The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Hi Friends, I am checking in to say hello. I love reading your honest posts. I bought a house on Valentine's Day. It's a cute little ranch, and I am excited. I will be living next door to one of my cousins. That's a big coincidence. I saw the house on Zillow but didn't know it was next door to him. Anyway, you probably remember many of my cousins are good people but alcoholics like me.
My sister called to congratulate me. She did offer a piece of advice, because she lives on the next street. She said when she moved into her home, my cousin would walk over and want to chat and have some beer. She said to be aware of that. I said well since my house rules will be and are currently "no alcohol stored in my home", he won't be having a beer at my house.
I also reflected how I used to do the same thing. I knew my friend, a fellow wino, would drink in the evenings. And I would go for a walk and on my way back, I would stop by to say hello. All with the intentions of having some wine and yes, conversation. But people like me do that. Always have alcohol on the brain- searching for a fix.5 -
@stephanne13 That is so awful. I'm sorry to hear how you fell and are injured. Best wishes for a speedy recovery. xo5
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Thank you, RR.
Is everyone all right? Seems to have been extra quiet these past couple of days..4 -
Loved that i found this post... been alcohol free for 150 days today ! Found it so hard as drunk (heavy) every single day ... ive been seeing a counsellor and im actually seeing life without alcohol more clearer ... my brain still has its mishaps thinking i can handle just one drink... but im a all or nothing .. so all my energy is going into my calorie counting and controlling life in another direction !11
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HI ALL
I was away dog sitting this week and didn't come onto MFP the entire week!! It's like I had giant brain fart and the wheels fell off the cart...can I blame it on menopause and the sketchy memory syndrome? It's nice see new & old faces and great comments, but it seems like it has been fairly quiet here all week.
@stephanne13 Yikes, Terrible injury....like you said a "wake-up call." Hope you can get the support you need here...lots of good references to articles, videos etc that has really helped me to fight the fine fight. In 3 more months I'll be 2 years AF and it feels like this is just my life now. The first 6 months was the worst for me and then after a year, it has become really normal. I really like not drinking. I should say, I like not "problem drinking." If I could drink I would, but I can't LOL (I think that was a Craig Ferguson line from his blurb about his alcohol problem) I have a definite problem with it & I never want to forget that. I hope you find what works for you.
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Kimberleyb81 wrote: »Loved that i found this post... been alcohol free for 150 days today ! Found it so hard as drunk (heavy) every single day ... ive been seeing a counsellor and im actually seeing life without alcohol more clearer ... my brain still has its mishaps thinking i can handle just one drink... but im a all or nothing .. so all my energy is going into my calorie counting and controlling life in another direction !
Congratulations of 150 days AF ~ I'm all or nothing also & I know there are others here can relate to that. I can also relate to the daily drinking habit for too many years. I'm glad you are getting some therapy around your drinking issue. It sounds like you're doing great. This thread is a great resource and I really hope you continue to share your ups & downs with us. 2 -
@RubyRed427 Congrats on the new digs...I'm excited for you!! 2
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@JenT304 I hope the dietician is the motivator you are looking for...it's such a struggle trying to get a handle on the weight thing...I do really good and then I fall off the wagon for a bit then on then off...I drive myself crazy!!! BUT we are still fighting to get control and that's what counts...keep us posted on your progress. 4
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@lloydrt Your comments are always so encouraging...and yes, honesty is the best policy and I too really appreciate the honesty here, because we are here for each other and the only way that will work is if we are real with ourselves and with each other.
OK, I'm done now...enough from moi LOL 4 -
So happy for you @RubyRed427 on the house purchase. Hope all is well with all of you!3
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Hi. I'm happy to find a sober thread on MFP. I'm just starting over after having 170 days AF. Currently on day 6. Wasn't even a huge relapse, but a few minor slips which I couldn't ignore. I think I've figured out somewhat why I relapsed and happy to get to a clear space again.
I'm calorie counting and doing 16:8 fasting, have put on about 15lbs since quitting drink 😕 comfort eating. So far so good two weeks into my renewed health efforts.6 -
Hi Friends, I'm doing well here. Now that spring is in the near future, my mood Is getting better. I got into a car accident this weekend. I was at a standstill waiting for people in front of me to turn across traffic, and then BAM a car behind me crashed into me like a missile. No skid marks. Two teens were in the car. They are lucky they weren't killed; their car's front end was like an accordion. My sturdy Audi didn't look nearly as bad. But it is bad. I was so bummed since I paid it off last month. As I sat waiting for the police, I did think "Thank God" I wasn't drinking that day. It was early evening, and I could have had wine with lunch but didn't. We were all ok, but it is a huge inconvenience to be without my car and driving a rental. But more importantly, it is another reminder how life can change so quickly. No one was injured. That's the important thing.6
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https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com
Great resource. Get on Belle's email list and you will get a daily reminder. Belle prints an email from a customer/participant of her program and reading letters written from the heart especially when I can relate is helpful. Here is today's excerpt ; I didn't copy and paste the whole thing but a snippet:
from today's email....."It has been so hard for me to reach out for help because I am so mortified that I can not control my drinking. I’m crying even writing this because the shame and embarrassment are just excruciating. It’s taken me years to admit this to myself. I have spent so long caring for others and pouring booze on my head as care to myself that I don’t really know what self care is. Yes I have the baths, and the tonic and cran, and treats, but your email about using bandaid to help a heart attack just reinforced that I feel like I have no *kitten* clue what I’m doing. "
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Hi. I'm happy to find a sober thread on MFP. I'm just starting over after having 170 days AF. Currently on day 6. Wasn't even a huge relapse, but a few minor slips which I couldn't ignore. I think I've figured out somewhat why I relapsed and happy to get to a clear space again.
I'm calorie counting and doing 16:8 fasting, have put on about 15lbs since quitting drink 😕 comfort eating. So far so good two weeks into my renewed health efforts.
What a bummer that you needed to start over. BUT that happened to me. I think I got to 174 days and drank. I really truly wish I didn't. But I commend you for getting back on track. It is a learning experience, and you are so wise and brave to get back to AF living. xo4 -
Kimberleyb81 wrote: »Loved that i found this post... been alcohol free for 150 days today ! Found it so hard as drunk (heavy) every single day ... ive been seeing a counsellor and im actually seeing life without alcohol more clearer ... my brain still has its mishaps thinking i can handle just one drink... but im a all or nothing .. so all my energy is going into my calorie counting and controlling life in another direction !
Me, too. One leads to ten...3 -
Hi Guys, I hope everyone is well. I have decided to make an appointment with a dietitian to come up with a plan to get rid of my extra weight and bring down my cholesterol. In preparation for our meeting, she asked me to keep a food diary. Well that alone is motivating me to eat well and not drink. However, I DID have wine yesterday on Valentine's Day...was not worth it as usual....crazy pounding heart in the middle of the night, dry mouth etc. It's such a terrible habit and addiction really. I'm so proud and envious of those of you that have really kicked alcohol's butt for good. I'm still struggling with it but I really hope having to be accountable to someone else (the dietitian) will help.
Great, that did help me cut it way down!3 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »Hi Friends, I am checking in to say hello. I love reading your honest posts. I bought a house on Valentine's Day. It's a cute little ranch, and I am excited. I will be living next door to one of my cousins. That's a big coincidence. I saw the house on Zillow but didn't know it was next door to him. Anyway, you probably remember many of my cousins are good people but alcoholics like me.
My sister called to congratulate me. She did offer a piece of advice, because she lives on the next street. She said when she moved into her home, my cousin would walk over and want to chat and have some beer. She said to be aware of that. I said well since my house rules will be and are currently "no alcohol stored in my home", he won't be having a beer at my house.
I also reflected how I used to do the same thing. I knew my friend, a fellow wino, would drink in the evenings. And I would go for a walk and on my way back, I would stop by to say hello. All with the intentions of having some wine and yes, conversation. But people like me do that. Always have alcohol on the brain- searching for a fix.
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Congratulations on all the hard work here! Me, too!3
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Good morning friends! @whitpauly starts and stops seem more difficult than just cutting the *kitten* out of your life. I'm proud of you!!!3
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It's sunny but cold today. I woke up feeling pretty good. It's funny how an evening after a stressful day can be so dark and despairing but when the morning comes, things look much better.
I also watched a pretty good movie on Hulu called Ma Ma with Penelope Cruz; it was a reminder to me that I have been seeing the glass half empty instead of counting my blessings. Today I will be sure to stop that "stinkin thinkin" and change my attitude. Love you all! @salleewins You are doing so well!! @JenT304 Very scary article about liver disease.5 -
2 deaths in the past week. Then a backstabbing person who was labeled "friend". - I was hoping to wake after my 3 hours of sleep more positive.
Not today but still sober. So counting the blessings.
Congrats @whitpauly. Im happy for you as well. We all know how hard it can be.
@RubyRed427 maybe I should watch that movie.7 -
@NArunner Welcome and congrats on Day 6!! Just noticed the disagree on your post and am fairly certain someone meant to hit "hug" and accidently hit "disagree" ... in case you care LOL3
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Hi Guys! I’m doing well and following posts every day. Just hard to post with the limited access in juvie lockup but LOVE my job and hanging in there with sobriety with just a few minor lapses. Ruby, I’m so happy for your house purchase. I’ve only purchased houses with husbands but have always thought it must be a good feeling to buy a big girl house on your own. Love to all in here. Xo.5
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Good morning all. I'm trying to persuade myself to post more on forums and make some connection with others who understand (connection being the antidote to addiction apparently!) Had a small drink at bedtime on Friday night, which was harmless but utterly useless... As in, it did nothing other than break my sober streak. So I'm now day #2. I really have to stop these little lapses. Hope all are staying encouraged 🤗5
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Good morning all. I'm trying to persuade myself to post more on forums and make some connection with others who understand (connection being the antidote to addiction apparently!) Had a small drink at bedtime on Friday night, which was harmless but utterly useless... As in, it did nothing other than break my sober streak. So I'm now day #2. I really have to stop these little lapses. Hope all are staying encouraged 🤗
Heck I've gone on full blown drunken nights that were absolutely NOT worth it,not fun and only made me sick and broke my streak 😭 at least yours was just a tiny drink which I'm sure you only took to try and sleep,Ruby congrats on the house! That's really cool 👍 6:23 am in Vegas another 24, everyone have a fabulous AF day 💗5 -
Good night friends, boy did I slip up last night. It was the perfect storm leading up to a binge.
One thing I have to get into my head is pick your friends wisely. I now can see how it will be a hard climb towards sobriety, if I still hang out with heavy drinkers. I always knew that but wanted to write it down here. So, I got on my phone this morning and canceled dinner dates with two friends who drink a lot! I Told them white lies and canceled. I have to protect my deepest desire to be sober. I found a very good article tonight. Thought I'd share it. https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/jun/24/alcoholism-continues-after-stop-drinking-15-years-sober-tanya-gold
@aroze0928 Sending you a big hug. Tough times.
@whitpauly not worth it at all
@donimfp I'm happy you are enjoying your job despite its difficulty. You are saving these children in so many ways.
@lorrainequiche59 You are a great motivator. xo
@NArunner Absolutely, addiction is too tricky and cunning to solve alone. We need each other. On this thread, we totally understand how you are feeling.9 -
Ruby, thanks for your honesty. I read the article you linked. Interesting. I could relate to “the voice” that told me since I was little “Everyone thinks you’re so special but it will never be enough “. I wonder how many of us have had that “You should just drink” voice since before we even knew what drinking was.
We now have 4 juveniles with us in for capital murder. They seem like the nicest boys ever. They don’t even remember what they did. They will be tried as adults and likely never leave prison yet they work on their math and English daily and are polite and eager to please and drink up praise like we all do.
One thing I can be grateful for about my own struggle is that I am able to have compassion for such misguided but ultimately good souls.
On a much lighter note, for me one of the greatest things about sobriety is waking up clear-headed and ready for a new day. I’ve been loving that lately. And this sounds so corny but when she was tiny and I asked my granddaughter what she did that day she’d say “snuggle with Mommy “. Now when I happen to wake up in the night not feeling panicked or dry-mouthed I just smile to myself and think I’m snuggling with God. I go right back to sleep.
Sorry for the long post. I’m just grateful. Can’t claim long and continuous sobriety yet but enough to understand the benefits. Best wishes to all.10 -
My last drink was rum an egg nog on Christmas, of 2019, but before that i wasn't drinking. Until my brother in laws birthday party. I had one I.P.A. on sept 25 2019 MMMM. I LOVE IPA. The hardest thing. Is that dating factor. Most of these single women enjoy whiskey an beer. An you cant forget the wine. I used to finish 6 packs, because i was thirsty, not knowing that i was putting on 5 to 15 pounds, from drinking, so much. Ok more like 20 pounds.2
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