geez, lose a few pounds and it gets all sexualized. Ick. This doesn't happen in the same way to men.