Engagement rings

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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    Also,fwiw, a ring is not the jewelry I’d choose in future

    Earrings or a necklace type of gal?

    That’s an excellent guess

    Bracelet or watch? Can I have a clue? Phone a family member?

    I thought about some like this but it’s not quite me.
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    How 'bout we let the moon and the stars be our crown, the earth our footstool. We can sit back and gaze at the wonder that lies before us somewhere in the mountains, and let the bliss of our new-found love clothe us. Because really, who needs jewelry?

    meh

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    You have to admit it was somewhat derivative.

    Roses are red, violets are blue
    I'm packing heat, how about you?
    Or would you prefer a haiku?

    I just bought a new gun
    But the number of bullets I'm allowed are so few
    #2ndAmendment

    Better!

    I mean, I wouldn’t be so uptight as to count syllables or anything
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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    Also,fwiw, a ring is not the jewelry I’d choose in future

    Earrings or a necklace type of gal?

    That’s an excellent guess

    Bracelet or watch? Can I have a clue? Phone a family member?

    I thought about some like this but it’s not quite me.
    fbln4y3zm0so.jpeg

    How 'bout we let the moon and the stars be our crown, the earth our footstool. We can sit back and gaze at the wonder that lies before us somewhere in the mountains, and let the bliss of our new-found love clothe us. Because really, who needs jewelry?

    meh

    t5as7nhw3oik.jpg

    You have to admit it was somewhat derivative.

    Roses are red, violets are blue
    I'm packing heat, how about you?
    Or would you prefer a haiku?

    I just bought a new gun
    But the number of bullets I'm allowed are so few
    #2ndAmendment

    Better!

    I mean, I wouldn’t be so uptight as to count syllables or anything

    Tough crowd. And no I don't actually own a gun :lol:
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    Short order cook named Maria
    I asked for grilled cheese
    She said if you please
    Try this great quesadilla
  • Stormy_Knight
    Stormy_Knight Posts: 616 Member
    Who buys the man’s wedding ban ?
    You or her ?
    If she dose then you should pick out the ring you like .
  • laprimaJenny
    laprimaJenny Posts: 1,495 Member
    This decision is both emotional and rational. You have two major things to consider. First, your future partners expectations. Then, the financial situation you find yourselves in. Ultimately the goal is to find the balance between the two.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    I'm of a different generation, but I think you should make that commitment and buy that ring. When I met my wife I was making less than $5 an hour and had little money and didn't have credit cards. I bought the best ring I could afford and got down on one knee and proposed. It was a gold ring with not much more than diamond dust. She accepted. We had little. Our honeymoon was a road trip to Vancouver for one week. We struggled for many years.

    Fast forward 25 years. I'm making at least 10 times what I was making then and she is doing the same. We have a beautiful home and a comfortable future. I, with the help of my daughter, went out and bought my wife a very beautiful 25th anniversary ring. I got down on one knee and presented it to her and also told her we were flying to Maui for two weeks to celebrate 25 years together. She loved it.

    Does she wear that 25th anniversary ring? Yes. On her right ring finger.

    I told her it was to replace the tiny wedding ring she still wears on her left ring finger. She told me that she loved her new ring but it could never replace the original.



    Joy tears. 😭
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    I didn't ask for it, but my now ex wife, did buy me a watch after I gave her an engagement ring. Not $ for $, nor would I want it to be. it was a nice watch about 1/4 of what I paid for the ring.
  • askeeney
    askeeney Posts: 448 Member
    edited May 2019
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    I'm of a different generation, but I think you should make that commitment and buy that ring. When I met my wife I was making less than $5 an hour and had little money and didn't have credit cards. I bought the best ring I could afford and got down on one knee and proposed. It was a gold ring with not much more than diamond dust. She accepted. We had little. Our honeymoon was a road trip to Vancouver for one week. We struggled for many years.

    Fast forward 25 years. I'm making at least 10 times what I was making then and she is doing the same. We have a beautiful home and a comfortable future. I, with the help of my daughter, went out and bought my wife a very beautiful 25th anniversary ring. I got down on one knee and presented it to her and also told her we were flying to Maui for two weeks to celebrate 25 years together. She loved it.

    Does she wear that 25th anniversary ring? Yes. On her right ring finger.

    I told her it was to replace the tiny wedding ring she still wears on her left ring finger. She told me that she loved her new ring but it could never replace the original.



    Joy tears. 😭

    Couldn’t have said it better. Joy tears
  • tuddy315
    tuddy315 Posts: 11,590 Member
    @TheRoadDog , you are such a romantic. Your wife is a lucky woman!
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    erickirb wrote: »
    I didn't ask for it, but my now ex wife, did buy me a watch after I gave her an engagement ring. Not $ for $, nor would I want it to be. it was a nice watch about 1/4 of what I paid for the ring.

    If you are already keeping score, I recommend you do not get married.

    there was no keeping score, the watch was her idea. I thought it was a very nice sentiment. she thought, why should she be the only one getting something. wasn't keeping score at all.
  • CoffeeAndContour
    CoffeeAndContour Posts: 1,466 Member
    MichSmish wrote: »
    I just got engaged last night. My ring is bigger than I would have thought I would like, but perfect all the same, because it was bought with love from someone who loves me, and that’s really what important. It didn’t have to be a diamond at all and it still would be special to me.

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!

    Congratulations! 🤗 🥂
    I just got engaged last night. My ring is bigger than I would have thought I would like, but perfect all the same, because it was bought with love from someone who loves me, and that’s really what is important. It didn’t have to be a diamond at all and it still would be special to me.


    Here's to many years of marital bliss

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    thanks a bunch! 🤗
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    erickirb wrote: »
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    erickirb wrote: »
    I didn't ask for it, but my now ex wife, did buy me a watch after I gave her an engagement ring. Not $ for $, nor would I want it to be. it was a nice watch about 1/4 of what I paid for the ring.

    If you are already keeping score, I recommend you do not get married.

    there was no keeping score, the watch was her idea. I thought it was a very nice sentiment. she thought, why should she be the only one getting something. wasn't keeping score at all.

    I’m guessing he meant because you knew the monetary value of the watch in comparison to the ring. It’s a communication issue is all. 🙂
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I just got engaged last night. My ring is bigger than I would have thought I would like, but perfect all the same, because it was bought with love from someone who loves me, and that’s really what is important. It didn’t have to be a diamond at all and it still would be special to me.

    Congratulations. That's one lucky guy.
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    erickirb wrote: »
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    erickirb wrote: »
    I didn't ask for it, but my now ex wife, did buy me a watch after I gave her an engagement ring. Not $ for $, nor would I want it to be. it was a nice watch about 1/4 of what I paid for the ring.

    If you are already keeping score, I recommend you do not get married.

    there was no keeping score, the watch was her idea. I thought it was a very nice sentiment. she thought, why should she be the only one getting something. wasn't keeping score at all.

    I’m guessing he meant because you knew the monetary value of the watch in comparison to the ring. It’s a communication issue is all. 🙂

    Agreed. Lost in translation.

    I just meant it as,no need to spend the same amount on the ring, but something for him too is a nice gesture!
  • Cassandraw3
    Cassandraw3 Posts: 1,214 Member
    I did want a ring, but it didn't have to be anything extravagant (and mine isn't). I would have been happy with a courthouse or destination wedding and a reception afterwards for family. He is the one that wanted to be married by his pastor, so that is what we did. He paid for the rings, I paid for most of the wedding/reception (family helped pay for the rest. He let me pick it out at the store which I was ok with since I am a picky person to begin with.

    It is really all dependent on what the couple can agree upon. And really, if she is someone you want to marry and spend the rest of your lives together, you should want to do what you can to make her happy (within reason). She should be willing to do the same as well.
  • slessofme
    slessofme Posts: 7,740 Member
    erickirb wrote: »
    I didn't ask for it, but my now ex wife, did buy me a watch after I gave her an engagement ring. Not $ for $, nor would I want it to be. it was a nice watch about 1/4 of what I paid for the ring.

    I did this for my now ex husband too. The watch was nicer than what he had previously, but not the same value as the engagement ring. He would never wear a watch that would be worth the same amount we paid for the engagement ring.
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  • askeeney
    askeeney Posts: 448 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    erickirb wrote: »
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    erickirb wrote: »
    I didn't ask for it, but my now ex wife, did buy me a watch after I gave her an engagement ring. Not $ for $, nor would I want it to be. it was a nice watch about 1/4 of what I paid for the ring.

    If you are already keeping score, I recommend you do not get married.

    there was no keeping score, the watch was her idea. I thought it was a very nice sentiment. she thought, why should she be the only one getting something. wasn't keeping score at all.

    I misspoke. Sorry. There is no way to put a value on what's important. If you marry and are still happily married 30 years later, you will look back on the happiest moments of your life and discover money had little to do with it. It will not be the vacations you save for. It will be the memories and who you shared them with.

    Let me give you an example and then I will stay quiet. My wife and I are retiring together on July 31st. We are currently getting our house ready to sell because we are going to relocate. Saturday, we were doing some stuff in the backyard, while a guy was tiling the bathroom. We finished what we were doing hours before the Handyman did. We stayed outside for a couple hours while he finished. We were sitting there talking about things in the past. And our immediate future. Funny projects we have taken on over the years. It was one of the best afternoons I have had. I realize my life has been so happy because of her. Everything I have is because of her.

    Something real with someone is never guaranteed in this life nor are we entitled to it. You're a lucky man that you have it.

    Reality sucks quesadilla...let me pretend like I’m entitled. 😉
  • MichelleWithMoxie
    MichelleWithMoxie Posts: 1,817 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    erickirb wrote: »
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    erickirb wrote: »
    I didn't ask for it, but my now ex wife, did buy me a watch after I gave her an engagement ring. Not $ for $, nor would I want it to be. it was a nice watch about 1/4 of what I paid for the ring.

    If you are already keeping score, I recommend you do not get married.

    there was no keeping score, the watch was her idea. I thought it was a very nice sentiment. she thought, why should she be the only one getting something. wasn't keeping score at all.

    I misspoke. Sorry. There is no way to put a value on what's important. If you marry and are still happily married 30 years later, you will look back on the happiest moments of your life and discover money had little to do with it. It will not be the vacations you save for. It will be the memories and who you shared them with.

    Let me give you an example and then I will stay quiet. My wife and I are retiring together on July 31st. We are currently getting our house ready to sell because we are going to relocate. Saturday, we were doing some stuff in the backyard, while a guy was tiling the bathroom. We finished what we were doing hours before the Handyman did. We stayed outside for a couple hours while he finished. We were sitting there talking about things in the past. And our immediate future. Funny projects we have taken on over the years. It was one of the best afternoons I have had. I realize my life has been so happy because of her. Everything I have is because of her.

    This is goals 😭
  • laprimaJenny
    laprimaJenny Posts: 1,495 Member
    edited May 2019
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    erickirb wrote: »
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    erickirb wrote: »
    I didn't ask for it, but my now ex wife, did buy me a watch after I gave her an engagement ring. Not $ for $, nor would I want it to be. it was a nice watch about 1/4 of what I paid for the ring.

    If you are already keeping score, I recommend you do not get married.

    there was no keeping score, the watch was her idea. I thought it was a very nice sentiment. she thought, why should she be the only one getting something. wasn't keeping score at all.

    I misspoke. Sorry. There is no way to put a value on what's important. If you marry and are still happily married 30 years later, you will look back on the happiest moments of your life and discover money had little to do with it. It will not be the vacations you save for. It will be the memories and who you shared them with.

    Let me give you an example and then I will stay quiet. My wife and I are retiring together on July 31st. We are currently getting our house ready to sell because we are going to relocate. Saturday, we were doing some stuff in the backyard, while a guy was tiling the bathroom. We finished what we were doing hours before the Handyman did. We stayed outside for a couple hours while he finished. We were sitting there talking about things in the past. And our immediate future. Funny projects we have taken on over the years. It was one of the best afternoons I have had. I realize my life has been so happy because of her. Everything I have is because of her.

    Something real with someone is never guaranteed in this life nor are we entitled to it.You're a lucky man that you have it.

    That’s an interesting prospective that I’ve never really thought about until I saw this comment. Many people do in fact act as if love is an entitlement and hence force it with the wrong people and even at the wrong times.
  • isalsayourface123
    isalsayourface123 Posts: 2,153 Member
    Venus_88 wrote: »
    There're many women who don't need any diamonds to be happy.
    Personally I don't like the way you put the question. I give the best gifts I can find to people I love without expecting anything in return no matter how much it costs me.
    Now tell me what you will give her in return for a child labor? Cut off your arm?

    Yup. This. Do something out of love or just dont do it.
  • kathryn1391
    kathryn1391 Posts: 100 Member
    I dont know the value or my ring, nor do i care. What i care about is the fact my fiance designed it FOR me, and its so much more than i could have ever imagined. To me its the love and heart he poured into the process that has proven to me really quite how much i mean to him and how seriously he takes it commitment.

    I have offered him a "gift" in return but in the form of something i know he wants but wouldn't buy himself, and were still working on this.

    I will never be able to match the value of the ring, emotionally or i expect in a monetary sense. I earn a lot less than him, and i know in the coming years ill earn even less as i raise our family. What i lack in financial balance with him i make up for in love, support, team work and effort in our lives together and that's what matters.

    If you feel hard done by for not getting an item in return i feel marriage isn't what you think it is.
  • samtarlyonadiet
    samtarlyonadiet Posts: 917 Member
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  • PWRLFTR1
    PWRLFTR1 Posts: 324 Member
    1. If you feel pressured to buy an expensive ring, then that person isn't right for you and you shouldn't marry her. 2. I'd rather spend that money on something else, like the wedding or honeymoon. The big thing now is couples spending thousands on a stupid ring then begging their wedding guests for money to pay for their wedding or honeymoon. 3. I'm a woman, never married (by choice), but if I was proposed to with a ring, I would know this man didn't know me at all, just like any woman you would want to marry would know you well enough to know not to expect a ring.
  • mbaker566
    mbaker566 Posts: 11,233 Member
    i never wanted an expensive ring and i definitely didn't want a real diamond. i got both.