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I'm hosting Easter and hope I can stay out of the wine bottle. As you know, stuff is crazy for me right now and it would feel good to dull it, I am not going to lie. I think though I will be OK and just muddle through it. I'll allow myself extra dessert which will help with the sugar craving.10
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@salleewins Thanks so much for sharing... I am sending positive vibrations on Good Friday, I am so sorry for your loss... I relate so much to "working on always cultivating new healthy relationships." I feel like there is a connection between relationships and alcohol, for me at least. I had the WORST (by worst, meaning had none) boundaries when it came to some of my friendships that left me stressed and resentful. I'm getting better myself at communicating and realizing I am allowed to say NO and put myself first. I was the friend that went along with *almost* everything.... let's just say that didn't do so well for my mental health and anxiety and at times attracted some people who were complete users.
My boundaries are improving and I'm practicing self-care more these days... and with that came my interest in trying to eliminate things that contribute to my anxiety. Ta-da - my wine drinking! My self-awareness is at an all time high! It's refreshing to see so many other self-aware people on this forum.
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@salleewins Thanks so much for sharing... I am sending positive vibrations on Good Friday, I am so sorry for your loss... I relate so much to "working on always cultivating new healthy relationships." I feel like there is a connection between relationships and alcohol, for me at least. I had the WORST (by worst, meaning had none) boundaries when it came to some of my friendships that left me stressed and resentful. I'm getting better myself at communicating and realizing I am allowed to say NO and put myself first. I was the friend that went along with *almost* everything.... let's just say that didn't do so well for my mental health and anxiety and at times attracted some people who were complete users.
My boundaries are improving and I'm practicing self-care more these days... and with that came my interest in trying to eliminate things that contribute to my anxiety. Ta-da - my wine drinking! My self-awareness is at an all time high! It's refreshing to see so many other self-aware people on this forum. I'm cheering for you all!
Thank you and KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!4 -
@kelagurl I can Totally relate to your post. You are definitely a good addition to this thread.
@JenT304 Stress is a definite trigger, for me too. You'll be SO thankful when you make it through the holiday AF. It will make you stronger for the next trigger.
@RubyRed427 Thanks for that Annie Grace article...very helpful for me right now. I was thinking drinking thoughts for part of the day today. I've been planning & shopping for food for my moving crew & had bought beer a couple weeks ago. Today I bought a bottle of wine for the wives of the moving crew and I think that is what fueled it. I took everything over to my new place and was doing a bit more organizing & as I sat down in the kitchen with my bottle of water, I looked at the wine on the counter & began to "wish" I could be "normal" Rr-r-r-r!! What the H..E..double hockey sticks IS normal? Some really good reminders in that article and THEN Craig Ferguson topped it off for me...these two things are the shot in the arm I needed to get me back to my NEW "normal" I want to be sober going forward because I LOVE my life so much more this way...I do not want to go back to being dependent and hopeless & guilty, depressed, regretful, anxiety ridden...because THAT is the result of the drinker's "normal" NO thank you
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Day 20 today! For some reason, “this time” (may it be the last) is different. Maybe because I hit my own version of rock bottom with the sleepless, panicked nights from hell.
Another resource I love is Bex Weller’s Sexy Sobriety blog. She also wrote A Happier Hour.
Today is Friday for those of us lucky enough to have tomorrow off. Have a blessed Easter weekend!!8 -
GOOD MORNING: I haven't journaled in a few weeks due to increased activity carting all my possessions around. As I was going to write this morn and I typed the date, it HIT ME! Today is the first anniversary of my BFF's death...this was my first thought as I wrote, "today is the day, one year ago, when Mare got her relief" And the rest of us began to miss her
"It seems like she's been gone forever, yet it's difficult to believe it's a year already!" 
I have been thinking about this day for months off & on, knowing it would be a difficult memory and SO hard for her family. In fact, yesterday I had to check to see if it was the 17th or the 18th...cause my brain was telling me it was the 18th and then today I gapped until I wrote the date.
@salleewins shared her grief over the anniversary of the loss of her son and yet, it didn't register till I wrote the date this morn...funny how our brains work...I suppose I've just been so swamped with preparing my move that I have developed "moving brain." Some tunnel vision going on with me...
At the end of May it will be my year Sober-versary. I think Craig Beck has a video about our addicted brain trying to talk us into testing the waters of "just one won't hurt" at the one year mark....I'm going to check it out tonight after my very busy & productive nother day today....I'm almost done....one more load in my vehicle after this one and tomorrow is cooking & prepping for my moving crew...AND this morn I had a friend offer to come help me tomorrow....YAY!!
Happy AF day to all my friends here...thank you being here
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Salleewins,sending positive vibes your way Lorraine,you too sorry for the loss of your friend also,just posted on my alcohol forum that I was so drunk last Easter weekend I barely remember any of it,sure bits and pieces but not like I should,I hate that wasted time! Wishes for a happy AF day for us all 7
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It's wonderful to find this forum on MFP--so many insightful comments and resources. I've been AF since late 2012. Once the switch was "on" I always had great difficulty turning it off. I'm grateful to be able to say "no more" and for all the positive changes--physical and emotional--that have come from being AF, and I'm looking forward to being a part of this group. Thanks! Max12
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Hi Max, I can relate to the “on” switch or the converse “no off switch”.MaxInChicago wrote: »It's wonderful to find this forum on MFP--so many insightful comments and resources. I've been AF since late 2012. Once the switch was "on" I always had great difficulty turning it off. I'm grateful to be able to say "no more" and for all the positive changes--physical and emotional--that have come from being AF, and I'm looking forward to being a part of this group. Thanks! Max
@lorrainequiche59 It is a sad anniversary of the death of a beautiful friend
@salleewins Thinking of you
Craig Beck’s videos are gems. They always always take me back to reality after I start staring “dreamy-eyed” at a wine bottle. Nothing good every came from one too many. Just regret, anxiety and depression. I think regret is the worst feeling.
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Salleewins,sending positive vibes your way Lorraine,you too sorry for the loss of your friend also,just posted on my alcohol forum that I was so drunk last Easter weekend I barely remember any of it,sure bits and pieces but not like I should,I hate that wasted time! Wishes for a happy AF day for us all
Ouch! Easter memory is painful. But great news you can make a new positive memory this year! Xo5 -
Reflecting on Good Friday’s meaning as well as true pain like the loss of a child or friend reminds me that “losing” my friend alcohol is such a trivial matter compared to losing the life of a loved one.8
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when you all went completely AF (those that are), did you set a date or just decide when you woke up one day? or was it after a really bad event? I don't need the complete explanation. I am just wondering how. I resolve every morning then I fail. I am not drinking a LOT (most of the time) but I do want to STOP. We are new in this area and the two groups we have joined are both alcohol related - wine club & a craft beer club and I belong to a Wine & Book Club.
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@RubyRed427 Thanks for posting the Craig Ferguson clip and for the tip on Craig Beck's videos!
@dbhDeb For me it was after a really bad event and it became clear that I didn't have control over my drinking. Prior to that I resolved many times to drink less or stop for a while, but always ended up not sticking to those resolutions.4 -
Sorry for the long post - but I have a lot on my mind today. I promised my wife no alcohol until Easter. Easter is in 6 days and I am 11+ weeks AF at the time of this writing. BUT - Liquor logic is starting to rear it's ugly head again.
As you may recall stopping drinking got me off of BP meds (so happy about this) - HOWEVER - going AF made my cholesterol go the wrong way enough that I need to get back on statin drugs according to my "internet diagnosis." I have an appointment with the doc this afternoon to see what I need to do - like she knows more than the internet haha.
I eat right and work out super-hard 3 or 4 times per week (swim, cycle, and run) and I always train to participate in at least 1 Sprint Triathlon per year. I like to keep my fitness level here at all times. I am also at goal weight...so no weight loss or exercise program is going to change anything.
I do NOT want to get back on meds - but if I had to choose - I would much rather be on BP meds than a statin drug...which would mean
???drinking in moderation again (max of 2 beers or 5 oz. of wine per day)???
^^^^ Liquor Logic^^^^
Either way liquor or statin drugs can mess up your liver.
Bottom line is - whatever the doc tells me I will do. I am not whining one bit. In fact I am truly thankful for my good health and thank the good Lord often for this. Having to take a statin or BP drug is inconsequential compared to some of the battles others face.
I will let you know what's up as soon as I figure it out myself....
My doc said stay the course - stay AF - keep exercising and eating balanced meals - retest in 2 months.
I also know that today was the first time I actually told my doctor the truth about how much bourbon I actually drank every day/week.Sorry for the long post - but I have a lot on my mind today. I promised my wife no alcohol until Easter. Easter is in 6 days and I am 11+ weeks AF at the time of this writing. BUT - Liquor logic is starting to rear it's ugly head again.
As you may recall stopping drinking got me off of BP meds (so happy about this) - HOWEVER - going AF made my cholesterol go the wrong way enough that I need to get back on statin drugs according to my "internet diagnosis." I have an appointment with the doc this afternoon to see what I need to do - like she knows more than the internet haha.
I eat right and work out super-hard 3 or 4 times per week (swim, cycle, and run) and I always train to participate in at least 1 Sprint Triathlon per year. I like to keep my fitness level here at all times. I am also at goal weight...so no weight loss or exercise program is going to change anything.
I do NOT want to get back on meds - but if I had to choose - I would much rather be on BP meds than a statin drug...which would mean
???drinking in moderation again (max of 2 beers or 5 oz. of wine per day)???
^^^^ Liquor Logic^^^^
Either way liquor or statin drugs can mess up your liver.
Bottom line is - whatever the doc tells me I will do. I am not whining one bit. In fact I am truly thankful for my good health and thank the good Lord often for this. Having to take a statin or BP drug is inconsequential compared to some of the battles others face.
I will let you know what's up as soon as I figure it out myself....
My doc said stay the course - stay AF - keep exercising and eating balanced meals - retest in 2 months.
I also know that today was the first time I actually told my doctor the truth about how much bourbon I actually drank every day/week.
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@dbhDeb I made the call after I got back from a trip with one of my besties — there hadn’t been any bad experiences on the trip, but there had been a lot of drinking and I’d been experimenting with longer and longer periods of being AF beforehand. I woke up back at home and decided I was just done. I HAD to be. I’d had A TON of awful experiences prior to the trip (15 years of drinking can do that to ya) and I knew too many things (thanks, Annie Grace!) and while I was terrified, I was also pretty hopeful. It’s been both excellent and difficult. July 24 will be one year 12
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@dbhDeb I made the call after I got back from a trip with one of my besties — there hadn’t been any bad experiences on the trip, but there had been a lot of drinking and I’d been experimenting with longer and longer periods of being AF beforehand. I woke up back at home and decided I was just done. I HAD to be. I’d had A TON of awful experiences prior to the trip (15 years of drinking can do that to ya) and I knew too many things (thanks, Annie Grace!) and while I was terrified, I was also pretty hopeful. It’s been both excellent and difficult. July 24 will be one year
That is awesome -- thank you for sharing! I wanted some inspiring stories. I am working towards it but hard to broach with my SO.6 -
thank you for sharing this. I have never heard of Craig Ferguson @rubyred427
Also, watch his bit on getting sober on Christmas Day. Find it on youtube. Very down to earth, funny and poignant.2
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