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  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
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    Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?

    Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.

    I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
    I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
    Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.

    It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.

    Sometimes I think too much.

    https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760

    What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.

    "Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."

    Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.

    In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.

    Well, alrighty then. :|
    Maybe this is more sage-y?
    https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10

    That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.

    Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.

    If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.

    I will say, I hate small talk and I'm not only not good at it - I don't want to be better at it, BUT if you were to bring up my cool t-shirt I could chat your ear off. A lot of times I'm disappointed when no one brings up my shirt :/

    The weather on the other hand might get a half-hearted smirk.

    cool shirt

    THANK you! It says "I'd rather be swimming at Kraken Mare - Lunar Park" because that's the biggest sea on Saturn's largest moon, Titan. 400,000 square km! That's bigger than the Caspian sea. But it's mostly made of methane so that makes it pretty funny. That'd smell terrible. Plus the cool picture of Saturn on it.
    cee134 wrote: »
    Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?

    Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.

    I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
    I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
    Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.

    It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.

    Sometimes I think too much.

    https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760

    What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.

    "Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."

    Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.

    In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.

    Well, alrighty then. :|
    Maybe this is more sage-y?
    https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10

    That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.

    Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.

    If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.

    I will say, I hate small talk and I'm not only not good at it - I don't want to be better at it, BUT if you were to bring up my cool t-shirt I could chat your ear off. A lot of times I'm disappointed when no one brings up my shirt :/

    The weather on the other hand might get a half-hearted smirk.

    That shirt looks to cool for this weather we are having right now. Why didn't you wear something warmer?

    Not as cold as Titan though amirite? Ha! Like -180C

    is Titan or Europa colder?

    Off the top of my head not sure but if I had to guess I'd say Titan is colder since it's Saturn's moon which is farther away than Europa, Jupiter's moon.

    this is the most uninformative Ted talk ever tbh

    Hey man, I just wanted to talk about my shirt

    funny enough i just figured it was like a Rick and morty shirt or something

    :laugh: That'd be awesome but it's an actual place lol
    Not the the park, but the lake.

    Bret Easton Ellis wrote a book called Lunar Park years ago and it was like my favorite thing in the world for a long time i wish your shirt was about that tbh sorry just statin the facts

    About our moon or Titan? I don't read a lot of books but I remember the Futurama episode on Lunar Park.

    no it was a meta-fiction novel where Bret was the main character and Patrick Bateman from American Psycho (another book which Bret wrote IRL) became real and started killing people. and it was also a kind of haunted house story. sadly it didn't end in a showdown on the moon. but there was a picture of the moon on the book cover so i feel its related to the discussion.
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    I can't find the matchmaker thread but I think iMago and tinkerhellraiser would be a cute couple.

    she actually hates me right now i think. i criticized her art.
  • ShayCarver89
    ShayCarver89 Posts: 239 Member
    I very much would like a sourdough king from BK, but they're 970 calories and I don't feel like starving the rest of the day. Also they're expensive af.
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,440 Member
    I can't find the matchmaker thread but I think iMago and tinkerhellraiser would be a cute couple.

    I agree

    https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10718227/the-official-mfp-love-match-thread-for-totally-not-nude-people#latest

  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    I can't find the matchmaker thread but I think iMago and tinkerhellraiser would be a cute couple.

    I agree

    https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10718227/the-official-mfp-love-match-thread-for-totally-not-nude-people#latest

    Ah, thank you. I don't know how I missed it...
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    I can't find the matchmaker thread but I think iMago and tinkerhellraiser would be a cute couple.

    she actually hates me right now i think. i criticized her art.

    Did she post here? I wanna see.
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    I can't find the matchmaker thread but I think iMago and tinkerhellraiser would be a cute couple.

    she actually hates me right now i think. i criticized her art.

    Did she post here? I wanna see.

    nope
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    Quick google search says Europa's surface temp is -160C BUT the poles can be like -220C so yikes who knows

    If Europa is so cold, how do all those people survive? Those poor Greeks and Italians and whatever other countries are over there.

    Galileo just wasn't very creative I guess

    Isn't Galileo a type of Italian ice cream?

    Yes and it's so delicious. You haven't had it until you've had it on a brooch bun though.

    ;)

    I have so much to say but I’ll just keep it to this, this is making my whole world turn.

    You probably just need to sit down and have something to eat to get your energy up. How about a nice brush edna or some anti-pasta?
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    I can't find the matchmaker thread but I think iMago and tinkerhellraiser would be a cute couple.

    she actually hates me right now i think. i criticized her art.

    Did she post here? I wanna see.

    I can't help you with that but I can show you some of my art. This picture is a picture I made of that scene in that movie Titanic.

    4r0m0r2vrwcc.png

    Wow. I'm super impressed with your ability to catch the expressions. It's all in the eyes. And the motion of those waves.
    Magnafeek.
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    Quick google search says Europa's surface temp is -160C BUT the poles can be like -220C so yikes who knows

    If Europa is so cold, how do all those people survive? Those poor Greeks and Italians and whatever other countries are over there.

    Galileo just wasn't very creative I guess

    Isn't Galileo a type of Italian ice cream?

    Yes and it's so delicious. You haven't had it until you've had it on a brooch bun though.

    ;)

    That sounds yummy. Bone apple teeth

    Laughing at bone apple teeth turned into getting "Apple Bottom Jeans" stuck in my head (halp) but now it's "Apple Bottom Teeth" instead.
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    I can't find the matchmaker thread but I think iMago and tinkerhellraiser would be a cute couple.

    she actually hates me right now i think. i criticized her art.

    Did she post here? I wanna see.

    I can't help you with that but I can show you some of my art. This picture is a picture I made of that scene in that movie Titanic.

    4r0m0r2vrwcc.png

    did you recreate the final scene by chance? It's my favorite.

    I thought it was important to draw that scene too.

    4mybbwhurun0.png

    Are those his last bubbles of air or thoughts?
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    I can't find the matchmaker thread but I think iMago and tinkerhellraiser would be a cute couple.

    she actually hates me right now i think. i criticized her art.

    Did she post here? I wanna see.

    I can't help you with that but I can show you some of my art. This picture is a picture I made of that scene in that movie Titanic.

    4r0m0r2vrwcc.png

    did you recreate the final scene by chance? It's my favorite.

    I thought it was important to draw that scene too.

    4mybbwhurun0.png

    Are those his last bubbles of air or thoughts?

    yes
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    Quick google search says Europa's surface temp is -160C BUT the poles can be like -220C so yikes who knows

    If Europa is so cold, how do all those people survive? Those poor Greeks and Italians and whatever other countries are over there.

    Galileo just wasn't very creative I guess

    Isn't Galileo a type of Italian ice cream?

    Yes and it's so delicious. You haven't had it until you've had it on a brooch bun though.

    ;)

    I have so much to say but I’ll just keep it to this, this is making my whole world turn.

    I think I know why. ;)