Less Alcohol - DECEMBER 2019 - One Day at a Time
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Thankyou MissMay the thread helped us Hubby y (me the support system) to make it through the holidays.See you next year same time same issues. Someday will walk into a restaurant to family event the drink list to drink table won’t tempt like it has. (I try to make the waitress take it y while he wants to look at it then regrets it ) . One sip is fine for some - others it leads to a table full of empty glasses y regret. Hugs have a Happy 20202
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JRsLateInLifeMom wrote: »Thankyou MissMay the thread helped us Hubby y (me the support system) to make it through the holidays.See you next year same time same issues. Someday will walk into a restaurant to family event the drink list to drink table won’t tempt like it has. (I try to make the waitress take it y while he wants to look at it then regrets it ) . One sip is fine for some - others it leads to a table full of empty glasses y regret. Hugs have a Happy 2020
Thank you, same to you too!2 -
@JRsLateInLifeMom you are very welcome for all of our threads participants combined efforts to help you and your husband through the holiday pull towards too much.
We want to THANK YOU as well for all the very informative lists you provided to us while you visited. Be well and less drinking success to you both. See you next year! 😉4 -
Made it 4 1/2 months AF, and am tasting my limits...LOL. I just saw that I typed "tasting" instead of "testing"...calling Dr. Freud.
Anyway, stopping at 3 wee 3 ounce glasses is my limit, but one or two is enough. Four leads to the thought of five, and directly to the bottom of the bottle. Keeping a good supply of AF beer, because there is no need to wine every night. It's my choice, and I'm the one making my choices. With a little help from Cat who hates the smell of alcohol.
@MissMay , I'm joining you in the crowd in @marcvb35 's car, encouraging him to detour around the liquor store. We all know that it's a bumpy road. Hang in there !!5 -
@MissMay ...thank you for your recent NOT post.2
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@forestdweller1 are you testing us, to see if we are reading your posts correctly?? LOL Hey you have had one heck of an AF run indeed.WOW 4.5 months...that is control and determination. GIANT applaud to you woman.
We have all tested the waters and done our share of falling face first into the puddle. I have faith you will know when enough is enough.
Car is filling up fast, you may have to sit on my lap.🤣3 -
forestdweller1 wrote: »Made it 4 1/2 months AF, and am tasting my limits...LOL. I just saw that I typed "tasting" instead of "testing"...calling Dr. Freud.
Anyway, stopping at 3 wee 3 ounce glasses is my limit, but one or two is enough. Four leads to the thought of five, and directly to the bottom of the bottle. Keeping a good supply of AF beer, because there is no need to wine every night. It's my choice, and I'm the one making my choices. With a little help from Cat who hates the smell of alcohol.
@MissMay , I'm joining you in the crowd in @marcvb35 's car, encouraging him to detour around the liquor store. We all know that it's a bumpy road. Hang in there !!
Nice job! 4 1/2 months is quite a nice stretch.4 -
Office Christmas party tonight. I did drink but I definitely had less than I normally would so that counts as a win. I even left when there was still wine in my glass and an unfinished bottle on the table. Bonus points for being home and in bed at a sensible time given it's a work day tomorrow.8
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my car did feel full on the drive home. all my flasks and whisky bottles are empty since i typically finish what i start! all i have in the house is enough vodka (leftover bloody mary sunday) for about one stiff drink (maybe 4-6oz) but i don't like vodka much!
learned how to loose weight 2 years ago without exercise. 2 months ago i quit smoking but started vaping, now i am trying to quit that, and i really do like having a drink (nope don't want to quit just yet) i just need to slow down
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With the holidays coming up it is time to remind myself again that alcohol is its own experience. It does not, for me, make Christmas merry and bright. In excess it just dampens it because I do not feel my best. I may have something toward the very end of my holiday time off.. new year's day probably... but not before then. I do not want to risk getting the amount wrong and feeling bad if I have other plans.
One of the bad excuses I used to drink during the holidays was that I didn't stop soon enough before to deal with the 2 to 3 days of insomnia that I would face. I didn't want to do that over the holidays so I told myself I had to keep going. I now realize I was setting myself up for that very scenario. I would think about cutting it out the week before but I would keep saying just one more night until it was too late. It was probably never too late but it was one of the (many) lies I told myself.
I had some anxiety when I drank but it was definitely amplified over the holidays. There was just so many more opportunities I could make an kitten out of myself or diminish the holiday for someone else or both. Now that I am capable of better mindful decisions I do not have do deal with that anxiety.
I don't think I need an excuse or justification to drink if I am moderating. I either choose to do it or I don't.
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@NovusDies you wrote what I think many of us also feel during the holidays. The big step is admitting it. We dont have to follow the pack if we dont want to.
Enjoy the holidays whatever way makes you feel best, without guilt.3 -
my car did feel full on the drive home. all my flasks and whisky bottles are empty since i typically finish what i start! all i have in the house is enough vodka (leftover bloody mary sunday) for about one stiff drink (maybe 4-6oz) but i don't like vodka much!
learned how to loose weight 2 years ago without exercise. 2 months ago i quit smoking but started vaping, now i am trying to quit that, and i really do like having a drink (nope don't want to quit just yet) i just need to slow down
thank you all for the support
💜💜💜 small steps....BIG results.2 -
helen_goldthorpe wrote: »Office Christmas party tonight. I did drink but I definitely had less than I normally would so that counts as a win. I even left when there was still wine in my glass and an unfinished bottle on the table. Bonus points for being home and in bed at a sensible time given it's a work day tomorrow.
Nice job while out having Christmas cheer and being responsible.3 -
My goal is 16-20 AF days for the month.
I didn't get there in October, ended up with 10 or 11AF days
November tally 19AF days out of 30 days.
New month : - )
December 01 - 3 drinks
December 02 - AF
December 03 - 3 drinks, Tuesday.
December 04 - AF - Time to rack up a few AF days before all of the holiday festivities. Or at least try to get back to 2AF days in between drinks days.
December 05 - AF
December 06 - 3 drinks - I felt them more than usual, just 2 AF days, but they really hit me. Mind you, I barely eat during the day when I am running around working. I am thinking of you @Womona when you say that they are hitting you more strongly since you have cut down. Many glasses of water since the drinks, and off to bed soon.
December 07 - AF - had the urge several times, just waited it out.
December 8 - A bunch of drinks starting with a tree decorating at a friend's place. Tried to keep it at a half shot per drink to stay less alcohol. Kind of lost track, but they were all very small. All good. Planning on AF tomorrow. Tuesday is yet to be seen.
December 09 - AF
December 10 - AF - Yes, it is a Tuesday, my designated drinks day, but I am having a very busy week and have a party to go to on Friday where I might have drinks, so skipping the drinks tonight.
December 11 - AF - Really fought that urge many times after work, but stayed AF. Trying to rack a few up before all of the holiday parties.
December 12 - AF. Made up a pot of Mulled Wine to take to the party tomorrow night. Tasted it a few times with a fraction of a teaspoon and adjusted the sugar, but am not counting that. I really wanted to have a few glasses of it because it tasted so good, but I will have some at the party tomorrow. AF 4 days in a row for the first time @MissMay!
December 13 - Mulled wine. So glad that I didn't give in to it Thursday night while cooking it, because it tasted amazing having sat 24 hours. Feeling a bit foggy today (the 14th).
December 14 - AF
December 15 - 3 drinks. Started with the leftover mulled wine that wouldn't fit in the vessel to take to the party (2 or 3 ounces), then kind of went "well, not going to be an AF day. That is how it goes for me. AF tomorrow for sure.
December 16 - AF
December 17 - Tuesday, 3 drinks. I definitely eat more, and different things when I have alcohol, which is one of the very big reasons to decide to cut back. At my own pace. Your post about other ways to de-stress @MissMay is so lovely and important. I am still using booze to numb myself and relax after stressful days. For sure I understand that deprivation leads to bingeing, so I am not depriving myself by giving myself "drinks days" but I still think that I can do better. I still eat sandwiches, but I only eat 1/2 of one now, for instance. By cutting back on drinking I am limiting the days that I do it. Work in progress.
Running Tally: 10 AF day out of 17 days so far.4 -
So many great posts today, I don't know where to start. Or maybe I should just say a big thank you to our little community for sharing and uplifting.
@MissMay always, you are such a rockstar.
@NovusDies your words are inspiring and jolting all at the same time. Yes, the holidays are better when alert! I am planning some hot apple cider for a few events eschewing mulled wine (yes I will still be making it for some requested events, but for others will bring the hot mulled cider)
@marcvb35 Yup, was in the car with all the others, pulling for you!
@helen_goldthorpe Good on you for partaking but keeping it reasonable. I love the way that you prioritize your goals and make them happen. An inspiration for sure!
@forestdweller1 Still laughing about test/taste : - ) You did great! and you are so right, we are the ones making the choices. Very sage.
and @LoveyChar - Well, you are just lovey : - )
Happy to be a part of this group, especially around the holiday season when we are all encountering lots of parties and celebrations...and challenges.
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Lots of good posts! It’s been a busy month for all. I have not been as successful as I had hoped - just 5 days AF this month, but that’s five more than last year and my indulgence has not been more than two glasses. So that’s good! More parties this week but going to try and get a few more days without wine this week! Keep up the good work all, I like how we can change habits and make changes, even if they are small!4
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@SanDiegofitmom yes - one thing I've noticed is that other than last night, all my drinking days have just been one drink. So although there have been four or five of them, that could easily have been just one night's consumption in other years. Just counting the days doesn't always give the full picture.
I have another event today but need to cycle home afterwards so that should just be one at most again, then I actually have a fairly clear run through to Christmas with nothing major planned.
Anyway, it's 6am and I don't feel too bad. I have a very easy and short workout planned for this morning and there shouldn't be a problem getting myself out of bed to do it.5 -
@SanDiegofitmom I feel you have been very successful this month in comparison to last December. You were struggling a lot last year, so much going on in your life. I remember you said you would not buy the alcohol you liked but then would go drink your husbands even though you did not care for it. Then having to move and find another place to live. That right there is stress. It warms my heart that you came back in here to get on track and to get our support again.
Guess we all will be attending those parties with you to keep you focused! Going to need to buy a small bus to get us all around.
Enjoy(to your limit)3 -
*Feeling comfort and joy today. ❄🌲💜
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drank half my normal last night. had bad dreams and woke up shaking, sweating, and in pain but i do not think it was from the dreaming.
tonight i do not plan on buying a bottle. probably should have tapered down longer but i realize i finish the bottle or pass out. hopefully i see you all tomorrow.
12/13 - well i made it till 7pm. then the wife found out only one day tapering before drinking again on the weekend. we went out and got a bottle to ration out. i set a less aggressive goal that shouldn't shock the body to much. slept great!
12/14 - had my rations last night. slept good. same rations today. less tomorrow. never has a bottle lasted so long
12/15 - epic fail.
12/16 - new week. i know i have the willpower to food diet so today i start my alcohol diet. again.
12/17 - slightly less. slept way to good. if i can resist buying a bottle on the way home, tonight will be just one night cap.
12/18 - well i did not catch a buzz from the night cap, i woke up many times last night, that means that i must have fell asleep just as many times, over 600 calories under goal without my normal whisky calories. going to try and not pick up a bottle till friday.4 -
6:43 am in Vegas another 24 💖5
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My goal is 16-20 AF days for the month.
I didn't get there in October, ended up with 10 or 11AF days
November tally 19AF days out of 30 days.
New month : - )
December 01 - 3 drinks
December 02 - AF
December 03 - 3 drinks, Tuesday.
December 04 - AF - Time to rack up a few AF days before all of the holiday festivities. Or at least try to get back to 2AF days in between drinks days.
December 05 - AF
December 06 - 3 drinks - I felt them more than usual, just 2 AF days, but they really hit me. Mind you, I barely eat during the day when I am running around working. I am thinking of you @Womona when you say that they are hitting you more strongly since you have cut down. Many glasses of water since the drinks, and off to bed soon.
December 07 - AF - had the urge several times, just waited it out.
December 8 - A bunch of drinks starting with a tree decorating at a friend's place. Tried to keep it at a half shot per drink to stay less alcohol. Kind of lost track, but they were all very small. All good. Planning on AF tomorrow. Tuesday is yet to be seen.
December 09 - AF
December 10 - AF - Yes, it is a Tuesday, my designated drinks day, but I am having a very busy week and have a party to go to on Friday where I might have drinks, so skipping the drinks tonight.
December 11 - AF - Really fought that urge many times after work, but stayed AF. Trying to rack a few up before all of the holiday parties.
December 12 - AF. Made up a pot of Mulled Wine to take to the party tomorrow night. Tasted it a few times with a fraction of a teaspoon and adjusted the sugar, but am not counting that. I really wanted to have a few glasses of it because it tasted so good, but I will have some at the party tomorrow. AF 4 days in a row for the first time @MissMay!
December 13 - Mulled wine. So glad that I didn't give in to it Thursday night while cooking it, because it tasted amazing having sat 24 hours. Feeling a bit foggy today (the 14th).
December 14 - AF
December 15 - 3 drinks. Started with the leftover mulled wine that wouldn't fit in the vessel to take to the party (2 or 3 ounces), then kind of went "well, not going to be an AF day. That is how it goes for me. AF tomorrow for sure.
December 16 - AF
December 17 - Tuesday, 3 drinks. I definitely eat more, and different things when I have alcohol, which is one of the very big reasons to decide to cut back. At my own pace. Your post about other ways to de-stress @MissMay is so lovely and important. I am still using booze to numb myself and relax after stressful days. For sure I understand that deprivation leads to bingeing, so I am not depriving myself by giving myself "drinks days" but I still think that I can do better. I still eat sandwiches, but I only eat 1/2 of one now, for instance. By cutting back on drinking I am limiting the days that I do it. Work in progress.
December 18 - AF - Planning on Champagne at midnight at a party in Northern Idaho with some close friends on NYE. I have decided that I am going to make and bring hot spiced cider to have around the bonfire and leading up to midnight. Not a heavy drinking crowd. I won't be AF for the last night of the year, but I will be less alcohol. Yes, planning in advance.
Running Tally: 11 AF day out of 18 days so far.1 -
12/18 - well i did not catch a buzz from the night cap, i woke up many times last night, that means that i must have fell asleep just as many times, over 600 calories under goal without my normal whisky calories. going to try and not pick up a bottle till friday.
Great plan @marcvb35 to pre-plan for the upcoming days. Being aware, concious and accountable are all very healthy towards what you want to achieve. Sorry your still not sleeping soundly.
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6:43 am in Vegas another 24 💖
So I am guessing you must be the only AF person in Vegas @whitpauly , LOL. Your a great inspiration being that Vegas is known to be party city.4 -
@dawnbgethealthy also pre-planning for NYE! 😊 Can't believe the end of 2019 is so near. You have done so well this last year.5
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Another AF for me to.
This Saturday night some of hubbies relatives are popping over to see our tree, etc. They are big drinkers, and always give hard liquor as gifts. They get offended if you don't toast with them.....blah, blah, blah.
The male of the group always acts as if it is the first time he has ever heard anyone say "no thank you" to taking a shot with him.
Misery loves company. And clearly he is insecure if he can not handle someone not getting hammered with them.
Tis the season4 -
drank half my normal last night. had bad dreams and woke up shaking, sweating, and in pain but i do not think it was from the dreaming.
tonight i do not plan on buying a bottle. probably should have tapered down longer but i realize i finish the bottle or pass out. hopefully i see you all tomorrow.
12/13 - well i made it till 7pm. then the wife found out only one day tapering before drinking again on the weekend. we went out and got a bottle to ration out. i set a less aggressive goal that shouldn't shock the body to much. slept great!
12/14 - had my rations last night. slept good. same rations today. less tomorrow. never has a bottle lasted so long
12/15 - epic fail.
12/16 - new week. i know i have the willpower to food diet so today i start my alcohol diet. again.
12/17 - slightly less. slept way to good. if i can resist buying a bottle on the way home, tonight will be just one night cap.
12/18 - well i did not catch a buzz from the night cap, i woke up many times last night, that means that i must have fell asleep just as many times, over 600 calories under goal without my normal whisky calories. going to try and not pick up a bottle till friday.
12/19 - did not have a good night. less then 2oz in the vodka bottle, drank it at 6pm. layed in bed at 11:30pm - followed my rules and didn't get out of bed till morning regardless of any sleep.6 -
6:22 am in Vegas another 24,@MissMay that reminds me of that clip when Connor McGregor poured a shot for the old man in the bar and he refused it so Connor punched him! Not funny but the visual of your family members getting all irritated if you pass up the drink reminds me of that 😆 hope everyone has a fabulous day 💗3
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i do not always do things the healthiest way. right now i am all fueled up with rage against my dependencies on food, alcohol, and nicotine.5
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