What nobody tells you about losing weight
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Honestly? I had no idea I would feel this guilty for eating. I recently had bariatric surgery, and I am in constant fear of going back to my bad habits. It deters me majorly from eating.36
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It’s been posted before but your rings will fall off. My wedding ring disappeared one day and was recently found, it’s crazy to see how big it is. Did I really have fat fingers? I mean I knew my butt was big but my fingers were fat too.
I thought my feet had gotten bigger with age nope it was the weight spreading them out.
I don’t have small features I had a fat face.
It’s all been said before but it’s new to me!25 -
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Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen. Some people have the genetics (face and body) to be attractive at the appropriate weight, and some don't. Especially for women: no food or exercise choice is going to make your cup size grow.
It's all relative, and you'll feel your best at a weight where you are strong and healthy. Just do it for yourself, and don't expect the world to start revolving around you.45 -
oceangirl99 wrote: »I had heard that it is expensive to replace a wardrobe but until I was faced with it I didn't realize HOW expensive it really could be. NOTHING fits (bras/undies, tank tops, pjs, pants, coats/jackets, snow pants, blouses, workout clothes, etc). Thank goodness I can drill new holes in my belts and my socks still fit! I don't have a decent thrift store close to me so I can get very little 2nd hand.
Seconded. Suggestions:
1) Any dresses or skirts you love: may be worth getting them altered.
2) Anything else you have in good condition: try shopping it to a thrift store or on Poshmark.
3) For basics, online fast fashion is your friend. I picked up a several nice basic shirts on Amazon for $10 each.7 -
ivanggarcia95 wrote: »Losing weight is extremely beneficial to your physical health, but it isn't the answer to mental issues like anxiety, depression, and self image/low self esteem issues.
Some things do change for the better, mentally, like not feeling judged when you go out anywhere. But some of those issues will still persist.
Some people mention how they transformed mentally, going from a social hermit to an outgoing person or just being more confident in general after huge weight loss.
With over 400 days logged in and busting my *kitten* day in and day out by logging my calories and exercising, I'm at a point where I feel that I have to start a new journey. The journey to love myself. I'll still keep my routine of cutting so I can reach my goal weight of 170.
2018 was all about losing weight. 2019 is going to have the same, but also include the effort to try to socialize more, getting therapy, and try to break out of my shell.
Great point and best of luck to you! You've already shown what you can achieve in one area, just need to apply it to another one.
Weight loss is exciting because it's something you can achieve by yourself. It won't change your personality or give you a social life. However, it can teach you how to apply the same determination you applied to getting healthy to those other aspects of your life that you can control.13 -
Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen. Some people have the genetics (face and body) to be attractive at the appropriate weight, and some don't. Especially for women: no food or exercise choice is going to make your cup size grow.
It's all relative, and you'll feel your best at a weight where you are strong and healthy. Just do it for yourself, and don't expect the world to start revolving around you.
Yeah, weight loss products all want to make you think you'll look like a supermodel if you just lose all that extra weight. The truth: there are plus sized models. You will look better, but not necessarily model gorgeous or bikini-bound.6 -
gamerbabe14 wrote: »MandyLou517 wrote: »I know it's been said before...by my oh my does "adult time" get better! There is something to be said for improved cardio, flexibility, and less stuff in the way!
It's called sex.
It's also called by about 2 billion other euphemisms. We all knew what was being said.16 -
Food and drinks become sooooo much more pleasurable and so, ummmmm, something you fully enjoy, with ZERO stress/fuss/muss/pressure or rush. Eating and drinking now is no longer an obsession/compulsion that/where you think about food 24X7X365. Words will not fully describe the JOY of eating to live instead of living to eat--it's so WONDERFUL to live this way. Now when I eat and drink stuff, it's no longer a gobbling/cramming/swallowing whole food like it's no tomorrow, it's a relaxing, pleasant, enjoyable, taking my time JOY and DELIGHT.
It will be that way one day for you as well, perhaps sooner or definitely later, it will happen to/for you too (if it isn't already like that for you now).19 -
NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »Food and drinks become sooooo much more pleasurable and so, ummmmm, something you fully enjoy, with ZERO stress/fuss/muss/pressure or rush. Eating and drinking now is no longer an obsession/compulsion that/where you think about food 24X7X365. Words will not fully describe the JOY of eating to live instead of living to eat--it's so WONDERFUL to live this way. Now when I eat and drink stuff, it's no longer a gobbling/cramming/swallowing whole food like it's no tomorrow, it's a relaxing, pleasant, enjoyable, taking my time JOY and DELIGHT.
It will be that way one day for you as well, perhaps sooner or definitely later, it will happen to/for you too (if it isn't already like that for you now).
This is a great one! It’s funny that I used to think that losing weight would mean I wouldn’t be able to enjoy eating my favorite foods any more. Now I feel like it’s the opposite. I actually fully savor and enjoy eating, both the healthy foods and the indulgences much more than I ever did before. Mindless eating and stress eating are really quite unpleasant. THAT’S the great truth that you need to know when you’re a stress eater.17 -
...and having been more indulgent over the Christmas period how lovely it is to return to more appropriate quantities of food and drink. Having thoroughly enjoyed the chocolates, christmas pudding and yummy roast dinners etc etc how pleased I was to return to lighter, less rich food!! I decided to not 'compensate' for the indulgences by reducing my intake post Christmas and New Year but just to return to my normal practice and was delighted when, within a week any temporary weight gain had gone.30
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NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »Food and drinks become sooooo much more pleasurable and so, ummmmm, something you fully enjoy, with ZERO stress/fuss/muss/pressure or rush. Eating and drinking now is no longer an obsession/compulsion that/where you think about food 24X7X365. Words will not fully describe the JOY of eating to live instead of living to eat--it's so WONDERFUL to live this way. Now when I eat and drink stuff, it's no longer a gobbling/cramming/swallowing whole food like it's no tomorrow, it's a relaxing, pleasant, enjoyable, taking my time JOY and DELIGHT.
It will be that way one day for you as well, perhaps sooner or definitely later, it will happen to/for you too (if it isn't already like that for you now).
This is a great one! It’s funny that I used to think that losing weight would mean I wouldn’t be able to enjoy eating my favorite foods any more. Now I feel like it’s the opposite. I actually fully savor and enjoy eating, both the healthy foods and the indulgences much more than I ever did before. Mindless eating and stress eating are really quite unpleasant. THAT’S the great truth that you need to know when you’re a stress eater.
I'm thrilled with your reply, thanks so much--what you've shared is so real and encouraging/inspirational too.4 -
That one day, sooner or later...you will NO LONGER even look at plus sizes and even sizes XL or Large when you're shopping. This may not sound like the big deal it truly is, but it's (looking at plus sizes/XL/large clothing--even though you no longer can fit those sizes) it's so wonderful to no longer be shopping/looking for "big/bigger" sizes--it's so very NICE.
That "habit or/and comfort" of looking at/for plus sizing/XL stuff, it's something that slowly disappears as you come to the place of accepting that plus sizes/XL and even Large size clothes are no longer for you--because they are just too big now. Even though some designer sizes and sizes from different countries maybe made smaller and a large may/fit like a medium now does on you, eventually you will no longer even search for size large(s). You will only be shopping for sizes mediums and sizes 12, then sizes 10 then 8's and lower. Absolutely humbling and WONDERFUL and AMAZING this will feel to you!13 -
Child pose in yoga used to be something I'd dread whilst everyone else raved about how it was the most relaxing part. With less boobs and tummy and being able to comfortable be in the pose its now my favourite part of the relaxtion bit of a session.22
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Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen. Some people have the genetics (face and body) to be attractive at the appropriate weight, and some don't. Especially for women: no food or exercise choice is going to make your cup size grow.
It's all relative, and you'll feel your best at a weight where you are strong and healthy. Just do it for yourself, and don't expect the world to start revolving around you.
However, you can stuff a bra to the size of cantaloupes if you feel the need, while spanx can only hide so much.
Some people are unfortunate-looking no matter what size they are, and some are gorgeous even when obese. Speaking for myself I was a model (just a local model, but still) when young and slim, and I look like a pile of dirty potatoes when obese. Adding muscle also helps!15 -
Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen.
The biggest lie they tell fat people. Being thin makes you hot and popular. Being thin fixes your whole life.
reality - You're still you just thinner. But now that you don't have fat to obsess over you have to learn how to fix your own life.
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Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen.
The biggest lie they tell fat people. Being thin makes you hot and popular. Being thin fixes your whole life.
reality - You're still you just thinner. But now that you don't have fat to obsess over you have to learn how to fix your own life.
Yup! For me it was more like...I thought I couldn’t make friends because I was fat. I realized I actually have to make an effort.18 -
Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen.
The biggest lie they tell fat people. Being thin makes you hot and popular. Being thin fixes your whole life.
reality - You're still you just thinner. But now that you don't have fat to obsess over you have to learn how to fix your own life.
Yup! For me it was more like...I thought I couldn’t make friends because I was fat. I realized I actually have to make an effort.
I wonder this about the vast majority of things people say they are going to do once they lose the weight.
I will go to the beach once I lose the weight! Really, why not just go now? I know quite slim people who hate being seen in their bathing suits, but the thing is, they aren't required at the beach.
I will start a weight lifting program once I lose the weight! Why not start now, rather than lose muscle, then try to build it up again?
I mean, if you are 300 pounds, you will probably think twice about horseback riding, but their are breeds that can handle even that. And I won't be trying aerial silks until my upper body strength to body weight ratio improves, but most things that people are waiting for just might make them happier right now.
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concordancia wrote: »Controversial here but: losing weight won't necessarily make you hot.
I got really thin in preparation for college and expected it would be like a weight loss commercial with people turning to look at me as I model-walked down the street. Spoiler: it didn't happen.
The biggest lie they tell fat people. Being thin makes you hot and popular. Being thin fixes your whole life.
reality - You're still you just thinner. But now that you don't have fat to obsess over you have to learn how to fix your own life.
Yup! For me it was more like...I thought I couldn’t make friends because I was fat. I realized I actually have to make an effort.
I wonder this about the vast majority of things people say they are going to do once they lose the weight.
I will go to the beach once I lose the weight! Really, why not just go now? I know quite slim people who hate being seen in their bathing suits, but the thing is, they aren't required at the beach.
I will start a weight lifting program once I lose the weight! Why not start now, rather than lose muscle, then try to build it up again?
I mean, if you are 300 pounds, you will probably think twice about horseback riding, but their are breeds that can handle even that. And I won't be trying aerial silks until my upper body strength to body weight ratio improves, but most things that people are waiting for just might make them happier right now.
People don’t realize that your wants and desires will never go away. Once you get that promotion, what then? Once you hit that goal weight, what comes next? Our ego is always thinking “if I can just get xxxx, than I’ll be happy.” But that’s almost never the case.15 -
Something else I never realized was I am much more comfortable saying the word fat. I would never say it when I was 200+. Now, I use it frequently, typically describing myself in the past tense.17
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