What nobody tells you about losing weight
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ExistingFish wrote: »Wow!
That is why mine hasn't been resized yet. I think it's safe to resize it now, but I kept putting it off because I don't want to have it done multiple times (I already had to resize it larger once
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You know the kicker here? I was a bit bloated when I got my wedding rings. I waited 4 years after birth of DD to drop the ring size conceding it was too big and it was unlikely I’d resize it anytime soon.
But then I dropped 11kgs, now need a resize but I’ll wait until I’ve hit goal weight and maintained it for a good year or two. Only 11kgs to go!2 -
How much money I would save by not going to Starbucks, since I'm not going to pay good money for a drip coffee I can make at home and I will only rarely allow myself to have a nonfat no whip mocha because of the unavoidable saturated fat from the mocha sauce. (Though it always makes me laugh when I do get one and MFP is like "this food is high in calcium!" then I add an apple and it gets mad at me for going over in sugar.)18
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Nobody told me I could be within 40 pounds of goal weight and start sabotaging myself.
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I am completely flummoxed about it, as I have NO idea why my psyche is starting to fight me. Seriously, every pound is a major battle right now... not because I don't know how or what to do - but because I simply am not DOING it, consistently - even though I KNOW what needs to happen for the weight to come off.
This was me a couple years ago, I had gotten down just over 30 and still had a good 50-60 to go and I started letting bad habits creep back up and now I'm back to where I started plus an additional 40 pounds so I'm starting over again. Just know you've got this, just keep pushing toward your goal!9 -
1.) That having a pound of boiled shrimp in the freezer would become the secret I hug to myself, instead of a hidden sack of chocolate
2.) That while running (Me? Running???!!!) a bee would mistake my very bright leggings as flowers and attack. Keeping that pair for indoor workouts ONLY
3.) on a serious note: Fear. The fear is claustrophobic sometimes.
Fear that if I quit working out I’ll stop losing, fear that if I relax or eat a little more or go into maintenance, I’ll blow back up, fear I’m losing too fast, fear I’m not losing at all, fear that the run of good has come to an end or was all in my head, fear of losing muscle, fear of bulking, fear I’m too big, fear I’m too small, fear the chicks who lift way heavy at the gym look at me and think “wimp”, fear of overdoing it, fear of missing just one more class or workout I could squeeze in, fear of losing motivation, fear that I’ll go to put my butt in those tiny little shorts and they won’t fit all of a sudden and everyone will know me as a fraud. Fear fear fear. It seems the more I lose, the more confused I get, and the more everyone wants to give me their opinion. Most of all, I fear I’m craving validation whereas before I didn’t really give a *kitten* what anyone thought, and that bothers me most of all. I’ve grown accustomed to attaboys, and that really sucks. That’s just not me at all.
No one told me about that.
Not meaning to sound negative. Every morning is yet another day of astonishment when I look in the mirror, and think, “who are you?”40 -
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That no matter how much weight you want to lose, if you don't have steps and realistic goals, you will frustrate the *kitten* out of yourself and end up discouraged. That's a really slippery slope!9
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smiliekiwi wrote: »
She sounds like a real peach.[/quote]
She is ... just she’s never had a weight problem. ( only keeping it on ). So she has no idea
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I'm sure she regrets doing that and most likely feels awful about it. She probably thought she was complimenting you and never in a million years thought you'd regain the weight. Hugs from all of us!0 -
hobbitses333 wrote: »That my thighs would look worse after losing 66 lbs.. I can see some muscle definition, but there are so many more lumps, more cellulite and large, globulous wrinkly pockets of fat at the top inside..they look deformed to me. I cant hide it anymore...they show through my pants now...my thighs chafe so easily because of these too. Even the inseams of my pants cause chafing nowadays...
It is not going to stop me tho!
Your thighs will reshape themselves and smooth out. Mine were likewise and now I am looking down and watching them transform before my eyes this past couple of weeks. It’s the weirdest thing. Sometimes this whole process is like watching one of those weird animations where something morphs into something else.
What’s even funnier now is getting in the pool and watching the fat kinda float. The pool version of the “pinch test” is a hoot.
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That going clothes shopping would actually make me feel better about my body...but also show how crazy sizing is. I have some bloating, but needed to get some shorts for a kayak trip this week with work. I shop SML at Goodwill even though I’m a medium because sizing varies so much. I felt really good about my progress because I was starting to consistently fit into smalls...but then I tried on the mediums and several of them were too tight! I was more consistent in the smalls this time, lol. I also tried on some jeans and the 10s were too big, although it was a lost cause all around because I have short legs. They all ended up being too long.3
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That the problems that couldn't be fixed with food can't be fixed with weight loss either.42
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springlering62 wrote: »Fear that if I quit working out I’ll stop losing, fear that if I relax or eat a little more or go into maintenance, I’ll blow back up, fear I’m losing too fast, fear I’m not losing at all, fear that the run of good has come to an end or was all in my head, fear of losing muscle, fear of bulking, fear I’m too big, fear I’m too small, fear the chicks who lift way heavy at the gym look at me and think “wimp”, fear of overdoing it, fear of missing just one more class or workout I could squeeze in, fear of losing motivation, fear that I’ll go to put my butt in those tiny little shorts and they won’t fit all of a sudden and everyone will know me as a fraud. Fear fear fear. It seems the more I lose, the more confused I get, and the more everyone wants to give me their opinion. Most of all, I fear I’m craving validation whereas before I didn’t really give a *kitten* what anyone thought, and that bothers me most of all. I’ve grown accustomed to attaboys, and that really sucks. That’s just not me at all.
Man, I've been trying to phrase this exact feeling and you really hit the nail on the head there. I have to constantly remind myself that it's an irrational fear. Like it took a while for me to gain and lose the weight - one bad day isn't going to put all the pounds back on! And yet I find myself worried that one bad day will undo 6 months of hard work.
I'd extend that fear to my dating life. I worry that if I meet someone, he wouldn't have noticed me xxlbs ago, and that if those pounds come back maybe he'll leave. Totally over-worrying about it, but no one warned me how much my dating perspective would change.15 -
bobsburgersfan wrote: »
This is so good!!! Thanks for sharing it.RelCanonical wrote: »I ran across this on reddit and it really resonated with me:
"No one sees thru your eyes, but here’s a thought. No one else will look at you and only see your arms. No one will only see your tummy. No one will only see your right ring finger, your foot or your calf. But that’s what you’re doing to yourself. You are not your parts - you’re the totality of all the odd bits that make up who you are. What you think is “wrong” is just uniquely you, and your loved ones already accept it because its who they see."
This is exceptionally relieving and also very true. I need to remember this. It's so easy for me to get focused on one part - and it's often a part of my body that no one but my boyfriend and doctors will see! The world is not judging me on my wrinkled skin or poofy belly. They can't even see that.
I'm the one judging me for it.
This is really fantastic advice.
This weekend I was walking and it was HOT and I thought the trail empty. So I tied my tank top up which showed my belly. When a guy on a bike passed me all I was thinking was he's staring at my giant VERY white belly. I told a girlfriend this and showed her how my shirt was, she assured me he didn't notice the belly because my boobs were hanging out but I didn't realize. People see what they want...
Not an inspiring story but I was worried about something someone else didn't notice. It's all about perspective.13 -
Walking without my lower back (or knees) screaming in pain in the first couple hundred feet.....14
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I did not realize just how much weight I was carrying on my INNER thighs. I don’t have big hips but I do have big thighs and that’s how - it’s all on the inside. Chub rub will probably always be a thing, although it is much better now. Also, the inside of my thighs are one big stretch mark, which I find very fascinating more than bothersome.6
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RelCanonical wrote: »I did not realize just how much weight I was carrying on my INNER thighs. I don’t have big hips but I do have big thighs and that’s how - it’s all on the inside. Chub rub will probably always be a thing, although it is much better now. Also, the inside of my thighs are one big stretch mark, which I find very fascinating more than bothersome.
I can relate, I didn't realise how much weight I was carrying on the hips until It was gone, and my hips feel sooo much nicer.
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RelCanonical wrote: »I did not realize just how much weight I was carrying on my INNER thighs. I don’t have big hips but I do have big thighs and that’s how - it’s all on the inside. Chub rub will probably always be a thing, although it is much better now. Also, the inside of my thighs are one big stretch mark, which I find very fascinating more than bothersome.
I've lost the weight, the chub rub is still there. Part of it is just genetics and how far apart your hip bones keep your legs. When I was a teen I didn't have it, but always as an adult.
Now, I don't have to wear shorts under dresses, it's very minor now, but it is still present. It also still presents evidence on the inside of my jeans, additional wear in the are and all.3 -
RelCanonical wrote: »I did not realize just how much weight I was carrying on my INNER thighs. I don’t have big hips but I do have big thighs and that’s how - it’s all on the inside. Chub rub will probably always be a thing, although it is much better now. Also, the inside of my thighs are one big stretch mark, which I find very fascinating more than bothersome.
Interesting how people differ! I get no chub rub at all, even though I also carry most of my weight in my thighs; from what I can tell, that's just because I happen to have hips wide enough to keep 'em apart. A blessing in some ways, a bane in others. It's virtually impossible to find trousers that will fit the trifecta of large hips/thighs, a small waist, and a high waist.
(Oh yeah, one thing that everybody told me but which I didn't actually believe; no matter how much weight you lose it will still be difficult to find some kinds of clothes because designers just don't make them for your shape)
And although on inspection my inner thighs are made up entirely of little densely-packed wriggles of stretch mark, they somehow manage to look like normal skin. Whereas the stretch marks on my hips really stand out. Weird!2 -
RelCanonical wrote: »I did not realize just how much weight I was carrying on my INNER thighs. I don’t have big hips but I do have big thighs and that’s how - it’s all on the inside. Chub rub will probably always be a thing, although it is much better now. Also, the inside of my thighs are one big stretch mark, which I find very fascinating more than bothersome.
Interesting how people differ! I get no chub rub at all, even though I also carry most of my weight in my thighs; from what I can tell, that's just because I happen to have hips wide enough to keep 'em apart. A blessing in some ways, a bane in others. It's virtually impossible to find trousers that will fit the trifecta of large hips/thighs, a small waist, and a high waist.
(Oh yeah, one thing that everybody told me but which I didn't actually believe; no matter how much weight you lose it will still be difficult to find some kinds of clothes because designers just don't make them for your shape)
And although on inspection my inner thighs are made up entirely of little densely-packed wriggles of stretch mark, they somehow manage to look like normal skin. Whereas the stretch marks on my hips really stand out. Weird!
I agree on the clothes! I never take something not fitting personally anymore. Sometimes I gotta size up, sometimes I gotta size down, and sometimes it's a lost cause because it was made for someone with a much flatter chest than I.5 -
springlering62 wrote: »Fear that if I quit working out I’ll stop losing, fear that if I relax or eat a little more or go into maintenance, I’ll blow back up, fear I’m losing too fast, fear I’m not losing at all, fear that the run of good has come to an end or was all in my head, fear of losing muscle, fear of bulking, fear I’m too big, fear I’m too small, fear the chicks who lift way heavy at the gym look at me and think “wimp”, fear of overdoing it, fear of missing just one more class or workout I could squeeze in, fear of losing motivation, fear that I’ll go to put my butt in those tiny little shorts and they won’t fit all of a sudden and everyone will know me as a fraud. Fear fear fear. It seems the more I lose, the more confused I get, and the more everyone wants to give me their opinion. Most of all, I fear I’m craving validation whereas before I didn’t really give a *kitten* what anyone thought, and that bothers me most of all. I’ve grown accustomed to attaboys, and that really sucks. That’s just not me at all.
Man, I've been trying to phrase this exact feeling and you really hit the nail on the head there. I have to constantly remind myself that it's an irrational fear. Like it took a while for me to gain and lose the weight - one bad day isn't going to put all the pounds back on! And yet I find myself worried that one bad day will undo 6 months of hard work.
I'd extend that fear to my dating life. I worry that if I meet someone, he wouldn't have noticed me xxlbs ago, and that if those pounds come back maybe he'll leave. Totally over-worrying about it, but no one warned me how much my dating perspective would change.
A friend of mine at the gym had a good attitude I have adopted. I am not going to gain the weight back but if something happens and I do, I know how to get it off, I am stubborn, I will do it again!10 -
RelCanonical wrote: »I did not realize just how much weight I was carrying on my INNER thighs. I don’t have big hips but I do have big thighs and that’s how - it’s all on the inside. Chub rub will probably always be a thing, although it is much better now. Also, the inside of my thighs are one big stretch mark, which I find very fascinating more than bothersome.
I had a lot gof eight there too and a lot of chub rub. No longer though. But it has taken a gazzilion squats and lots of running and weight training to be rid of it2 -
ExistingFish wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »I did not realize just how much weight I was carrying on my INNER thighs. I don’t have big hips but I do have big thighs and that’s how - it’s all on the inside. Chub rub will probably always be a thing, although it is much better now. Also, the inside of my thighs are one big stretch mark, which I find very fascinating more than bothersome.
I've lost the weight, the chub rub is still there. Part of it is just genetics and how far apart your hip bones keep your legs. When I was a teen I didn't have it, but always as an adult.
I had to laugh as I have always had chub rub, but it is actually better now than when I was a teenager.
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I realized how much easier I can move and do stuff now and that motivates me to only make it better
I am comparing older pictures and that sparks even more motivation.
moving faster in stores, getting around, etc. I keep telling myself I do not want to be a old slow big person blocking the way.5 -
I appreciate the little things I wasn’t able to experience when I was 70+lbs heavier.
Like not worrying if I’ll fit in a booth, being too big to fit in a movie seat theater, and not getting winded after walking for 5 min.
Also, people are an awful lot nicer...12 -
That you'll be able to sit SIDEWAYS in the middle of the tub (vs. sitting the longway) in the tub, like you used to when you were SMALL and/or young--such fun sitting is sideways/in the middle of the tub, such memories!10
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I actually kind of love the stretch marks on my legs, lol. They are a constant reminder of how far I've come and what I've accomplished. I don't know if I would like them as much if they were in a more obvious area, but as they are now, it's like a lil trophy I carry around. The only thing that bothers me about them is how it's harder to remove hair in that area.7
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I can now do a standing quad stretch and almost do pose of the dancer.7
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Photographs! After 20 years of avoiding cameras because of my size I now feel my body shape (dressed of course) is bearable in photos. Now when I look at photos of me all I see is my nose
Who knew I had a big nose? Did I really expect weightloss to knock off 20+years and turn me into a beauty? 
Ho hum - I feel so much better, can do so many more things that at almost 65 who cares about photo images! 14
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