Let it GO! Decluttering (simplifying) your life of (people, places or things) success stories?

NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »

Thinking about my lifechanging/eye-opening thread:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10620293/let-it-go-decluttering-simplifying-your-life-of-people-places-or-things-success-stories/p78

I've gone from obese to so-called normal weight (from 219.8lbs size 22w to 138.6lbs size 6/8 from doing these things here (and more), but just wanted to share--in case someone will find it helpful and "needful".

I'm going to post what I'm writing here over there too, but wanted to start a new thread here, just for a wider audience, so to speak. Here it is:

Give Y/OURSELF the "gift" of freedom and CHANGE starting today and forevermore!

Y/our lives will FOREVER change (for the better, not only for ourselves, but for everyone around us if/as we implement the following:
#1.
DO IT Y/OURSELVES and DO IT WITH A SMILE ON YOUR FACE & JOY in your heart + FEAR IS AN ENEMY OF YOURS--FEAR IS AGAINST YOU...NOT FOR YOU, period.

One of my biggest and bitterness inducing issues with weight blastification and a LOT more, was my personal major mistake/issue of either wanting someone to do something that "I" thought they should be doing (to help me or themselves--but mainly to "help" me). I discovered that the old fashioned saying of "if you want something done right, DO it yourself"--is not only freeing but true...but what I didn't know about that wise saying is doing stuff yourself (instead of depending/hoping/wishing/enabling) that someone else would do it (this INCLUDES wanting someone (besides yourself) to be cheering you on, doing it with/for you (not just for you), etc.) and making SURE when you do it yourself, you do it without one ounce of bitterness, anger, regret, fear and woe-is-me, no one is helping me, I can't do this alone or this is too hard by myself attitude/spirit). Doing it for YOURSELF, with JOY and with the mind-set of I "get" to do this, instead of I "have" to do this--will change your life forever for the better. Now #2 goes along with this

#2. YOU ARE THE "BOSS" OF YOUR THOUGHTS, period.
Another major league stumbling block in making major wonderful life/lifestyle changes is the way we think. Our thinking is a major contributing factor to the YUCK in our lives, it REALLY it. Example...in number 1 above, instead of thinking "why can't they (or even "I") ever (fill in the blank)" and WHY do they do whatever it is they're doing to upset me, and instead, MAKE yourself forever FORSAKE/FORGET the trying to figure out WHY and just do what needs to be done YOURSELF--to be the BEST/A BETTER you ever, make yourself think differently about having someone on your side, in your corner and them doing what YOU want them to (Control/controlling issues WILL bite you and make things harder than they have to be FOR YOU and them). If you know/believe someone is trying to control you--YOU have the power to stop it, you really do...it may take some time and lifestyle changes and choices, but you have everything you need to change, starting with your mind and thoughts--sounds simple, because if you get down to the truth/the brass tax, it is)!

Make yourself think differently about it, no exceptions. EVER keeping in the forethought of your mind "if I keep doing what I'm doing...I'M GOING TO KEEP GETTING WHAT I'M GETTING (again, sounds simple, because it is). Instead, look at it this way--"they got those blasted socks are on the floor AGAIN, after me asking/telling/begging them to pick them up everyday--all the time! I can't stand them... they are such a (fill in the blank) and make my life miserable because they won't (fill in the blank). Instead, just pick the blasted socks up for the upteenth time, and REFUSE to let it bother you another second--NOT another day. Why? Because the poison you swallow as you "give them a "piece of your mind" and/or show them" what will continue to happen TO YOU is major league funky YUCK inside your heart, mind, spirit and LIFE/experience and super build foul resentment to build/grow IN YOU, will color all of your thoughts, actions and deeds AND isn't going to make them do it and will make you all sick, tired and feel all mean and evil and whatnot and this yuck way of thinking and behaving will wind up hurting you much more than it will hurt them (no matter how much that doesn't make sense to us).

MAKE yourself think "I'll pick these socks up with joy--because I can", NO BIG DEAL AT ALL or even I won't pick these socks up...BUT, I will REFUSE to allow seeing them/it to bother me another second--why should I put myself through the fuss and woe, when they don't care or are bothered by it one wit--it's only me with the "problem" so NAH, no more--why continue to do this to MYSELF? It's a HUGE concept and a definitely NOT NATURAL (to/for most people). Our thoughts are NOT us, we can CHOOSE/DECIDE to accept THESE COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE/IT AINT WORKING AT ALL THOUGHTS and dwell on them/feed them and/or kick them to the curb (stomping on them before we do) and CHOOSE/DECIDE to look at whatever's going on in us--that we are "thinking about" (that's making YOU lose sleep, overeat/over drink or doing something unhealthy and unproductive in and thru YOU, NOT THEM and STOP IT, immediately if not sooner, period. Make yourself look at whatever is bugging the mess outta you from a different perspective. Do it and watch what fabulosity happens in and thru YOU!

Example: FROM: "They NEVER pick their socks up or they're ALWAYS late". TO: "Well, They don't ALWAYS not pick their socks up, sometimes they do pick them up" (challenging your thoughts instead of welcoming and petting them as true/real. Not/NO LONGER/REFUSE in/to believing everything you think (without REALLY checking to see if what you're thinking is true vs. exaggerated or influenced/peppered with/by negative/nasty attitudes having their way with you Also, make yourself question what's troubling you then DARE to look at it another way, make yourself SEE that you what YOU are believing about everything you think is true is causing A WHOLE LOTTA unnecessary and unhealthy wars and strife and if they don't care about what's troubling you, ask yourself why I am making a big deal of this? Is this REALLY a big deal--really? If not, kick it to the curb by making your question question your thoughts and DO THE OPPOSITE of what your thoughts are trying their darnest to keep you all stressed and drama/trauma filled--which will push you to doing/thinking/being some destructive MESS.

TELL yourself instead: "I can pick them up for them again as much as they leave them out or I can leave them there--BUT WHAT I'M NOT GONNA DO, FROM THIS DAY FORTH, I'm no longer going to make this a hill I die on, period. Or perhaps it's some irritating issues like if they are always late, instead of getting all bent outta shape and P'O'd, tell yourself I know this about them, I know how they "roll"--so why am I allowing myself to get in a tizzy about this. I'll just carry on without them AND HAVE FUN DOING IT ALONE/WITHOUT THEM and if they finally get it one day, terrific and if not, terrific. It is what it is and my getting bent out of shape out THE WAY I'M CHOOSING TO is only me hurting me, myself and I (Far more than them)--NO MORE, challenge that woe is me thoughts with I'm tired/fed-up with what I'm DOING TO MYSELF, this being a slave to my thoughts is DEAD and STANKY, I don't have to live/think this way anymore--I can CHANGE/CHOOSE my thinking about everything and what will happen in/thru/to me if/WHEN I do? I'll become stronger and stronger to make better changes--bigger changes, changes that will help me make wiser, tougher choices and decisions.

#3. It is UTTERLY amazing that 9 times outta 10...the VERY thing I'm judging/getting mad at (fill in the blank) I am guilty of myself (or could be) in one way or another--as I'm blame shifting someone about (fill in blank)...I'm guilty myself of the same thing OR at least sorta the same thing, so STOP IT! Make myself see the mass hypocrisy that is filling my thoughts, actions and deeds--STOP seeing myself as the "victim" and instead...see myself as the criminal (just a different kind of criminal perhaps--because my getting all mad, wrathful, bitter, disappointed is only making me feel and DO worse than what I'm accusing them of. This "getting even" shady business aint working out too swift to/for/with me/you--I'm so on the short end of the stick as I'm battling (losing battle BTW) with this person, place or thing. If I don't like what I'm getting...so therefore I CHOOSE/MUST/CHANGE the way I'm thinking and living and do whatever it takes to either get out of this situation or handle it in a totally completely different approach (my thoughts/actions and deeds). See that as I change the way I'm thinking about this person, place or thing...I get/feel stronger and better. Worse case scenario, I'll LEARN my lesson(s) from this person, place and thing and be grateful that as long as I'm living...I can change, period.

#4. The wonderful POWERFUL answer of NO! Saying (and with a I mean business attitude and spirit) of NO to people, places and things AND YOURSELF, period. You don't have to "go along to get along" if you don't want to--IT'S A CHOICE--NOBODY "MAKES" US DO/BE/THINK/SAY anything (no matter how much it seems like they do--it's a LIE (you've been thinking/believing), period. This saying NO is to yourself even more than to others is the stuff powerful champions of wisdom, strength, courage and everything in between is made of. Being a people pleaser is the worst, because it feeds bitterness, resentment, fear, complacency, co-dependence and more YUCK in/thru/to and with YOU. Saying "yes"--even hesitantly when you know you mean NO is the stuff of mess, wars and yuck are made of. What worse? Disappointing others or living with a big ole lie and mess because you refused to "let your "yay be yay and your nay be nay". Thinking and saying NO to what's not good to/for you and YES to what is good to and for you is everything, it REALLY is!

Lastly...

#5. Make yourself deal with and handle your wants and your needs. As we make choices solely on "wants" we find that what we need goes unnoticed and unfulfilled and puts us on a yucky merri-go-round of confusion and excess and more. Wants are terrific, but giving yourself over 100% to your wants and neglecting or making low priority what your REAL needs are, is the stuff Ugh is made of.

Start today purposely CHOOSING to go after (make a priority) of what you "need" vs. what you "want" and watch fabulous changes begin to happen in your life that you will grow to really love and appreciate (not to mention saving you a LOT of time, money, heartache and woe/regret). It's so tremendous that when you focus on your needs--you either fulfill your wants or simply/minimalizae them.

Evamutt wrote: »

Newlifestyle4me, I'm so happy for you, XS, wow! I bet you feel so wonderful & you look great! I also don't celebrate Christmas too much, no tree, only a few presents for the young grand kids. Every day is a meaningful day celebrating our Lord's birth, life & resurrection & this is the time of year where it's actually hard for me to focus on Him because of all the lights, presents, decorations, shopping etc. being blasted from every side. I'm glad when it's over. I'v e been de-cluttering little by little over the years. I used to keep everything in case I'll need it but I managed to get rid of many things. What I need to part with is extra bed sheets I never use but they're nice so I have them in the closet, & some more of my books, the ones I know I won't read again but I really enjoyed them & go through my tops again & get rid of more that I keep bringing out every winter season but never wear, it's not easy

{{{{ Waving a JOYFUL Hi to you Eva }}}}}