WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2019
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To continue celebrating our 11th anniversary ...
Today, we visited the Cat Cafe for lunch and to see the kitties ... and then we walked up the road to Cold Rock for ice cream!
Machka in Oz6 -
allergies/sinus. I.think.my.head.is.going.to.explode.
KJ 8 -
(((Debby in VA))) I do not see how you do all you do! I hope your husband will be more understanding about the fact that you have too much of a load on you.
Cleaning: My house was a lot cleaner when I was working because it all had to be done on the weekend and in the summer. I never had a cleaning service or yard help. Now, I have the yard done and only do the bare cleaning when the spirit moves me!
Carol in GA3 -
I have a cleaner for two hours once every two weeks. She gets most of it done, though I wish she would clean fewer rooms more thoroughly. I always tell them, but they don't listen. Plus her English is terrible! As there is only the two of us and no pets, it stays pretty clean. The sea air is much cleaner than the countryside. So much less dust and fewer spiders and insects.
My DH and I have pretty much divided up the chores, without really discussing it. It's just worked out like that.
I do the laundry and the cooking.
He does the washing up and keeps the kitchen swept, tidied and clean, empties trash etc.
We share the shopping. He keeps fruit, veg, milk and breakfast supplies going and I shop locally for meals. We do a big shop together.
We each make our side of the bed!
We never iron, but, if we do, we each do our own.
He does the yard work.
The reason why we got a cleaner is because I felt resentful that he didn't automatically see what needed to be done. For a few weeks we booked a time once a week so we could do it together, but it is so much easier to pay someone for a couple of hours once a fortnight. Resentment gone! Occasionally I hoover the living room rug.
If we have a visitor I become totally OCD about the house. Grrrrrrrrrr! I hate myself for it, but I can't help myself.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx5 -
After going to the Cat Cafe and Cold Rock, we came home and I walked briskly for a full hour:
Distance: 5.78km
Elapsed Time: 1:01:37
Pace: 10:40/km
Plus there was about a kilometre of walking to the Cat Cafe and Cold Rock and back to where we parked.
Annual Walking Totals - to August 25
2015 - 670.8 km
2016 - 670.2 km
2017 - 739.1 km
2018 - 860.1 km
2019 - 687.7 km
Machka in Oz2 -
Machka - I was wondering if you and your DH still visited the Cat Café. What a neat way to get some purring therapy in, lol. Happy Anniversary!
Kelly - (((HUGS)))
Heather - your story about justifying a cleaner is ours as well. Hey congrats on your lottery win! How nice to have a bit extra with your cruise coming up.
Debby in VA - sorry you aren't getting the weekend off, hope your DH will think it over.
Terri - when I was decluttering, I'd do one hour at a time, one place/drawer/dresser at a time. I need to get at it again. I did manage to whittle the closet down to just about everything on hangers (my side), no more layers and boxes of clothing. Sure makes it easy to whittle down even more - if I put on something now and it doesn't fit or I don't like it, it immediately goes into the thrift shop box. Thank you for that home-storage-solutions link; good way to schedule these tasks.
Amber - I use your cleaning method often, lol. Don't have a little JR running around but between the dogs and my DH I just keep up with what I can.
Ginny - pork loin in the crockpot sounds yummy. Need to put that on the list for fall. We have been getting real chilly nights - mid to high 40's. Daytime highs will ramp up into the 90's here in in SW WA State this coming Tuesday and Wednesday.
Vicki - I saw that Grand Island has set a record for rainfall in August! Hope the fair doesn't get washed out.
Allie - I wore contacts for years, when I was younger. I wouldn't go back to them anymore. I have chronically dry eyes so not enough tears to keep them floating, plus allergies and allergy meds and staring at computer screens (not blinking enough). You might give them a try though, I think they are much less expensive than when I was wearing them decades ago.
Another early morning... old dog came into the bedroom and woke me up at 2:30 this morning. Another accident on the little kitchen carpet, not as bad as a couple nights ago and easy to clean up. I remembered I had a bottle of doggie anti-diarrhea medicine, so gave her a dose of that. At least she's feeling better otherwise, playing and appetite coming back. Never did make an appointment with vet, DH may have to take care of that this coming week.
That's it for now. Make it a fabulous day!
Lanette
SW WA State1 -
The henna in my hair is lovely, thanks! It is a lively bright color yet still looks natural with my pale skin. Makes people ask if I am Irish.
I am getting to the end of my Labor Day challenge and hoping the scale fluctuations will be in my favor. It's going to be close!
I went to a Renaissance festival yesterday with my boyfriend. Lots of walking. My hip is sore today. Wish I was young!
Annie in Delaware2 -
Allie ~ I tried to wear contacts in my 40's but never could adjust to them. Can't now because I have both astigmatism and farsightedness. Have you considered laser surgery? I am hoping when my cataracts get bad enough I can have new lenses put in. My mom could see everything even at age 91.
Carol in GA2 -
Well ladies,hubby and son left and I am at home.He wasn’t thrilled,but I think he knew I needed the break and need to tend things here. I feel like a whiner,but the past year has taken a toll on my body. I don’t complain to him or even tell him how I feel for that matter.We have been struggling financially for a while and there’s really no money for anything but bills and groceries.I know our faith has seen us through and will continue to do so.Sometimes I know I have to have faith for the both of us,but that’s ok.He just called and told me to relax,try to get some rest.I told him I have work to do and he said only do what really Needs to be done. I don’t know if that’s possible for me.lol.Prayers,hugs,love❤️and tons of gratitude for y’all!!💐💐
Debby In Va7 -
Debby in VA - glad you worked things out with the husband in a way that makes you feel as if he really heard you... don't forget, the issues with your daughter and her son and their abuser have also stressed you and your whole family out to the maximum, and that's exhausting, as well as traumatic.
Fooling around online until it's light outside... With all the rain yesterday, we couldn't mow, but really need to today. If it goes two weeks, it becomes nearly unmanageable. The grass is still growing like mad up here in the foothills, but down in the river valley, it's already starting to go dormant for the fall... so looking forward to fall and winter here...
Later, y'all,
Lisa in AR6 -
Sometimes taking a break and being still and reading your Bible will give you not only rest but insight.3
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Debby: It’s great to know that your good man appreciates you. Your family have had so much to deal with lately, and faith is a great comfort.
Lisa: Our grass is growing so fast it’s hard to keep up with it.1 -
Carol: I’m sorry you’re disappointed with your haircut. Thankfully, it will grow and you can go to a different stylist next time. :ohwell: I agree with others that your hair looks good. Your opinion is the one that matters most.
Rori: We were unhappy with the size of our freezer and bought another, larger one. The original idea was to donate the too small freezer but we ended up keeping both. None of our cars has ever been parked inside our garage.
Beth near Buffalo: We live in an area that is not salted in the wintertime. Thanks goodness! It snows some years, and very few people know how to drive in it. Schools are usually closed if there is snow. :ohwell:
(((Debby in VA)))
Connie in KY: Congrats on your weight loss success! :bigsmile:
Heather: Congrats on your lottery win!
M in OZ: Happy Anniversary!!! We also do our own laundry. We have cleaners come every other week to vacuum, dust, and so forth. It helps. This morning I noticed that the windows need to be washed. That is not part of their regular duties. We’ll either take it on ourselves or have them do windows in place of the usual housecleaning. :ohwell:
KJ: So sorry to hear about your allergies. I hope you’re feeling better soon. :flowerforyou:
Lanette: I’m sorry that your old dog is having accidents. :sad:
I continue to be torn about going to see DD and my grandchildren. I want to go, but I’m reluctant to leave DH at home on his own. He will not fly. He will not drive. He will not do anything to compromise other than drive me to the airport and pick me up when I get back. :grumble:
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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happy Anniversary, Machka - that cat cafe looks fun!
I was just sitting here reading about everyone's various projects, pantries, decluttering, etc. My current project is finding all my photos (from when we actually printed those things), then editing (ie: throwing away some), sorting by approximate date -- all in order to send them off to be scanned. I am SO HAPPY to have found a scanning service; you pay a flat fee, they send you a prepaid box to put a maximum number of photos in, you send it in the post and they return it to you in a couple weeks. I didn't think this would be so emotional. I am dealing with photos of people I have cut out of my life (abuse, divorce, toxic relationships) and I guess I just didn't think of that. I sorta thought it would be nostalgic and fun. In any case, it's been interesting and I can't do it for long periods because I become morose. But after "editing" (ie. throwing away) various photos, it's actually very freeing, too. After starting out doing it for a couple hours, I am down to doing it for 10 minutes at a time. It is great to split up a task in minutes. As someone said, it is amazing what you can get done in that short a time -- and best of all, it doesn't seem as overwhelming.
Having a good Sunday morning here, although I sure was up early. Hydro went off at 5:20am for scheduled maintenance and it woke me up and kept me up, as my sound machine stopped. I'm going to have to take a nap at some point today. I'll never make it to my normal bedtime. Have a great Sunday, ladies!
-Shannon in Ontario Canada3 -
DH has been ill. He was given some new meds and I think that is what is happening. I hope that is all it is. He has surgeon appointment tomorrow to set up hernia operation time.
Me, I’m working on my bowel issues. Colonoscopy scheduled for second week in September.
Only 1.5 pounds to my first goals of getting into normal BMI! Happy about this. Been about 30 years since I’ve been in the normal range. This has been a change in eating habits for us, so will continue to eat as we have been since January and let my body settle where it will. I eat when hungry and stop when full. Two things I never did before. Best habit I’ve changed to!
RV Rita
Ps. Supposed to get to 108 today and tomorrow. Not much walking these two days.3 -
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Two very good things happened this afternoon.
Firstly I plucked up the courage to open my (new?) laptop that I bought two years ago and have opened twice and shut it again. I managed to get into it! It decided to update and I could make no sense of it all. It's Windows 10, which I have never used. I did get through to my emails, after jumping through many hoops, but everything wants passwords and updates and keeps telling me abut bells and whistles I dont need or want. I can't afford to buy Word again, which is what I bought the laptop for. My old laptop has 2003, which is perfectly fine for me, but I don't know how to put it on this one. I should be able to use it on three machines for nothing. I'm not going to pay monthly for something fancy. I only bought it to type out my memoir as my old steam driven laptop was driving me crazy.
Grrrrrrrrrr!
But at least I managed to get it out of the cupboard, even though it's still driving me nuts!
The second thing was that England won the third match of the Ashes by a miracle! Poor DH could hardly bear it. It was sooooooooooooo close! I had to revive him with a Pernod! Now the series is drawn with two matches to go.
I don't follow sport as I can't bear the heartbreak and tension. I can't see why I should give away my peace of mind to something I have no control over and people I have never met.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
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Shannon, sorting through photos is enormously stressful. My husband worked together a few years ago to go thorough all our photos and put the ones to save in a box and throw out the rest. We left them in the box for a few years until I was ready to scan and label them to save on the computer. It was so stressful, that I could do only 5-10 photos in a session. I did that daily for a very long time.Katla, If I were you, I would make reservations to fly to see your kids and get going before your husband changes his mind. Ask a few friends to casually check in with him while you're gone, do a big grocery shopping so he has lots of food choices, and go and have a great time.Heather, One of my favorite rules of adulthood is "What's fun for other people may not be fun for you, and vice versa". Be glad your husband likes his sports and stay as far away from them as you can. Jake is trying a new bread recipe with many grains and chopped pecans. I'm going for a walk with my Texas friend who gave him the pecans. I don't want to bake bread and he doesn't want to go for a walk so we are both happy doing what we like to do. Barbie in NW WA 3
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Heather ~ I use two free programs for word processing and spread sheets:
1) WPS Office
2) SoftMaker Free Office 2018
I use the free versions but I think you can get bells and whistles by paying a price.
Carol in GA1 -
@1948 I think it depends on where the tear is. I think if it's medial it has no vasculality and thus no healing possibility, and can't be operated. Did the knee replacement make it better than before surgery, after tear? I had a youngish friend (mid 40s) who had hip replacement and she was great afterwards, went from hobbling to dancing literally. I'm sorry about the haircut disappointment. I know the feeling. Thank goodness it'll grow quickly, though that doesn't help for now.
@barbiecat I agree about screens. I find some solace when I can't move too much, but in fact when I was away I only had my cellphone so was reading the paper, and finding offscreen entertainment and activity. thanks for the shout out.
@TerriRichardson112 did you and your DH have tears, or something else? How has that been?I know zilch about that other than what I've learned over the past 13 days. ok for walking. I bookmarked the site you recommended to look at later.
@evie1958 I didn't know they had ys in Canada, too, but it's not surprising.thanks for your understanding! wow, what a difference air in the tires makes. so much energy!!
@pipcd34 Are you doing secret code? Do you want to explain it to us? Thanks!
@exermom I agree you never know for clothes. there have been some real and fictional stories of people who found they had overdone the Marie-condo-ing. in one fictional series a woman suddenly sold her house without telling her spouse in the movement to get rid of things that didn't spark joy. but on a more common level some say we need those old t shirts etc, for the gym even if they don't spark joy, and given away clothes isn't always used by anyone...yet after 3 years of NEVER having worn that item, I figure it's really time.
@coastalgosgal it sounds great and full of care and attention
@b4leaving hi Shanon
@cityjaneLondon awesome for the lottery! I had a topnotch cleanser a few yers ago, but often they are medium. after a long break (more than a year) I just got another one who's come 2x as I can't keep up. she's clearly doing this temp and not really into it, not very happy (not that pleasant) and not topnotch, but it's better than nothing. she's young and it's clearly stopgap (she said). sounds like a nice balance between you two.
@Workoutahloic50 I can relate about not having the same energy as 5 10 years ago! maybe you can leave stuff for him to do? a friend did that as a sort of honest "tactic" . she sat on the sofa saying I'm so tired to do the laundry, and he offers to do things, and negotiates to cook dinner on 2 nights a week (and she lets it be just pasta if it hast to be). she says it's not second nature to her but works pretty well when she does it.
ok I'm running late gonna go out for a coffee w friend2 -
TerriRichardson112 wrote: » Part of our kitchen remodel last year resulted in a very nice cabinet for storage. Now we have lots of space. There are several reasons for this besides having a great floor to ceiling cupboard on both sides of the kitchen.
1. There are only 2 of us.
2. We eat very few items that come in cans.
3. There is space in the bathroom and laundry room to store cleaning supplies, paper goods, and some larger items.
4. We add things to the shopping list as we open the last one.
5. We have a big freezer.
6. We eat a lot of the same meals over and over so we don't have a huge variety of foods.
7. We inventory things often. Barbie in NW WA
This resonates with me so much!
I have always had a methodical mind, but a post-WW2 upbringing during rationing in the late 1940s/early 1950s, (where nothing was thrown away), and years of living with a husband and daughters who had inherited his mother's 'out of site, out of mind' mentality, had led to our home being full of disordered cluttered cupboards and drawers.
We did a kitchen remodel nearly 15 years ago, when I retired. and extended our wall cupboards right up to the ceiling, which increased our kitchen storage by about a third. It didn't take long to fill the extra space. Something had to be done.
When I decided to get rid of all my excess weight in 2014, I also started to streamline other areas of my life, and got into de-cluttering. I found a website which takes all the hard work out of that process, and embarked on a 365 day Challenge to declutter our whole house. (I'm still working on that 😂!) This is the website:
https://www.home-storage-solutions-101.com/organized-home.html
When I was downsizing my wardrobe after losing the weight, I discovered Mari Kondo. I have been Kondo-ing ever since. It's an ongoing process, but it helps me get rid of so much of the stuff I have been hoarding 'just in case'. A lot of the clutter isn't even ours. So I have got into the habit of taking my adult daughters little surprise packages of their belongings when I have decluttered an area. They aren't always appreciative! 😂
☘️ Terri
My eldest daughter has been using the Marie Kondo method for almost a year now. It has hurt my decluttering because she refuses to take anything that doesn’t bring her happiness. I’m proud of her though as she has always been a clutterbug and this has taken a lot of mental work in her part.
Tracey3 -
RV Rita way to go!!
Found out why men are hungry with our plate sizes. Man same height y weight as you needs 200cal more now if hubby taller than you it’s more than that! Also learned every few years my calorie calculator shows my calories need to be less. Not fair but so does a mans. Getting old sucks lol . So calculate every family members to see what portion size they need compared to you. Shows Daughter who’s building muscles y young can eat enough calories to make us all jealous 2117cal lucky duck she is. JR he’s slightly higher than mine. 1350 to maintain y 1400calories to gain which keeps him at his 35-40lb yo-yo weight area.That’s only because he’s past 4ft tall. Me 1,172 to loose but got mine set at 1200 so if I leave a few calories doesn’t matter. Shows hubby at 3,818 cal to extreme weight loss to 4,318cal for regular weight loss. Lol so in short your family gets 2 steaks 🥩 you get 4oz if one lol 😂. Until your Daughter pass the dreaded age like we did! Then they’ll be in our boat too. Every few years my calories go down on the calculator until 80 then it shows maintain guess they figure you can party after 80! Woohoo hurry up 80 I want pie!
Amber Tx
My Husband hears me go from giggly bubbly bouncy to grumpy grouchy y pot clanging while growling he tells me to stop 🛑 cleaning or anything shoves me in a shower takes JR lol. Lol I just agggghhhh bath 🛀! Lol 😂 I’m like a grumpy old bear 🐻 who loves its wading pool lol. He yells order pizza!!! Lol 😆 then I think am I really this bad? Yes yes I am after toddler melt downs a few weeks to trying to balance everything. I get that moment always during a period ,hot flash city days,or ovulating time of the month! So seems to be tied to hormones don’t tell the Men!2 -
margaretturk wrote: »Adding to the coelius show. This is from one plant. I pinch them back as they start to grow so it fills out.
Margaret
Margaret, does pinching back work with all plants? I have the ugliest plant in my living room and I’m ready to throw it out. It’s green leaves with little pink dots on it. It has long stems that are quite woody with leaves only at the top. If pinching back would work to make it bushier I might be inclined to keep it, but I’m not at all sure how to even go about it. Can you tell I’m not a gardener? 🙂1 -
happy Anniversary, Machka - that cat cafe looks fun!
I was just sitting here reading about everyone's various projects, pantries, decluttering, etc. My current project is finding all my photos (from when we actually printed those things), then editing (ie: throwing away some), sorting by approximate date -- all in order to send them off to be scanned. I am SO HAPPY to have found a scanning service; you pay a flat fee, they send you a prepaid box to put a maximum number of photos in, you send it in the post and they return it to you in a couple weeks. I didn't think this would be so emotional. I am dealing with photos of people I have cut out of my life (abuse, divorce, toxic relationships) and I guess I just didn't think of that. I sorta thought it would be nostalgic and fun. In any case, it's been interesting and I can't do it for long periods because I become morose. But after "editing" (ie. throwing away) various photos, it's actually very freeing, too. After starting out doing it for a couple hours, I am down to doing it for 10 minutes at a time. It is great to split up a task in minutes. As someone said, it is amazing what you can get done in that short a time -- and best of all, it doesn't seem as overwhelming.
Having a good Sunday morning here, although I sure was up early. Hydro went off at 5:20am for scheduled maintenance and it woke me up and kept me up, as my sound machine stopped. I'm going to have to take a nap at some point today. I'll never make it to my normal bedtime. Have a great Sunday, ladies!
-Shannon in Ontario Canada
What service is that Shannon?1 -
Carol - Editing a book and getting it print ready is quite an operation and I need a decent programme . I have Googled and found out I can transfer my old 2003 if I take it off my old laptop. Definitely don't want to do that. :noway:
I think I can buy one outright. Will have to take the money out of savings. I can't do a monthly pay as I don't have much income. What a pain. If I didn't need Word for my book I would just abandon it. I can't even claim it off tax as I don't earn enough to pay tax.
Why do those b....... have to make life so difficult? I do NOT need a quarter of the bells and whistles they try to get you to use. It's a bombardment. For everyday use my Android tablet is great. Maybe I'll just get my old laptop cleaned. It is super slow with loads of glitches.
Grrrrrrrrrr!
Bananas - Most of the time we shuffle along very well. Occasionally we rub each other up the wrong way. We met on line 16 years ago and will have been married 15 years this November. Best thing I ever did. We both prize our independence, but love each other's company.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx4 -
Heather, you might look at Scrivener for writing software. I believe it's cheaper than Word and has some better features for writing books. It takes a bit of setting up though. Kind of like an index card and notebook system; you have to decide for yourself how to organize the text, but then it's easy to move around sections.
Annie in Delaware2 -
jojoSwanson wrote: »Hi, I am really struggling to log every day, I am struggling to make a plan for myself for the day for the week, and I’m struggling to stick to any plans since I haven’t really made a super good plan in the first place. I could use a little extra motivation on how you go about making your eating plan for the day and week to make sure you get your nutrients. Do you plan out a perfect day and then try to follow something similar to that every day? Do you plan out a week of what y’all and we are basically? Are you conscious and checking in every two hours and logging everything you eat to make sure you’re staying in track and then making decisions as you go during the day? Or are you planning your day and your week in advance and then just following the plan?
I eat basically the same things every day, so I go in and prelog my week.
Then if I make some changes, it's just one or two things.
M in Oz
I do the same daily. I log my eating diary in the morning with a menu and stay with it during the day. If it changes it would be just one thing... I find that keeps me motivated .. / Dea for Oz1 -
Dea OZ- That’s a good idea! I find if I meal plan in the morning I know my food mood so do the same pre log my snack for the end of the day (So I don’t use those calories up lol need my 70cal sugar free Dryers ice cream or 40cal popsicle brand sugar free’ pops y granola or cereal 🥣) I also prelog Brunch. If I can Dinner but that one always changes it seems (I made enough for Dinner too but Hubby liked it so much lol none left).
I used to be a professional cleaner had so many jobs in a day exhausted was my name lol. You learn tricks to keep going so you can hit what needs it more! I passed white glove to swan tests lol was only one who could because I knew what’s important!
1.Can’t skip toilets 🚽 or microwaves
2.Can’t skip dishes but can personal them while you work! So easier time to scrub! I wash after every meal never end of day!
3.Coffee pots can run vinegar through while you clean them use it for toilet scrubbing or kitchen sink cleaning! Or in other pots/pans that have stuck on grease y mess!
4.kitchen counters spot clean all day but go over all of them once after Dinner to get it all!
5. Vacuum only dirty rooms no need to vacuum a good looking one! Can use vacuum still plugged in on tile floors to get some hair y stuff up as you go.
6. Sweep areas you see big stuff like under kitchen counters,in front of refrigerator,y doorways,y snaking couch 🛋,every meal the dinner table! But clean counter y table first so crumbs are on floor.
7. Mop where needed only rest is fine. Can seal with wax cleaner after so it’s easier for weeks.
8. Laundry 🧺 can run while you work stick it on dryer as you go into a basket (unless your a no wrinkle person) then hang up as you go a few at a time.
9. Clean faucets once every couple days.
10. Once a month hit things you want to tackle from ceiling fans (before sweeping y mopping) to organizing something.
11. Beds made or not doesn’t matter unless visitors are coming.
12. Kids messes save for end of day clean once before bed!
Hubby y me realized everything we eats fiber ridden! We’re loosing weight because we’re always on the pot! Good news is no constipation even if we want it lol.
Amber Tx1 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »
Bananas - Most of the time we shuffle along very well. Occasionally we rub each other up the wrong way. We met on line 16 years ago and will have been married 15 years this November. Best thing I ever did. We both prize our independence, but love each other's company.
that's so nice to read!
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