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When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo5 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea3 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!3 -
When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
wait.
Let's say hypothetically, you're mad at me (which, ironically, isn't much of a stretch; I digress.) & I'm not angry back at you. The question then is: Should I act angry back at you?
I think maybe the rational thing to do is to discuss and defuse the situation, no matter the perceived socially acceptable approach.
If I'm angry at you (which, ironically, isn't much of a stretch; I digress.) and you don't act angry back at me, I would wonder if my anger is misplaced.
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sweet_ermengarde wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!
All my demons are teetotalers, this is terrible 😭1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
wait.
Let's say hypothetically, you're mad at me (which, ironically, isn't much of a stretch; I digress.) & I'm not angry back at you. The question then is: Should I act angry back at you?
I think maybe the rational thing to do is to discuss and defuse the situation, no matter the perceived socially acceptable approach.
If I'm angry at you (which, ironically, isn't much of a stretch; I digress.) and you don't act angry back at me, I would wonder if my anger is misplaced.
You could date my mom and all my sisters simultaneously and I still can’t imagine getting mad at you ❤️
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Motorsheen wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
wait.
Let's say hypothetically, you're mad at me (which, ironically, isn't much of a stretch; I digress.) & I'm not angry back at you. The question then is: Should I act angry back at you?
I think maybe the rational thing to do is to discuss and defuse the situation, no matter the perceived socially acceptable approach.
If I'm angry at you (which, ironically, isn't much of a stretch; I digress.) and you don't act angry back at me, I would wonder if my anger is misplaced.
You could date my mom and all my sisters simultaneously and I still can’t imagine getting mad at you ❤️
..... tell me more about your mom.
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Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
wait.
Let's say hypothetically, you're mad at me (which, ironically, isn't much of a stretch; I digress.) & I'm not angry back at you. The question then is: Should I act angry back at you?
I think maybe the rational thing to do is to discuss and defuse the situation, no matter the perceived socially acceptable approach.
If I'm angry at you (which, ironically, isn't much of a stretch; I digress.) and you don't act angry back at me, I would wonder if my anger is misplaced.
You could date my mom and all my sisters simultaneously and I still can’t imagine getting mad at you ❤️
..... tell me more about your mom.
Well.. her first car was a brand new red Challenger she paid for with her own money 😁4 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!
All my demons are teetotalers, this is terrible 😭
Terrible, but also, not so terrible.... when you take alcohol out of the equation, it simply removes one layer of potential conflict and let's one achieve greater focus on the true issues as hand.2 -
Motorsheen wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!
All my demons are teetotalers, this is terrible 😭
Terrible, but also, not so terrible.... when you take alcohol out of the equation, it simply removes one layer of potential conflict and let's one achieve greater focus on the true issues as hand.
Quit being so reasonable, it’s rude1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!
All my demons are teetotalers, this is terrible 😭
Terrible, but also, not so terrible.... when you take alcohol out of the equation, it simply removes one layer of potential conflict and let's one achieve greater focus on the true issues as hand.
Quit being so reasonable, it’s rudeMotorsheen wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!
All my demons are teetotalers, this is terrible 😭
Terrible, but also, not so terrible.... when you take alcohol out of the equation, it simply removes one layer of potential conflict and let's one achieve greater focus on the true issues as hand.
Quit being so reasonable, it’s rude
Sorry, I'll try to revert back to acting like a *kitten*, *kitten*.
So, what are you wearing?1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!
All my demons are teetotalers, this is terrible 😭
Terrible, but also, not so terrible.... when you take alcohol out of the equation, it simply removes one layer of potential conflict and let's one achieve greater focus on the true issues as hand.
Quit being so reasonable, it’s rudeMotorsheen wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!
All my demons are teetotalers, this is terrible 😭
Terrible, but also, not so terrible.... when you take alcohol out of the equation, it simply removes one layer of potential conflict and let's one achieve greater focus on the true issues as hand.
Quit being so reasonable, it’s rude
Sorry, I'll try to revert back to acting like a *kitten*, *kitten*.
So, what are you wearing?
Do you kiss my mother with that mouth?1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!
All my demons are teetotalers, this is terrible 😭
Terrible, but also, not so terrible.... when you take alcohol out of the equation, it simply removes one layer of potential conflict and let's one achieve greater focus on the true issues as hand.
Quit being so reasonable, it’s rudeMotorsheen wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
personally, i’m always down for a fight. to get yourself in the mood just think back to all the perceived slights youve ever got from them, and even mix up those memories with any other bad history u have with other people bc dragging your demons along for the ride really makes it escalate nicely imo
This sounds exhausting, can i drink first or is that a bad idea
oh, drinking is encouraged!
All my demons are teetotalers, this is terrible 😭
Terrible, but also, not so terrible.... when you take alcohol out of the equation, it simply removes one layer of potential conflict and let's one achieve greater focus on the true issues as hand.
Quit being so reasonable, it’s rude
Sorry, I'll try to revert back to acting like a *kitten*, *kitten*.
So, what are you wearing?
Do you kiss my mother with that mouth?
pffft.....
I Wish.1 -
KickTheSky wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
If these look the same, then you don't have to do anything
That’s a good point 😁1 -
KickTheSky wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
If these look the same, then you don't have to do anything
That’s a good point 😁
see?
..... you got all hot and bothered over nuthin' !
(actually, you were hot before.... you just got yourself 'bothered'.)1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »KickTheSky wrote: »When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
If these look the same, then you don't have to do anything
That’s a good point 😁
see?
..... you got all hot and bothered over nuthin' !
(actually, you were hot before.... you just got yourself 'bothered'.)
Well i’ve been pretty good and bothered since 1993 if I’m honest 😏1 -
When someone is mad at you but you aren’t mad back, are you supposed to act mad anyway? Like never address them and give them the cold shoulder? Or do you treat them like you normally would? Do they perceive that as disingenuous? What is the socially acceptable thing to do? Which is more/less aggravating to you if you’re the aggrieved party? I never know how to handle this
If it's a chi... Excuse me, women 😏...
I usually just think it's hella funny and all adorable 🥰...
If it's a Dude...
I usually just think he's being a girl 🤷🏽♂️...4 -
Getting all excited about video chatting with our 3 adult kids who we haven't seen in months and months(except on the screen), then 3 minutes into the conversation there's that awkward silence because nobody has done anything different in the last 8 months.
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I have conflict hangover.
I’ve realized that there’s a reason I let people push me around rather than get into it with them. Sticking up for yourself is exhausting. Establishing boundaries might pay off in the long run, but it’s mentally taxing because it requires difficult, in-person conversations in which I’m easily railroaded, talked down to, or interrupted. Quietly dealing with someone’s disrespect was something I could do all by myself without ever having to have a conversation with anyone.
Having said that, I know that no change comes without discomfort.. but I do understand now that my passiveness was self-care of a different kind.8 -
I have conflict hangover.
I’ve realized that there’s a reason I let people push me around rather than get into it with them. Sticking up for yourself is exhausting. Establishing boundaries might pay off in the long run, but it’s mentally taxing because it requires difficult, in-person conversations in which I’m easily railroaded, talked down to, or interrupted. Quietly dealing with someone’s disrespect was something I could do all by myself without ever having to have a conversation with anyone.
Having said that, I know that no change comes without discomfort.. but I do understand now that my passiveness was self-care of a different kind.
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